Possible romantic, gay friendly travel destinations within a few hours' driving distance of Sarasota, FL?
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posted by kavasa
on Nov 8, 2006 -
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How do I avoid a "wedding" list (or gift registry as they're called here) without upsetting people?
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posted by tonylord
on Nov 1, 2006 -
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My 20 year old son came out to my wife and I this morning. I want to support him and understand his lifestyle and decisions better. Where do I go from here?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 23, 2006 -
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What's with the Lyndon Johnson scene in "Forrest Gump" where Lyndon Johnson asks Forrest to see his injury?
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posted by PandemicSoul
on Oct 8, 2006 -
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For a student of mine: Is it a good idea or a bad idea, on a law school application, to disclose past drug use and rehabilitation, sexual orientation, and family issues to explain why one has a problematic academic history?
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posted by k8t
on Sep 26, 2006 -
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I am looking for a good science-fiction website or blog with reliable reviews, preferably covering gay/queer issues.
posted by kolophon
on Sep 25, 2006 -
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For the last 5 years (age 18-23), I've identified myself as a gay man. Came out to my friends and family and was living okay. Now, for the last year, I've basically come to realize I'm not gay. I've lost all attraction to men and I kinda fell for a woman. I haven't talked to anyone about it (including "her"), and am now realizing I need to come out (er, again). Any ideas how to handle it with my friends, family, and "her"? I'd obviously like to minimize the humiliation, anger, hurt, etc.
posted by anonymous
on Sep 6, 2006 -
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There's a dance club in town I want to go to. How do I avoid embarrassing myself?
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posted by brett
on Aug 30, 2006 -
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[Gayfilter] I have a huge crush on a guy I've dated once, and he's moving abroad in three weeks' time. How can I let him know I desperately want to keep seeing him without coming across as a psycho?
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posted by doctorpiorno
on Aug 30, 2006 -
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Does anyone know of articles or books documenting the lives of happy, monogamous male gay couples and/or statistics on what % of the male gay population resides in relationships of that type?
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posted by shivohum
on Aug 22, 2006 -
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Looking for gay podcasts, specially the erotic kind and audio porn, preferably free. The more explicit (read fetishes) , the better. Any recommendations? Thanks!
posted by anonymous
on Aug 7, 2006 -
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Anyone know how to get a copy of the book "Out at home" by Glenn Burke without breaking the bank? I'm suddenly fascinated by this guy, who was an openly gay baseball player who many credit with inventing the high-five.
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posted by ORthey
on Jul 25, 2006 -
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So I think I went out and got myself a case of gonorrhea. (Just what I always wanted!) What are my treatment options for getting this taken care of ASAP? I understand that it can generally be handled with a course of antibiotics... but how can I best go about getting them? I don't have a regular doctor right now -- I've just made an appointment with a new doctor for the end of the month, but I'd prefer to get on top of this before then (since leaving it unattended for more than two weeks seems like a bad idea). I'm a gay guy in NYC, so advice specific to that milieu would be superb, but in the name of creating a valuable reference thread I'd be interested to see information aimed at less specific contexts as well.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 14, 2006 -
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Are there any documented cases of gay men or lesbians moving to Massachusetts to take advantage of our marriage laws? Has anyone written profiles of people or couples who have done this?
posted by alms
on Jul 11, 2006 -
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I'm in NY for the summer, in my 20s, a graduate student, and gay. I want to hang out with chill, smart, nice, gay people my age in the NY area. Ideas?
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posted by shivohum
on Jun 29, 2006 -
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Gay athlete needs life advice--should I keep training at the elite level or move on and get a "real life"?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 25, 2006 -
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I'm a recently out, gay 21 year-old college student. I recently met someone and things are starting to get serious. Last night he came over and I couldn't get aroused. I've never had a problem with that before. What's going on?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 23, 2006 -
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I need a list of gay rock/pop and jazz musicians and naturally thought of the obliging folks here at AskMe. So...any ideas?
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posted by ashbury
on Jun 20, 2006 -
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fundamentalists; My nephew is graduating from High School this month. He has been given a scholarship to an extremely fundamental christian college, similar to a Liberty or Bob Jones.....I have been invited to;
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posted by jamie939
on May 19, 2006 -
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Is the character of Sam (Corey Haim) in the movie
The Lost Boys supposed to be gay?
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posted by jca
on Feb 14, 2006 -
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My friend recently came out to me as a transsexual. This doesn't creep me out at all or make me uncomfortable, but maybe a little awkward: how do you try to help and support someone who just realized that she's really a he?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 4, 2006 -
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I have been thinking about the best places to live for a gay woman, in a committed relationship whose partner has a 4-year old son.
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posted by workinprogress
on Jan 9, 2006 -
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Are there organizations that report on the human rights of gays and lesbians around the world?
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posted by Amizu
on Jan 6, 2006 -
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I'm an still-in-the-closet (but perhaps soon to be out) gay man in his early 20s. What are the best ways to meet good-hearted, intelligent, and personable gay men in Boston (or generally), people who are interested in relationships and not just quick hookups?
posted by anonymous
on Dec 8, 2005 -
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I believe my dad is gay (but still in the closet); I'm curious about how other families/children handle this situation.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 6, 2005 -
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Having long rolled my eyes at the debate over whether homosexuality is a choice, can I get an explanation of this argument from someone?
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posted by Holygrail2
on Nov 12, 2005 -
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A few months back, there was a bunch of hoopla over a report which several right-wing pundits kept referencing. It stated that data showed same-sex couples were less fit to raise children than hetero couples. I remember it being widely discredited as a bit of fluff put out by some fundy think tank, and I think that John Stewart had some fun with it. Can anyone give me any information on this report or any credible studies which refute it? Thanks.
posted by es_de_bah
on Nov 6, 2005 -
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What is a respectful, succinct response to being hit on by someone who prefers your gender, when you "don't swing that way?"
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posted by AllesKlar
on Oct 16, 2005 -
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Help me cure lesbian bed-death. Lesbians and non-lesbians alike are welcome to reply.
It's a not-so-funny joke in the gay community that a few months into a serious relationship. lesbians stop having sex. My partner and I have been together for six years now, and, although we talk about sex (especially how much we miss it!) we don't have sex. Maybe once a month, possibly less often than that.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 11, 2005 -
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How can I politely ask someone to stop using the word "gay" in a derogatory way? I wish I would have objected to it from the first time that I heard this individual say it, but the person is my new roommate in a new town and I didn't want to anger him/her. Plus the first few times s/he said it, we were around other people in public and I didn't want to scold him/her at the time. S/he says "gay" to mean "stupid" all the time and it offends me. How can I bring it up now, a few weeks into our being roommates, in a way that won't be upsetting to our relationship? If this helps, I have a gay sibling and many gay friends and could use that as part of the explanation. Normally I call people out on this right away but this is a much more complicated relationship, as we have to live together and get along for a year. I don't think that s/he knows that it is offensive, although s/he is nearly 30 years old.
posted by anonymous
on Oct 3, 2005 -
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Why do a majority of gay men speak in a camp voice? Is this put on or does it just happen?
posted by spooksie
on Sep 23, 2005 -
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I'm the faculty advisor for a Gay-Straight Alliance club that has just started at the local high school. Some members of the community are very upset about it. The newspaper has contacted me and wants to do a story on the club and the reaction. Should I talk to the newspaper?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 10, 2005 -
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Suppose you are talking to someone (an acquaintance, a workmate, a person at a party) who you are pretty sure is gay. This person is talking about someone s/he is dating and is being completely gender neutral. What is the appropriate response? Do you maintain gender neutrality with your questions and comments (which can get awkward and feel silly)? Do you make a comment that includes the phrase "he or she" to indicate that you're aware that it may be either and that you're nonjudgmental (but potentially putting this person on the spot to pick a gender and out him/herself)? Do you pick the likely gender and continue the conversation blithely the way most people do in assumed-heterosexual conversations (again with the potential outing)? For the purposes of this exercise, assume no one else is in earshot.
posted by xo
on Apr 25, 2005 -
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