For some reason my mom decided it would be a great idea to let her married, lesbian daughter know that even though she supports gay marriage, she "sees Kim Davis'" point of view and thinks she should have the right to a religious exemption, or that she should "have the right" to keep her job because "the rules of her job changed". I was shocked in the moment and don't feel like I explained the case well. Now I'm looking for one good, objective resource that will explain this situation better. [more inside]
I'm mid 30s, gay, currently working in Adelaide, South Australia (my work takes me all over the globe, so some context). I'm wanting to explore my sexuality, but I am wondering if I should visit a doctor to get some vaccinations for STDs? (I've been reading about HPV on ask.mefi) [more inside]
Family member asked me to help Christian dude struggling with gay feelings. After agreeing to meet him I see his beliefs are way more extreme than I'm comfortable with. What do? [more inside]
I'm not sure how to ask this question. I've been in a weird funk lately where I've been feeling lonely and frustrated due to many factors. I guess I am just having a quarter life crisis in that I am 25 and feel a little lost professionally and personally. [more inside]
Which websites, blogs, forums, etc, should I be following to be kept in the loop regarding new releases in international LGBTQ[etc] cinema? [more inside]
I really want to find out more about the history and progress of LGBT rights. Namely, early forms and social codes to express homosexuality, the civil rights movements and how psychology viewed before and now, and what led to finally removing homosexuality as a disorder from the DSM. [more inside]
Emory University is planning to give a distinguished alumni award to H. Eddie Fox, who has been leading the fight against the inclusion and equality of gay Methodists in the Methodist Church (among other accomplishments). Students/staff/faculty are currently mobilizing to have that award rescinded. We have less than a week left. What is the most effective way to pressure Emory to rescind that award? [more inside]
I'm going to Mexico City in late October and have a bunch of questions! [more inside]
I'm studying abroad this fall in Barcelona with pretty workable Spanish but very limited Catalan, and I'd love to do some work/activism/volunteering/organizing around queer or related issues (HIV/AIDS, youth development, homelessness, etc.) while I'm there. Is this possible given my language limitations? [more inside]
What is the value in pushing non-Russian cities to drop their sister/twin relationships with Russian cities to protest the anti-gay laws and attitudes in Russia? This article from Radio Free Europe offers a summery of the issue, "Sister Cities Ramp Up Russia Boycott Over Antigay Law". [more inside]
I'm a lesbian who's recently found herself crushing on a man. Does this mean anything? [more inside]
Currently working on a project that explores gay stereotypes (and tropes) in American TV and Film along with their effects on society over time. [more inside]
The State-sanctioned homophobia and transphobia in Malaysia, my country of origin, is breaking my heart. What can I do as a currently overseas citizen to make things better for my fellow LGBT folk back in Malaysia, particularly in raising awareness of the issue internationally? [more inside]
Please help me compile a list of openly gay video game players who are celebrities, influencers, or otherwise successful in their own industries. [more inside]
Help me evaluate the gay-friendliness of various cities, particularly Houston, TX. [more inside]
Would like insight and education into the various ways that gay men -- both as individuals and as a group, both historically and currently -- relate to, regard, and interact with gay/lesbian women, and vice versa. [more inside]
Help me compiling a list of well known butch dykes [more inside]
My friend was offered a job several months ago, but the company screwed up his immigration paperwork and... yada yada yada, he may get deported in a month. Oh, and he's gay. How can I help? [more inside]
Where can I meet/hang-out/make merry with other young queers in San Francisco? [more inside]
What are some great (somewhat) recently released novels/books/memoirs with queer/LGBTQ themes or characters? [more inside]
What are the ways we could expand services and support available to LGBT young people online? [more inside]
A very close online friend of mine is getting kicked out of the house and disinherited for being gay and not going through with what amounts to an arranged marriage. He just turned 18. The situation is somewhat urgent, he doesn’t have much in the way of local resources, and getting in touch with specifically LGBT groups is likely to strain his family situation further. What resources and options can I help him find? [more inside]
I suck at being gay. [more inside]
PhillyGayPhilter: Online dating through OkCupid hasn't been working out well for me, but I'm not quite sure how else to do it now that I'm out of college. How do I meet other young-ish gay men in Philadelphia, in either meat-space or alternative digital pastures? Anxieties, personal details, and candy within! [more inside]
Flexible, customizable, free, gay-friendly, Windows-compatible genealogy software? [more inside]
What are some volunteer opportunities in NYC that involve working with the LGBT community? [more inside]
Can you recommend books, short stories, academic pieces, movies, tv shows, and other media that explore the boundaries (and their blurring) between male bonding, friendship, camaraderie, hero worship and more "platonic" relations and homoeroticism/homosexuality? That delve into the lines between liking, love, lust, admiration, and feelings of belonging?
I am a 25 year-old gay(-ish?) male living in New York City. Perhaps uncharacteristically, I have a really strong drive to have kids (of my own) and really want to do so in the next five or ten years. I'm torn about how to get there though, given relationship difficulties that hinge largely on unresolved issues relating to my sexuality. Warning: TL;DR potential, but significant context is necessary. [more inside]
The parents kicked me out for being gay. What can I do now to make sure I stay emotionally healthy, and how do I deal with my complicated feelings surrounding this? Has anyone else been through this? [more inside]
I'm looking for some good blogs and sites related to LGBT issues [more inside]
I'll be late to the NYC pride parade. Where should I go to catch as much of it as possible? [more inside]
Have you ever successfully fought for a relationship that you knew was worth saving? How did it work out?
Have you ever successfully fought for a relationship that you knew was worth saving? How did it work out? [more inside]
My little sister is a lesbian, and seems misinformed about some basic sexual concepts (eg: safe sex for lesbians) .... [more inside]
I'm a trans-man looking into a month-long NOLS course. Is NOLS a safe place for LGBTQ folks? [more inside]
[Queer-filter] How do you cope with the ambient heterosexism of everyday life? [more inside]
I'd like to know if there are any others who have people who are not into the scene or online dating to let people know, subtly, that I may play for the other team. [more inside]
Woman in early 30s coming out as a lesbian for the first time in the Twin Cities. What's the city LGBT scene like? (Asking for a friend.) [more inside]
Not really sure how to let this out to my college counselor. In February of this year, I came out to my mom and brother. Things were better than I thought they would turn out to be. A couple of month later, my Dad somehow got the impression that we were all hiding something from him and as such, coerced me to tell him what was going on. I told him. He was somewhat judgmental of me and I completely stopped talking to him about these topics. Ever since that, I've been worried about how my future decisions will affect my relationship with my parents. [more inside]
When is arousal not attraction? [more inside]
I'm confused somewhat about my sexuality. It's an issue for me. Likely I'm gay and not straight. I'm wondering how can I tell apart aesthetic appeal from sexual attraction. Also, am I in denial to some point, because I'm constantly wondering over whether if I like women or not? That's why I'm wondering about the difference between aesthetic appeal and sexual attraction.
Resources for a now-homeless-after-coming-out lesbian living in Fayette County, Ohio? [more inside]
“That’s so gay”: How do you ask/remind people to be a little bit more sensitive without being a buzzkill in social situations?
“That’s so gay”: How do you ask/remind people to be a little bit more sensitive without being a buzzkill in social situations? [more inside]
I am a bisexual guy at a religious high school in Atlanta, GA and, while there isn't much homo-hostility, the majority of my classmates are uncomfortable with homosexuality. (And that's including the gay ones.) I'd like to meet interesting people outside of my school, but I haven't the first clue how to start. How is a bi high school guy supposed to meet like-minded individuals outside of school?
Celebrity Sexual Preference-filter: Does Gordon Gano, singer of the Violent Femmes, like boys, girls, or both?
Where are the lesbians in the history of the Gay Rights Movement? [more inside]
In light of the horrendously awful "I Now Pronounce You Chuck & Larry," are there any GOOD (i.e. both funny and non-homophobic) comedies about straight people either having to pretend they're gay or, more generally, about straight people slowly but surely letting go of their prejudices towards LGBT people? [more inside]
I'm toying with opening a site based upon the MeFi model for LGBT issues and community building. What software programs do MeFi and other online communities use to administer the system? I've really only installed MT and other simple programs before, so I'm looking for ease of install as well as ease of use... Thanks in advance!