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How to prepare a kid for a funeral?

Having not dealt with close family death often, i'm a little concerned about how to prepare my 12 yo daughter for the service etc. Thoughts? [more inside]
posted by j_curiouser on Sep 29, 2014 - 28 answers

Help me miss my Dad

My Dad died this week after a long illness. I don't feel a thing, except maybe tired. How do I get my feelings back? Are there resources for people like me? [more inside]
posted by SecondSock on Nov 30, 2013 - 36 answers

Unexpected Death

My Dad just called and my Mom unexpectedly died in her sleep at 62. We need help in knowing what to do. [more inside]
posted by RoadScholar on Nov 13, 2013 - 21 answers

Any tips for planning a funeral?

I suppose just about everybody goes through this process at one time or another, but I (30 year-old man) and my sister (34 year-old woman) are helping my dad plan mom's funeral (after 40 years of marriage and a drawn-out battle with cancer). None of us (dad included) have really had to plan these things, and conflicted advice from different friends and loved ones isn't helping. How do we do this? (and how can this be announced online to friends and acquaintances?) [more inside]
posted by phaedrus441 on Nov 2, 2013 - 18 answers

Should I go to my ex-coworker's memorial tonight?

Should I go to my ex-coworker's memorial tonight? He committed suicide a few weeks ago. I kind of don't want to go because I'm more pissed off than I am sad. [more inside]
posted by 2or3whiskeysodas on Sep 25, 2013 - 89 answers

Portuguese cemetery wall vaults?

I was recently in a small village cemetery in Portugal. In the cemetery there was a wall with coffins interred on shelves, with a modern lockable double glazed door over each vault so that you could look in at the contents. [more inside]
posted by mani on Sep 16, 2013 - 9 answers

How do I get where I'm going when I'm through going places?

Death and DIY-filter! My dad, who is older but is not quite elderly or in dire straits with regards to his health, has always expressed a wish to be buried in as natural a way as possible. Think '1920s home burial with family dug grave' instead of 'put me in a biodegradable box made from reclaimed, waste wood fiber next to fifi the cat in a manicured cemetery' and you'll have the gist of what he's thinking. What are the ins and outs of making this happen? Look inside for specifics regarding our family situation/location/skillset... [more inside]
posted by RolandOfEld on Aug 19, 2013 - 7 answers

Authorization for cremation?

Can signing an 'Authorization For Cremation' form somehow make me responsible for my deceased father's debt? [more inside]
posted by KevinSkomsvold on Mar 25, 2013 - 15 answers

Too sad for a witty title

My grandad passed away today. My family have asked me to find a poem he might like, to read at his funeral. He was an engineer who would only read 'factual' things, such as instructional/educational books and later in life, a lot of biographies. He didn't go in for poetry at all that I know of. Would like to avoid 'Do not stand at my grave and cry'. Any reccommendations? [more inside]
posted by everydayanewday on Dec 13, 2012 - 27 answers

The woods are lovely, dark and deep

In Ontario, can a person be buried in a natural way, so that the body returns to the earth? [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus on Sep 4, 2012 - 8 answers

How to handle estranged father's funeral?

My estranged father passed away last Sunday. I've decided to attend the funeral. Please help me conduct myself with something resembling grace. Overly complex snowflakey stuff inside. [more inside]
posted by Ephelump Jockey on Jul 31, 2012 - 23 answers

Wake or funeral?

Do you go to the wake or the funeral? [more inside]
posted by Sissinghurst on Feb 13, 2012 - 38 answers

My partner killed himself yesterday, i am still in shock and haven't told people. I don't know how to deal with this and need help

My partner killed himself yesterday, i am still in shock and haven't told people. I don't know how to deal with this and need help [more inside]
posted by servix on Nov 30, 2011 - 59 answers

Need help with managing a memorial page on a Wordpress site.

I run a Worpress site, hosted by Dreamhost. We are about to make a memorial announcement. This will drive a lot of traffic to the site, including hundreds of comments and potentially thousands of hits. I am the only one who runs the site and I need to be prepared. What do I need to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 24, 2011 - 7 answers

Attending a funeral of an estranged parent

My estranged father passed away. Should I attend his funeral? Lengthy, snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by kitkatcathy on Oct 14, 2011 - 35 answers

A merry question about funerals and late-stage Alzheimer's :(

How to handle the funeral/remberance of my father, with my mother who has late-stage Alzheimer's? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 2, 2011 - 14 answers

What do you do at a funeral?

Funeral Question: So my grandmother died. The wake is on Thursday and the funeral is on Friday. I've never been to a funeral before and not any Catholic services before. What's expected of me? What can do to help? Or at least not make things worse? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 21, 2011 - 32 answers

Incorporating the Rosary into a funeral service? Some guidance?

Calling all Roman Catholics, Nuns, and Priests! Help me incorporate the Rosary into a Funeral Service for my best friend! (kinda long) [more inside]
posted by Tchad on Mar 16, 2011 - 14 answers

Odd after-death arrangement: how to?

Two questions. How do I write a last will and testament when it involves those I know across the internet? And, how do I ensure that certain...eccentric requests involving my funeral and/or body be carried out? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 5, 2011 - 25 answers

My friend's dad just passed away. How can I help him?

My friend's dad just passed away. How can I help him? What can I do? I live couple thousand miles away from where he is. Can you give me some suggestions? Is it bad if I start compiling list of government agencies or funeral homes for them to call? What else I can do?
posted by Carius on Jan 2, 2011 - 16 answers

Readings for a course on death and philosophy

Philosophical approaches to death and dying. I am prepping a college course; looking for great readings on philosophical questions about death, but also: world religious/cultural traditions about dying/funerals/mourning/afterlife, how people in death-related jobs see their work (undertakers, hospice workers, doctors, chaplains, military/police...), writings of people who have terminal illnesses, psychological research on preparation for dying, etc. [more inside]
posted by LobsterMitten on Dec 14, 2010 - 51 answers

Tell me about gangster funerals

I'd like descriptions or, fiction about, gang and gangster funerals. [more inside]
posted by Fiasco da Gama on Oct 24, 2010 - 11 answers

How to deal with grief.

Tips on coping with grief? My dad passed away a couple of weeks ago and since then i've been pretty much paralyzed with grief. Is there anything i can do to get over this quickly, or at least get a handle on it, because it's affecting my interpersonal relationships, and interfering with quality time with my 17month old. [more inside]
posted by ramix on Jun 8, 2010 - 23 answers

Where can my relative find a green burial in the L.A. area?

A dear relative will likely die within the next decade, and I am trying to help her plan a natural burial in L.A., but am flummoxed by California's regulations and am unsure whether it is a viable option. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 26, 2010 - 8 answers

Taking Care of Pop

What's the best way to take care of my father's cremation wishes? [more inside]
posted by miles1972 on Mar 25, 2010 - 11 answers

Help me help them now that she's passed on

My grandmother died this morning. I'm going home to help out the family, but I would like to make a list of things I might not remember before I leave so that we don't forget anything. [more inside]
posted by Unicorn on the cob on Aug 12, 2009 - 23 answers

Offer music at a wake?

I've recently learned that someone I used to know from when we were both much younger, has died. I knew him only in the context of church and we'd pal around on those Sundays, but we hadn't spoken in years. It's been suggested to me, by my parents, who still attend the church (I don't), that I might play some music at the wake, since I'm a violinist. But it seems to me this might be inappropriate for a few reasons. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 22, 2009 - 10 answers

Going to a funeral viewing--what do I do?

A friend's father just died, and I will be attending the viewing on Sunday. I don't know what to do about the body. [more inside]
posted by peanut_mcgillicuty on Jun 26, 2009 - 24 answers

Explaining death and funerals to toddlers

Should my 18-month old niece attend my grandmother's funeral? [more inside]
posted by Lleyam on Jun 4, 2009 - 28 answers

What do I need to know about coffin building before I start?

What do I need to know to become a coffin builder? Are there regulations I have to follow? How should I sell them? How much should they cost? [more inside]
posted by davey_darling on May 7, 2009 - 20 answers

In lieu of flowers...

In the past few months, both parents of my Japanese-American (by way of Hawaii) coworker have passed away. What gift/donation might be appropriate and have special significance to her? [more inside]
posted by acorn1515 on Mar 24, 2009 - 7 answers

What to bring to a funeral?

What, if anything, do you bring to a funeral? [more inside]
posted by Laen on Feb 18, 2009 - 13 answers

Forewarning on Funeral Leave

Should I notify my employer about a possible (but not certain) funeral leave? [more inside]
posted by ocherdraco on Feb 15, 2009 - 12 answers

Social discomfort, family obligation

Cousin Zach is a sweetheart, but I don't have the time or inclincation to attend everything he invites us to. How to say no tactfully? Guilt is involved. [more inside]
posted by frosty_hut on Jan 27, 2009 - 21 answers

How should I dispose of my body?

What are the least wasteful and/or most productive (preferably legal) things that can be done with my body after I'm dead? [more inside]
posted by Arasithil on Nov 12, 2008 - 15 answers

Surprise ending

I just found out within the last hour that my father has passed away. I am in California and he lived in Missouri. Now what? [more inside]
posted by jvilter on Oct 1, 2008 - 20 answers

How to say goodbye to someone already gone?

In the next month an important anniversary of a loved one's suicide will be coming up. I have never until this year dealt with the feelings involved with the death and the emotions involved in the loss. I have very little memories of the actual funeral involved (I was 13) but it has been suggested to me (by therapist) that maybe I may like to do some sort of memorial or ritual signifying it. I like this idea. I just have no idea how. [more inside]
posted by beautifulcheese on Apr 13, 2008 - 10 answers

Need help putting together a very small memorial ceremony

Suggestions for putting together a very small memorial ceremony. [more inside]
posted by IndigoRain on Mar 9, 2008 - 7 answers

How do I deal with death?

I've reached my late 20s without ever facing death. How do I deal with death when I know I will face it sooner or later? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 10, 2007 - 25 answers

How do you prepare or help prepare someone who is dying and then deal with the practical aspects of the aftermath

Questions about the practical aspects of preparing for someone for death and things the survivors need to do after the death. [more inside]
posted by Brandon Blatcher on Oct 8, 2007 - 14 answers

Speaking for the dead

My father is going to die in the next few days (cancer of the aesophagus) and my family have decided that I should be the one to take care of the arrangements*. I need advice on dealing with undertakers in the UK, and--a longshot but worth asking--any recommendations for trusted funeral homes and funeral directors in Suffolk (that's Suffolk UK, for the hard of thinking), ideally ones not associated with SCI. [more inside]
posted by Hogshead on Sep 24, 2007 - 18 answers

I don't want to walk you up to the casket!

How do I tactfully avoid having to accompany people to the casket at a family member's funeral? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 6, 2007 - 17 answers

A lovely person needs a really good tribute.

I'm designing a funeral handout for a young woman who has died suddenly. Help me come up with ideas for a poem or verse or quote or something to include. [more inside]
posted by thirteenkiller on Aug 3, 2007 - 24 answers

Presiding over a funeral

My friend is dying, and has asked me to preside over his funeral. I am meeting with him this weekend to talk about his wishes. What questions do I need to ask him while he is still alive? What information will make it easier for me to do this? I have been fortunate enough not to have experienced the death of many family or friends, so I don't really know much more about funerals than what I learned from Six Feet Under.
posted by arcticwoman on Jul 19, 2007 - 13 answers

Practical steps to take after a person dies

Can anyone tell me about the legal, practical steps of dealing with a person who dies, their dead body? I live in NYC but imagine the steps must be pretty similar all over the US and Europe too. [more inside]
posted by nickyskye on Mar 12, 2006 - 9 answers

Do the dead care what time it is?

Does anyone know why every funeral home I see has a sign with a clock and weather info on it? I was curious about this after noticing it during a cross country drive in Canada. Is there some history or tradition to this?
posted by bryce.clarke on Oct 31, 2005 - 17 answers

Cadaver disposal on the cheap.

I'm young, not religious, and I am convinced that when I'm dead, I'm dead. I don't care what happens to my remains when I eventually die, but I'm wondering: what's the cheapest, legal way to dispose of my body? I live in Chicago, and from my research, even to donate my body to science or to have it cremated would cost over a grand. Any other options? I just don't want to be a burden to my survivors.
posted by andshewas on Aug 11, 2005 - 26 answers

Funeral etiquette

BereavementFilter: Etiquettement dilemma about opening/agitating mourning versus sharing in a small life-afirming-recollection-of-the-deceased, er, something (the [+] might make more sense, sorry) [more inside]
posted by PurplePorpoise on Jan 9, 2005 - 11 answers

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