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Distance myself from an annoying work friend

I've got a coworker who I've gotten to know over the last 6ish months. He's made a big attempt to be friends. We've hung out together socially a few times. I've realized that I just can't stand his personality. I don't enjoy spending time with him. He's not a bad person. I just don't enjoy hanging out with him. [more inside]
posted by LizBoBiz on May 23, 2015 - 22 answers

Proven ways to transform a fledgling bully back into a nice kid?

A six year old in martial arts class has just started to do and say mean things. Small stuff so far: unprovoked shoving, telling other kids they're doing it wrong, mild name calling like "big baby" and "dumb shoes." Coach is starting to crack down on the behavior, but now the mean stuff is getting said softly so it isn't caught. Will this pass as an age-related blip? Are there ways to inspire the kid to be friendly again? [more inside]
posted by xo on May 11, 2015 - 18 answers

Work friend, real friend

Now that a new-ish friend has moved to my department at work, I'm less interested in hanging out with her outside of work. Seeing her socially makes me feel like I'm still in work-mode, but I love her as a friend. Tips for handling this like a nice, reasonable, caring human? [more inside]
posted by little_dog_laughing on May 8, 2015 - 9 answers

De-friending?

A friend I hadn't seen in a decade came to visit me a few months ago, and during the visit I realized I no longer want to be friends with her. Since then I've avoided calls and messages, or responded that I don't feel like talking right now. She continues to contact me, and I'm wondering what the best way to deal with this is. Lots (and lots) of detail inside. [more inside]
posted by odayoday on May 5, 2015 - 19 answers

Is it an indian gift or a rip off?

What would you do? My friend Ted and I have a disagreement about a pool cue that has fractured our relationship. Ted says I broke an agreement to trade with him for a cue case. He said I screwed him because when he showed up on Monday with the case I told him another friend, Dan had bought the cue over the weekend. I'll return to this in a moment but there is an element to this dispute regarding Gene giving me the disputed cue back in 2012 three years ago. [more inside]
posted by Jim_Jam on Apr 29, 2015 - 30 answers

Should I try to help a new friend who I believe is mentally ill?

I recently met a really nice, intelligent, fun girl my age. She believes her coworker, whom I've never met, is trying to ruin her life. Because of this belief, she is fleeing her job and even her apartment. I have reason to suspect it's all in her head. Should I meddle or simply turn a blind eye? I feel bad because I really, really like this girl and want her to get professional help. [more inside]
posted by Guinevere on Apr 21, 2015 - 47 answers

Strategies to overcome insecurity/jealousy of husband's female friend?

In the past several months, my husband has become close with one of my female friends, and they have started spending a lot of time together and texting each other almost daily. I'm uncomfortable with this, but I know this is my own issue to overcome because I trust them both and am 100% confident nothing questionable is happening between them. [more inside]
posted by Librarypt on Apr 21, 2015 - 85 answers

Making up my mind about job search strategy

Trying to find courage to stay in my current city when comfort at home beckons [more inside]
posted by winterportage on Apr 20, 2015 - 4 answers

How can I decline this trip?

I just spent the weekend in Paris with a friend, which was... okay. It wasn't great. We have another trip planned in a month's time but haven't booked tickets yet. How can I weasel out of this without hurting my friend's feelings? [more inside]
posted by teststrip on Apr 20, 2015 - 18 answers

Had an anxiety attack in front of a girl I like who's just a friend

How do you come back from an emasculating, embarrassing event where you most likely weirded out a friend, particularly a friend you have feelings for? Should I just not look back and run, because that's how I'm feeling right now... it's fight or flight, and I'm not showing up to a smackdown. [long] [more inside]
posted by ggp88 on Apr 15, 2015 - 39 answers

Same-field-friends, sensitive to each other's success or lack thereof...

Today I had to take a "break" from a long-time friendship because my friend's announcements (directly to me) of her career successes has been making me feel pretty bad about myself. I feel like I did the best thing for now, but would like other people's opinion on my situation. [more inside]
posted by Sa Dec on Apr 15, 2015 - 29 answers

He may be cheating but maybe not?? What to do?

I have a dear friend that I've known for over 10 years. Went to visit her and her husband last weekend. While we were there, her husband told my husband that he's been spending time with a younger "party-girl" during his recent business trips. They hit the bars and stay up late drinking. My husband asked if he'd cheated and he answered "no comment". My husband was stunned and not sure how to handle the situation but is now quite upset about it and feels stuck in the middle. He also doesn't want to interfere in the situation any further. [more inside]
posted by Ms.Pants on Apr 11, 2015 - 65 answers

Am I overreacting?

Hi, Meta peeps. So I recently went on a short trip with my friends and I've come back feeling a bit...frustrated. I wanted to get some objective opinions to see whether my feelings are justified. [more inside]
posted by KTN on Apr 9, 2015 - 36 answers

Is it ok to date/meet new people now?

I am in the process of getting a divorce. I have separated from my wife, have filed for a divorce but have not been able to serve her summons because she has been avoiding that. So, in a sense, the divorce process has not really started. Now I need to figure out when I should start dating or meeting new people again. [more inside]
posted by questionsquestions on Apr 3, 2015 - 29 answers

Ideas for repairing a damaged friendship

How do I make up with a friend over a third party situation involving an animal? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 30, 2015 - 28 answers

Is my friend using his personal problems as a weapon against us?

A friend of mine is having some pretty severe personal issues, but refuses to get help and gets mad at anyone who says anything he even remotely doesn't like. Is it time to cut ties and/or call him out? [more inside]
posted by stedman15 on Mar 29, 2015 - 18 answers

I might've ruined one of my closest friendships. Should I make amends?

The backstory might shed light, but it's long and I'm sorry if it bores you. I might make a TL;DR sentence, but I suggest you read the whole thing. TL;DR. Befriended girl and crushed, had a lot of issues that turned me off, turned into a very close friend, badly timed telling her about dead feelings, and managed to still communicate until I had to back off for a bit. Don't know what I should do? [more inside]
posted by krs15 on Mar 29, 2015 - 31 answers

Close friend mysteriously cut off contact. Rude to cut her off online?

My closest friend of the past 7 years stopped talking to me out of the blue. Should I delete her online presence? [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs on Mar 25, 2015 - 33 answers

it wasn't me, I wasn't there / I was stone drunk, it isn't clear

I used to be very, very wild. Now I am very, very boring. How can I bridge the gap to get back in touch with the people who only knew me as I was back then? Difficulty level: I don't want to talk about the old days at all. [more inside]
posted by divined by radio on Mar 24, 2015 - 21 answers

Coax a Friend Back From Disaster

My friend is embarking on a potentially disastrous business idea. Should I try to dissuade him? How do I do that tactfully, without sabotaging our relationship? [more inside]
posted by seinwave on Mar 22, 2015 - 25 answers

Great connection, terrible sex

I asked a friend on a date recently. The date went really, really well, until we tried to have sex. Now I'm not sure if I should try again, or see if I can get out and save the friendship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 16, 2015 - 25 answers

How do I deal with a weird friendship?

Hi everyone. Since I started college (it's 2 and a 1/2 years now, I've had a weird relationship with a guy friend I had a long unrequited crush on. We're both 20. II'm a girl. I really really want to stay being friends with him but I feel like he doesn't care about me as much as he should, especially since he says he likes being my friend. Lots of weirdness inside. [more inside]
posted by starlybri on Mar 16, 2015 - 22 answers

How do I end a friendship with someone who has committed assault?

(pseudonyms used of course) A few months ago, my friend, Eve, told me that a mutual acquaintance of ours, Cain, had done something terrible to her several years ago. The circumstances of the incident are hazy because she had been dosed, isolated, and her memories are unclear. She has not gone public with it due to the circumstances, and has preferred that the incident stay in the past. Still, I believe her and this has, in my mind, ended my already shaky friendship with Cain. Cain, however, has made persistent efforts to revive our friendship, and so I feel compelled to make plans and bring this up with him. How do I do so in such way as to minimize possible blowback on Eve, and also ensure that Cain doesn't actually victimize anyone else? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 13, 2015 - 48 answers

How do I cope with and process this intense emotional connection?

Dated someone, felt intensely emotionally (but not physically?) attracted to them, but things fizzled out. Now re-connected as friends and those feelings are coming back, but something's still missing. Need some perspective from others who've been here before. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 7, 2015 - 7 answers

How to deal with friend's infidelities

My friend has been involved in a committed, sexually exclusive romantic relationship for over a year. However, he has already had multiple affairs outside of the relationship. His girlfriend does not know. I like and respect her and am sick of seeing this going on behind her back. Seeing my friend lie, cheat, etc. has also damaged my liking and respect for him. I want this stressful situation to end but do not know what I can ethically do. Please advise. [more inside]
posted by NeverGrowSoOldAgain on Mar 2, 2015 - 60 answers

In love with best friend for about a year but he's taken. Now what?

About a year ago I realised I loved a close friend of about a decade. Now what? [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs on Feb 28, 2015 - 29 answers

Are you trying to hurt my feelings?

Am I being overly sensitive or is my new friend mean? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 14, 2015 - 56 answers

What Tangible Gift Represents a "Phoenix Rising"?

After making several major life changes, a friend of mine has adopted the phoenix - a la, mythical bird arising from its ashes - as her mascot. What's a small physical totem I could give her to represent this symbol? [more inside]
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto on Feb 5, 2015 - 13 answers

Old friendship coming to an end?

Friend of 22 years out of touch/nonresposive and I feel kind of hurt. Does this seem like a friendship ending, or am I jumping to conclusions and being overly-anxious? [more inside]
posted by thesnowyslaps on Jan 30, 2015 - 24 answers

Forty (small) things to do between 39 and 40

A friend who's been going through a tough time is about to have her 39th birthday. Help me make a "forty things to do before you're forty list" for her that fits some special snowflake criteria. [more inside]
posted by girlgenius on Jan 19, 2015 - 33 answers

A friend says he needs a breather. Now what?

A friend of mine who I considered (and actually, continue to consider) close just told me he needs a breather from the friendship. Twofold question: 1) can this possibly be headed anywhere good? and 2) has anyone else here been in this situation, and if so, will you share stories about how it turned out? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 18, 2015 - 21 answers

How to deal with a friendship gone sour...

A buddy of mine I've been wanting a closer friendship with got very drunk and offered to help solve my high libido problem. I didn't do anything with him then, because, um, hello, informed consent, but I texted him the next day to signal that everything was cool and I was receptive. He, and I should have seen this coming, was blacked out, remembers nothing, and is not interested. I feel humiliated. What comes next? [more inside]
posted by dee lee on Jan 16, 2015 - 28 answers

you are gay and genderqueer cause you are broken?

So my best friend (who also is an ex) informed me that she believes I am genderqueer and gay because I am "broken" by childhood abuse and so is everyone who is not straight. That's an offensive statement, right? And if so, how do I even respond? [more inside]
posted by kanata on Jan 15, 2015 - 46 answers

How to stay calm/deal with guest potentially overstaying welcome.

A mutual friend has been staying with us for a week and shows no sign of leaving. [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs on Jan 13, 2015 - 24 answers

I have no right to be upset, right?

I'm going through a very tough time personally (and I'm not someone who usually has "tough times") and my dearest friends have done something that I am fairly sure I should not be upset with in any way, yet I kind of feel upset. Help? [more inside]
posted by Cosine on Jan 13, 2015 - 83 answers

Hermit with a DSL line

Over the past few years, I've found myself turning into a relative hermit - living alone, going out and about alone, spending time with my family but not really anyone else in 'real life,' preferring the wider range of people and opportunities on the internet for friendship and comradeship. Is this a problem, or am I just overthinking and worrying about nothing? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 7, 2015 - 18 answers

My husband says she's his best friend. Really?

Please tell me if you have had an intense friendship with someone of the sex you're attracted to and it genuinely was platonic. My husband is very close to another woman and swears they're just friends. I'm worried. He adores her, he spends every spare minute with her and when they're not together, I know he's thinking of her. He isn't like this with any other friend and never has been (we've been married 15 years). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 5, 2015 - 101 answers

What's an Extroverted Introvert to do?

Yes, I'm literally asking for basic social tips and tricks. [more inside]
posted by ourt on Jan 4, 2015 - 8 answers

Can this 'bond' turn into a relationship?

I fell for a girl...we keep a really nice and friendly connection going on between us, but nothing more happens. She knows how I feel but keeps rejecting me. She have her reasons to do so though. [more inside]
posted by Nightrunner on Jan 3, 2015 - 21 answers

Relating to a colleague who has come out as Transgender to me

A woman at work came out to me earlier this week as Transgender (she is, I am fairly certain, a woman who was assigned male at birth). I'm not sure I handled it well and based on the generally sensible, kind, and intelligent way that Trans* issues are discussed on Metafilter (especially when compared to other places on the web) I am hoping for some advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 3, 2015 - 23 answers

How do I get my friend to stop clinging?

An old long-distance friend continues to cling to the last shreds of our friendship, but I checked out of it years ago. The slow fade hasn't worked, and I don't want to hurt her by "breaking up" - she seems too fragile and needy. I don't know what to do, and I feel stuck and guilty. Weird special details within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 31, 2014 - 32 answers

What if I just don't fit in with people?

I have the sneaking suspicion that I was born in the wrong place (or planet), and I want to come to terms with the loneliness that sometimes creeps in. Please help? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by The Shonky Shop on Dec 28, 2014 - 14 answers

Close friends of the opposite sex - both happily married?

If you are/were in a happy monogamous relationship and developed a close, 100% platonic totally public friendship with someone of the opposite sex also in a happily monogamous relationship, how did you manage this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 27, 2014 - 28 answers

Is it weird/creepy to attempt friendship with a one off acquaintance?

Recently I had to take my car in for repairs. I visited the shop for an estimate, spoke on the phone to the receptionist and dealt with her when dropping off my car and picking up the courtesy car. Not only was she very helpful in providing me with some information I needed (a previous shop I went to weren't helpful at all) but she was fun to interact with. She and I seemed to hit it off and chatted each time for a few minutes, about the car and also about some other random topics. After interacting with her I just felt like I wished she was my friend. The converation was light and fun and I think we share a sense of humor. Just to provide some more information: I'm a female in my early 40s and I think she is maybe late 40s. [more inside]
posted by thegoldfish on Dec 18, 2014 - 25 answers

I mean.... I just don't want to talk to you anymore?

I've tried to slow fade a friendship, but the slow fade doesn't seem to be working. [more inside]
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper on Dec 15, 2014 - 28 answers

Never mix friends and business! Lesson learned.

On my recommendation, my husband hired an old friend of mine to design his website last year. She behaved quite unprofessionally, and I haven't talked to her since both because of that and because of physical distance (we'd had only sporadic contact since university). But I'd like to at least get in touch with her for the holidays, because I do miss her. Should I break the ice? If so, how? [more inside]
posted by Pieprz on Dec 15, 2014 - 13 answers

I really am a people person. Really. But go away.

YANMT, but maybe you can help me figure out why I push away the very people I'd like to get to know better, both in romantic and platonic capacities. I'm asking as sort of a follow-up to this question but I really wanted help exploring that specific facet of things a little more deeply. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Dec 12, 2014 - 10 answers

┬┐How to repair a friendship?

Almost 6 months ago I screwed up a newish friend by vanishing and leaving them in the lurch with a job for a client (anxiety and depression problems, etc). I know the work relationship is absolutely destroyed but, is there any chance of repairing the friendship? I have no idea how to even try to fix this or if it's possible. [more inside]
posted by Memo on Nov 21, 2014 - 9 answers

In search of a Blu-ray player with specific apps

Is there a Blu-ray player with HBO Go and WWE Network? [more inside]
posted by dorisfromregopark on Nov 16, 2014 - 3 answers

Have you ever "broken up" with a friend?

There's a guy I've been friends with - very close friends at one point - for over 20 years. I won't get into the details, but I've decided that because of his shoddy behavior towards myself and others I no longer want him in my life. How should I proceed? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 11, 2014 - 14 answers

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