"Men want sex" and "women want romance" -- so the stereotypes go. To what extent does the average woman believe (or not believe) in these stereotypes? Does anyone know if there is research on this? I've been searching for hours, but haven't turned up anything yet.
In March I will be starting my PhD (humanities - gender, fan culture and writing) but I have been out of academia for a long time. I finished my Honours in 2002, completed a Masters but since it was coursework (librarian coursework at that) it doesn't really count as far as the rigours or the demands of a PhD goes. I've started trawling Jstor and a couple of other databases I can access through the State library while I ease into it all and I was wondering: what are some of the crucial humanities texts that I've probably forgotten/missed in the past ten years?. The ones that are expected to be referred to in any thesis about gender, writing and identity, or humanities in general. I'm building my reading list/book list but don't have uni library privileges yet so I'm stuck with online/non-academic library access - unless it's something I should buy (aka Strunk and White, Judith Butler etc).
I want to know more about the theory and practice of exclusive spaces for groups perceived as oppressed or subaltern, as in exclusively gay spaces, exclusively racialized spaces, trans only spaces, women only spaces, etc. [more inside]
Which books and articles are the most important for understanding transgender issues?
We're pregnant! But we're on the fence about finding out the baby's sex. Parents: what did you decide? Did you regret your decision or love it? [more inside]
Depictions of success and failure in American culture? Films, videos, commercials, shows, songs, and other (non-literary) media requested. [more inside]
Can you point me to some (non-prosthetic) scifi/fantasy makeup looks? [more inside]
Help me find a Stephen Jay Gould (I think) essay. [more inside]
Mixed signals from a guy I made out with. What do they mean? Any hopes for further fun? And also, on a philosophical level, what are your thoughts on women pursuing men and differences in the rules of the game for dating versus casual fun? [more inside]
Denizens of Metafilter, I need your best sex-ed materials. For a 16 year-old young man. [more inside]
Are grammatical genders, as a rule, consistent across the Indo-European languages which use them? [more inside]
How can I build confidence to incorporate more femme elements into my gender presentation as a young straight(ish) man? [more inside]
Case endings and gender in language: why? [more inside]
Help me put together an engaging and enlightening workshop about gender and sexuality! [more inside]
Asking for a friend: suggestions for good, AFFORDABLE (read: sliding scale goes down to <$20/session) gender therapists in Milwaukee or Madison?
Do egalitarian heterosexual marriages exist as a cultural phenomenon? [more inside]
Is there any positive body acceptance / Health at any Size type stuff out there geared towards a male (or even just clearly mixed- or non-gendered) audience? [more inside]
I think I'm genderqueer / agendered. Now what? [more inside]
Would like insight and education into the various ways that gay men -- both as individuals and as a group, both historically and currently -- relate to, regard, and interact with gay/lesbian women, and vice versa. [more inside]
My employer seems to be pushing me toward filing an EEOC complaint or resigning my job. What do I do? [more inside]
Where to buy girls' clothes that aren't pink and/or sparkly? [more inside]
Enlighten me on current state of the art thinking, discourse and vocabulary around gender politics please. Terminally unique details inside. [more inside]
I'm a 22-year-old lesbian. I have never made any effort to look hot, but suddenly I want to, and it's raising some serious identity issues for me. [more inside]
how to tell my masculine girlfriend that i like femme presentation? [more inside]
An Oregon-based employer is posting job ads that explicitly seek workers only of a specific gender, when gender is clearly not relevant to the job. Should I report this to someone, and to whom? [more inside]
I think I might want to change gender (ftm)... now what? [more inside]
Seeking resources for a friend who is mom to a (possibly transgender) questioning 5-year-old boy. [more inside]
Wondering whether I might have mild androgen insensitivity syndrome and that it may play a role in my sexual orientation. I haven't turned much up on this on Google. Does anyone have any expertise on the subject? [more inside]
Help me remember the NYTimes (?) article I read about the relationship between gender ratios and sexual dynamics on college campuses! [more inside]
How weird is my (unremarkable for either coast) gender presentation going to seem to people when I live in New Orleans? [more inside]
Help me compile a list of politically correct pejorative insults. [trigger warning: some examples of undesirable insults] [more inside]
Looking for current sources about the pay disparity between men and women in the tech world - but specifically overall numbers including everyone from content producers to programmers. [more inside]
What's this Sci-Fi short story? A scientist working on gender selection technology is contacted by future potential outcomes of his work (a male-dominated world and a woman-dominated world) that end up corresponding to the woman he marries.
I'm looking for any resources on the role women are playing in the Arab Spring. Articles, websites, essays, videos, art, statistics etc. are all greatly appreciated. Both Arabic and English would work. Thank you!
You put Your Whole Self In, You Put Your Whole Self Out, You Put Your Whole Self In and Shake It All About
After 25 years of marriage, I find myself on the cusp between a loving commitment based on radical acceptance of the other just as they are, and unfulfilled needs on multiple levels. From your own marital experience are these two mutually exclusive? [more inside]
My spouse and I got married when I was still legally designated "female" and she was still legally designated "male," under our old names. How can we legally remarry, using our new names and identified genders, after gender transitioning? We don't want to get divorced (it's expensive and we love eachother) to do it. [more inside]
My family refuses to use the correct pronouns for my partner. What is the best way to approach this? [more inside]
I'm currently designing a grade 12 English unit and I'm looking for short stories, poems, or films that deal with issues of race, gender, and/or age. [more inside]
Can you recommend books/articles on the history of the visual representation of sexuality in popular culture? [more inside]
I'm wondering about what measures can be taken to increase gender diversity in male-dominated workplaces. For women who work in male-dominated fields - how did your company's culture contribute to creating an appealing work environment for you? What can be done to build and foster this kind of culture? [more inside]
What is the branded history of the Marlboro Red cigarette? I am contemplating the history of marketing to women right now, and I am especially interested to know if the "Red" branding of today goes back to when the cigarettes had red filters to blend with lipsticks. Are they "Reds" of today called such because of the red packaging, the processing of the tobacco, the historical marketing to women, or something else entirely? It would be especially interesting to me if these cigarettes, which are hyper-masculine today, are direct descendants of a quintessentially feminine product.
Do I bother correcting people when they refer to my son as a girl? [more inside]
"Fly me" : I'm looking for more information on the early restrictions on flight attendants- that they be single, slim, attractive, etc. Who pioneered these policies? How much did they vary across the globe? Did other industries at the time have formalized policies with similar biases? [more inside]
I'm a dude going to marry a dude in New York State. Said dude I am going to marry is a resident alien from the UK. Will the UK recognize the marriage? Does he become an American Citizen by marrying him? Does that counteract his UK citizenship? What are my rights, here?
How do I learn to accept my gender? [more inside]
Recently I've become interested in behavioral indicators of class, gender, and status. In particular, I'm interested in what small behaviors would indicate a) femininity and b) higher social status. [more inside]
I am looking for articles that address the backlash against feminism in the age of the internet. [more inside]
How early in a pregnancy can fetal sex be determined? [more inside]
I'm a guy who's interested in learning about female experiences—particularly the kind to which men might be oblivious—particularly those which will help me understand feminist ideas and perspectives. I prefer personal stories and informal musing to the dense academic stuff. [more inside]
I'm having a hard time sussing out whether a recent job candidate's informality (and non-adherence to gender norms) should be a major warning sign, eye-rollingly insignificant, or somewhere in between. [more inside]