I'm a 24-year-old gay man. I have recently gone through a bitter break up with whom the other half is a work colleague, and I have started seeing a cognitive-behavioural therapist who has diagnosed me with severe social anxiety disorder. My life has gotten on top of me and my self-esteem has been shattered. How can I pick up the pieces? What steps can I take to find the happiness that I know I deserve? [more inside]
Gay filter: I am a 23 year old gay male. I started a relationship with a man of the same age that I work with. The relationship started fast and ended even faster. I went back to him after he hurt me, but soon decided enough is enough. Now I can't stand the pain when I see him in work, and I am still lingering over feelings of attachment to him...even though he hurt me! What should I do? [more inside]
[Gayfilter] I am a 23-year-old gay man who has never had a serious relationship, not through lack of trying. When potential relationships come to an end, I get severely depressed and can't handle the rejection. I have tried therapy, medication, self-medication, hobbies, you name it, but I cannot shake this unbearable heartache that plagues me every time a guy I like calls time on our fleeting romance. [more inside]
My boyfriend was raped as a kid, and recently told me that he used to believe he was gay before he met me. I don't know how to handle this. [more inside]
I'm in an amazing relationship, with someone I've known for over two years, and we've been dating for a year-ish. We're both women in our early 20's. I've only dated women up to this point, and been very happy with that. It seems that my brain doesn't want to keep that status quo anymore and is trying to convince me I want to experience being with men. [more inside]
This Question Makes Me Feel Silly: I like him, think he likes me. . .but I honestly can't tell whether or not he's gay. Need advice on how best to handle clearing this up. [more inside]
Dear MetaFilter: I need advice on serodiscordant dating. (That is, when a HIV- guy starts seeing a HIV+ guy.) [more inside]
Help me figure out what's going on with my sexuality and what it means for my long-time relationship. [more inside]
Help me accept my sex drive and become okay with fulfilling my sexual needs outside my sexless (and open) relationship. [more inside]
Have you ever successfully fought for a relationship that you knew was worth saving? How did it work out?
Have you ever successfully fought for a relationship that you knew was worth saving? How did it work out? [more inside]
So 5 weeks post breakup, the ex is coming to pick up his stuff this weekend. How do I maintain my composure and not get into discussing all the conflicting feelings that run through my head? [more inside]
(brotherly) pride and (anti-gay) prejudice and (avoiding sibling rivalry issues returning like) zombies
Calling adult younger siblings with older siblings who sometimes annoy them (and anyone else with an opinion on said matters): I'm proud of my gay younger brother for a stand he's taken (some would say finally); should/how I express this to him without accidentally being patronizing? Long details within. [more inside]
How to manage the transition from fiance to ex to friends? [more inside]
All the umbrellas in London couldn't stop this rain, and all the dope in New York couldn't kill this pain
Every breakup is its own special snowflake. Should I try to put the pieces back together or is it time to cut losses and go our seperate ways? (Sorry, this is going to get long) [more inside]
My friend's in a pretty toxic relationship. Help me give him good advice [more inside]
I'm a young, "straight-acting", alternative guy who is tired of being single. Help me find a boyfriend! [more inside]
I feel like my life is over and I'm only 35. I feel completely stagnant and stuck, relationshipwise and jobwise. Do I need to change things or do I need to learn how to deal? Help me figure out how to be a happier person. [more inside]
I'm in a long-term relationship and I hardly have any friends. How do I get some? [more inside]
What can I expect in a Younger/Older relationship? [more inside]
Advice for a gay man looking for long-term-relationship oriented prospects in the Minneapolis Metro area. [more inside]
What's the best way to find a boyfriend (gay) / Cuddle buddy in New York?
DelicateSituationFilter: Help me introduce myself and get to date #1. [more inside]
How can I politely ask someone to stop using the word "gay" in a derogatory way? I wish I would have objected to it from the first time that I heard this individual say it, but the person is my new roommate in a new town and I didn't want to anger him/her. Plus the first few times s/he said it, we were around other people in public and I didn't want to scold him/her at the time. S/he says "gay" to mean "stupid" all the time and it offends me. How can I bring it up now, a few weeks into our being roommates, in a way that won't be upsetting to our relationship? If this helps, I have a gay sibling and many gay friends and could use that as part of the explanation. Normally I call people out on this right away but this is a much more complicated relationship, as we have to live together and get along for a year. I don't think that s/he knows that it is offensive, although s/he is nearly 30 years old.
Gay men in relationships: how did you meet your significant others?