A guy I was seeing abruptly decided he was not gay and cut off contact with me. How can I help him through what he's going through and preserve our friendship, or at least make sense of this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 6, 2011 - 20 answers

Looking for the name of a soldier that commited suicide because of homophobia. [more inside]
posted by alona on Sep 1, 2011 - 2 answers

This is a 3rd party question and as such I am looking more for general information than specific help. It has to do with the military's policy on being gay while serving. [more inside]
posted by edgeways on Apr 26, 2008 - 13 answers

Are there any queer mefites with military experience?

I'm thinking of enlisting in the U.S. army after I graduate from university this spring. As in, I really want to do this, depending on MOS restrictions my red/green colorblindness impose on me. One of the things I have to consider, though, is my penchant for sleeping with members of my own gender. I think I "pass" pretty well, but I'm curious if there's anyone out there with experience spending time in the military closet, or alternatively, you have associated with a soldier whom you knew was in the closet. If you have general military advice, feel free to lay it on me, but I have probably seen most of it one place or another. As in, some might be tempted to tell me to get a commission if I've got a bachelor's, something that doesn't interest me.

Thanks for your help!
posted by anonymous on Nov 16, 2004 - 13 answers