This was me. Short version: was in a 6 year relationship with about a year of long distance, partner dumped me for someone else out of the blue. A month later he broke up with her and has since been really working hard for us to get back together. I can't imagine trusting him enough to get back into a relationship, but I love him and he's my best friend so we're doing this weird friends-who-miss-one-another and love-one-another thing that I know will eventually end badly. What should I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 11, 2013 -
25 answers
I quite conclusively ended the friendship. Now I'm seeing her at social events all over town, and she doesn't seem willing to play my 'you don't exist and I can't see you' game. What do I do next?
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posted by anonymous
on May 17, 2013 -
32 answers
My friend has done a lot for me. That doesn't change the fact that she is a miserable person. How do I breakup with a friend when I feel beholden to her?
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posted by anonymous
on May 12, 2013 -
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Should I try to repair this friendship or let it fizzle and move on? I met my friend T about 9 years ago in college and we were close friends for about the last 6 years. Ahe was always more outgoing compared to me (I am a bit of a loner). Long details inside, thanks for taking the time to read...
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posted by WeekendJen
on Mar 22, 2013 -
19 answers
Why do I feel like I'm in a relationship with my friend? Not in the way that's fun, but more the trainwreck variety: "
How come I didn't know about...?" "
Why aren't you letting me in?" "
No one knows you like I do." "
How dare you betray me. You're just like all the others." Some of my other friends have also noticed possessiveness on her part, and more than one person has asked me or wondered if we were dating.
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posted by smock smock smock
on Nov 29, 2012 -
31 answers
A couple who I am friends with are going through a bad breakup. Can I remain supportive, neutral, and also safe? How?
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posted by thrasher
on Aug 29, 2012 -
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[TW: Sexual Assault] One sexually assaulted me; the others hurt and abused me emotionally when close friendships imploded. I have PTSD after the whole experience. How do I get other friends to understand that I don’t want to hear about these people? [Snowflake configuration of details follows]
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posted by Someone Else's Story
on Jul 3, 2012 -
38 answers
Asking for the wife: she wants to break up with a friend, she is not sure how she should do it.
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posted by Marduk
on Jan 23, 2012 -
15 answers
Help me stick to my "right decision" even though it's making me feel sick. Dealing with a break-up when you are both still in love and there was no breach of trust.
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posted by pandorasbox
on Dec 9, 2011 -
20 answers
Should I try to reconnect with someone I went No Contact with? It's been a couple of months and the person is depressed and isolated.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 12, 2011 -
20 answers
It would seem I’ve been friend dumped with no explanation. Can I save this friendship? Should I? If I can, what’s the best way to go about it?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 10, 2011 -
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I think it's time to get rid of my best friend for the past 15 years. I don't want to, nor do I know how to, but I think I have to. Messy details within.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 21, 2011 -
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I recently confessed my romantic feelings to a very close friend and, alas, he doesn't return them. I want to get things back to "normal" between us as quickly is possible. How do I go about doing this, and am I fooling myself into thinking that it is possible to return to "normal" right away?
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posted by HonoriaGlossop
on Jan 3, 2011 -
25 answers
Is it normal to WANT to be single for a long time or am I [subconsciously] still hurt over a breakup?
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posted by penguingrl
on Dec 6, 2010 -
30 answers
So, it turns out for me that Harry was right—men and women can’t be friends, or at least this woman can’t just be friends with this man. I need to get myself out of a great friendship that is turning into a terrible pseudo-relationship. What’s the best way to handle this? Snowflake details to follow, of course.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 6, 2010 -
44 answers
I've decided to fade away from a specific friendship or at least take a break from it. The problem is, this person is my bridesmaid, my wedding is less than a month away and I have been allowing her actions to overshadow what should be a fun and joyous time for me and my fiance.
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posted by spec80
on Sep 17, 2010 -
68 answers
Can you recommend a self-help book for dealing with friendship breakup/betrayal issues? I have found some books for dealing with marital infidelity, which I am not concerned with.
posted by Mr. Justice
on Aug 21, 2010 -
4 answers
Non-mutual, unexpected break-up. Two months later, still working on getting over it. Bigger issue: Our mutual friend and their now-thriving friendship.
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posted by inmediasres
on Dec 23, 2009 -
14 answers
Yet another friendship breakup question. A very, very dear friend has disappeared from my life during the past three years. We had this amazing chemistry, which we both acknowledged... until she cut me off her life with no explanation. I have three actual questions on friendship breakups.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 24, 2009 -
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This is yet another "we're broken up but still living together and want to remain friends," question, but with some complications... specifically, we had planned a Caribbean vacation for next winter, and she still wants us to go together... I'm not so sure that's a great idea. Long, drawn-out story follows.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 7, 2009 -
13 answers
Is it wrong to leave a mostly-ok 10-year relationship because you've found someone new that you're passionate about?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 28, 2009 -
65 answers
After a breakup that is not mutual, what is the purpose of staying friends with the person who dumped you?
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posted by RajahKing
on Mar 6, 2009 -
32 answers
How can I be there for a long-distance friend who's going through a devastating breakup?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 12, 2005 -
14 answers
