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I don't have friends.

I'm interested in improving my social or networking skills for a better perspective on life. [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit on Jul 28, 2014 - 8 answers

Need help sorting out a very complicated friendship

Just over a year ago, I met this guy, let's call him A, via email. He got in touch with me requesting some of my tutoring services and asked if I were willing to teach him via Skype. This tutoring relationship collapsed after a few months due to a number of factors but he insisted we stay in touch on a more personal level. I quickly learned that he'd gone through a lot in life: abuse, estranged family, homelessness. I wanted to learn about his life and be there for him because it became apparent that he didn't have any fixtures of support in his life whatsoever. The nature of our friendship became more and more intense. All-night phone calls became the norm and it began to have a significant effect on my ability to function in my already hectic life. After several months of this, all of the following have happened: I told him that I felt our friendship was dysfunctional and that we should cease contact, he told me that he couldn't live without me and said he was in love with me. And then made a last-minute trip to visit me. I'm so confused and lost as to how to handle this situation and desperately need perspective. Big ol' wall of text inside. [more inside]
posted by csjc on Jun 4, 2014 - 42 answers

slow fade isn't working

I have a friend who I consider to be almost family. We used to be extremely close through middle and high school, and probably most of while I was in college. She had a really rough childhood that resulted in PTSD and lasting issues with relationships. Over the past few years our daily lives have become pretty different and I think as she's had less going on she's gotten harder to talk to. I've been trying the slow fade, but she's noticed and I have to figure out how much to explain. [more inside]
posted by sepviva on Jun 2, 2014 - 14 answers

How Can I Reduce My "Fear Of Missing Out" And Relax A Little?

How can I slow down and take time to myself and enjoy it when there is always a constant stream of social invites? How can I stop worrying about missing out on something, and specifically missing out on meeting new romantic chances? [more inside]
posted by christiehawk on Jun 1, 2014 - 9 answers

I accidentally "took" my friends job.

My good friend and I applied and were interviewed for the same job at a prestigious organization in our field. I got the job. She didn't. I start Monday. My friend is really mad at me. I haven't felt this awkward and upset about something good happening to me since high school senior year awards night. HELP. [more inside]
posted by SkylitDrawl on Mar 25, 2014 - 67 answers

Breaking up... with dozens of people at once

I think I may need to detach from my main friend group, but I have no idea how to start over. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 13, 2014 - 15 answers

How to take online dating slowly?

I'm a bisexual woman in my 20s, and I started online dating in January. I moved to a new country so I am totally content with meeting new people and learning more about the city through them. I also really enjoy just talking to new people in general without any expectations, but I wonder if can do something better so I can actually have something romantic? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 2, 2014 - 6 answers

Platonically lovely movies?

We're having friends over on Friday to partake in non-romantic love and closeness. There will be a pillow pit in the TV room. What are movies we can put on that fit the mood of the evening? [more inside]
posted by itesser on Feb 9, 2014 - 40 answers

Different Life Tracks

How to deal with friends moving in different directions in life/feeling left behind? [more inside]
posted by sprezzy on Jan 26, 2014 - 12 answers

I would prefer not to spend time with my friend when she is very stoned

Is there any good way to tell a dear friend I don’t really want to chat on the phone or spend long periods of time with her when she’s very, very stoned? [more inside]
posted by JayAlfred on Nov 28, 2013 - 14 answers

Everyone IS hanging out without me!

Like it says in the title: everyone is hanging out without me. How do I get back into my group, or should I not even try? [more inside]
posted by like_a_friend on Nov 21, 2013 - 31 answers

Is there an App for that?

I meet new people all the time, and have lots of old friends from different phases of my life. I realize I can't keep up with everyone I've ever met, but I'd like a better system for helping to manage new friendships. Is there an app like that? [more inside]
posted by amoeba on Jun 17, 2013 - 8 answers

How to handle comments from hostile ex-friends

How do I become more assertive and handle their remarks? [more inside]
posted by lawgirl on May 31, 2013 - 33 answers

Help me tell my BFF to shut up, in the nicest of ways.

My best friend is dating a new guy and is currently in the "floating in the clouds" stage. He's all that she talks about, texts me about, emails me about, mentions, quotes, you name it. I'm happy for her, but I am quickly reaching "who cares" stage. She does this with everyone she dates, but this guy might become permanent, so I'm not brushing it off as "just wait until this passes". How can I politely tell her that we need to have conversations about OTHER THINGS? She can be very sensitive, and I don't want her to feel that I am not interested in the relationship or not happy for her. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by ElectricGoat on Apr 28, 2013 - 26 answers

Now you want me back?

A group of friends effectively dropped me for the last year and now they are making overtures as if nothing happened. How to react? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 16, 2013 - 26 answers

How to become friends with my ex while I'm still working out my feelings

How do I stay in loose, friendly, honest contact with my ex (from a short relationship) to build a friendship while I still have some residual feelings for him? I know we are only friends now, and I want to respect my boundaries and also his. There's no chance we'll see each other in person for a long time, so this is all about communication and not about sex. [more inside]
posted by zettoo on Mar 14, 2013 - 18 answers

Ending a friendship over friend's unethical behavior?

I have realized recently that I have a few friends that behave in ways, in other areas of their life, that I think is unethical. How do you draw the line, when someone's behavior is not directly affecting you, on what is acceptable for your standards of friendship? [more inside]
posted by abirdinthehand on Feb 23, 2013 - 33 answers

Is this friendship worth saving?

I have a problem. I have a friend. They're mutually inclusive. Let's call him Greg. [more inside]
posted by piratesriding on Feb 21, 2013 - 32 answers

Should we invite this jerk to our wedding?

Our maid of honor slept with a friend and he treated her badly. He is now in a serious relationship with another old friend. Can we invite her and not him without hurting the friendship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 7, 2013 - 56 answers

...Why am I so antisocial?

Is it wrong for me to not want any friends, or will it destroy me in the long run? [more inside]
posted by orchidgenes on Dec 27, 2012 - 21 answers

Blogging for IRL friends?

Have you deliberately used your personal blog(s) to make IRL friends completely outside your social circle? [more inside]
posted by zeek321 on Dec 18, 2012 - 9 answers

How Do We Meet New People?

Wife and I just moved near Centennial, CO and are wanting to meet new people our age. The thing is, she is 29 and I am 38, no children...People I work with are families or older who want to do kid stuff with other couples. We both like movies, games, books, are easy to please and are easy to get along with...don't have a lot of money for high end stuff but would be nice to just get to know some folks. Any thoughts?
posted by anonymous on Dec 7, 2012 - 9 answers

Help me learn how to maintain friendships?

I am a good friend, I meet loads of interesting people, but I am terrible at maintaining friendships. Help me not end up alone, on my couch, eating out of a tuna can every night wondering what happened to all my friends. [more inside]
posted by amoeba on Nov 5, 2012 - 17 answers

What to do about a friend who doesn't make time for me and other friends

What is this kind of behavior? I have a friend who constantly turns down invitations to do anything because she says her life is so busy. [more inside]
posted by spooky car on Nov 2, 2012 - 40 answers

Should I cool it with my long distance friend until he leaves his girlfriend?

Divorce from abusive ex almost final, unexpectedly slept with a friend. We have loads in common but he's not (yet?) available. Cool it, or enjoy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 17, 2012 - 31 answers

Friendship question...

I lost a close friend a week ago. Help me understand why and if it's salvageable. [more inside]
posted by Bacillus on Jul 30, 2012 - 17 answers

Can we stay this way?

How to thwart jealousy and possessiveness in a non-relationship relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 14, 2012 - 23 answers

Facebook's Skewing My Sense of Real Friendship

I'm a supportive, loyal, and giving friend. My friends do not treat me the same way. [more inside]
posted by iLoveTheRain on Jun 9, 2012 - 45 answers

Friendships, relationships, and my screwed-up brain.

Friendships, relationships, and my screwed-up brain. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 6, 2012 - 15 answers

Undermined or Oversensitive?

I'm thinking my best friend isn't the best of friends. How do I deal with that? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 9, 2012 - 26 answers

Help a loner rejoin the herd!

How do I integrate myself into a social circle when I don't have a social circle? [more inside]
posted by a box and a stick and a string and a bear on Apr 26, 2012 - 36 answers

Should I give up on friendship?

I am angry at everyone who tries to be friendly with me because of a repeated thing that has happened to me socially and with my family as well. I really don't want to become bitter and friendless but I either feel like I'm putting on an act or I get angry. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 22, 2012 - 19 answers

Welcome to middle age drama!

Dumped by friend – What now? [more inside]
posted by TheGoodBlood on Nov 24, 2011 - 28 answers

How can I convince myself that I can actually make friends?

How can I stop feeling broken and try to make friends without baggage? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 14, 2011 - 14 answers

How do I stop judging them?

When my friends allow men to treat them poorly, I begin to lose respect for them. On an intellectual level, I know that it’s heartless and unkind of me to look down on my friends who are struggling, it’s victim-blaming, and I HATE that I feel this way. How can I stop it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 6, 2011 - 39 answers

I want more friends, not more projects!

How do I make friends with the sort of people who DON'T go to meetups? [more inside]
posted by deludingmyself on Jul 21, 2011 - 39 answers

I am a horrible person: New Baby Edition

I flaked out on a friend's new-baby acknowledgment... for two months! Exactly how much of a transgression is this, and what (if anything) can I do to mitigate the damage? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 16, 2011 - 22 answers

Ending the bromance

This is the sort of AskMe question I thought I'd never ask. I am having big problems with my best friend of 25 years (we are both men), and I think I need to walk away. Help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 21, 2011 - 30 answers

Is it normal to be a female and not have many (okay, any) close guy friends?

Is it normal to be a female and not have many (okay, any) close guy friends? Should I actively pursue friendships with guys? [more inside]
posted by sunnychef88 on May 6, 2011 - 33 answers

How do I stop being so jealous/protective/possessive of my female friend?

How do I stop being so jealous/protective/possessive of my female friend? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 11, 2011 - 11 answers

Is it ever too late to reconnect with an old best friend?

Is it ever too late to reconnect with an old best friend? More details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 3, 2011 - 13 answers

I just want some friends.

Fellow socially awkward Mefites: How do I chill out and not screw up this new long-distance friendship? Or did I already screw it up? [more inside]
posted by cabingirl on Jan 24, 2011 - 15 answers

How to deal with flakey friends?

How do you deal with flakey friends who do not commit to their own plans? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 16, 2010 - 58 answers

21-year friendship on the rocks

A friend of 20+ years and I are having relationships issues and I'm unsure of how to proceed. I need advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 15, 2010 - 13 answers

I'm not sure if I'm invited to a private birthday party. How do I tell?

A friend invited me to a private birthday hangout about a month and a half ago, but hasn't brought it up since. I think she may have forgotten, and I'm fine either way - how do I check and see if I'm still invited without making her feel like she has to have me over? [more inside]
posted by agentmunroe on Oct 29, 2010 - 17 answers

I wanna be a social animal

I'm leaving college, and I want to know where I can find a sense of community in the 'real world.' [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz on Oct 20, 2010 - 28 answers

Is it paranoia, or does everyone secretly want to ditch me?

A few months ago, a group of people I'd been hanging out with regularly dumped me without saying anything--they just stopped including me in plans and stopped responding to me. I realized that something was up and didn't push. I've been making new friends since then, but I'm often worried that these new people (or any friends) might also secretly dislike me or be considering friend-dumping me too. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by clever anonymous username on Jul 25, 2010 - 27 answers

Making friends in Melbourne

I'm an American guy in my mid-late twenties living in Melbourne, Australia for (at least) the next eight months. My social life was quite exciting when I first moved here during late summer, but lately it feels a bit stagnant at times. I'm looking for ideas of activities to get involved with, to make use of my free time and help me connect with new people (friends of both sexes, plus THE LADIES). [more inside]
posted by adamk on Jul 25, 2010 - 8 answers

Friends shouldn't have an expiry date

I can't seem to keep any friends for more than two years. Why do I do this and how can I stop? (somewhat long, sorry) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 18, 2009 - 11 answers

How have you made your best friends?

How have you made your best and most lasting friendships? [more inside]
posted by cymru_j on Nov 12, 2009 - 42 answers

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