My friend and I are recording the first episode of our podcast tomorrow. What we need now is a name. [more inside]
I've never worked in any hospitality industry, so I'm just wondering as a casual consumer/observer. How come people are supposed to tip their valets and bellhops at hotels, and they are always only men while there's no rule that you tip the housekeeping, and they are always female? [more inside]
Do men and women really have distinctly different communication styles. For those of you who are in healthy relationships (romantic love or platonic), is there a wedge in communication that you constantly have to go against your natural instincts and fine-tune in a way that you don't have to with same-sex friends? Is the stereotype true, do women need to 'talk it out' and men need to 'go to their cave'? Can women really improve the relationship by NOT talking about it and can men really improve the relationship by practicing reflective listening? Is there really a pre-programmed way to communicate based on your gender? Something in this widely-spread viewpoint really rubs me the wrong way, and I'm not sure if the cultural/societal views(at least in my area) regarding men/women relationships are in fact, entirely valid and its just my own personal issues that need work. What are your experiences?
Becoming suddenly gender-confused at age 35, this is weird, please help. [more inside]
My older brother (in his 50s) posted something on FB regarding the Steubenville rape case, which was: [more inside]
I've heard that men don't like questions. I'm a woman and would like to have better relationships with the men in my life. Give me some examples of ways to rephrase questions into statements, directives or imperatives. [more inside]
My wonderful 4-year old son wants lots of girly things. I want nothing more than to support him and help him grow into the person he wants to be. My only question is, is there anything that a loving, responsible, progressive parent should do to protect him from hurt, possible bullying etc. [more inside]
Dave Chappelle. Chris Rock. Louis C.K. Some of the funniest male comics are the least funny when it comes to gender -- incisive humor suddenly deteriorates into sexist tropes and gender war cliches. Are there any male stand-up comedians who have interesting routines about women?
Is there a test adults can get to tell them what their sex chromosomes are, e.g. to know if they're an XX despite having male genitalia, or if they're XXY women, or any other non-binary possibility? [more inside]
Looking for recent, substantive, data on the demographics of video game players that does NOT source back (as so many do) to the ESA. There must be some others out there? Yes? [more inside]
I remember reading months ago (could have been as long as 1-2 years ago) a blog post written by (I think) a man talking about the assumptions people make about gendering dogs. [more inside]
Gender, sexuality, and mental health. Help me design a workshop? [more inside]
Most androgynous clothing styles skew towards the masculine. I'm trying to work out some ways might it be possible to go in the other direction. Specifically, if you have or have wanted to shift towards a more feminine presentation, what kind of clothing do you wish you could find? [more inside]
"Men want sex" and "women want romance" -- so the stereotypes go. To what extent does the average woman believe (or not believe) in these stereotypes? Does anyone know if there is research on this? I've been searching for hours, but haven't turned up anything yet.
In March I will be starting my PhD (humanities - gender, fan culture and writing) but I have been out of academia for a long time. I finished my Honours in 2002, completed a Masters but since it was coursework (librarian coursework at that) it doesn't really count as far as the rigours or the demands of a PhD goes. I've started trawling Jstor and a couple of other databases I can access through the State library while I ease into it all and I was wondering: what are some of the crucial humanities texts that I've probably forgotten/missed in the past ten years?. The ones that are expected to be referred to in any thesis about gender, writing and identity, or humanities in general. I'm building my reading list/book list but don't have uni library privileges yet so I'm stuck with online/non-academic library access - unless it's something I should buy (aka Strunk and White, Judith Butler etc).
I want to know more about the theory and practice of exclusive spaces for groups perceived as oppressed or subaltern, as in exclusively gay spaces, exclusively racialized spaces, trans only spaces, women only spaces, etc. [more inside]
Which books and articles are the most important for understanding transgender issues?
We're pregnant! But we're on the fence about finding out the baby's sex. Parents: what did you decide? Did you regret your decision or love it? [more inside]
Depictions of success and failure in American culture? Films, videos, commercials, shows, songs, and other (non-literary) media requested. [more inside]
Can you point me to some (non-prosthetic) scifi/fantasy makeup looks? [more inside]
Help me find a Stephen Jay Gould (I think) essay. [more inside]
Mixed signals from a guy I made out with. What do they mean? Any hopes for further fun? And also, on a philosophical level, what are your thoughts on women pursuing men and differences in the rules of the game for dating versus casual fun? [more inside]
Denizens of Metafilter, I need your best sex-ed materials. For a 16 year-old young man. [more inside]
Are grammatical genders, as a rule, consistent across the Indo-European languages which use them? [more inside]
How can I build confidence to incorporate more femme elements into my gender presentation as a young straight(ish) man? [more inside]
Case endings and gender in language: why? [more inside]
Help me put together an engaging and enlightening workshop about gender and sexuality! [more inside]
Asking for a friend: suggestions for good, AFFORDABLE (read: sliding scale goes down to <$20/session) gender therapists in Milwaukee or Madison?
Do egalitarian heterosexual marriages exist as a cultural phenomenon? [more inside]
Is there any positive body acceptance / Health at any Size type stuff out there geared towards a male (or even just clearly mixed- or non-gendered) audience? [more inside]
I think I'm genderqueer / agendered. Now what? [more inside]
Would like insight and education into the various ways that gay men -- both as individuals and as a group, both historically and currently -- relate to, regard, and interact with gay/lesbian women, and vice versa. [more inside]
My employer seems to be pushing me toward filing an EEOC complaint or resigning my job. What do I do? [more inside]
Where to buy girls' clothes that aren't pink and/or sparkly? [more inside]
Enlighten me on current state of the art thinking, discourse and vocabulary around gender politics please. Terminally unique details inside. [more inside]
I'm a 22-year-old lesbian. I have never made any effort to look hot, but suddenly I want to, and it's raising some serious identity issues for me. [more inside]
how to tell my masculine girlfriend that i like femme presentation? [more inside]
An Oregon-based employer is posting job ads that explicitly seek workers only of a specific gender, when gender is clearly not relevant to the job. Should I report this to someone, and to whom? [more inside]
I think I might want to change gender (ftm)... now what? [more inside]
Seeking resources for a friend who is mom to a (possibly transgender) questioning 5-year-old boy. [more inside]
Wondering whether I might have mild androgen insensitivity syndrome and that it may play a role in my sexual orientation. I haven't turned much up on this on Google. Does anyone have any expertise on the subject? [more inside]
Help me remember the NYTimes (?) article I read about the relationship between gender ratios and sexual dynamics on college campuses! [more inside]
How weird is my (unremarkable for either coast) gender presentation going to seem to people when I live in New Orleans? [more inside]
Help me compile a list of politically correct pejorative insults. [trigger warning: some examples of undesirable insults] [more inside]
Looking for current sources about the pay disparity between men and women in the tech world - but specifically overall numbers including everyone from content producers to programmers. [more inside]
What's this Sci-Fi short story? A scientist working on gender selection technology is contacted by future potential outcomes of his work (a male-dominated world and a woman-dominated world) that end up corresponding to the woman he marries.
I'm looking for any resources on the role women are playing in the Arab Spring. Articles, websites, essays, videos, art, statistics etc. are all greatly appreciated. Both Arabic and English would work. Thank you!
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After 25 years of marriage, I find myself on the cusp between a loving commitment based on radical acceptance of the other just as they are, and unfulfilled needs on multiple levels. From your own marital experience are these two mutually exclusive? [more inside]
My spouse and I got married when I was still legally designated "female" and she was still legally designated "male," under our old names. How can we legally remarry, using our new names and identified genders, after gender transitioning? We don't want to get divorced (it's expensive and we love eachother) to do it. [more inside]