I've been single for 4 years. Why? What do I do now? [more inside]
For the last 5 years (age 18-23), I've identified myself as a gay man. Came out to my friends and family and was living okay. Now, for the last year, I've basically come to realize I'm not gay. I've lost all attraction to men and I kinda fell for a woman. I haven't talked to anyone about it (including "her"), and am now realizing I need to come out (er, again). Any ideas how to handle it with my friends, family, and "her"? I'd obviously like to minimize the humiliation, anger, hurt, etc.
There's a dance club in town I want to go to. How do I avoid embarrassing myself? [more inside]
[Gayfilter] I have a huge crush on a guy I've dated once, and he's moving abroad in three weeks' time. How can I let him know I desperately want to keep seeing him without coming across as a psycho? [more inside]
Does anyone know of articles or books documenting the lives of happy, monogamous male gay couples and/or statistics on what % of the male gay population resides in relationships of that type? [more inside]
What are some good resources for starting an online gay adult film business? [more inside]
Looking for gay podcasts, specially the erotic kind and audio porn, preferably free. The more explicit (read fetishes) , the better. Any recommendations? Thanks!
Is proposing to my boyfriend in a location from a Hitchcock thriller a good idea? [more inside]
Gayfilter: Where can/should my girlfriend and I get married? [more inside]
Anyone know how to get a copy of the book "Out at home" by Glenn Burke without breaking the bank? I'm suddenly fascinated by this guy, who was an openly gay baseball player who many credit with inventing the high-five. [more inside]
So I think I went out and got myself a case of gonorrhea. (Just what I always wanted!) What are my treatment options for getting this taken care of ASAP? I understand that it can generally be handled with a course of antibiotics... but how can I best go about getting them? I don't have a regular doctor right now -- I've just made an appointment with a new doctor for the end of the month, but I'd prefer to get on top of this before then (since leaving it unattended for more than two weeks seems like a bad idea). I'm a gay guy in NYC, so advice specific to that milieu would be superb, but in the name of creating a valuable reference thread I'd be interested to see information aimed at less specific contexts as well. [more inside]
Are there any documented cases of gay men or lesbians moving to Massachusetts to take advantage of our marriage laws? Has anyone written profiles of people or couples who have done this?
I'm in NY for the summer, in my 20s, a graduate student, and gay. I want to hang out with chill, smart, nice, gay people my age in the NY area. Ideas? [more inside]
Gay athlete needs life advice--should I keep training at the elite level or move on and get a "real life"? [more inside]
I'm a recently out, gay 21 year-old college student. I recently met someone and things are starting to get serious. Last night he came over and I couldn't get aroused. I've never had a problem with that before. What's going on? [more inside]
I need a list of gay rock/pop and jazz musicians and naturally thought of the obliging folks here at AskMe. So...any ideas? [more inside]
GaySubcultureFilter: Why do bears say "woof?" [more inside]
I've never dated a girl before. Where do I start? Oh, and I am one, too... [more inside]
Help me document (on film) my pre-conception, conception and pregnancy process. [more inside]
fundamentalists; My nephew is graduating from High School this month. He has been given a scholarship to an extremely fundamental christian college, similar to a Liberty or Bob Jones.....I have been invited to; [more inside]
How do I get my (abusive?) boyfriend out of my life? [more inside]
Best gay bar in the Twin Cities metro area, Minnesota? [more inside]
Is the character of Sam (Corey Haim) in the movie The Lost Boys supposed to be gay? [more inside]
DelicateSituationFilter: Help me introduce myself and get to date #1. [more inside]
Homofilter: What does a man get his boyfriend for Valentine's Day? [more inside]
My friend recently came out to me as a transsexual. This doesn't creep me out at all or make me uncomfortable, but maybe a little awkward: how do you try to help and support someone who just realized that she's really a he? [more inside]
FormerLesbianFilter: Can you give me any insight about men and/or the way men think and function? [more inside]
I have been thinking about the best places to live for a gay woman, in a committed relationship whose partner has a 4-year old son. [more inside]
Are there organizations that report on the human rights of gays and lesbians around the world? [more inside]
I'm an still-in-the-closet (but perhaps soon to be out) gay man in his early 20s. What are the best ways to meet good-hearted, intelligent, and personable gay men in Boston (or generally), people who are interested in relationships and not just quick hookups?
I believe my dad is gay (but still in the closet); I'm curious about how other families/children handle this situation. [more inside]
SpermFilter: Any reason not to give away my seed? [more inside]
Having long rolled my eyes at the debate over whether homosexuality is a choice, can I get an explanation of this argument from someone? [more inside]
A few months back, there was a bunch of hoopla over a report which several right-wing pundits kept referencing. It stated that data showed same-sex couples were less fit to raise children than hetero couples. I remember it being widely discredited as a bit of fluff put out by some fundy think tank, and I think that John Stewart had some fun with it. Can anyone give me any information on this report or any credible studies which refute it? Thanks.
What is appropriate for a same sex first anniversary gift? [more inside]
What is a respectful, succinct response to being hit on by someone who prefers your gender, when you "don't swing that way?" [more inside]
Help me cure lesbian bed-death. Lesbians and non-lesbians alike are welcome to reply. It's a not-so-funny joke in the gay community that a few months into a serious relationship. lesbians stop having sex. My partner and I have been together for six years now, and, although we talk about sex (especially how much we miss it!) we don't have sex. Maybe once a month, possibly less often than that. [more inside]
How can I politely ask someone to stop using the word "gay" in a derogatory way? I wish I would have objected to it from the first time that I heard this individual say it, but the person is my new roommate in a new town and I didn't want to anger him/her. Plus the first few times s/he said it, we were around other people in public and I didn't want to scold him/her at the time. S/he says "gay" to mean "stupid" all the time and it offends me. How can I bring it up now, a few weeks into our being roommates, in a way that won't be upsetting to our relationship? If this helps, I have a gay sibling and many gay friends and could use that as part of the explanation. Normally I call people out on this right away but this is a much more complicated relationship, as we have to live together and get along for a year. I don't think that s/he knows that it is offensive, although s/he is nearly 30 years old.
Why do a majority of gay men speak in a camp voice? Is this put on or does it just happen?
What is the origin of the stereotype of the lisping homosexual? [more inside]
I'm the faculty advisor for a Gay-Straight Alliance club that has just started at the local high school. Some members of the community are very upset about it. The newspaper has contacted me and wants to do a story on the club and the reaction. Should I talk to the newspaper? [more inside]
Suppose you are talking to someone (an acquaintance, a workmate, a person at a party) who you are pretty sure is gay. This person is talking about someone s/he is dating and is being completely gender neutral. What is the appropriate response? Do you maintain gender neutrality with your questions and comments (which can get awkward and feel silly)? Do you make a comment that includes the phrase "he or she" to indicate that you're aware that it may be either and that you're nonjudgmental (but potentially putting this person on the spot to pick a gender and out him/herself)? Do you pick the likely gender and continue the conversation blithely the way most people do in assumed-heterosexual conversations (again with the potential outing)? For the purposes of this exercise, assume no one else is in earshot.
How did you come out to your parents / friends / family?
Are gay men less likely than hetero men to contract prostate cancer? [more inside]
I am a gay man who recently broke up with my partner of 15 years. I am about to head off to my 20 year high school reunion. I haven't seen any of my classmates since graduation. How should I refer to myself? Divorced? Separated? [more inside]
I am an English lady coming to New York in April with a gaggle of commited homosexualist men and one other female. The aforesaid dedicated homosexualists will undoubtedly want to explore the gay bars of New York, and probably the seedier the better. Can anyone advise me on which gay bars are women-friendly and which should probably be left to the boys? Which ones are the most fun? We will be in the vicinity of the West Village.
Patty's coming out on tonight's episode of The Simpsons made me wonder how often it happens that one sibling in a pair of identical twins is gay and the other straight. Does anyone know of any twin studies about homosexuality?
Interested in percentage of blind since birth persons who are homosexual. [mi] [more inside]
YetAnotherHalf-RememberedMovieFilter. So I saw this film, probably in 1992. It was an American, art-house dealie, with two gay HIV positive blokes, who meet, hook up, and drive across the US. [You'll never guess where I put the more] [more inside]