I'm a female with this recurring fantasy about two men (my biggest fantasy since I was 15). How do I go about fulfilling it? Wait, there's a catch or two. [NSFW] [more inside]
posted on Jul 8, 2008 - 13 answers

I fell in love with my best friend, who is a guy. I’m a young bisexual guy. Apparently, he is not. Did the “wrong thing” and told him about how I felt, and was rejected, but things seemed okay afterward. However, I’m still hurting, I’m feeling delusional about it, and sometimes I think that he inadvertently isn’t helping… how do I live with my best friend now? Help me, Metafilter! [more inside]
posted on Jul 7, 2008 - 25 answers

Just out of the closet. Little bit socially clueless. Teach me how to behave at a gay bar. [more inside]
posted on Jun 22, 2008 - 9 answers

Scholarly journal article on gay bathhouses - can't find an article I read a few years back. [more inside]
posted on Jun 11, 2008 - 12 answers

Sexyfilter: Lesbian role-play ideas, bonus points for kinky. Yes, really. [more inside]
posted on May 27, 2008 - 12 answers

How will the recent California Supreme Court ruling affect my resident status? [more inside]
posted on May 18, 2008 - 14 answers

After a long time in a lesbian relationship, I'm coming to the realization that I think I'm straight. I don't want to leave my wife (I really love her), but I can't stop thinking about men. Please help me figure this out. Sexually explicit details inside. NSFW [more inside]
posted on Apr 21, 2008 - 22 answers

What can I expect in a Younger/Older relationship? [more inside]
posted on Mar 25, 2008 - 13 answers

GayDramaFilter. How can I make sure that people don't confuse my basic interest in them with flirting? [more inside]
posted on Mar 18, 2008 - 19 answers

I'm gay, and I'm afraid that I only like straight guys. [more inside]
posted on Dec 8, 2007 - 24 answers

I believe my friend is gay and in denial. I'm openly gay. How can I keep his cognitive dissonance from causing him to drop me? [more inside]
posted on Nov 6, 2007 - 42 answers

Next week apparently marks National Coming Out Week. Is now the time I've looked forward to for so long? [more inside]
posted on Oct 7, 2007 - 36 answers

I'm gay, new at dating, and kind of overweight (though not morbidly so -- say ~ 20/22% body fat), though my face doesn't show it. I'm afraid dates will like me, in part based on that deceptive face, then discover my fatness during a moment of intimacy, and be repulsed. Am I being paranoid?
posted on Aug 24, 2007 - 21 answers

I think my son's about to tell me he's gay. I want to say the best thing possible. What is that? [more inside]
posted on Jul 11, 2007 - 53 answers

It is a good thing where I work that I identify as gay. Very good. Recently however, I have fallen (madly) for a hetero... This would be somewhat of an issue of at my gay workplace and I'd like some good ole MeFi advice (MI) [more inside]
posted on Jun 13, 2007 - 32 answers

I am confused about my sexuality. [more inside]
posted on Jun 3, 2007 - 25 answers

In the gay male community, how hard is it to date someone pretty handsome/cute (though not necessarily physically "ripped") if one is, say, 20-25 lbs overweight (so overweight, NOT "obese") and in his mid to late 20s? How far can intelligence and personality take you? Is it easier to have a relationship on these bases than a one-night stand? Are things relatively hopeless without losing weight?
posted on May 29, 2007 - 19 answers

I'm a gay male. Although it's several years out still, I've been thinking a lot about parenthood. So much, much [more inside]
posted on Apr 25, 2007 - 11 answers

How do I find a gay financial planner who is in (or accessible to) Manhattan (NYC), has inheritance, tax, and foreign country experience, and speaks Spanish? [more inside]
posted on Mar 2, 2007 - 6 answers

My 20 year old son came out to my wife and I this morning. I want to support him and understand his lifestyle and decisions better. Where do I go from here? [more inside]
posted on Oct 23, 2006 - 38 answers

I've been single for 4 years. Why? What do I do now? [more inside]
posted on Sep 16, 2006 - 13 answers

For the last 5 years (age 18-23), I've identified myself as a gay man. Came out to my friends and family and was living okay. Now, for the last year, I've basically come to realize I'm not gay. I've lost all attraction to men and I kinda fell for a woman. I haven't talked to anyone about it (including "her"), and am now realizing I need to come out (er, again). Any ideas how to handle it with my friends, family, and "her"? I'd obviously like to minimize the humiliation, anger, hurt, etc.
posted on Sep 6, 2006 - 27 answers

Looking for gay podcasts, specially the erotic kind and audio porn, preferably free. The more explicit (read fetishes) , the better. Any recommendations? Thanks!
posted on Aug 7, 2006 - 2 answers

So I think I went out and got myself a case of gonorrhea. (Just what I always wanted!) What are my treatment options for getting this taken care of ASAP? I understand that it can generally be handled with a course of antibiotics... but how can I best go about getting them? I don't have a regular doctor right now -- I've just made an appointment with a new doctor for the end of the month, but I'd prefer to get on top of this before then (since leaving it unattended for more than two weeks seems like a bad idea). I'm a gay guy in NYC, so advice specific to that milieu would be superb, but in the name of creating a valuable reference thread I'd be interested to see information aimed at less specific contexts as well. [more inside]
posted on Jul 14, 2006 - 15 answers

Gay athlete needs life advice--should I keep training at the elite level or move on and get a "real life"? [more inside]
posted on Jun 25, 2006 - 18 answers

I'm a recently out, gay 21 year-old college student. I recently met someone and things are starting to get serious. Last night he came over and I couldn't get aroused. I've never had a problem with that before. What's going on? [more inside]
posted on Jun 23, 2006 - 14 answers

I've never dated a girl before. Where do I start? Oh, and I am one, too... [more inside]
posted on May 31, 2006 - 24 answers

My friend recently came out to me as a transsexual. This doesn't creep me out at all or make me uncomfortable, but maybe a little awkward: how do you try to help and support someone who just realized that she's really a he? [more inside]
posted on Feb 4, 2006 - 20 answers

I'm an still-in-the-closet (but perhaps soon to be out) gay man in his early 20s. What are the best ways to meet good-hearted, intelligent, and personable gay men in Boston (or generally), people who are interested in relationships and not just quick hookups?
posted on Dec 8, 2005 - 17 answers

I believe my dad is gay (but still in the closet); I'm curious about how other families/children handle this situation. [more inside]
posted on Dec 6, 2005 - 20 answers

Help me cure lesbian bed-death. Lesbians and non-lesbians alike are welcome to reply. It's a not-so-funny joke in the gay community that a few months into a serious relationship. lesbians stop having sex. My partner and I have been together for six years now, and, although we talk about sex (especially how much we miss it!) we don't have sex. Maybe once a month, possibly less often than that. [more inside]
posted on Oct 11, 2005 - 13 answers

How can I politely ask someone to stop using the word "gay" in a derogatory way? I wish I would have objected to it from the first time that I heard this individual say it, but the person is my new roommate in a new town and I didn't want to anger him/her. Plus the first few times s/he said it, we were around other people in public and I didn't want to scold him/her at the time. S/he says "gay" to mean "stupid" all the time and it offends me. How can I bring it up now, a few weeks into our being roommates, in a way that won't be upsetting to our relationship? If this helps, I have a gay sibling and many gay friends and could use that as part of the explanation. Normally I call people out on this right away but this is a much more complicated relationship, as we have to live together and get along for a year. I don't think that s/he knows that it is offensive, although s/he is nearly 30 years old.
posted on Oct 3, 2005 - 63 answers

I'm the faculty advisor for a Gay-Straight Alliance club that has just started at the local high school. Some members of the community are very upset about it. The newspaper has contacted me and wants to do a story on the club and the reaction. Should I talk to the newspaper? [more inside]
posted on Sep 10, 2005 - 19 answers

How did you come out to your parents / friends / family?
posted on Apr 21, 2005 - 34 answers