I'm considering a great job offer in another state, and what it might mean for my two-year relationship. Help me develop a framework for making some decisions about all this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 19, 2009 - 15 answers

I feel like my life is over and I'm only 35. I feel completely stagnant and stuck, relationshipwise and jobwise. Do I need to change things or do I need to learn how to deal? Help me figure out how to be a happier person. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2009 - 34 answers

Is He Just Not That Into Me: Part Deux [more inside]
posted by cscott on Sep 23, 2009 - 31 answers

Should I be content with just being friends, or should I push more? [more inside]
posted by animerion on Aug 8, 2009 - 16 answers

LoveFilter: Interested in your stories of finding lifelong love at age 35 or older, gay or straight. I'm a 35-year-old gay man and want to know what my chances are. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 30, 2009 - 35 answers

What move should I make on this guy, if any? [more inside]
posted by cscott on Mar 10, 2009 - 18 answers

What is the next step? [more inside]
posted by cscott on Dec 2, 2008 - 16 answers

How to practice ethics and negotiate ethnicity as a gay man? [more inside]
posted by cscott on Oct 27, 2008 - 12 answers

At some point within the next year I will have the opportunity to move to Seattle, Washington in order to be with the man I love. He will be relocating there in order to pursue his career. However I have some cold feet… [more inside]
posted by kzin602 on Jul 30, 2008 - 11 answers

I fell in love with my best friend, who is a guy. I’m a young bisexual guy. Apparently, he is not. Did the “wrong thing” and told him about how I felt, and was rejected, but things seemed okay afterward. However, I’m still hurting, I’m feeling delusional about it, and sometimes I think that he inadvertently isn’t helping… how do I live with my best friend now? Help me, Metafilter! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 7, 2008 - 25 answers

What is the right dating etiquette after a good first date? [more inside]
posted by cscott on Mar 5, 2008 - 18 answers

What do I take away from a messy breakup? [more inside]
posted by cscott on Feb 18, 2008 - 9 answers

Am I getting strung along or should I wait this out? [more inside]
posted by cscott on Aug 31, 2007 - 26 answers

Was it a first date? Can I expect a second date? [more inside]
posted by cscott on Aug 4, 2007 - 16 answers

Does he want me to call him? Or should I wait for him to respond to an e-mail? [more inside]
posted by cscott on Apr 10, 2007 - 18 answers

Is he gay like me? Will it work out? The messy process of coming out ... [more inside]
posted by cscott on Feb 9, 2007 - 25 answers

[Gayfilter] I have a huge crush on a guy I've dated once, and he's moving abroad in three weeks' time. How can I let him know I desperately want to keep seeing him without coming across as a psycho? [more inside]
posted by doctorpiorno on Aug 30, 2006 - 10 answers

Are there any documented cases of gay men or lesbians moving to Massachusetts to take advantage of our marriage laws? Has anyone written profiles of people or couples who have done this?
posted by alms on Jul 11, 2006 - 10 answers

I've never dated a girl before. Where do I start? Oh, and I am one, too... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 31, 2006 - 24 answers

How do I get my (abusive?) boyfriend out of my life? [more inside]
posted by kzin602 on Apr 20, 2006 - 25 answers

FormerLesbianFilter: Can you give me any insight about men and/or the way men think and function? [more inside]
posted by hyperfascinated on Jan 22, 2006 - 56 answers

I'm an still-in-the-closet (but perhaps soon to be out) gay man in his early 20s. What are the best ways to meet good-hearted, intelligent, and personable gay men in Boston (or generally), people who are interested in relationships and not just quick hookups?
posted by anonymous on Dec 8, 2005 - 17 answers

I'm a gay male in my early thirties nearing my sixth year of singlehood, and long since ready to be with someone. However, I've had the hardest time trying to relate to the the gay community. I'm a bit eccentric and will often go to the gay club to write and probably get too wordy with personal ads. It seems that emotional and spiritual depth, along with a lack of care about materialism, just doesn't jibe with the "gay mainstream." My question is this: how can I continue my joyously weird existance, and attract the right person, without diminishing my personality and belief system? What sacrifices must I make with my 'kookiness' and still be me? Thanks!
posted by anonymous on Dec 29, 2004 - 30 answers