In the past few months, both parents of my Japanese-American (by way of Hawaii) coworker have passed away. What gift/donation might be appropriate and have special significance to her? [more inside]
My wife's sister died, and I've been asked to be a pallbearer. What should I know? Of what customs, rituals, or traditions should I be aware? Any tips I should know? The family is Chinese, the service will be Catholic. (I am neither.)
What, if anything, do you bring to a funeral? [more inside]
Should I notify my employer about a possible (but not certain) funeral leave? [more inside]
I've never sent flowers for a funeral before and am at a loss as to what to do. Bonus points for Modesto, CA florist recommendations. [more inside]
What do men wear to a winter funeral ? [more inside]
Cousin Zach is a sweetheart, but I don't have the time or inclincation to attend everything he invites us to. How to say no tactfully? Guilt is involved. [more inside]
How likely is it that a funeral home is dishonest? They're pushing a $11,000 mahogany coffin whose wood was apparently soaked in sea-water for seven years first. Google doesn't seem to think this is a standard carpentry practice, although I have found mention of briefer immersions in order to drown any parasites that might attack the wood during later storage and processing. [more inside]
Can anyone think of an Alice in Wonderland excerpt appropriate to the funeral of a dear friend? [more inside]
What are the least wasteful and/or most productive (preferably legal) things that can be done with my body after I'm dead? [more inside]
I just found out within the last hour that my father has passed away. I am in California and he lived in Missouri. Now what? [more inside]
In the (possibly very) near future I will want to fly from the UK to the US for a relative's funeral. Can you help me find the lowest fare? [more inside]
I'm looking for funeral chants, prayers and songs that are beautiful and mournful. [more inside]
Reading/poetry to say goodbye to a dog? [more inside]
My parents are both well into their eighties now with health failing just a little bit more each year. How do I prepare myself for their eventual death? [more inside]
Do any of you have experience with caskets purchased from Costco? The mother of someone very close to me may soon be in need of one, and I've only seen the corners of the displays at the stores themselves. Have any of you actually seen one of the full caskets in person, purchased one, or anything related?
What are some good non-religious readings I can use at a memorial service? [more inside]
I need to spread the ashes of a deceased relative in San Diego. Does anyone have any suggestions on how this might happen? [more inside]
How do you get into funerary services if you're not in the family business? My friend is currently going to mortuary and school and could use some tips as to landing apprenticeships and such. [more inside]
In the next month an important anniversary of a loved one's suicide will be coming up. I have never until this year dealt with the feelings involved with the death and the emotions involved in the loss. I have very little memories of the actual funeral involved (I was 13) but it has been suggested to me (by therapist) that maybe I may like to do some sort of memorial or ritual signifying it. I like this idea. I just have no idea how. [more inside]
Should I attend a co-workers wife's funeral? [more inside]
I'm looking for music for a funeral. Something to play quietly in the background. Preferably classical or instrumental. [more inside]
Suggestions for putting together a very small memorial ceremony. [more inside]
We have lost a 3 day old child in our family to Edwards Syndrome. Please help me choose what to read at her rememberance service.
What preparations should I make for getting old? [more inside]
How do you politely tell an ex that they are invited to your parent's visitation, but not the funeral?
How do you politely tell an ex that they are invited to your parent's visitation, but not the funeral? [more inside]
I've reached my late 20s without ever facing death. How do I deal with death when I know I will face it sooner or later? [more inside]
The father of a close business associate has died and I would like to behave appropriately and honor my associate's loss. They're Catholics in NYC. There is a wake which seems to be scheduled for several different time periods over the weekend. Then there is a funeral mass on Monday during business hours, followed by burial at the cemetery. [more inside]
A family member just passed away, leaving her wish for a non-denominational funeral of some type. The family is using a cremation society to save the expense of falling into the funeral home trap since this avoids the need for a casket, embalming etc. Her ashes are to be interred in a denominational cemetary next to her parents. Who to officiate over her memorial if not a priest/rabbi etc?? Please help me with ideas for a simple officiated memorial (without going into family dynamics, it would be problematic to rely on attendees to give eulogies hence the need for someone to officiate)
How do you prepare or help prepare someone who is dying and then deal with the practical aspects of the aftermath
Questions about the practical aspects of preparing for someone for death and things the survivors need to do after the death. [more inside]
My father is going to die in the next few days (cancer of the aesophagus) and my family have decided that I should be the one to take care of the arrangements*. I need advice on dealing with undertakers in the UK, and--a longshot but worth asking--any recommendations for trusted funeral homes and funeral directors in Suffolk (that's Suffolk UK, for the hard of thinking), ideally ones not associated with SCI. [more inside]
Funeral customs in Brazil? [more inside]
Pocket-sized amusements for children at funerals. [more inside]
How do I tactfully avoid having to accompany people to the casket at a family member's funeral? [more inside]
I'm turning the Big Three-Oh and I really want to have a big bash. [more inside]
My partner and I are doing estate planning. What's the best way to pre-arrange cremation? [more inside]
I'm designing a funeral handout for a young woman who has died suddenly. Help me come up with ideas for a poem or verse or quote or something to include. [more inside]
My friend is dying, and has asked me to preside over his funeral. I am meeting with him this weekend to talk about his wishes. What questions do I need to ask him while he is still alive? What information will make it easier for me to do this? I have been fortunate enough not to have experienced the death of many family or friends, so I don't really know much more about funerals than what I learned from Six Feet Under.
Emergency funeral flowers for a mom -- where can I get lilacs in Atlanta or delivered to Atlanta for a Monday memorial service? My best friend's mom passed suddenly last night and her favorite flowers were lilacs. Please help me do this for my friend and her family.
Stamps as part of memorial thank you... [more inside]
Should I go to this funeral? [more inside]
It's time for the partner and I to set up wills. I need clarification about what we might need, and recommendations about what software to use.
It's time for the partner and I to set up wills. We've never done this before, and our "estates" aren't worth the cost of going to a lawyer. I need clarification about what we might need, and recommendations about what software to use. [more inside]
Funeral Question: A friend's father recently passed away after a 6 month bout with leukemia and her family is sitting Shivah tomorrow evening. What should I bring and what customs should I be prepared for? One friend said we're supposed to bring food but what kind? Also, I have a feeling there might be tons of food so is there something more lasting I could bring? The Shivah will be held at a home that is kept kosher and may be orthodox or at least very close to it [more inside]
Questions about Jewish funeral customs. My husband's grandmother sadly passed away this weekend and I was hoping for some advice. She was Jewish, I'm not. I have a load of questions inside... [more inside]
My father-in-law who's a Korean War vet has full VA benefits. Still is there anything I need to look out for so as not to get shafted by funeral/cremation companies? [more inside]
Should I attend my ex's funeral (she's very ill and close to death)? Kids are 16 and 21, they live with her, i've had minimal contact with them (my choice) past 5 years because i wanted nothing to do with her, even by phone; they live 100 or so miles away.
How do you find a grave? [more inside]
I'd like some recommendations for opera music to be played at a funeral. [more inside]
I'm attending a Catholic funeral in a couple of days. I'm not Catholic. I know that I shouldn't take communion or recite the Nicene Creed, but what about the rest of the service? Do I stand and kneel when everybody else does, or do I stay seated? What's the proper etiquette for the whole affair?
Don't know what I should wear to my grandmother's memorial service. [more inside]