This seems petty, but I am sincerely and exorbitantly bummed out (with some jealousy and hurt feelings to boot) that MY best friend didn't choose me to be her maid of honor. I'm clearly the next-in-line bridesmaid, but I haven't as of yet achieved many positive feelings about the honor I've received, but would like to, and as quickly as possible.
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posted by lovingkindness
on May 13, 2013 -
54 answers
My best friend is dating a new guy and is currently in the "floating in the clouds" stage. He's all that she talks about, texts me about, emails me about, mentions, quotes, you name it. I'm happy for her, but I am quickly reaching "who cares" stage. She does this with everyone she dates, but this guy might become permanent, so I'm not brushing it off as "just wait until this passes". How can I politely tell her that we need to have conversations about OTHER THINGS? She can be very sensitive, and I don't want her to feel that I am not interested in the relationship or not happy for her. More details inside.
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posted by ElectricGoat
on Apr 28, 2013 -
26 answers
Last week a friend of mine insulted me behind my back, which then got back to me in a convoluted way. I am having trouble getting over this, and I want to know if I am overreacting.
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posted by thereemix
on Apr 23, 2013 -
92 answers
Suggestions for nice things to do for the couples who are nice to you (especially when you're single and kind of broke)?
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posted by xenization
on Apr 3, 2013 -
18 answers
Frienship-filter: L. and I have been friends for more than 15 years. The first couple of years, we spent a lot of time together. We were both in a relationship, so it was one of those couples relationship which also became very much about the two of us. After cca 2 years, I moved away to be with the other half of the couple, and stayed away for about 10 years. We have now been in the same place for 5 years (move-away relationship went bust), and I am having trouble with our friendship.
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posted by laceysocks
on Mar 26, 2013 -
17 answers
Our new coworker has been hanging out a lot with another coworker who is known as a liar, drama generator and just generally selfish and hurtful person. Because he is initially quite charming, she has no idea of his "other side." Do I tell her what everyone else knows or is that just talking trash and I should let her draw her own conclusions?
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posted by abirdinthehand
on Mar 22, 2013 -
28 answers
Hi, I have a friend who is incredibly heartbroken. His girlfriend and he broke up after a very long relationship, and I don't think it was a clean breakup, but he has not told me what happened exactly (I suspect she was cheating on him). Let us call him George to make this flow more easily.
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posted by kbennett289
on Mar 19, 2013 -
19 answers
I have realized recently that I have a few friends that behave in ways, in other areas of their life, that I think is unethical. How do you draw the line, when someone's behavior is not directly affecting you, on what is acceptable for your standards of friendship?
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posted by abirdinthehand
on Feb 23, 2013 -
33 answers
College freshman here. Friend from high school has, for lack of a better word, ruined my college social life. Looking for outside opinions on the situation in general. I'd truly appreciate any insight, advice, anecdotes, etc. Thank you!
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posted by metacognition
on Feb 10, 2013 -
20 answers
She was somewhere between best friend and lover to me...but this person is like someone I've never met before. I loved her more than anyone I've ever loved in my life and she's done this ugly 180 on me. I need to know how to get past it. My heart is seriously shot. What should I do? How am I suppose to feel? I just feel so disoriented....what do I do?
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posted by Cybria
on Feb 8, 2013 -
15 answers
I saw a movie an indie movie a few years ago and I can only recall certain details. I'd like to know what the title is.
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posted by davebush
on Feb 1, 2013 -
3 answers
I have a second date coming up this weekend. I think. The guy seems to like me in some way, but there is an odd vibe with the friend vs. date signals and I have no idea how to proceed. Any advice?
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posted by houndsoflove
on Dec 11, 2012 -
20 answers
I'm curious about the history of friendship - specifically examples - famous or otherwise - where very deep friendships are sustained only by remote means. Mail I think, but I suppose telegraph and telephone also meet this definition. Pre-electric examples slightly preferred, but I'm open to being corrected. Bonus points for examples of relationships where the individuals involved never physically met.
posted by artlung
on Dec 4, 2012 -
14 answers
Parents bought a $1.8k plane ticket for my friend and now she's agreeing to wire back $900 into my account. She had agreed to pay back the full price initially. How do I get the rest of the money back?
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posted by lyinlion
on Nov 7, 2012 -
34 answers
What is this kind of behavior? I have a friend who constantly turns down invitations to do anything because she says her life is so busy.
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posted by spooky car
on Nov 2, 2012 -
40 answers
My extremely-gifted best friend halfway across the world was depressed and then recently diagnosed with breast cancer. Now she's nearly suicidal. I'm in over my head and I don't know what to do...
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posted by luciphercolors
on Aug 31, 2012 -
11 answers
How long should I wait to tell my friend about my feelings? So here goes (sorry in advance for the very long post, please stick with me). First time around that I ask for advice on any website...
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posted by 560fence_cat
on Aug 29, 2012 -
31 answers
I'm not sure how to tell my friend that I would really like to keep hanging out with her--just not in a group setting. Help?
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posted by tooloudinhere
on Jul 9, 2012 -
21 answers
[TW: Sexual Assault] One sexually assaulted me; the others hurt and abused me emotionally when close friendships imploded. I have PTSD after the whole experience. How do I get other friends to understand that I don’t want to hear about these people? [Snowflake configuration of details follows]
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posted by Someone Else's Story
on Jul 3, 2012 -
38 answers
Ex-gf continued to stay friends with my closest friends. I haven't come to terms with it.
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posted by blizkreeg
on Jun 22, 2012 -
26 answers
My best friend always brings her boyfriend along when we get together without asking or prior warning. I hate being a third wheel and have told her so, yet it continues to happen. Is this the death knell for our friendship? (Special details of course.)
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posted by houndsoflove
on Jun 11, 2012 -
37 answers
One day, I would like to move, I need your help. Not actual moving help, decision making help!
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posted by jennstra
on May 7, 2012 -
18 answers
A newish friend recently showed profound misjudgment in their personal life. I truly love this friend. I am sad. Please help me think this through.
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posted by SockyMcSockyPants
on Apr 12, 2012 -
47 answers
Found myself head-over-heels in love with my friend. Our interactions have gotten exceedingly flirtatious. Is she in love, too? What's your opinion? Details after the jump.
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posted by thatgirl1985
on Apr 3, 2012 -
39 answers
How do I allow myself to trust a guy I'm "seeing" given a previous relationship where I deluded myself into giving too much trust?
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posted by soulsteelgray
on Feb 16, 2012 -
15 answers
Help me stick to my "right decision" even though it's making me feel sick. Dealing with a break-up when you are both still in love and there was no breach of trust.
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posted by pandorasbox
on Dec 9, 2011 -
20 answers
A friend getting married needed something borrowed, I lent her a valuable pin. You know the rest.
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posted by Tarumba
on Dec 1, 2011 -
37 answers
I thought I had forgiven my friend, but whenever it comes up I am disturbed by our differing accounts of the same events. Why does this bother me so much? How can I truly forgive her?
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posted by abirdinthehand
on Nov 18, 2011 -
32 answers
Why don't I like new people and how can I get over it and make friends? Long snowflake details inside.
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posted by gregoryg
on Nov 1, 2011 -
21 answers
I have a friend who may lose his eye because of cancer in his sinuses, which is being treated with radiation. I'd like to buy him an eye patch, and specifically wanted to buy one that was high quality. Can you suggest some vendors, some suggested designs (especially funny ones), and anything else you think I might could do that would let him know how much he's loved?
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posted by scunning
on Aug 1, 2011 -
12 answers
What is the kindest way to have "the talk" about needing a break from a friendship? Text, phone, IM, email, or face to face? The reason I need this break is because I am in love with him but he's not over his ex, and I've recently realized all this, and discovered it's too painful to keep hearing about her. We've been sleeping together, too, and I thought I would be able to keep it casual but I was wrong.
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posted by sucky_poppet
on Jul 26, 2011 -
22 answers
I’m hosting a party tonight for about 18 people and I have a friend coming who has a difficult personality (and most of my other friends dislike and prefer to avoid her when possible). How can I, as the hostess, make sure everyone still has a good time, including her?
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posted by castlebravo
on Jul 7, 2011 -
27 answers
What's an inexpensive yet appropriate baby gift for someone who lives in a different country and makes way more $ than you do?
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posted by wcmf
on Jun 19, 2011 -
14 answers
Is it normal to be a female and not have many (okay, any) close guy friends? Should I actively pursue friendships with guys?
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posted by sunnychef88
on May 6, 2011 -
33 answers
Fellow socially awkward Mefites: How do I chill out and not screw up this new long-distance friendship? Or did I already screw it up?
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posted by cabingirl
on Jan 24, 2011 -
15 answers
