Frienship-filter: L. and I have been friends for more than 15 years. The first couple of years, we spent a lot of time together. We were both in a relationship, so it was one of those couples relationship which also became very much about the two of us. After cca 2 years, I moved away to be with the other half of the couple, and stayed away for about 10 years. We have now been in the same place for 5 years (move-away relationship went bust), and I am having trouble with our friendship. [more inside]
posted by laceysocks on Mar 26, 2013 - 17 answers

I'm trying to figure out the best way to understand and handle the relationship between myself and a good friend who is also my ex. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by jlibera on Feb 4, 2013 - 20 answers

My friend and his wife are visiting later this year. I enjoy my friend's company very much, but being around his wife for more than a day or two drives me nuts. Help me find some way to mitigate this without damaging our friendship in the process. [more inside]
posted by Broseph on Jan 14, 2013 - 19 answers

[TW: Sexual Assault] One sexually assaulted me; the others hurt and abused me emotionally when close friendships imploded. I have PTSD after the whole experience. How do I get other friends to understand that I don’t want to hear about these people? [Snowflake configuration of details follows] [more inside]
posted by Someone Else's Story on Jul 3, 2012 - 38 answers

How do you gently let someone know that they're being too friendly and affectionate with you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 24, 2012 - 28 answers

How to establish boundaries with way out of line friends? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 3, 2011 - 39 answers

Are you a bad person if your guy friend leaves his girlfriend for you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 30, 2011 - 56 answers

Ex-boyfriend and I are trying to be friends and don't have good boundaries between us, at least from his end. He's been reluctant to set them in the past. How do I encourage him to set boundaries? (long, snowflake-y) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 30, 2011 - 26 answers

I feel like a lot of my friendships are a one way street. I'd like to add another lane. [more inside]
posted by geegollygosh on Jan 25, 2011 - 21 answers

A good friend intentionally hurt me. I cut off all contact in an attempt to move on, which so far seems to be working. The only problem? He's also my roommate and business partner. He'll be home from an extended absence soon and I need help drawing and maintaining boundaries for two people who should realistically have no contact with each other, but are instead stuck sharing a bathroom and a checking account. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 24, 2010 - 23 answers

How do I set up boundaries between myself and my friend after our friendship had a nuclear breakdown and we are bound to work together again? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 10, 2010 - 10 answers