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Handling an irresponsible friend

Things have come to a head with a friend, and I want to figure out if I'm right in wanting to cut and run, or if there is something else I should instead be doing. While the friend has her virtues (she's kind, a social butterfly, fun to hang out with), I've come to the conclusion that she is also very irresponsible, and my experiences dealing with this irresponsibility have become a point of stress and frustration in my life. [more inside]
posted by Sakura3210 on Jul 13, 2014 - 21 answers

slow fade isn't working

I have a friend who I consider to be almost family. We used to be extremely close through middle and high school, and probably most of while I was in college. She had a really rough childhood that resulted in PTSD and lasting issues with relationships. Over the past few years our daily lives have become pretty different and I think as she's had less going on she's gotten harder to talk to. I've been trying the slow fade, but she's noticed and I have to figure out how much to explain. [more inside]
posted by sepviva on Jun 2, 2014 - 14 answers

Please give me words for explaining my boundaries.

Can I explain to someone how their negative behaviors are putting me off, but maintain an amicable relationship with them? I get too emotional to find fair words. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 1, 2013 - 30 answers

How to cheer up a friend long-distance

My best friend just got laid off from her new job and gave birth to premature twins. The twins can't come home for a month and she is understandably really depressed about that. She lives about 3,000 miles away from me so I'm trying to think of some ways to brighten her day and let her know I'm thinking of her. Some of her likes: movies, acting, makeup/beauty stuff, Dave Matthews.
posted by trillian on Oct 10, 2013 - 17 answers

Am I overreacting or is my friend a narcissist?

Am I overreacting or is my friend a narcissist? [more inside]
posted by stedman15 on Aug 17, 2013 - 21 answers

Friends WITHOUT benefits?

I've declined romantic overtures from X in the past. Subsequently, X made repeated friendly overtures toward me. My reciprocation of friendly overtures made X angry. I'm not sure if I need a reality check, or if X does. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2013 - 34 answers

Where them like-minded people at?

I need a major friend refresh/revamp. What are actionable steps I can take to find like-minded people, and in particular people that will both give/take in the fun department? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 17, 2013 - 13 answers

"Validate meeee"

How to be a better friend to a very insecure person. [more inside]
posted by sockandawe on Mar 26, 2013 - 18 answers

A friend is need is a friend in need.

Should I try to repair this friendship or let it fizzle and move on? I met my friend T about 9 years ago in college and we were close friends for about the last 6 years. Ahe was always more outgoing compared to me (I am a bit of a loner). Long details inside, thanks for taking the time to read... [more inside]
posted by WeekendJen on Mar 22, 2013 - 19 answers

How can I make sure past unrequited feelings never return and just try to remain friends?

I really need help in dealing with a situation of unrequited love with a best friend, to becoming complete strangers, and then back to best friends again. [more inside]
posted by stonecutters88 on Oct 15, 2012 - 12 answers

Two Years Too Late Apology

How to go about sending an apology after two years of no contact with a former friend? Snowflake! [more inside]
posted by gregoryg on Aug 15, 2012 - 19 answers

I discussed a friend's private, very personal, problem with my own friends, and now I feel terrible for doing so. Can I fix this?

I discussed a friend's private, very personal, problem with my own friends, and now I feel terrible for doing so. Can I fix this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 15, 2012 - 24 answers

"Is it the sea you hear in me, its dissatisfactions? Or the voice of nothing, that was your madness?"

How do I deal with my (very insecure and overly sensitive) friend's tendency to take things said in passing as deep, personal criticisms? I used to be able to take it in stride but his recent prescription steroid treatments have ramped this trait up to stratospheric levels. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 4, 2012 - 8 answers

Where to learn about the social science of friendship?

Where should I start if I'd like to learn about the social science of friendship? [more inside]
posted by abcde on Apr 17, 2012 - 5 answers

help me get close to others

I really shine in social situations that are light and superficial, but I feel uncomfortable with deeper connections. How can I fix this? [more inside]
posted by 200burritos on Apr 9, 2012 - 6 answers

How can I be a true friend to a guy whose romantic feelings I don't return?

My dear friend, to whom I am not attracted, continually brings up wanting to date me and isn't getting what I thought were my polite expressions of interest in being just platonic. I think I need to tell him in no uncertain terms, but am not sure how, due to the special snowflake details below. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 21, 2012 - 49 answers

Gossip girl

Asking for the wife: she wants to break up with a friend, she is not sure how she should do it. [more inside]
posted by Marduk on Jan 23, 2012 - 15 answers

There's this woman I never wanted to be friends with, and somehow we've been friends for almost 10 years. Is there any way to stop being friends with her without hurting her feelings?

There's this woman I never wanted to be friends with, and somehow we've been friends for almost 10 years. Is there any way to stop being friends with her without hurting her feelings? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 16, 2011 - 27 answers

How can I try to help a depressed, possibly borderline, friend who's trying to isolate herself?

My friend is deeply depressed and is trying to cut herself off from me and her other friends. How can I try to help her? Key questions: 1) Any suggestions on how to try to convince her that I genuinely want to stick around and be her friend and it's not just out of obligation, and/or other other ways to respond to her trying to push me away? 2) She's given up on hope of any treatment or improvement-- I think she might be borderline and that DBT could be a good fit for her regardless-- any suggestions of what I could send her about DBT and/or BPD (or anything else) that would have the best chance of getting through to her and giving her hope that things can get better? [more inside]
posted by EmilyClimbs on Apr 8, 2011 - 15 answers

Friendship SNAFU

How do I rectify this friendship and change? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 6, 2009 - 16 answers

How can I salvage a friendship when I can't be around her boyfriend?

How do I salvage a friendship in an awkward situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 5, 2009 - 15 answers

How to deal with a narcissist?

I mistakenly became friends with a narcissist, who I also work with. I've avoided a confrontation with her, but she keeps prying to find out if I'm mad at her or don't like her anymore, and I feel like eventually I am going to have to explain myself. But how do you tell a narcissist that you just don't care about them without having them explode? [more inside]
posted by tastybrains on Sep 14, 2009 - 42 answers

The universal mateship code

Anyone who has been to Australia or talked to any Australian males (sometimes females) will know they frequently call people they have never met before or even people they're angry with: "mate". What other expressions of universal male bonding are used in other countries?
posted by vizsla on Jun 18, 2009 - 35 answers

I'm taken but falling for someone else

I'm falling for a friend who is much more compatible with me than my SO of five years. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 17, 2009 - 38 answers

Trying to make unrequited love into mutual love

I fell in love with my best friend; love was unrequited; decided to cut contact with her to try and get over her (hasn't worked); now I want to have her back but only if she wants to date; how do I do this without being a jerk? LONG explanation ahead... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 2, 2008 - 37 answers

Help me break up with a friend in the least messy / most responsible way possible.

Help me break up with a friend in the least messy / most responsible way possible. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 3, 2008 - 22 answers

Unhappy Birthday

I had a shitty birthday today that seemed to confirm all my suspicions about my friendships, and my life in general, and now I'm not sure how to rebound. [more inside]
posted by Ash3000 on Aug 10, 2008 - 68 answers

How can I make it up to my pal?

I did what I was asking about in this question , and now I've lost one of my friends. [more inside]
posted by stedman15 on Feb 20, 2008 - 59 answers

How can I repair my past mistakes without losing my close friends in the process?

I've been lying about parts of my life to my close friends. I want to come clean, but I'm scared. [more inside]
posted by stedman15 on Feb 13, 2008 - 44 answers

True friends vs. acquaintances

What are the little things I should do to deepen relationships from the good acquaintance level to true friend level? Why did your best friends become your best friends? [more inside]
posted by Sharcho on Oct 22, 2005 - 12 answers

Being there for a long-distance friend

How can I be there for a long-distance friend who's going through a devastating breakup? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 12, 2005 - 14 answers

Long Distance Conflicts

My best friend, who lives about 300 miles away from me, and I had made plans to get together for Christmas, along with our other best friend, for whom I paid 600 bucks to fly out here so we all could be together. Now 300-mile away best friend has e-mailed me with a weak excuse and cancelled his visit here. I know he's not adjusting well to his new home, and seems to be isolating himself from everyone, including me. I'm hurt and angry. How best to address this situation?
posted by anonymous on Dec 19, 2004 - 7 answers

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