I need a major friend refresh/revamp. What are actionable steps I can take to find like-minded people, and in particular people that will both give/take in the fun department?
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posted by anonymous
on May 17, 2013 -
12 answers
I quite conclusively ended the friendship. Now I'm seeing her at social events all over town, and she doesn't seem willing to play my 'you don't exist and I can't see you' game. What do I do next?
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posted by anonymous
on May 17, 2013 -
32 answers
My friend has done a lot for me. That doesn't change the fact that she is a miserable person. How do I breakup with a friend when I feel beholden to her?
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posted by anonymous
on May 12, 2013 -
20 answers
My friend is getting increasingly rude and mean with me, and yet I always find myself apologizing to make things right. What should I do?
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posted by anonymous
on May 9, 2013 -
71 answers
I am married and recently realized I had developed romantic feelings for a friend/coworker (also married). I have stopped speaking to him for the sake of my marriage. He really wants to know why I am avoiding him. What's the best way to handle this without making him feel bad?
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posted by anonymous
on May 6, 2013 -
30 answers
I'm sort-of friends with an ex-boyfriend who I had bad relationship with. Broke up over a year ago, get coffee to catch up every few months. Now in a new relationship, and ex has asked to meet up again. Not sure if I should end this sort-of friendship, and if I do, how? Special snowflake details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 27, 2013 -
17 answers
A group of friends effectively dropped me for the last year and now they are making overtures as if nothing happened. How to react?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 16, 2013 -
26 answers
I am a man. I have a good male friend, call him friend A. He has a girlfriend. He is head over heels. They live together and seem very happy. I have another male friend, friend B. He is single, and prone to quite dramatic behavior. While friend A was away from NY on business, I threw a party where friend B met the girl. They got on very well, and he later admitted he'd developed a big crush on her (unreciprocated, to my knowledge).
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 10, 2013 -
48 answers
I'm involved in a hobby that is very specialized and even in my large city the community is very small and tight knit. Outside of work and family most of my friends are in this hobby. I had a falling out with a "leader" in the community, and I can't seem to get over it.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 15, 2013 -
17 answers
Friendship-filter: why did my friend declare that I'm not one of his best friends anymore?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 13, 2013 -
16 answers
If you suspect your friend likes you more than you like them, should you still be friends with them?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 3, 2013 -
12 answers
Glenda thinks because we met up a few times outside work, we can now be besties. Problem is, this time spent together made me realize Glenda is not someone I want to be friends with.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 28, 2013 -
28 answers
I'm a woman, my friend is a guy, both 30-something. We work together, and recently started having music jam sessions that have gone really well. He's been contacting me a lot, and we've opened up to each other about stuff. It's all been platonic.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 25, 2013 -
13 answers
I'm sure that my friend (who lives cross-country) is dealing with un-diagnosed untreated mental illness. I'm 99% sure it's bipolar disorder, based on lots of information and evidence. I don't want this thread to be about diagnosing, but rather about how to help (I think we can agree that the steps I should take to help would be largely the same regardless of what he's grappling with, right?).
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 10, 2013 -
7 answers
Our maid of honor slept with a friend and he treated her badly. He is now in a serious relationship with another old friend. Can we invite her and not him without hurting the friendship?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 7, 2013 -
56 answers
Wife and I just moved near Centennial, CO and are wanting to meet new people our age. The thing is, she is 29 and I am 38, no children...People I work with are families or older who want to do kid stuff with other couples. We both like movies, games, books, are easy to please and are easy to get along with...don't have a lot of money for high end stuff but would be nice to just get to know some folks. Any thoughts?
posted by anonymous
on Dec 7, 2012 -
9 answers
Men of Mefi please explain - how do I give advice to a man? My male friend gives me lots of good advice but never asks for any from me. How do I keep the ledger balanced?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 2, 2012 -
43 answers
This Question Makes Me Feel Silly: I like him, think he likes me. . .but I honestly can't tell whether or not he's gay. Need advice on how best to handle clearing this up.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 1, 2012 -
38 answers
"Emotional affairs" and being a good partner to someone with severe depression: I need a friend, but this new friendship is moving fast and I'm about 99% sure that my partner will be massively upset if she finds out. What do I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 1, 2012 -
23 answers
What to do about a close friend who seems to have become an alcoholic--and cemented his new status of "repeatedly gets so drunk he black-outs" in my mind by telling me details of his sexual fantasies involving myself and his wife (my former best friend)? Bonus features: super long background story!
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 24, 2012 -
34 answers
Divorce from abusive ex almost final, unexpectedly slept with a friend. We have loads in common but he's not (yet?) available. Cool it, or enjoy?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 17, 2012 -
31 answers
A formerly close friend (with some family ties) is building a career as a seminar leader by misrepresenting himself as a business success and giving paid seminars supported by a local government agency. Should I care?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 6, 2012 -
26 answers
How do I minimize awkwardness when I see a couple I stopped being friends with because, in part, I found myself falling very hard for one of them?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 30, 2012 -
21 answers
I'm posting this anonymously because "Angie" read it (unlikely, but not impossible), I think it would genuinely hurt her feelings. Also, I feel like an idiot to be posting this at all. This is kind of long and pathetic. Sorry. Summary: Internet friendship crashed & burned, I feel badly about it, what can I do to get over myself?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 25, 2012 -
14 answers
How do I deal with an oversensitive, constantly negative friend? I am the only "real friend" X has, so I don't feel comfortable totally breaking off the friendship, but interacting with X frequently leaves me wanting to scream.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 20, 2012 -
31 answers
I wasn't invited to my friends' baby shower. Was I snubbed, or is this just the way things are done in Babyshowerland? Flurries inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 14, 2012 -
54 answers
How do I move past being hurt from unrequited love, in order to have a friendship with this person?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 7, 2012 -
18 answers
I am a woman and I have been friends with a guy for about a year now, and I'm about to pull my hair out. How do I deal with someone that I don't know where their head is at? Is it me? Is it him? What the hell do I do with this?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 3, 2012 -
42 answers
I have been seeing my close friend's boyfriend on
Grindr a lot lately. Should I say something? There are complicating factors.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 12, 2012 -
19 answers
I lent money to my friend, didn't get it back. I learned my lesson and wrote it off. Now she's back in my life. What do I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 7, 2012 -
49 answers
I moved from one state to another and my friends, whom I'm staying with for a month and a half, are charging me "rent" and the amount is absurd. How do I process this?
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posted by anonymous
on May 31, 2012 -
56 answers
Not too long ago, I was hanging out with a very good friend's wife. I have been friend's with him for almost ten years now and have known and been friends with his wife for half that time.
She confided in me something very disturbing about their marriage - that they hadn't had sex in a few years (about the same amount of time as their marriage) and it feels more like a room-mate situation. I am going to keep the details to a minimum but I'm sure you can extrapolate.
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posted by anonymous
on May 28, 2012 -
30 answers
I discussed a friend's private, very personal, problem with my own friends, and now I feel terrible for doing so. Can I fix this?
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posted by anonymous
on May 15, 2012 -
24 answers
How do I deal with my (very insecure and overly sensitive) friend's tendency to take things said in passing as deep, personal criticisms? I used to be able to take it in stride but his recent prescription steroid treatments have ramped this trait up to stratospheric levels.
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posted by anonymous
on May 4, 2012 -
8 answers
Stress free strategies for distancing oneself from dating? Dating Filter: My enthusiasm has waned. I'd like to bow out gracefully and preserve friendships.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 24, 2012 -
12 answers
I'm seriously stuck about my feelings for my best friend. How do I distance myself emotionally when the feelings of attachment are so intense that I can no longer concentrate enough on myself?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 12, 2012 -
19 answers
How do I tell a friend I can't work as much for them anymore without really harming the friendship?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 11, 2012 -
18 answers
Do people prone to depression and similar illnesses tend to (unwittingly?) form social groups together?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 3, 2012 -
6 answers
