My dad is dying of cancer. I live a very long way away and have a small baby with health complications who probably shouldn't be flying just yet. Should I go sooner to see my dad before he gets too bad and leave my little baby behind? Should I wait for the all clear to travel with the baby and risk my dad getting really sick or dying without me seeing him? [more inside]
My friend's mother passed away. She loved 60s music, particularly Peter Paul and Mary. In her home, I found CDs of Peter Paul Mary, John Denver, Bob Dylan, Leonard Cohen, Cat Stevens. I know she loved the song Turn Turn Turn and Signs [more inside]
I've been to funerals where a casket was lowered into a grave using some kind of machine – what's the equivalent to this when the remains are cremated and put into a small box or urn? I imagine there's some happy medium between a giant apparatus and just dropping the box into the hole. If it makes a difference I'm interested in particular in how this is done in graves without a vault.
What's the right thing to do here? [more inside]
After my mother died last fall, and my family having no money to bury her, it got me thinking about my own inevitable death someday. I know you can prepay for your funeral at actual funeral homes, but I never stay in one location more than 2-3 years. I have no idea where I'll be when I die. I've thought about life insurance, but I think that takes a while to pay out? Are there some options I'm missing?
A close family friend recently lost a family member. I'd prefer to send food instead of flowers to try and make this horrible situation a tiny bit easier on everyone. The catch is that I live in New Jersey. Hope me, Mefi friends!! [more inside]
A good friend of mine recently passed away, and his mother asked me to pick two musical selections to play at his service. He was a big classical music buff, but I am not. I know Mahler was his favorite, but frankly, I have no idea where to even begin. Please help me identify Mahler compositions that are appropriate (in terms of mood and length) for a memorial service.
I'm looking for decoration ideas for a children's grave. [more inside]
What are the best Windows 7 applications for making a respectful slideshow for a funeral? I'm thinking there will be mostly pictures, but some video may be included as well. For now I'm thinking I won't be including music in the slideshow, but I'd still like to hear about software with music functionality as well.
I'm reading a poem for my grandmother's memorial service. I want to find something I like that will also get my mother's OK. [more inside]
Where do atheist funerals/memorial services take place, and who, if anyone, officiates? [more inside]
My Husbands Grandmother has died and he and his whole family are in transit to the funeral (I am unable to travel due to health reasons) and wanted to send flowers as I couldn't be there but I don't quite understand the etiquette involved with the style of Funeral they are having. [more inside]
Usually I think of sending flowers when I won't be able to attend a funeral. I will be attending one this week, for a pretty close relative, and another relative asked me to go in on some flowers. Is it customary to send flowers even if you're attending? This is in the US.
When I was living in Honduras, I noticed that when a person died, the family would hang up a large piece of black fabric outside of their house or in their window. This banner would be cut into a shape that reminded me of a bow tie. This might be a long shot, but does anyone know what the history is behind this tradition? [more inside]
My Dad just called and my Mom unexpectedly died in her sleep at 62. We need help in knowing what to do. [more inside]
A very very dear friend died unexpectedly recently and I have been asked by the family to be among the non-family members who will speak at his memorial service. I've only ever spoken at my mother's memorial service, and I cheated by reading her favorite psalm. I know some things to do and some not to do, but I think I need more thoughts from the hivemind. [more inside]
Can signing an 'Authorization For Cremation' form somehow make me responsible for my deceased father's debt? [more inside]
How do I deal with my estranged brother at our grandmother's funeral? [more inside]
Arabic translation help. In 2008 I had the honor of attending the state funeral of Mahmoud Darwish. I have a poster from the event but have never translated the Arabic. [more inside]
In Ontario, can a person be buried in a natural way, so that the body returns to the earth? [more inside]
I can't remember where I read it - can someone help me find a eulogy from a scientist? [more inside]
How to handle interview + time off for funeral? [more inside]
My estranged father passed away last Sunday. I've decided to attend the funeral. Please help me conduct myself with something resembling grace. Overly complex snowflakey stuff inside. [more inside]
My grandfather is 91 and we're helping him plan his funeral. At it, he wants Hawaiian music played. Apparently it's the music he used to hear at dances (in New Zealand) when he met my grandmother in the late 30s/early 1940s. According to the BBC, there was a fad for Hawaiian music in wartime Britain, especially a band called Felix Mendelssohn and his Hawaiian Serenaders, but I can't find much by them. Any ideas? I guess it would be a slow dance kind of song. [more inside]
Help me understand what to expect for an upcoming funeral. [more inside]
Name that Latin, Greek, or Italian poem... Can you identify this poem from my senile grandfather's sparse details? [more inside]
Is it appropriate to bring my 3-month old to a wake? [more inside]
What do I need to know to prepare for my parents (hopefully far in the future) death? What should they have ready? What about to make my or my partner's death/incapacitaton easier on the other? Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
Calling all Roman Catholics, Nuns, and Priests! Help me incorporate the Rosary into a Funeral Service for my best friend! (kinda long) [more inside]
Pre-need question about giving a eulogy. [more inside]
I'm looking for a country music song. All I can remember is the artist, male, singing about the presidents of the US. If can remember correctly they were lining up and at a funeral (but, I could be wrong). Any suggestions as to what song it was?
My friend's dad just passed away. How can I help him? What can I do? I live couple thousand miles away from where he is. Can you give me some suggestions? Is it bad if I start compiling list of government agencies or funeral homes for them to call? What else I can do?
Hospice and end of life: what to expect? [more inside]
Tips on coping with grief? My dad passed away a couple of weeks ago and since then i've been pretty much paralyzed with grief. Is there anything i can do to get over this quickly, or at least get a handle on it, because it's affecting my interpersonal relationships, and interfering with quality time with my 17month old. [more inside]
On September 4, 1974 the bodies of 6 Soviet sailors were recovered by the US Navy while clandestinely surveying the wreckage of submarine K-129. In 1992 CIA director Robert Gates "...as a gesture of intent, a symbol of a new era... carried with [him, on a state visit with Boris Yeltsin] the Soviet naval flag that had shrouded the coffins... [and] a videotape of their burial at sea, complete with prayers for the dead and the Soviet national anthem—-a dignified and respectful service even at the height of the Cold War." Where/how can I watch this videotape?
Copyright issues with memorial DVDs? [more inside]
Should I try to overcome a series of practical obstacles so I can fly to the funeral of a longtime friend? Or just send regrets? [more inside]
What should my wife and sister-in-law know before going to the funeral home to make arrangements for their father? [more inside]
At Henry Allingham's funeral, what branch of the services did the French bugler or trumpet player represent, and what piece did he play? [more inside]
My grandmother died this morning. I'm going home to help out the family, but I would like to make a list of things I might not remember before I leave so that we don't forget anything. [more inside]
A friend's father just died, and I will be attending the viewing on Sunday. I don't know what to do about the body. [more inside]
I need the best recording of "I'll Be Seeing You" that you can recommend. [more inside]
Writing a funeral scene. Am familiar only with Jewish funerals. What happens, graveside, at a Catholic funeral? Prayers? How is the casket carried, and covered with dirt? Any specific rituals I should know about? If any knows particularly what happens at a Catholic funeral in France this would be even more helpful.
Should I notify my employer about a possible (but not certain) funeral leave? [more inside]
My father is going to die in the next few days (cancer of the aesophagus) and my family have decided that I should be the one to take care of the arrangements*. I need advice on dealing with undertakers in the UK, and--a longshot but worth asking--any recommendations for trusted funeral homes and funeral directors in Suffolk (that's Suffolk UK, for the hard of thinking), ideally ones not associated with SCI. [more inside]
What's up with applause at funerals? [more inside]