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How best to support my friend?

A friend of my close friend took his own life a couple of nights ago. My friend is pretty wrecked. What's the best way for me to support him? [more inside]
posted by holborne on Mar 9, 2016 - 19 answers

Step by step self-reliance

The past year I've been in a stressful situation and now I found that I may have been overly reliant on a friend for advice/help. Lately I realized this a imbalanced relationship and I'm looking for steps set boundaries and prevent this in the future. [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit on Mar 2, 2016 - 4 answers

Fallen off the face of the earth

My friend has stopped communicating with everyone around them. How much should I try to get in contact? Should I leave it be? [more inside]
posted by Gordafarin on Feb 29, 2016 - 15 answers

Supporting a friend putting his cat down.

I've been supporting a friend with major mental health issues through finding out his cat was sick. It's been a rough ride for both of us and now he's finally decided that it's time to put her down later today. He's asked me to help him so I thought it would be a good idea of I knew what's going to happen and what kind of things people found helpful to them at this sad time. [more inside]
posted by kanata on Feb 28, 2016 - 26 answers

How do I handle my friend's owing me money?

A very close friend owes me $1000 and has for several years. I don't feel great about it. I'm not sure how I should handle this situation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 23, 2016 - 48 answers

What do I do with this relationship?

I met this guy several years ago. We had a fantastic friendship, which was temporarily torpedoed by a failed attempt to make it romantic. We are now friends again, on a long distance basis, but I am worried that his attitude is shifting and he may want to give the couple option another try. Should I say or do something? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 22, 2016 - 18 answers

Tips for being a better listener

How to incentivize myself to talk about myself less? It turns out I love talking about myself (monologuing), but I want to love listening. Tell me your tips and tricks! [more inside]
posted by robot cat on Feb 9, 2016 - 9 answers

A friendship ending unexpectedly

A friend who has meant the world to me has ended our friendship because...well, I'm not sure. [more inside]
posted by Champagne Supernova on Feb 8, 2016 - 28 answers

Female friend zone

I have been close friends with this guy for about 1.5 years. We slept together and had some sort of semi-dating thing going for a couple of months when we first met. Then it fizzled out and I was more hurt by this than I anticipated. As of recently, he is now in a serious relationship. It bothers me. Time to cut the friendship? [more inside]
posted by sabina_r on Feb 7, 2016 - 16 answers

Faraway mom friend and newborn: how to help?

One of my best friends from childhood just gave birth to her second child, a ten-pound boy, in an ice storm. Yikes! We've been texting, and she's had a challenging time with it so far. What can I do to help? [more inside]
posted by witchen on Jan 31, 2016 - 16 answers

Friendship after a break up

If you are someone who is or has been good friends with an ex-partner, how does that happen and what does it look like? What do you think are the necessary conditions for this to happen? How do you navigate feelings and boundaries? What are timelines like (ie is there a cooling off period involved)? Do you get jealous of their new partners? Thanks in advance. [more inside]
posted by mossicle on Jan 23, 2016 - 17 answers

Remembering and having the confidence to reach out to people

It is a longstanding habit of mine to assume I am "bothering" people if I reach out to them by, say, wanting to spend time with them or talk to them (how terrible!) unless we are already interacting for a reason that was not my doing (an activity, work, them coming to me). I am also in the habit of just not reaching out even with the few people I am confident I am not bothering. [more inside]
posted by picardythird on Jan 17, 2016 - 11 answers

No sense of belonging

For as long as I can remember, I have not had a sense of belonging. I don't mean that I can't make friends or establish social networks; I don't have a problem with that, though I'm shy. But I never really feel like part of a group. Why do I feel this way, and how do I change this? [more inside]
posted by thetortoise on Jan 15, 2016 - 23 answers

Wait, you like me? Why?

I have developed a sort of uncertain romantic situation with a girl at my college. It's really the first time that I've been close to anyone in this way, or at all, and I am afraid that my self-hatred and self-absorption is getting in the way of a proper human relationship, as friends or otherwise. [more inside]
posted by myitkyina on Jan 9, 2016 - 13 answers

Okay, but am I *really* invited to your wedding?

A few months ago I got an invitation to the wedding of an old friend. ("old"=we were close friends a long time ago; I've seen him two or three times in the last decade and we're barely in touch online). It's far away from me, and we're not close anymore. Does he actually want me to come, or is this just a thing people do? The RSVP date is next week, so it's decision time. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 7, 2016 - 28 answers

I want to be a good partner, but I don't have one!

I'm single at 40 after being coupled for my entire adult life. One of the things I'm missing the most is not having anyone reach for me (literally or figuratively!) because they want or need me. How can I stop letting this bother me? [more inside]
posted by metasarah on Dec 28, 2015 - 9 answers

How to invite friend without her obnoxious boyfriend

I love my friend L. About 5 months ago she started dating this guy M. M is, on the surface, an OK guy but when we're having a party he tends to drink a lot and become a cretin. The worst was when he threatened me, the best man, with violence at a mutual friend's wedding rehearsal dinner. He was jealous because L, the maid of honor, was coming to me because she was nervous about giving her speech. [more inside]
posted by cman on Dec 21, 2015 - 37 answers

Deciding whether to resume contact with an estranged friend

My childhood best friend decided to marry her partner of 20 years five weeks after my former partner committed suicide. I attended the reception but it was very hard for me. I haven’t spoken to her since. Today I got a Christmas card from her mother, and it stirred up some feelings I haven't been able to reconcile yet. [more inside]
posted by cardinality on Dec 19, 2015 - 28 answers

What's the perfect book to give a friend on the autistic spectrum?

He's in his mid-20s. Lives with his parents. Just started his first part-time job. He likes video games, board games, sports, circuses. He's a bit of foodie. He prides himself on being up for any (small) challenge. His favorite things to read are Wikipedia, IMDB, Ripley's Believe It or Not. [more inside]
posted by bookley on Dec 17, 2015 - 21 answers

Navigating a relationship-turned-friendship

I was dating someone that I really liked and now he just wants to be friends. Help me navigate this. I am probably way overthinking it. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Amy93 on Dec 12, 2015 - 34 answers

Mooching Memes

How do I cut off a friend's access to my wifi w/o being an asshole? [more inside]
posted by tippy on Dec 9, 2015 - 83 answers

Have I ended an emotional affair or a friendship (was I becoming OW)?

I recently ended a friendship because I couldn’t decide whether it was truly platonic or an “emotional affair”. Have I made the wrong decision? [more inside]
posted by Ariel432 on Dec 7, 2015 - 38 answers

All it takes is two close friends and you'll never, ever leave.

I heard a speaker say that if members of a religious congregation have at least two friends in the group--close enough that they feel comfortable socializing within each other's homes--the odds of them leaving the congregation are really small. I can't locate this research and am not sure about which key terms to use. [more inside]
posted by mecran01 on Nov 24, 2015 - 1 answer

Greyhound/cat friendship - What else can I do? Is this salvageable?

Our newly adopted retired racing greyhound is somewhat fixated on our cat - despite being tested as cat-safe or cat-trainable. What else can we do to help this? Is it salvageable? [more inside]
posted by cranberrymonger on Nov 11, 2015 - 11 answers

How to handle longtime opposite sex friendships in a relationship?

what is everyone's take on handling opposite sex friendships when you’re in a relationship, especially as we get older? i'm 32. my best guy friend from college moved in with his girlfriend over a year ago. i have met her several times (which i initiated as i wanted to meet her) and i like her (although i have seen her freak at him and noticed she has some insecurity issues) but since they moved in together he always brings her when i ask if he wants to catch up [more inside]
posted by cultureclash on Nov 7, 2015 - 41 answers

Where is my moon tribe?

I am female and 30 years old and currently in a great awakening that has been forming my whole life but only really starting to happen over the last few years. I'm a recovering Christian with relatively new feminist realizations and I want to find others like me. [more inside]
posted by E3 on Nov 7, 2015 - 15 answers

What to buy for a person who hates novelty?

I have this friend I'd like to buy a gift for Christmas... Except I'm stumped on what they'd actually like. Difficulty level: eats only for sustenance, no scents or things that involve dealing with strangers, politely flees from novelty. Mends clothing and not due to lack of funds; refuses to throw out or change anything remotely functional. [more inside]
posted by sciatrix on Nov 4, 2015 - 33 answers

What is the etiquette for ending a long-term friendship?

I hate the idea of the slow fade & treasure this person but feel drained by its one-sidedness. What to do? [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs on Nov 3, 2015 - 33 answers

Why do guys put me on a pedestal, then friend-zone me?

Recently, I've been frustratingly "friend-zoned" by two guys who seemed to like me, how do I stop conflating platonic love with romantic love? [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs on Oct 20, 2015 - 27 answers

When to excuse myself from being MOH, and what exactly to say?

My question relates to my Previous Ask from January. The once-postponed, drama-filled wedding plans of one of my best friends since adolescence are now (allegedly) back on again! Looks like I may need to actively excuse myself from being the MOH this time, that is, IF this wedding actually happens... [more inside]
posted by hush on Oct 16, 2015 - 19 answers

Uncertainty of Death (Perspective of a Friend)

My good friend is in the hospital across the country. She is my age (mid-20s) and has a ton of potential. Because of school and money I only have one chance to fly out, so I won't be visiting her (she is also heavily sedated anyways). There is an at least 50% chance she will die of this (though that is an older number and it has likely gotten worse since then). I'm looking for quotes, poems, prayers, or stories not for her, but for her friends, to help deal with this uncertainty and stress. [more inside]
posted by obviousresistance on Oct 15, 2015 - 12 answers

Why do my friends want to remain group-text only?

I have a group text with some friends from work, and we used to hang out regularly. Now, they seem to only want to be my friend over text and won't ever hang out. [more inside]
posted by pimmscup on Oct 3, 2015 - 27 answers

Whether to tell annoying person she's annoying.

Is it even something I should consider? [more inside]
posted by wwartorff on Oct 2, 2015 - 20 answers

Getting closer with a work friend when you have a bit of a crush too...

Can it be done safely, or should I just leave it alone/keep it 100% about work? I have a friend/coworker who has been really good to me since I started at my job a couple years ago, recently helped me through a rough situation at work in a way that made a huge difference, and is a lot of fun to hang out with as well. I'm interested in being better friends and to be someone who has his back to the extent he has had mine, but there's some awkwardness to that, given minor power dynamics and the fact that I have a bit of crush on him (hopefully a secret one). Has anyone successfully navigated anything like this? Any suggestions? Some potentially relevant details below: [more inside]
posted by Squalor Victoria on Sep 26, 2015 - 14 answers

Experience or advice welcome.

I will soon be accompanying a close friend to Dignitas where she will end her life (she has a virulent, newly diagnosed, Stage IV lung cancer). Has anyone here been to Dignitas in a similar role, or knows of anyone who has, and can comment on the experience? Long-time Mefite posting anon as assisted suicide is illegal in our country. Many thanks.
posted by anonymous on Sep 11, 2015 - 6 answers

40 years old and have no friends. Where do I start?

How does a guy in their late 30s/early 40s make friends when they are horribly depressed and agoraphobic? See the more inside section for horrible details. [more inside]
posted by Draccy on Sep 6, 2015 - 26 answers

Describe This Relationship

I have a friend who's all over the place. I can't figure her out or how to respond. [more inside]
posted by CakeFragments on Sep 1, 2015 - 51 answers

Never the bridesmaid, never the brunch buddy?

How do you make friends with other women when you don't really have friends who are women? [more inside]
posted by blerghamot on Aug 29, 2015 - 21 answers

How do I help my friend who is losing hope?

A distant but very dear friend of mine is in need of help. She is currently in the hospital and doesn't have many local friends. I'm in Wisconsin and she's in Louisiana so there are physical limits to what I can do, but I want to do something! Also I don't want to burden her by asking her what I can do to help. Please give me suggestions, ideas, anything I can do to help her. [more inside]
posted by lriG rorriM on Aug 27, 2015 - 10 answers

Female Friend became distant and finally not texting

Hi, I have a long term female friend who stays in a long distance, we used to chat on and off for many years and especially the last few months we had spent hours of chatting almost every day. We were very much supportive each other ,had a lot of fun talks and used to discuss almost everything, shared a nice time and eventually became really close. But gradually she seemed to be a bit less active for almost a month but still managed to chat (some days energetic, some days not) and started doing less initiation of talks from her. Since I felt this is a bit strange as to what we used to, I asked onetime in a quiet way where she just said there is nothing bothering her as the way I thought. But eventually she became in a situation of not feeling to text or talk and told me the same when I asked about it. [more inside]
posted by Christos on Aug 17, 2015 - 10 answers

Is it OK to not want to "date", but still have an OKCupid profile up?

Is it OK to not want to "date", but still have an OKCupid profile up? How do I go about this? [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 on Aug 17, 2015 - 9 answers

how to find or create women-only gatherings, groups, clubs, and meetups?

I just got back from a week in a women-only environment and apparently I had no idea how desperately I've always needed to avail myself of a space like that. How do I find other women-only gatherings? Or how can I start one of my own? [more inside]
posted by divined by radio on Aug 13, 2015 - 32 answers

accidental flirty dynamic

I have a friend who I have a naturally intense and potentially flirty dynamic with, even though I'm not interested in them sexually. It's making me a bit uncomfortable and confused. How do I handle this? [more inside]
posted by hotcoroner on Aug 7, 2015 - 21 answers

Helping a friend in crisis

Friend in mental health crisis; need advice on remaining steady and being there for her while setting boundaries. (trigger warning: sexual abuse, domestic abuse) [more inside]
posted by sunset in snow country on Aug 5, 2015 - 19 answers

We are never ever getting back together, so now what?

What does or should a years-old, deeply held friendship look like after you date and then break up? What do I need to accept isn't or can't be the way it used to be? Please help me build a better framework for thinking about this and making judgement calls I can trust. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 5, 2015 - 18 answers

Several losses all at once

A friend of mine decided they do not want to be friends any more. Because of additional circumstances, it has also meant losing a supportive community I'd been part of for a few years. I'm surprised by the intensity of my grief and finding it difficult to cope. I am looking for resources / books / personal accounts / tips to help me get through this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2015 - 14 answers

How do I, as a guy, get emotionally fulfilling friendships with guys?

I didn't even realize this was something I wanted until I realized all the women in my life (mom, sister, and the new awesome girlfriend) all nearly simultaneously (but independently) kinda got sad about me not having any friends. After thinking about it, that got me bummed too. [more inside]
posted by johnpoe50 on Aug 1, 2015 - 11 answers

How to tell when people actually don't like me?

I feel like I'm having a hard time making the transition from friends that I see at parties to friends that I can call up for a random happy hour or the like. The anxiety-ridden part of my brain has me convinced that this is because these people don't actually like me. How can I discern the truth and take next steps? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 25, 2015 - 11 answers

Saving a Friendship... the "plus 3 year old kid" edition

My very treasured friendship of ten years has become very challenging. The issue is: when my husband and I hang out with my friend, her husband, and their kid, the hubbies hang out and talk shop together, and I hang out with my friend and her kid. I try to help, but I'm kinda ignored and really bored. And I actually LIKE kids. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 20, 2015 - 40 answers

Co-worker drama over complaining

Navigating the post-friendship relationship with someone in a small work environment. [more inside]
posted by lizbunny on Jul 20, 2015 - 28 answers

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