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After 25 years of marriage, I find myself on the cusp between a loving commitment based on radical acceptance of the other just as they are, and unfulfilled needs on multiple levels. From your own marital experience are these two mutually exclusive? [more inside]
My spouse and I got married when I was still legally designated "female" and she was still legally designated "male," under our old names. How can we legally remarry, using our new names and identified genders, after gender transitioning? We don't want to get divorced (it's expensive and we love eachother) to do it. [more inside]
My family refuses to use the correct pronouns for my partner. What is the best way to approach this? [more inside]
I'm currently designing a grade 12 English unit and I'm looking for short stories, poems, or films that deal with issues of race, gender, and/or age. [more inside]
Can you recommend books/articles on the history of the visual representation of sexuality in popular culture? [more inside]
I'm wondering about what measures can be taken to increase gender diversity in male-dominated workplaces. For women who work in male-dominated fields - how did your company's culture contribute to creating an appealing work environment for you? What can be done to build and foster this kind of culture? [more inside]
What is the branded history of the Marlboro Red cigarette? I am contemplating the history of marketing to women right now, and I am especially interested to know if the "Red" branding of today goes back to when the cigarettes had red filters to blend with lipsticks. Are they "Reds" of today called such because of the red packaging, the processing of the tobacco, the historical marketing to women, or something else entirely? It would be especially interesting to me if these cigarettes, which are hyper-masculine today, are direct descendants of a quintessentially feminine product.
Do I bother correcting people when they refer to my son as a girl? [more inside]
"Fly me" : I'm looking for more information on the early restrictions on flight attendants- that they be single, slim, attractive, etc. Who pioneered these policies? How much did they vary across the globe? Did other industries at the time have formalized policies with similar biases? [more inside]
I'm a dude going to marry a dude in New York State. Said dude I am going to marry is a resident alien from the UK. Will the UK recognize the marriage? Does he become an American Citizen by marrying him? Does that counteract his UK citizenship? What are my rights, here?
How do I learn to accept my gender? [more inside]
Recently I've become interested in behavioral indicators of class, gender, and status. In particular, I'm interested in what small behaviors would indicate a) femininity and b) higher social status. [more inside]
I am looking for articles that address the backlash against feminism in the age of the internet. [more inside]
How early in a pregnancy can fetal sex be determined? [more inside]
I'm a guy who's interested in learning about female experiences—particularly the kind to which men might be oblivious—particularly those which will help me understand feminist ideas and perspectives. I prefer personal stories and informal musing to the dense academic stuff. [more inside]
I'm having a hard time sussing out whether a recent job candidate's informality (and non-adherence to gender norms) should be a major warning sign, eye-rollingly insignificant, or somewhere in between. [more inside]
I'm trying to find some rather specific demographic information about Asian-Americans in the 1950s and 1960s and I'm not having much luck. Perhaps you could offer some assistance? [more inside]
The VP of my company has made a habit of teasing me about whether I'm smiling. I'm getting to the point where if I don't say something soon, I might blow up one day. How can I communicate my distaste for this kind of teasing without offending and/or alienating him? [more inside]
Please help me deal with issues regarding sexual orientation and gender identity, and either assure me that I’m not a bad person or tell me how to stop being a bad person. A lengthy, detailed and NSFW explanation follows. [more inside]
What gender do newly-invented things have in languages where things have genders? [more inside]
This song and also this one are men singing about the (their?) penis. Are there songs where ladies sing about lady-parts?
Another book-locating question: help me locate this Victorian pulp fiction! [more inside]
In languages where nouns have a gender, how is the gender determined for neologisms or loanwords? [more inside]
For my entire life I have known I was transgender (mtf). I am only now finally ready to do something about it. How? [more inside]
Stuck in an impossible dating dilemma: overhaul my entire self, or never have a relationship with a man?
Stuck in an impossible dating dilemma: overhaul my entire self, or never have a relationship with a man? [more inside]
How strong is the correlation between non gender conformity and homosexuality? [more inside]
Did female Tea Party-affiliated Republicans do worse than male Tea Party-affiliated Republicans in this election?
Did female Tea Party-affiliated Republicans do worse than male Tea Party-affiliated Republicans in yesterday's election? [more inside]
What is getting a PhD really like? Is it worth it? I want to be a researcher in psychology, sexuality, and gender. [more inside]
I need some ammo to fight an oft heard political argument [more inside]
What sites are highly skewed toward specific genders? i.e. iVillage, Cosmopolitan.com for Females and SportsIllustrated.com, fantasysports.com, caranddriver.com for Males? [more inside]
What are your favorite YouTube accounts and blogs by members of the LGBTQ and kink community? [more inside]
Can you recommend a book chapter or article that summarizes the biological and/or psychological perspectives on gender without devolving into straw-man attacks or interdepartmental backbiting? [more inside]
I am a hetrosexual man who was rasied an only child by a strong independant mother. I can't help but love her for the effort, but I was rasied in many ways like a girl. I feel deeply betrayed. I can't seem to shake a sense of self-loathing.
In writing formal letters or e-mail, how do I address someone whose sex is not apparent from his/her name? [more inside]
Arguing with women! a step-by-step guide? [more inside]
Is it acceptable and PC to refer to grown-up women as girls in this context? Does it say something about the person who does it? [more inside]
I'm planning a training for elementary and middle school educators on sexuality and gender in education. What do YOU wish your teachers/educators would have known/talked about/done/etc? [more inside]
I need examples of gender-specific songs covered by singers of the opposite gender. For instance, Jack White's cover of Dolly Parton's "Jolene". [more inside]
I have a wonderfully large dataset that I'm working with for a long-term project. I am analyzing a small section the dataset for my masters thesis. In meeting with my thesis advisor last week, she suggested I run some statistical tests of significance on the 4 tables I'm working with. She knows that I am yet to be versed in quantitative analysis methods (I've done solely qualitative work thus far) and that I'm under a massive time crunch to get this done. She suggested I seek help from others, as she doesn't want me to get bogged down with figuring out this step, and would rather I concentrate on analyzing the other aspects of this data. To this end, I'm wondering if somebody might be able to suggest the best type of test of significance to run, the easiest way to run it, and a good, simple resource for what the resultant values mean? [more inside]
queer clothing filter: help! it's summer and i need clothing that fits. [more inside]
I want to propose to my male significant other. What should I do, and what should I give him? [more inside]
What books and movies have helped you define what it means to be a man? [more inside]
How do people cope when the sex of their baby isn't the one they were hoping for? What if you were hoping for a girl, but got a boy instead? Or vice versa? What if you have a definite preference? Should you just not have children? [more inside]
My friends are going to learn the gender of their baby via cake. Help me come up with ideas for decorating this high-stakes confection! [more inside]
Are only men in U.S. society seen as charismatic? [more inside]
Why do (American) women tend to avoid casual eye contact with men as they walk by, enter an elevator, etc... I know there is the obvious issue of not wanting to appear “interested” or send a sexual signal...but does that explain everything? [more inside]
Please recommend reading that will help me understand the role gender and gender hormones play in determining which parental gene set dominates in an individual.
So, the Mr. and I have different last names. I did not take his name upon marriage. Now we are discussing very hypothetical children and I'm looking for some good hive mind rumination on the proper course of action. [more inside]
Little known facts about men [more inside]
What's the gender-neutral equivalent to "Sir" and "Ma'am"? [more inside]