How should I handle my hunch that my boyfriend was abused as a child -- when I am unsure about the future of our relationship in general? [more inside]
One of my oldest friends is also the most difficult. He consistently wants more of my time and energy than I can give, even when I explain that I'm stretched too thin. I'm fond of him, but I need time apart. Challenge: his support system consists of me and no-one else. [more inside]
I think I may need to detach from my main friend group, but I have no idea how to start over. [more inside]
I've dated a man on and off for two years. I shouldn't have gotten involved with him again after the first breakup, but I did, and we eventually became friends with benefits. This was ok for a while because I was dealing with some serious family issues and didn't have much energy or time for a relationship, and we enjoy each others company. He recently decided he wanted a girlfriend and through online dating has found someone. I'm struggling with whether to walk away, or to try to maintain a friendship. [more inside]
Someone who I bonded with decided we had no spark, but wants to be friends. I am having trouble dealing with being rejected and my lowered self-esteem from the rejection but I feel like he is such a special person that I want to keep him as a friend. We had an intense online relationship for three months and dated for less than 2 weeks. Reading all these posts on MetaFilter has really helped me deal better with my breakup, but I still feel a inner turmoil about how I should handle my own situation. I don't feel that I trust my judgment so...here I am. Help on the matter is appreciated or just some advice or words would help me get through this. [more inside]
I have a 'friend' with whom I am not interested in maintaining a friendship any longer. She seems to feel otherwise and is being a bit persistent. I keep ignoring her emails and phone calls, but still, every few months or so, there she is. I really don't want to have to tell
her that I don't want to be her friend anymore. What can I do? [more inside]
This was me
. Short version: was in a 6 year relationship with about a year of long distance, partner dumped me for someone else out of the blue. A month later he broke up with her and has since been really working hard for us to get back together. I can't imagine trusting him enough to get back into a relationship, but I love him and he's my best friend so we're doing this weird friends-who-miss-one-another and love-one-another thing that I know will eventually end badly. What should I do? [more inside]
I quite conclusively ended the friendship. Now I'm seeing her at social events all over town, and she doesn't seem willing to play my 'you don't exist and I can't see you' game. What do I do next? [more inside]
My friend has done a lot for me. That doesn't change the fact that she is a miserable person. How do I breakup with a friend when I feel beholden to her? [more inside]
Should I try to repair this friendship or let it fizzle and move on? I met my friend T about 9 years ago in college and we were close friends for about the last 6 years. Ahe was always more outgoing compared to me (I am a bit of a loner). Long details inside, thanks for taking the time to read... [more inside]
Is it wrong for me to not want any friends, or will it destroy me in the long run? [more inside]
Why do I feel like I'm in a relationship with my friend? Not in the way that's fun, but more the trainwreck variety: "How come I didn't know about...?
" "Why aren't you letting me in?
" "No one knows you like I do.
" "How dare you betray me. You're just like all the others.
" Some of my other friends have also noticed possessiveness on her part, and more than one person has asked me or wondered if we were dating. [more inside]
How does one go about mediating between estranged lovers? [more inside]
A couple who I am friends with are going through a bad breakup. Can I remain supportive, neutral, and also safe? How? [more inside]
[TW: Sexual Assault] One sexually assaulted me; the others hurt and abused me emotionally when close friendships imploded. I have PTSD after the whole experience. How do I get other friends to understand that I don’t want to hear about these people? [Snowflake configuration of details follows] [more inside]
Asking for the wife: she wants to break up with a friend, she is not sure how she should do it. [more inside]
Help me stick to my "right decision" even though it's making me feel sick. Dealing with a break-up when you are both still in love and there was no breach of trust. [more inside]
Dumped by friend – What now? [more inside]
Should I try to reconnect with someone I went No Contact with? It's been a couple of months and the person is depressed and isolated. [more inside]
It would seem I’ve been friend dumped with no explanation. Can I save this friendship? Should I? If I can, what’s the best way to go about it?
I think it's time to get rid of my best friend for the past 15 years. I don't want to, nor do I know how to, but I think I have to. Messy details within. [more inside]
I recently confessed my romantic feelings to a very close friend and, alas, he doesn't return them. I want to get things back to "normal" between us as quickly is possible. How do I go about doing this, and am I fooling myself into thinking that it is possible to return to "normal" right away? [more inside]
How do I separate my ex's rejection/betrayal from my post-coming out anxieties?
Is it normal to WANT to be single for a long time or am I [subconsciously] still hurt over a breakup? [more inside]
How do I deal with friendship-breakup awkwardness involving mutual friends? [more inside]
So, it turns out for me that Harry was right—men and women can’t be friends, or at least this woman can’t just be friends with this man. I need to get myself out of a great friendship that is turning into a terrible pseudo-relationship. What’s the best way to handle this? Snowflake details to follow, of course. [more inside]
I've decided to fade away from a specific friendship or at least take a break from it. The problem is, this person is my bridesmaid, my wedding is less than a month away and I have been allowing her actions to overshadow what should be a fun and joyous time for me and my fiance. [more inside]
How to manage the transition from fiance to ex to friends? [more inside]
Can you recommend a self-help book for dealing with friendship breakup/betrayal issues? I have found some books for dealing with marital infidelity, which I am not concerned with.
When is it time to say goodbye to your friends? [more inside]
Non-mutual, unexpected break-up. Two months later, still working on getting over it. Bigger issue: Our mutual friend and their now-thriving friendship. [more inside]
Yet another friendship breakup question. A very, very dear friend has disappeared from my life during the past three years. We had this amazing chemistry, which we both acknowledged... until she cut me off her life with no explanation. I have three actual questions on friendship breakups. [more inside]
This is yet another "we're broken up but still living together and want to remain friends," question, but with some complications... specifically, we had planned a Caribbean vacation for next winter, and she still wants us to go together... I'm not so sure that's a great idea. Long, drawn-out story follows. [more inside]
To piggyback on this previous question
, should you let the other person know that you are severing ties? [more inside]
Is it wrong to leave a mostly-ok 10-year relationship because you've found someone new that you're passionate about?
After a breakup that is not mutual, what is the purpose of staying friends with the person who dumped you? [more inside]
Help me break up with a friend in the least messy / most responsible way possible. [more inside]
How do I "break up" with a platonic friend? [more inside]
How do I break up with an old friend? [more inside]
How do I get over a friendship breakup? [more inside]
How can I be there for a long-distance friend who's going through a devastating breakup? [more inside]
How do I learn what to say to a friend in need? [more inside]