I had an absolutely terrible incident with a homophobic doctor. I have taken all the steps to report him to the local College of Physicians and Surgeons, and I hope he gets disciplined, but that doesn't address the systemic problem of homophobia in family physicians in my area (and it doesn't help me find a less homophobic doctor to switch to). I would like to blog about the incident, contact gay and lesbian associations, etc, but I am worried about being sued for libel/slander/I don't know. Will I get in trouble if I write publicly about this incident? Can I use the Dr's name? I'm in Alberta, Canada.
How do threesomes stay balanced? [more inside]
We are a gay couple living in St. Louis, Missouri, USA. We would like to get as much protection as we can to make decisions for each other and visit each other in hospitals. I have been calling around to gay and lesbian lawyers in the area, and no one will give me a 'straight' answer about cost. How much is it going to cost us to get a health care directive, durable power of attorney, and medical power of attorney for each of us?
Should I be content with just being friends, or should I push more? [more inside]
LoveFilter: Interested in your stories of finding lifelong love at age 35 or older, gay or straight. I'm a 35-year-old gay man and want to know what my chances are. [more inside]
How do I become more manly? Even though I think masculinity is bulls$#!%! [more inside]
Boston or Chicago -- which is the better city for the gay traveler? [more inside]
Many of the gay podcasts out there seem to just be two guys chatting. Does anyone know of a podcast that gives an overview or a history of the gay rights movement, or even is just gay and entertaining generally? Also auditory stuff that isn't a podcast but is iPoddable would also be fine (i.e. a good audiobook).
I'm gay. I'm in DC. I just don't have what it takes to go out and "meet" guys at bars. It's time to hit up the online dating scene, but there are soooo many different services and options, it's hard to know where to start. Who should I create a profile/start a subscription with? [more inside]
I'm straight, but I've been seeing this girl. She's beautiful and a socialite and I've been feeling conflicted about being seen in public together. More inside... [more inside]
If you were writing a letter to the editor with the title, "Christian Church Mustn't Oppose Same-Sex Marriage," what facts and arguments would you include? [more inside]
How serious an offense is it when your employer refuses to give you a meal break? [more inside]
Can you recommend a nice/interesting place for a weekend away on Maryland's Eastern Shore or thereabouts? [more inside]
Oh boy. Anti-gay vandalism outside my apartment. What do I do about it? [more inside]
Tell me your experiences of coming out as gay to just one of your two living parents alone. I'm not interested in opinions from everyone, just opinions and accounts of people who have been through this either first or second hand. If you later came out to your other parent too, I'd love to hear about it too. [more inside]
College application essay about the challenges overcome in relation to one's sexuality: good or bad idea? [more inside]
I'll be visiting NYC by myself next week. I would like to meet / hang out with other gay guys around my age. I'm looking for a gay bar with a younger (late 20s - early 30s) crowd. I'm slightly shy / self-conscious and prefer a place with a relatively friendly vibe and lack of "attitude". Any suggestions?
I'm about to be involuntarily outed as a bisexual at work. What should I expect? [more inside]
Is it possible to remove the DNA from an unfertilized female egg and replace it with the DNA from a sperm cell carrying the X-chromosome?
Regarding humans, is it possible to remove the DNA from an unfertilized female egg and replace it with the DNA from a sperm cell carrying the X-chromosome (perhaps using a process similar to nuclear transfer)? After doing this, could the egg be fertilized by the sperm of a different male and implanted into a surrogate mother, thus creating a child that is the biological child of two males? [more inside]
What move should I make on this guy, if any? [more inside]
How do I stop resenting my brother's wife, stop mentally competing with her for the love and approval of my parents, and stop worrying about falling to the margins of my family? [more inside]
Were there any openly gay members of hardcore punk bands in the late 1970s and early 1980s?
In the gay leather subculture, what do those black leather bands around a bicep mean (if anything)? [more inside]
Where are the lesbians in the history of the Gay Rights Movement? [more inside]
Four women want to spend the week of March 14-22nd on a warm beach. We also don't want to spend any time with thousands of drunk co-eds and frat boys. Have any advice on where to go for a non-touristy, gay friendly spring break? [more inside]
I'm looking for a good charity to list as a suggestion on our wedding registry. Specifically, one that works for marriage equality for everyone. [more inside]
So, I'm a junior in high school. Recently came out. Pretty much moved on from all the drama associated with that act, and now I'm looking for a relationship. Problem is: I can't for the life of me figure out how to meet and get to know my fellow homos. [more inside]
What is the proper way of dealing with people who habitually use homophobic language (i.e. "that's so gay/queer," "Romo the homo," "faggoty") etc. but aren't really bigots? [more inside]
Can anyone recommend good novels about gay people? Not just genre fiction but actually literature? It seems to me there must be, but I've never been able to find any.
Where do gay men and people who love them hang out in Fort Myers, Florida? [more inside]
What is the next step? [more inside]
I'm in a long-term relationship and I hardly have any friends. How do I get some? [more inside]
How do married same-sex couples hold title? Any recommendations or resources for California same-sex unions wanting to change title to their property? [more inside]
[GayDC_Filter] Should I go to the protests this Saturday? (See explanation) [more inside]
How to practice ethics and negotiate ethnicity as a gay man? [more inside]
How can someone help a teenage boy who has been showing some hateful, homophobic behavior recently? [more inside]
My girlfriend and I live in a state where gay marriage is not legal. We'd get married if we could. What would be the implications for us (and potentially a future child) if we got an out-of-state gay marriage? [more inside]
Looking for an ideal night in the Castro for some gay friends visiting out of town. [more inside]
Where can I throw a pizza dance party in NYC? [more inside]
I want to know more about the use of the word "partner," especially for straight couples... [more inside]
I'm die-hard military, but I'm also die-hard gay. With the election coming up, how do I show my military friends what this election means to me as a gay man? [more inside]
Is vaseline okay for gay sex? (NSFW and probably gross for most people) [more inside]
My son may be gay. I don't think he even knows yet. He is 15 this month-entering high school. He is ADHD, funny, cute, great with kids, thoughtful, and very loud and effeminate. He's jumped into the theater/choir crowd at school (Big group- I LOVE these kids and their families!). My question is- Can or should a mom get involved with the bullying that goes on? [more inside]
How do I help my obviously gay, claiming to be straight roommate come out of the closet? [more inside]
At some point within the next year I will have the opportunity to move to Seattle, Washington in order to be with the man I love. He will be relocating there in order to pursue his career. However I have some cold feet… [more inside]
What does the "futch" woman wear to Vegas? And where does she find her clothing? If I'm not feeling the nine-inch heels, where can I find the clothing that will be appropriate for a night on the town and fit butch-leaning tastes? [more inside]
I'm a female with this recurring fantasy about two men (my biggest fantasy since I was 15). How do I go about fulfilling it? Wait, there's a catch or two. [NSFW] [more inside]
I fell in love with my best friend, who is a guy. I’m a young bisexual guy. Apparently, he is not. Did the “wrong thing” and told him about how I felt, and was rejected, but things seemed okay afterward. However, I’m still hurting, I’m feeling delusional about it, and sometimes I think that he inadvertently isn’t helping… how do I live with my best friend now? Help me, Metafilter! [more inside]
I'm curious about what is the validity of my partner's Health Care Power of Attorney when he travels out of state. I can't seem to find much authoritative information when I google this. Can anyone clarify? [more inside]
What ever happened to the lethimstay.com family? [more inside]