Two of my boyfriend's friends are apparently disgusted by me, particularly my looks. I'm shocked, confused, and ashamed. What should I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 1, 2010 -
77 answers
was NBC's sitcom "Friends" shot on film @30fps? was/is that common practice?
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posted by yosh
on Jul 29, 2010 -
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I haven't thrown a party since I graduated last year, and I'm not sure that Cheetos and beer pong will do this time around. How do I make sure that the upcoming get-together I'm hosting is a success?
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posted by halogen
on Jul 26, 2010 -
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A few months ago, a group of people I'd been hanging out with regularly dumped me without saying anything--they just stopped including me in plans and stopped responding to me. I realized that something was up and didn't push. I've been making new friends since then, but I'm often worried that these new people (or any friends) might also secretly dislike me or be considering friend-dumping me too. What should I do?
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posted by clever anonymous username
on Jul 25, 2010 -
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I'm an American guy in my mid-late twenties living in Melbourne, Australia for (at least) the next eight months. My social life was quite exciting when I first moved here during late summer, but lately it feels a bit stagnant at times. I'm looking for ideas of activities to get involved with, to make use of my free time and help me connect with new people (friends of both sexes, plus THE LADIES).
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posted by adamk
on Jul 25, 2010 -
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Thought I hit it off with somebody I met through a mutual friend. There's been lots of fun chatting at parties, a bit of drunk flirting, but I fear I may have misread their intentions. After talking with both the mutual friend & this person, I'm starting to suspect that this person perhaps has feelings for the mutual friend.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 25, 2010 -
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Any thoughts on how to politely ask people not to say sexist things around my child and/or deflect those statements?
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posted by miss tea
on Jul 23, 2010 -
44 answers
I just moved to northern California 6 months ago and I’m *still* finding it somewhat difficult to make friends with people who want to do outdoor activities together (hiking, camping, rafting, road trips). What can I do to improve this?
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posted by buckaroo_benzai
on Jul 16, 2010 -
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This would be a fairly standard 'how do I make friends' question, except I know the reason I can't. Lack of social skills, not liking normal socialising exercises (e.g. parties), and living miles from anywhere are part of it, but before I get to those problems I have this one: I don't like anybody. Seriously, this is an even bigger problem than people not liking me.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 15, 2010 -
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Should I be helping my friend who now has no place to live, no car, and a lot of financial debt? Am I being a bad friend?
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posted by ljs30
on Jul 8, 2010 -
43 answers
S.O.S. What is the to do in for a 14 year old who is stuck in Paris with his parents and his older brother?? Any suggesions??
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posted by andykapahala
on Jul 8, 2010 -
19 answers
Any inspiring speeches, short stories, or parables about the importance of friends, family, and health?
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posted by typography
on Jul 7, 2010 -
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Emotional atom bomb. Two best friends have been hooking up with my old flame, keeping it a secret from me, but discussing with the rest of my circle of friends. Announced this last night, and today I was planning on ending my current relationship.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 22, 2010 -
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Years ago I used IRC and Yahoo chat a lot. Then over time Yahoo got so infested with spam bots that people stopped using it. I am hoping to find a new realtime online chat, (preferably not video chat),
that has great community and no spam, and that is not related to dating.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 13, 2010 -
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Should I date someone I'm not attracted to if the other option is never dating?
I'm a girl. I went on a date with a boy I met on the internet, and it was pathetic. We talked about my mother, his mother, and lesbian movies I've seen. (Was that a bad subject for a first date? I'm inexperienced.) He was using open body language and I was using closed. I didn't realise this at the time. He was totally uninitiative and way too nice and I found that unappealing.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 6, 2010 -
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I'm writing a war/horror story where two groups of sworn enemies band together to defeat a common foe. I'm looking for some suggestions on stories/books/films to borrow (i.e. steal) ideas from. Already thought of "Hell in the Pacific" and "Joyeux Noël" which deal with similar themes, but I was hoping you all could suggest some others....
posted by ranchocalamari
on Jun 6, 2010 -
15 answers
How do I set my privacy settings on facebook so my friends can see the events I'm going to?
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posted by garlic
on Jun 2, 2010 -
7 answers
Does anyone know of any research into social media platforms and the phenomena of looking up people from one's past? Surveys? Sociological Research?
posted by elis
on May 24, 2010 -
3 answers
When, why, and how did "buddy" become the default word a certain type of guy uses to refer to his friends?
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posted by millipede
on May 4, 2010 -
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My best friend and his girlfriend both seem to have a rather unhealthy relationship with food. This isn't currently at a critical level for either of them, but I think in the past it has been, and I'm worried that it could get like that again. I'm particularly concerned that they rely on each other quite heavily for emotional support and that in this area they may not be best placed to help each other. Am I right to gently suggest to each of them that they seek proper help for this? What resources could I refer them to, or how could I suggest they might best go about getting the support they need? We're in the UK.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 18, 2010 -
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I just want to be friends with guys, but I keep getting crushes on them! How can I stop it?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 16, 2010 -
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Parties 101: What do I need to know about hosting a successful party? Not a dinner party, not a crazy late-night drinking party, but something in-between.
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posted by EmilyClimbs
on Apr 16, 2010 -
22 answers
What's the best way to find a person you have been out of touch with for 50 years?
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posted by MarioM
on Apr 7, 2010 -
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How do you keep the conversation going with someone who keeps mentioning details that you have absolutely no interest in?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 1, 2010 -
27 answers
Help me find short, touching essays written in the first person, about personal relationships.
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posted by yawper
on Mar 25, 2010 -
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Collegedorkfilter: He's acting like he's in love with me, and I feel the same, but he seems to have another girl. What do I do? Nerdy ass literary references, awkward silences, and lots of hot-wild cuddling action ensue!
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posted by cheberet
on Mar 20, 2010 -
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After the relationship ended, I said I didn't want to be friend and it's been difficult. Help me re-frame this to myself.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 7, 2010 -
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This is an update correlating to a previous post about my social problems and lack of interests in life. I moved to a new location in an attempt at clarity and change, and to some extent have gained some, but I still have a question. THIS IS A VERY VERY LONG POST, like 25+ paragraphs long, so thanks out to those who take time to read it.
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posted by formaltide
on Feb 22, 2010 -
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Help me put together a "survival pack" / congratulations gift for my friend who's taking her optometry boards
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posted by dino might
on Feb 21, 2010 -
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The woman I am romantically interested in has had an extremely taxing couple of years. Her long term boyfriend disappeared and committed suicide last year, and now her chief support/best friend/roommate has been given only 2 months to live. Both of her pets have cancer and will die soon. And me.. well, I'm moving out of country for at least 4 months in about a week >< Her family is all living overseas until mid summer. She says she doesn't think she can handle the pain and doesn't think she can live after the impending death of her friend. She basically has no one to turn to and I want to be a support for her without trying to replace her past. The question: How can I show my care for her without coming off as a looter during a vulnerable time?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 26, 2010 -
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I just entered a relationship with my (female) best friend of 3 years and roommate. We've previously never so much as cuddled and recently became very open about our feelings for each other and realized that we want to be together. We are extremely excited about where things are going. There's a problem though...
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 23, 2010 -
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I seem to find myself in the same situation all the time - I'm friendly with a girl, and there seems to be a pretty clear sense of mutual attraction. But for whatever reason, I'm not really interested in dating them. Sometimes it's a shared interests thing - maybe there's one thing we have in common but share pretty much nothing else. Or maybe they're just really immature about some things. Or maybe they're someone I work tangentially with that it would be sorta inappropriate for me to date. Anyway, for me it seems like the attracted-to scale and the want-to-date scale are kind of independent. It's great when they line up, but often they don't. So how do I go about telling them that I'm attracted to them but don't really want to date? Or is that just totally unwanted?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 18, 2010 -
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I was fired last week, and I've been feeling very down since then. I need my friends to take spend some extra time with me this week. Although I wrote an email to them and explained what happened and how I needed a night out or two, none of them have responded. How do I let my friends know about my level of depression and how much I need them right now without alarming them or seeming manipulative?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 11, 2010 -
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I need to get out more. Problem: Back when I was outgoing, the people I ended up meeting through meetups were totally weird.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 11, 2010 -
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How do you get your friends to respect your house...after they have a precedent that it's just a 'hangout place'?
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posted by Taft
on Dec 22, 2009 -
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