I'm a lesbian who's recently found herself crushing on a man. Does this mean anything?
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posted by Autumn
on May 11, 2013 -
57 answers
I'm 45, female and just discovered I'm bi. Now what?
Yes, I know it seems unlikely, and the nearest I can figure is my arousal/desire for every single one of my lovers has occurred after being desired, rather than finding someone hot in advance. I was married for a very long time, and possibly oblivious to any gay come-ons, in my premarital time. For the sake of the information I seek, can we please assume that I am correct - that I am bi, and that this wasn't just experimental? (which has been suggested to me by a straight friend).
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 25, 2013 -
23 answers
In the late 1990's on the Oprah Winfrey show, there was a brief piece on a song that reached the low end of the R&B charts. Sonically it was pretty traditional soul music, but the twist was that it was a cheating song, but the female singer catches her man cheating with
another man, named "Bill," which was the title of the song, IIRC. If anyone can provide me with the singers name that'd be great. Bonus points for an mp3 or youtube link.
posted by jonmc
on Apr 25, 2013 -
2 answers
Is there any biological evidence for the assertion that female sexuality is more fluid than male sexuality? Or is this imbalance more likely due to cultural factors?
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posted by showbiz_liz
on Apr 22, 2013 -
17 answers
So Belize has some pretty backwards laws regarding gays and who can and cannot enter their country. Is this something that we should *actually* to worry about? Or, what are some alternate travel destinations we should be considering?
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posted by wats
on Apr 18, 2013 -
16 answers
Currently working on a project that explores gay stereotypes (and tropes) in American TV and Film along with their effects on society over time.
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posted by poolsidemuse
on Apr 3, 2013 -
62 answers
I wrote
this question about my Aunt. As it turned out, I just wrote back a very polite reply -- "thank you for your good wishes" ...I was polite. I felt good about this. Thank you for all the helpful answers.
My Aunt wrote me again -- long story inside. Thank you for taking the time to read it.
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posted by Lescha
on Mar 26, 2013 -
26 answers
I'm planning on being in Denver at the same time as the annual gay rodeo there (Rocky Mountain Regional Rodeo). I'm wondering what to expect from the event and whether it's worth taking the time and effort to attend. Looks like gay cowboys have better things to do with their time than create pretty websites for tourists so can you help me figure it out please?
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posted by londonmark
on Mar 25, 2013 -
7 answers
How to deal with intense anxiety from stupid and risky sexual decisions in the (pretty) distant past?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 8, 2013 -
27 answers
I'm a boy who wants to make out with other boys. Problem is, I'm bothered by the culture of some of the more popular online options (e.g. Grindr). What are my options?
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posted by Conspire
on Mar 5, 2013 -
12 answers
Background: When my father learned I was gay, he disowned me. Think radical old-world "you are dead to me." This was many years ago -- well over a decade. He was very serious and cut off all contact with me. Made it clear I was out of the will and all of that -- very dramatic. I did try to initiate contact a few times many years ago, but was rebuffed. This is not what my question is about though -- I am at peace with this. I know I am a worthwhile and lovable person and I have many people in my life who care about me/love me. I had therapy when all this happened and I really feel I dealt with the emotions then. I know I am lovable and valuable person. Also, my relatives on my late Mother's side -- who are also quite old-world -- surprised me with their acceptance...
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posted by Lescha
on Feb 22, 2013 -
14 answers
I've asked a couple questions about building a richer social life on AskMeta, and a few times I've gotten the suggestion that I should be spending more one-on-one time with friends and acquaintances. My observations suggest that women socialize this way more often than men do. Tell me I'm wrong, then share tips.
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posted by Nomyte
on Feb 21, 2013 -
16 answers
Please help me compile a list of openly gay video game players who are celebrities, influencers, or otherwise successful in their own industries.
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posted by Unsomnambulist
on Feb 19, 2013 -
14 answers
I finally came out to myself, my therapist and my mom. And I am in a deep overseas relationship with a guy that I met online from South America. Where do I go from here? Lots of details inside.
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posted by mrdexterous
on Feb 18, 2013 -
11 answers
A year ago, I posted about whether I should have any plastic surgery done to improve my dating prospects as an "ethnic" gay man in a major US urban area. Six months ago, after a lot of introspection and a commitment to psychological counseling to help me build my self-esteem, I decided to pursue primary rhinoplasty. Here is what I've learned in the time since I last posted about how to improve my dating prospects:
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posted by cscott
on Feb 14, 2013 -
59 answers
About a month ago I asked about how to flirt with a friend. Well, I asked her out, and got rejected. Now I want to know how to deal with it.
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posted by christiehawk
on Feb 4, 2013 -
26 answers
Have you used a gay friendly travel agency to book a vacation or give you advice on a destination? What agency/website did you use?
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posted by timpanogos
on Jan 5, 2013 -
2 answers
Am I being paranoid for worrying that my new boyfriend is gay? Also, is there a delicate way of broaching the topic or should I avoid it altogether?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 4, 2013 -
64 answers
I am heterosexual. During a party, I was asked by a roommate if I was gay. This is not the first time - I need help navigating my insecurity regarding my sexuality. Details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 22, 2012 -
52 answers
At work, my slightly-more-experienced colleague makes a habit of saying subtle and/or ambigious cricitisms, disguised as innocent remarks. I spoke to management about it recently but they couldn't see the problem. How should I deal with a work colleague who tries to undermine me and make me look bad, but who is subtle enough not to get caught?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 19, 2012 -
27 answers
21-year-old college junior seeks career and coming out advice! Lots of details inside...
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posted by DRoll
on Nov 23, 2012 -
7 answers
How to repay/show gratitude to amazing friends that have let me crash at their place for the last 5 months while I disentangled myself from LTR with co-owned condo?
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posted by CaptApollo
on Nov 15, 2012 -
7 answers
Help me navigate my way through dating in my twenties and escaping the perpetual friend zoning: lesbian edition. Long story with links to my dating profiles for critiquing.
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posted by HiphopAnonymous
on Nov 12, 2012 -
19 answers
This Question Makes Me Feel Silly: I like him, think he likes me. . .but I honestly can't tell whether or not he's gay. Need advice on how best to handle clearing this up.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 1, 2012 -
38 answers
Parent is the one with the terminal illness, but I (child of parent) feel that my own life is in danger. Career life, social / love life and general happiness of life are all at stake. Would like suggestions / advice how to proceed further. Warning: blizzard ahead.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 21, 2012 -
9 answers
My partner and I plan to move to Austin, Texas, in January. We’re looking for recommendations about neighborhoods, information about the housing market, or any other useful information.
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posted by maurreen
on Oct 9, 2012 -
6 answers
Help me evaluate the gay-friendliness of various cities, particularly Houston, TX.
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posted by nickhb
on Oct 3, 2012 -
22 answers
Would like insight and education into the various ways that gay men -- both as individuals and as a group, both historically and currently -- relate to, regard, and interact with gay/lesbian women, and vice versa.
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posted by jjjjjjjijjjjjjj
on Aug 29, 2012 -
8 answers
What are the best agressive, alternative, out, fun, political, pro-gay shirts? I'm looking to update my wardrobe with some more queer clothing and am looking for suggestions.
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posted by andoatnp
on Aug 14, 2012 -
17 answers
My friend was offered a job several months ago, but the company screwed up his immigration paperwork and... yada yada yada, he may get deported in a month. Oh, and he's gay. How can I help?
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posted by Madamina
on Jul 21, 2012 -
9 answers
Coming out dilemma: how do you tell your traditional Chinese dad (ESL) that you're gay?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 18, 2012 -
10 answers
Has anyone ever published an article or blog post about their experience as a straight man being objectified by a gay man, and the experience opening their eyes to how they themselves objectify women?
posted by ac
on Jul 15, 2012 -
4 answers
I have been seeing my close friend's boyfriend on
Grindr a lot lately. Should I say something? There are complicating factors.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 12, 2012 -
19 answers
Mid-20s, female, sort of starting to wonder if I might maybe be bi, kind of hating on myself over it.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 10, 2012 -
38 answers
I'm looking to work in/maybe move to, a country where same-sex marriage is legal and gay people are treated equally. Any recommendations? Any advice from expatriates?
I've been in a committed and loving relationship with my partner for over 6 years. Looking forward, I would like to move to a country where I can get married, live, work, raise a family and be openly gay in a country with as much respect from the law and the community as everyone else.
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posted by Firegal
on Jun 18, 2012 -
35 answers
