I'm 45, female and just discovered I'm bi. Now what?
Yes, I know it seems unlikely, and the nearest I can figure is my arousal/desire for every single one of my lovers has occurred after being desired, rather than finding someone hot in advance. I was married for a very long time, and possibly oblivious to any gay come-ons, in my premarital time. For the sake of the information I seek, can we please assume that I am correct - that I am bi, and that this wasn't just experimental? (which has been suggested to me by a straight friend).
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 25, 2013 -
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Help me navigate my way through dating in my twenties and escaping the perpetual friend zoning: lesbian edition. Long story with links to my dating profiles for critiquing.
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posted by HiphopAnonymous
on Nov 12, 2012 -
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My partner and I plan to move to Austin, Texas, in January. We’re looking for recommendations about neighborhoods, information about the housing market, or any other useful information.
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posted by maurreen
on Oct 9, 2012 -
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Would like insight and education into the various ways that gay men -- both as individuals and as a group, both historically and currently -- relate to, regard, and interact with gay/lesbian women, and vice versa.
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posted by jjjjjjjijjjjjjj
on Aug 29, 2012 -
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Mid-20s, female, sort of starting to wonder if I might maybe be bi, kind of hating on myself over it.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 10, 2012 -
38 answers
I'm looking to work in/maybe move to, a country where same-sex marriage is legal and gay people are treated equally. Any recommendations? Any advice from expatriates?
I've been in a committed and loving relationship with my partner for over 6 years. Looking forward, I would like to move to a country where I can get married, live, work, raise a family and be openly gay in a country with as much respect from the law and the community as everyone else.
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posted by Firegal
on Jun 18, 2012 -
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First things first: I am a gay female. I have had a crush on my friend for several months (also a gay female), however, being inexperienced at making first moves and being shy, I have been moving very slowly. I thought perhaps she felt something for me, but never made any overt moves. Recently she drunkenly hooked up with another girl (whom she had just recently met within the last 2 weeks and this was only the second or third day they had really hung out together) at a party. I am wondering if I have completely missed my chance, and what I should do.
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posted by christiehawk
on May 19, 2012 -
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What are the ways we could expand services and support available to LGBT young people online?
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posted by Kirn
on May 2, 2012 -
7 answers
What are some ways my partner and I (two women) can signal to restaurant staff that we are on a date and hope to receive service similar to straight couples?
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posted by tr0ubley
on Mar 5, 2012 -
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I am a gay female in my late 20s who has understood my own sexuality for as long as I can remember and has been out to all of my friends for many years. My orientation is certainly not anything I would consider a defining characteristic about myself. The kind of profession I am in, the kind of experiences I have had and my life goals have greatly shaped who I am as a person, and have absolutely nothing to do with who I am attracted to.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 20, 2011 -
42 answers
Where should I stay in Amsterdam and what should I check out?
I'm going to Amsterdam for two days and two nights the first week of January. I am a 26 year old single lesbian who is very interested in checking out the local hotspots for gay women and also visiting some art galleries. I would like to see some unusual art installations and/or performance art while I am there. Thank you! : )
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posted by thatgirl1985
on Oct 24, 2011 -
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What are some lesbian/queer events, gallery exhibitions, movies, bars, etc. to see in Paris?
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posted by msk1985
on Oct 7, 2011 -
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I'm a straight female, I think, but I'm terrified of dicks. And for the past few months, I've been wondering if I'm gay, but the thought scares me. (NSFW)
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 25, 2011 -
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The parents kicked me out for being gay. What can I do now to make sure I stay emotionally healthy, and how do I deal with my complicated feelings surrounding this? Has anyone else been through this?
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posted by Autumn
on Aug 24, 2011 -
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My same-sex partner and I have separated (to my shock and opposition) after a few years of hard financial times. While I am holding out hope that she will come to her senses, I need help deciding on what to do (especially regarding our house) in case we can't resolve our issues.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 28, 2011 -
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Have you ever successfully fought for a relationship that you knew was worth saving? How did it work out?
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posted by newlyminted
on Apr 28, 2011 -
24 answers
Foreign Movie Filter: I need help remembering the name of a movie I saw at the Verzaubert festival in Berlin in November 2006. I know that it involved a wedding where the Bride did not show up and it ended with 5 people living in a polymorous relationship. Massive details below the fold.
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posted by Nackt
on Mar 19, 2011 -
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My little sister is a lesbian, and seems misinformed about some basic sexual concepts (eg: safe sex for lesbians) ....
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posted by starfyr
on Mar 14, 2011 -
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I consider myself straight, but am interested in having sex with a girl just to see what it's like. I am under the impression that lesbians are not big fans of people like me.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 7, 2011 -
21 answers
[Queer-filter] How do you cope with the ambient heterosexism of everyday life?
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posted by zahava
on Jan 27, 2011 -
33 answers
How strong is the correlation between non gender conformity and homosexuality?
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posted by antgly
on Dec 1, 2010 -
32 answers
How can I come out to my extended family without it being a holiday "surprise" or confessional atmosphere?
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posted by nakedmolerats
on Nov 20, 2010 -
22 answers
Woman in early 30s coming out as a lesbian for the first time in the Twin Cities. What's the city LGBT scene like? (Asking for a friend.)
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 18, 2010 -
5 answers
So I'm gay. Turns out a lot of folks in my extended family are as well. What are the odds? Has anyone studied extended family charting specifically?
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posted by Tchad
on Aug 30, 2010 -
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GetMeTheHellOutOfTheHouseFilter: I need to get out badly, I need a temporary escape from the insanity I'm in right now. My fantasy? To go somewhere and be straight up hit on by a lady (who likes other ladies (who are butch-ish (as in I will not be seen in pink ever, but can't fix my own car))). And this needs to happen in Chicago. Please help!!!
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 7, 2010 -
10 answers
I need examples of gender-specific songs covered by singers of the opposite gender. For instance, Jack White's cover of Dolly Parton's "Jolene".
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posted by domo
on Apr 19, 2010 -
114 answers
How do I more effectively encourage gay young adults in the criminal justice system to engage with the larger gay community? (long question)
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posted by The Straightener
on Dec 8, 2009 -
39 answers
There are gay icons and lesbian icons - are there people who are bisexual/pansexual icons?
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posted by divabat
on Sep 15, 2009 -
47 answers
I had an absolutely terrible incident with a homophobic doctor. I have taken all the steps to report him to the local College of Physicians and Surgeons, and I hope he gets disciplined, but that doesn't address the systemic problem of homophobia in family physicians in my area (and it doesn't help me find a less homophobic doctor to switch to). I would like to blog about the incident, contact gay and lesbian associations, etc, but I am worried about being sued for libel/slander/I don't know. Will I get in trouble if I write publicly about this incident? Can I use the Dr's name? I'm in Alberta, Canada.
posted by arcticwoman
on Sep 11, 2009 -
25 answers
I'm straight, but I've been seeing this girl. She's beautiful and a socialite and I've been feeling conflicted about being seen in public together. More inside...
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 13, 2009 -
32 answers
Can you recommend a nice/interesting place for a weekend away on Maryland's Eastern Shore or thereabouts?
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posted by Morrigan
on May 1, 2009 -
7 answers
How do married same-sex couples hold title? Any recommendations or resources for California same-sex unions wanting to change title to their property?
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posted by Graygorey
on Nov 13, 2008 -
4 answers
What does the "futch" woman wear to Vegas? And where does she find her clothing? If I'm not feeling the nine-inch heels, where can I find the clothing that will be appropriate for a night on the town
and fit butch-leaning tastes?
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posted by schroedinger
on Jul 15, 2008 -
14 answers
Why are there so few lesbian bars in the NYC/Brooklyn area when compared to the high number of gay bars?
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posted by Viola
on Jun 19, 2008 -
31 answers
After a long time in a lesbian relationship, I'm coming to the realization that I think I'm straight. I don't want to leave my wife (I really love her), but I can't stop thinking about men. Please help me figure this out. Sexually explicit details inside. NSFW
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 21, 2008 -
23 answers
Can you recommend a good, lesbian-friendly therapist/psychologist/whatever in Kentucky?
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posted by reese
on Feb 22, 2008 -
4 answers
Complicated name-change issues. I am changing my last name, but not due to a legal marriage. Can I get my name changed now, but start using it for everything later?
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posted by fiercecupcake
on Jan 30, 2008 -
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