I'm in a relationship for the first time in a few years. When my girlfriend comes to me with problems or things that are bothering her, I'm intellectually aware that she's not looking for solutions or fixes unless she asks, she's looking for understanding and empathy. However, I'm just not practiced providing that kind of emotional support and often find myself at a loss for words. How do I do it? [more inside]
My roommate's girlfriend is now over on a near constant basis. The problem is my roommate owns the house. Do I have any leverage? [more inside]
I met this girl from an online dating site from Peru, and we have been chatting by text and on skype for seven months. Now she has moved to Toronto in Canada for school, but I live in Boston, and we agreed to do a long distance relationship for some time while I look for jobs in Canada or Buffalo, NY (which is close to Toronto). I only know this girl through 7 months of skype and texting, and she came to visit me one weekend recently and we got to hang out, and we had a really good time together. But I am having doubts about moving to a brand new city for someone I hardly know but I am still attracted to her, and as far as I know she has a really nice personality. Would it be worth it to leave everything behind to move to Toronto just to be close to her? The other thing is that I really like Toronto as a city, and I have a close friend who lives there.
My girlfriend is twenty five and her mother is telling her to sleep in a separate bed from me. She is fairly introverted and sheltered ( I am too to a degree) and her family is pretty religious. I am feeling uncomfortable that my girlfriend's mother is making these decisions for her, and I am unsure how to proceed or how to feel about this relationship. Any and all opinions are welcome. [more inside]
Everything is going great, until at some point my partner doesn't seem to be interested in me anymore. Physically. Everything is great, there is just no sex. [more inside]
I'm a male in my late twenties and I consider myself straight. I'm not interested in men or dating a man, and have always had relationships with women. I dated a trans woman for two and a half years. (I'm loathe to specify the 'trans' and to feel like I have to assert that I'm straight but it's relevant to my question.) I'm now not sure about whether to disclose this to my current girlfriend. [more inside]
I am in a slightly long distance relationship of 6 months. We have history and are very serious for the time-frame. Four days ago, my girlfriend spontaneously agreed to hang out with her ex boyfriend when he called her. The next day she told me, claiming to have "emotionally cheated." During this talk she opened up about many things, including hanging out with her ex one other time a month into our relationship, making out with him then and similar, but not sex. Before this discussion, we were at a significant high point in our relationship. How do I move past feelings of betrayal? Should I? [more inside]
I know that there have been other threads posted about this issue, but I hopefully can get some advice to help me keep my head on straight. I ended things last week with a girl that was diagnosed with being bipolar at a young age. We only dated a little over a month but we spent so much time together that it feels like half a year. She's currently not on medication and she's been separated from her husband for a year. Did I make the right decision? [more inside]
I recently started hanging out with this lady. We have gone on 2 dates, and kissed. She told me, on the second date, that she has had MRSA in the past. It colonized her nose and she passed it on to her ex-boyfriend during an infection. She has not had an infection in 2 years, however. AM I SAFE [more inside]
Made a small mistake, girlfriend went mad - was I being unjust or was she? [more inside]
How do I help my girlfriend get the help she needs? [more inside]
My official residency last year was in GA with my mother, but I paid for my fiance's food, rent, and all living cost throughout the year. She is a resident of AL and the all utilities plus her apartment lease is in her name even though I paid for everything. [more inside]
I've been with my current girlfriend for almost 8 months. I'm a laid-back guy who's soft-spoken and non-confrontational. My girlfriend is the opposite of me, as she is very opinionated and outspoken. She strongly dislikes lack of common sense, stupidity, people who move at a pace of a snail, and last, but not least, noisy & bratty children. [more inside]
I’m not entirely sure where to post this on the Internet, because it seems that there are a million different opinions out there. It’s like asking, what’s the best diet to lose weight, when everyone will tell you his or her favorite diet. Regardless, I need some help. I need some guidance, a model to follow. I need to know how to get laid and/or a girlfriend. Preferably, a girlfriend. [more inside]
I have a crush on a guy that I met in grad school several months ago. He's very nice, smart, and fairly handsome. He appeared a little awkward at first but once I got to know him, he's actually one of the few guys that I can have a long and meaningful conversation with. Although our conversations are mostly school-related, he seems to remember a lot of details from our convo, such as where I used to work a few years ago, what my goals are, etc. He recently joined the same student organization and volunteered at the same research lab with me. I'm very inexperienced in dating so I'm not sure if he's interested in me or not. However, my gut tells me that he might be interested because he often asks me to attend certain meetings or events together, he also occasionally calls me to ask questions (which he could simply ask through text or in person). I recently found out that he has a girlfriend and they both live together so I'm assuming his relationship is pretty serious. Therefore I'm trying to keep my distance from him and not cross the line. But the more I see him/talk to him, the more I like him and I'm not sure what to do. Please advise. Thank you!
So my boyfriend and I are moving in together next month. Needless to say, the pitfalls and potential problems make me nervous (neither of us have lived with a long-term partner; he's 31, I'm 26F, been together almost 2 years). What I need now are reminders of why this is a good idea: tips, anecdotes, rituals. What makes living with your partner a positive and special thing? I'm looking for what TO do, rather than what NOT to do.
Boyfriend of 1.5 years and I considering joining homes. Some extenuating circumstances... [more inside]
I started dating my girlfriend six months ago. Since that time, I have gradually taken more of my stimulant medication than prescribed. I have told her on multiple occasions about the overuse of my stimulant medication and that recently it had gotten worse. Earlier tonight she told me that she is starting to distance herself from me and that she needs some extra space to protect herself [from being around someone with addictive behavior]. Her brother had a drug problem and she understands how emotionally draining it can be to have an addict in her life. What is the mature thing to do in this situation? Do I wait for her to potentially break up with me? Do I ask her for a break while I work on things? Do I just want to ask for a break to save myself from the pain of her breaking up with me first? I love her and I want her to be a part of my life but I don't want her to be consumed by my addiction while I get help. Please help.
I've been dating a great person for about 4 months. She's really outgoing, charming, attractive, and funny, and people just love her. [more inside]
I quit my job about a year ago. Through a mixture of savings , part-time jobs I have managed to stay afloat. My girlfriend's birthday will be coming up next month and has asked me to fly with her to Paris. I would love to join her but believe my financial situation is not up to snuff. How do I communicate this in a manner that is positive for the both of us? Complicating factors below. [more inside]
We met as travelers on the Greyhound bus and developed a platonic friendship. I like him so much though. And he may have a girlfriend. Should I just let it go? [more inside]
Accidentally went through my girlfriends email and read what I was not supposed to read. [more inside]
My girlfriend is at Sloan Kettering in New York for some surgery and i want to send her a shitload of flowers (and for those of you familiar with Sloan Kettering/cancer in general, she is on a ward where flowers are OK) I am willing to spend a little cash to make it special since I am not with her. She has a lot of other friends wanting to do stuff as well, so I will share your recommendations with them. As always, thanks in advance for your help.
I started a postgraduate course 3 months ago and there was a girl who stood out a fair bit. There were various issues that stopped me from considering dating her so I went down the friend route. She seemed interested in me at first - we ended up being alone together twice on nights out with others from the class, walking around London and the river, but I, not interested in any kind of intimacy, kept these meetings platonic. It's only recently that I've gotten myself together mentally, gotten to know her better and decided I like what I see - am I too late? What should I do to move from a new friendship back to that stage of 'initial attraction'? [more inside]
I am strongly considering breaking up with my girlfriend, but I haven't done this for a while and want to do the right thing. I value both honesty/truth and kindness. I know that sometimes the truth hurts a lot and may scar people psychologically, so I am looking for guidance on how to toe the line between being respectfully honest and condescendingly protective. [more inside]
I, female, live with my (male) bff. He has a new girlfriend, and I'm getting clingy/possessive vibes from her that make me feel like she is trying to edge me out. He, of course, is infatuated and doesn't see this. How do I deal with this while preserving my living situation and best friend-ship? [more inside]
My significant other and I do not share many common hobbies/interests. I feel that the limited free time I have is going more into the relationship and less into pursuing my personal interests. Has anyone dealt with this situation successfully, or is a relationship without much hobby overlap doomed to fail? [more inside]
How to deal with a break up when your girlfriend breaks up after 9 months? [more inside]
I severely fumbled with my boyfriend's heart. I don't know what to do. [more inside]
I'm a girl that is 1,76 m tall, and I'm having serious problems with my height. I'm getting really depressed with it over time and I've come to the point where I am completely desperate. I really need some help. [more inside]
So me and my girlfriend of 6 months got into an argument over going to her house for Thanksgiving and she ended up break up with me. [more inside]
My girlfriend is amazing, and I just want to spend all day with her. All. day. all. the. time. The problem is, we are in an industry that is incredibly stressful and demanding and low-paying, although relatively mobile (I can work from basically where ever I want). I am perfectly happy just sitting by her and we both do work, but then I get distracted. What are some ways to spend more time with her?
Is it normal to have these kinds of arguments in a 5 month relationship? I'm Indian and she's white and we're both 23. Am I with a wrong girl? (Details Inside) [more inside]
Is it possible to love someone and want to "explore your options" at the same time? [more inside]
After loosing ourselves in each other, my girlfriend and I broke up. Is it possible for two people who still get great along splendidly to recover from dual co-dependency and love loss? [more inside]
I could really use suggestions for lengthy fun games that my gf and I can both enjoy together. Obtaining the games shouldn't be too difficult (I have most the systems besides current gen). Some examples of games we liked/didn't like inside. [more inside]
My boyfriend was raped as a kid, and recently told me that he used to believe he was gay before he met me. I don't know how to handle this. [more inside]
I'm Indian and I have been dating a white girl for about 2.5 months. How do I deal with my parents who only believe in marrying someone who is also Indian? I've not told them about the girl I'm dating because I do not want to deal with bad talk when the relatives and family involved. [more inside]
Hi. I dated my ex for three years and we broke up a little over a year ago. At first I was very hurt and depressed, missed him terribly, was counting on getting back together, and couldn't imagine ever being attracted to or dating anyone again. Now I don't miss him at all and have no desire to be with him, and no longer compare every guy I meet to him. I thought I was over everything, but then last week I found out he's finally dating someone else and I can't help but feel hurt, like I've been replaced. I keep thinking about what she's like and why he likes her even though I do not want to be with him at all. To make matters worse my ex and I work together, so it's possible we might all run into each other, and that makes me want to vomit. I feel like I'm moving ten steps backward in my healing process. How do I proceed?
I bought my girlfriend an accessory for her phone on amazon a few days ago and it came in the mail yesterday. So this morning, I say "I have a surprise for you!" to which she replies "is it my accessory?" I said in a sarcastic fashion naaaah of course not! I joke like this all the time. Now she had a particularly awful day today. And when I saw her this evening, I gave her the accessory and said surprise! Normally when I do this I get "the look" and she teases me. But she was really upset. Perhaps she thought my surprise was something that would make her feel better from her particularly awful day. Now it wasn't the immature upset, but more of a disappointed, you're not in touch with my feelings upset. So I'd like to do something really sweet for her and/or give her a real surprise. Something out of the box. Ideas?
My girlfriend of about 2 years cheated on me. She first decided to break up with me a few days after she cheated. She made up some reasons which didn't make very much sense. Then a few days later after not speaking she admitted why she had actually broken up with me. I didn't say very much back, I didn't get very emotional towards her. She continued to text and try to contact me, telling me how much she misses me and how she screwed up so bad, but I've been completely ignoring her. Part of me wants to get back together with her... though logically this seems like a terrible idea. [more inside]
Girlfriend said "I love you" after only 1 month. I didn't respond with anything and now she's mad. [more inside]
My girlfriend, who is lonely, used a dating site to make a "friend" which I'm having difficulty coping with. What should I do? [more inside]
A friend of mine refuses to address his anxiety issues. I don't want to lose him as a friend, but also don't know how much more I can take. Please help. [more inside]
I'm having trouble getting everyone to get along. [more inside]
I met a girl at a party and things were going well until I started acting desperate. What can I do to get the situation under control? [more inside]
It has been a week and a couple of days since we broke up, well more like she broke up with me after about a year and a half relationship.. I contacted her during the first few days and spoke to her as I normally would, until about the middle of last week I decided I didn't want to be used anymore as her sidelined friend so I stopped contacting her altogether. We are both young adults. [more inside]
Can you please recommend any books that might help on when/how to introduce new boyfriend/girlfriend to kids when divorced? Do you have any advice based on your experience; include anything you would do different in hindsight? I know all kids and circumstances are different but there has to be a general outline that produces happier outcomes for kids involved. More info inside. [more inside]
I am dating a special ops military man and am new to this military lifestyle... My father was in the Army so I do know the difficulties and strength it requires to be involving in this lifestyle but there are some things that I want to understand more. Instead of bombarding him with questions and adding to his stress, I thought I could find some answers and support on here from those men that have been in this situation, and the women who have supported these men. [more inside]
I need a little bit of advice, I'm back again, this time in a different situation, as my girlfriend has become very upset with me and might break up with me. I don't know how to handle it, and I'm scared I'm going to lose her. [more inside]