Cousin Zach is a sweetheart, but I don't have the time or inclincation to attend everything he invites us to. How to say no tactfully? Guilt is involved. [more inside]
posted by frosty_hut
on Jan 27, 2009 -
How likely is it that a funeral home is dishonest? They're pushing a $11,000 mahogany coffin whose wood was apparently soaked in sea-water for seven years first. Google doesn't seem to think this is a standard carpentry practice, although I have found mention of briefer immersions in order to drown any parasites that might attack the wood during later storage and processing. [more inside]
posted by d. z. wang
on Dec 28, 2008 -
What are the least wasteful and/or most productive (preferably legal) things that can be done with my body after I'm dead? [more inside]
posted by Arasithil
on Nov 12, 2008 -
I just found out within the last hour that my father has passed away. I am in California and he lived in Missouri. Now what? [more inside]
posted by jvilter
on Oct 1, 2008 -
In the (possibly very) near future I will want to fly from the UK to the US for a relative's funeral. Can you help me find the lowest fare? [more inside]
posted by K.P.
on Jul 8, 2008 -
I'm looking for funeral chants, prayers and songs that are beautiful and mournful. [more inside]
posted by naju
on Jun 2, 2008 -
My parents are both well into their eighties now with health failing just a little bit more each year. How do I prepare myself for their eventual death? [more inside]
posted by netbros
on May 28, 2008 -
Do any of you have experience with caskets purchased from Costco
? The mother of someone very close to me may soon be in need of one, and I've only seen the corners of the displays at the stores themselves.
Have any of you actually seen one of the full caskets in person, purchased one, or anything related?
posted by c0nsumer
on May 28, 2008 -
I need to spread the ashes of a deceased relative in San Diego. Does anyone have any suggestions on how this might happen? [more inside]
posted by diode
on Apr 21, 2008 -
How do you get into funerary services if you're not in the family business? My friend is currently going to mortuary and school and could use some tips as to landing apprenticeships and such. [more inside]
posted by es_de_bah
on Apr 15, 2008 -
In the next month an important anniversary of a loved one's suicide will be coming up. I have never until this year dealt with the feelings involved with the death and the emotions involved in the loss. I have very little memories of the actual funeral involved (I was 13) but it has been suggested to me (by therapist) that maybe I may like to do some sort of memorial or ritual signifying it. I like this idea. I just have no idea how. [more inside]
posted by beautifulcheese
on Apr 13, 2008 -
I'm looking for music for a funeral. Something to play quietly in the background. Preferably classical or instrumental. [more inside]
posted by Toekneesan
on Mar 19, 2008 -
We have lost a 3 day old child in our family to Edwards Syndrome. Please help me choose what to read at her rememberance service.
posted by Raybun
on Feb 4, 2008 -
How do you politely tell an ex that they are invited to your parent's visitation, but not the funeral? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Dec 19, 2007 -
I've reached my late 20s without ever facing death. How do I deal with death when I know I will face it sooner or later? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Dec 10, 2007 -
The father of a close business associate has died and I would like to behave appropriately and honor my associate's loss. They're Catholics in NYC. There is a wake which seems to be scheduled for several different time periods over the weekend. Then there is a funeral mass on Monday during business hours, followed by burial at the cemetery. [more inside]
posted by JimN2TAW
on Nov 16, 2007 -
A family member just passed away, leaving her wish for a non-denominational funeral of some type. The family is using a cremation society to save the expense of falling into the funeral home trap since this avoids the need for a casket, embalming etc. Her ashes are to be interred in a denominational cemetary next to her parents.
Who to officiate over her memorial if not a priest/rabbi etc??
Please help me with ideas for a simple officiated memorial (without going into family dynamics, it would be problematic to rely on attendees to give eulogies hence the need for someone to officiate)
posted by Fupped Duck
on Nov 9, 2007 -
Questions about the practical aspects of preparing for someone for death and things the survivors need to do after the death.
posted by Brandon Blatcher
on Oct 8, 2007 -
My father is going to die in the next few days (cancer of the aesophagus) and my family have decided that I should be the one to take care of the arrangements*. I need advice on dealing with undertakers in the UK, and--a longshot but worth asking--any recommendations for trusted funeral homes and funeral directors in Suffolk (that's Suffolk UK, for the hard of thinking), ideally ones not associated with SCI. [more inside]
posted by Hogshead
on Sep 24, 2007 -
How do I tactfully avoid having to accompany people to the casket at a family member's funeral? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Sep 6, 2007 -
I'm designing a funeral handout for a young woman who has died suddenly. Help me come up with ideas for a poem or verse or quote or something to include. [more inside]
posted by thirteenkiller
on Aug 3, 2007 -
My friend is dying, and has asked me to preside over his funeral. I am meeting with him this weekend to talk about his wishes. What questions do I need to ask him while he is still alive? What information will make it easier for me to do this? I have been fortunate enough not to have experienced the death of many family or friends, so I don't really know much more about funerals than what I learned from Six Feet Under.
posted by arcticwoman
on Jul 19, 2007 -
Emergency funeral flowers for a mom -- where can I get lilacs in Atlanta or delivered to Atlanta for a Monday memorial service? My best friend's mom passed suddenly last night and her favorite flowers were lilacs. Please help me do this for my friend and her family.
posted by mdiskin
on May 10, 2007 -
It's time for the partner and I to set up wills. We've never done this before, and our "estates" aren't worth the cost of going to a lawyer. I need clarification about what we might need, and recommendations about what software to use. [more inside]
posted by misanthropicsarah
on Nov 9, 2006 -
Funeral Question: A friend's father recently passed away after a 6 month bout with leukemia and her family is sitting Shivah tomorrow evening. What should I bring and what customs should I be prepared for? One friend said we're supposed to bring food but what kind? Also, I have a feeling there might be tons of food so is there something more lasting I could bring? The Shivah will be held at a home that is kept kosher and may be orthodox or at least very close to it [more inside]
posted by slapshot57
on Nov 6, 2006 -
Questions about Jewish funeral customs
. My husband's grandmother sadly passed away this weekend and I was hoping for some advice. She was Jewish, I'm not. I have a load of questions inside... [more inside]
posted by dogsbody
on Oct 29, 2006 -
My father-in-law who's a Korean War vet has full VA benefits. Still is there anything I need to look out for so as not to get shafted by funeral/cremation companies? [more inside]
posted by rolypolyman
on Oct 22, 2006 -
Should I attend my ex's funeral (she's very ill and close to death)? Kids are 16 and 21, they live with her, i've had minimal contact with them (my choice) past 5 years because i wanted nothing to do with her, even by phone; they live 100 or so miles away.
posted by america4
on Aug 19, 2006 -
I'm attending a Catholic funeral in a couple of days. I'm not Catholic. I know that I shouldn't take communion or recite the Nicene Creed, but what about the rest of the service? Do I stand and kneel when everybody else does, or do I stay seated? What's the proper etiquette for the whole affair?
posted by waldo
on Apr 2, 2006 -
Can anyone tell me about the legal, practical steps of dealing with a person who dies, their dead body? I live in NYC but imagine the steps must be pretty similar all over the US and Europe too. [more inside]
posted by nickyskye
on Mar 12, 2006 -
Does anyone know why every funeral home I see has a sign with a clock and weather info on it? I was curious about this after noticing it during a cross country drive in Canada. Is there some history or tradition to this?
posted by bryce.clarke
on Oct 31, 2005 -
My father is probably about to die. He lives in Texas. (I'm in Colorado, and am about to go to Texas.) He is conscious but unable to communicate. I am his only heir. He said years ago that he wanted me to be the executor of his will, but I don't know if he even has
a will. If he does have a will, he probably prepared it when he was married to a woman (not my mother), to whom he is no longer married. My question is what happens, or what I should do, in either case. He does not have substantial assets. I just want to make sure there's enough money to pay for the funeral and his outstanding debts.
posted by lukemeister
on Oct 8, 2005 -
I'm young, not religious, and I am convinced that when I'm dead, I'm dead. I don't care what happens to my remains when I eventually die, but I'm wondering: what's the cheapest, legal
way to dispose of my body?
I live in Chicago, and from my research, even to donate my body to science or to have it cremated would cost over a grand.
Any other options? I just don't want to be a burden to my survivors.
posted by andshewas
on Aug 11, 2005 -