So Belize has some pretty backwards laws regarding gays and who can and cannot enter their country. Is this something that we should *actually* to worry about? Or, what are some alternate travel destinations we should be considering?
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posted by wats
on Apr 18, 2013 -
16 answers
Currently working on a project that explores gay stereotypes (and tropes) in American TV and Film along with their effects on society over time.
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posted by poolsidemuse
on Apr 3, 2013 -
62 answers
I wrote
this question about my Aunt. As it turned out, I just wrote back a very polite reply -- "thank you for your good wishes" ...I was polite. I felt good about this. Thank you for all the helpful answers.
My Aunt wrote me again -- long story inside. Thank you for taking the time to read it.
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posted by Lescha
on Mar 26, 2013 -
26 answers
Background: When my father learned I was gay, he disowned me. Think radical old-world "you are dead to me." This was many years ago -- well over a decade. He was very serious and cut off all contact with me. Made it clear I was out of the will and all of that -- very dramatic. I did try to initiate contact a few times many years ago, but was rebuffed. This is not what my question is about though -- I am at peace with this. I know I am a worthwhile and lovable person and I have many people in my life who care about me/love me. I had therapy when all this happened and I really feel I dealt with the emotions then. I know I am lovable and valuable person. Also, my relatives on my late Mother's side -- who are also quite old-world -- surprised me with their acceptance...
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posted by Lescha
on Feb 22, 2013 -
14 answers
Help me navigate my way through dating in my twenties and escaping the perpetual friend zoning: lesbian edition. Long story with links to my dating profiles for critiquing.
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posted by HiphopAnonymous
on Nov 12, 2012 -
19 answers
What are the ways we could expand services and support available to LGBT young people online?
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posted by Kirn
on May 2, 2012 -
7 answers
Recently, I found out that a now deceased family member worked at a 'gay hotel' in Provincetown MA in the 1940's. I'm trying to find out more about what 'gay hotels' were like in Provincetown, and just generally more about gay life in Cape Cod during that time. Can someone point me toward some good resources? I'm particularly interested in the sexual identities of the men who lived and stayed in Provincetown.
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posted by shushufindi
on Feb 17, 2012 -
5 answers
Looking for recommendations for websites and books that explain gay theology. More specifically, pro-gay arguments explaining tough Bible passages that have respected scholarship. I'm tending to see all the usual conservative stuff instead.
posted by snap_dragon
on Jan 9, 2012 -
13 answers
I just read messages between my boyfriend and a former(?) flame, after we started dating.. emotional messages about sex, and meeting up. I am devastated. Help...
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posted by ninefour
on Dec 10, 2011 -
31 answers
Where should I stay in Amsterdam and what should I check out?
I'm going to Amsterdam for two days and two nights the first week of January. I am a 26 year old single lesbian who is very interested in checking out the local hotspots for gay women and also visiting some art galleries. I would like to see some unusual art installations and/or performance art while I am there. Thank you! : )
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posted by thatgirl1985
on Oct 24, 2011 -
6 answers
How do I plan & embark on a RTW trip as an HIV+ man?
I'm about to turn 25 and thanks to healthcare legislation I've been given a small window of time to travel unencumbered by the fear of loosing health insurance.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 24, 2011 -
6 answers
I'll be late to the NYC pride parade. Where should I go to catch as much of it as possible?
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posted by cheerwine
on Jun 26, 2011 -
2 answers
Foreign Movie Filter: I need help remembering the name of a movie I saw at the Verzaubert festival in Berlin in November 2006. I know that it involved a wedding where the Bride did not show up and it ended with 5 people living in a polymorous relationship. Massive details below the fold.
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posted by Nackt
on Mar 19, 2011 -
5 answers
How do I claim myself as an independent on the FAFSA when I am completely independent, going for a teaching credential, 22 years old, or how else can I fund my schooling?
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posted by Peregrin5
on Mar 19, 2011 -
15 answers
My little sister is a lesbian, and seems misinformed about some basic sexual concepts (eg: safe sex for lesbians) ....
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posted by starfyr
on Mar 14, 2011 -
46 answers
What are some representations of gay, uniformed (police, military, etc) men in television and film?
posted by Saebrial
on Feb 10, 2011 -
32 answers
[Queer-filter] How do you cope with the ambient heterosexism of everyday life?
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posted by zahava
on Jan 27, 2011 -
33 answers
I have some friends who have had blocks in realizing their sexualities and I'm wondering what the cause of it is. I can't seem to find much information on this topic anywhere else.
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posted by antgly
on Jan 7, 2011 -
20 answers
I'd like to know if there are any others who have people who are not into the scene or online dating to let people know, subtly, that I may play for the other team.
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posted by Kamen Rider: Sock Puppet
on Dec 21, 2010 -
18 answers
How strong is the correlation between non gender conformity and homosexuality?
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posted by antgly
on Dec 1, 2010 -
32 answers
A few years ago, my partner's father died without organizing his estate very well. Currently, my father is is hospice, though he seems to have outlined his will and testament fairly clearly. We are still fairly young (around 30), but want to make sure that our wishes are written out clearly. Are there things that we should think about specifically delineating because we are a gay couple? Is there other paperwork we should be talking about with a lawyer besides our wills?
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posted by cam295
on Oct 3, 2010 -
12 answers
Calling adult younger siblings with older siblings who sometimes annoy them (and anyone else with an opinion on said matters): I'm proud of my gay younger brother for a stand he's taken (some would say finally); should/how I express this to him without accidentally being patronizing? Long details within.
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posted by MCMikeNamara
on Sep 14, 2010 -
11 answers
Not really sure how to let this out to my college counselor. In February of this year, I came out to my mom and brother. Things were better than I thought they would turn out to be. A couple of month later, my Dad somehow got the impression that we were all hiding something from him and as such, coerced me to tell him what was going on. I told him. He was somewhat judgmental of me and I completely stopped talking to him about these topics. Ever since that, I've been worried about how my future decisions will affect my relationship with my parents.
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posted by antgly
on Aug 30, 2010 -
53 answers
hey... I was wondering where I can find the best evidence to prove that sexuality is biological or womb hormonally rather than child rearing caused? Just for my parents who are damn annoying.
Thanks!
posted by antgly
on Aug 17, 2010 -
33 answers
I'm confused somewhat about my sexuality. It's an issue for me. Likely I'm gay and not straight.
I'm wondering how can I tell apart aesthetic appeal from sexual attraction.
Also, am I in denial to some point, because I'm constantly wondering over whether if I like women or not? That's why I'm wondering about the difference between aesthetic appeal and sexual attraction.
posted by antgly
on Jun 16, 2010 -
49 answers
Finishing up my degree and looking for a gay-friendly, outdoorsy city with good tech employment prospects.
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posted by ayerarcturus
on Apr 30, 2010 -
34 answers
I need examples of gender-specific songs covered by singers of the opposite gender. For instance, Jack White's cover of Dolly Parton's "Jolene".
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posted by domo
on Apr 19, 2010 -
114 answers
How do we figure out the pros/cons of entering a same-sex marriage in various jurisdictions? Do we want to talk with a lawyer?
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posted by PMdixon
on Mar 19, 2010 -
13 answers
Suggestions for reggae artists from the Caribbean, but NOT from Jamaica.
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posted by Craig
on Jan 29, 2010 -
8 answers
I'm a young, "straight-acting", alternative guy who is tired of being single. Help me find a boyfriend!
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posted by mosherdan
on Nov 5, 2009 -
23 answers
Celebrity Sexual Preference-filter: Does Gordon Gano, singer of the Violent Femmes, like boys, girls, or both?
posted by Jon_Evil
on Oct 17, 2009 -
9 answers
Many of the gay podcasts out there seem to just be two guys chatting. Does anyone know of a podcast that gives an overview or a history of the gay rights movement, or even is just gay and entertaining generally? Also auditory stuff that isn't a podcast but is iPoddable would also be fine (i.e. a good audiobook).
posted by edbles
on Jul 3, 2009 -
4 answers
Tell me your experiences of coming out as gay to just one of your two living parents alone. I'm not interested in opinions from everyone, just opinions and accounts of people who have been through this either first or second hand. If you later came out to your other parent too, I'd love to hear about it too.
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posted by Elfasi
on Apr 9, 2009 -
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So, I'm a junior in high school. Recently came out. Pretty much moved on from all the drama associated with that act, and now I'm looking for a relationship. Problem is: I can't for the life of me figure out how to meet and get to know my fellow homos.
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posted by Gotham
on Dec 22, 2008 -
29 answers
Looking for an ideal night in the Castro for some gay friends visiting out of town.
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posted by mto
on Oct 11, 2008 -
7 answers
What does the "futch" woman wear to Vegas? And where does she find her clothing? If I'm not feeling the nine-inch heels, where can I find the clothing that will be appropriate for a night on the town
and fit butch-leaning tastes?
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posted by schroedinger
on Jul 15, 2008 -
14 answers
Complicated name-change issues. I am changing my last name, but not due to a legal marriage. Can I get my name changed now, but start using it for everything later?
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posted by fiercecupcake
on Jan 30, 2008 -
11 answers
