So... I drunkenly hooked up with one of my really good friends and found out he's had feelings for me for YEARS, I had a good time, but am not looking for a boyfriend, what's the right thing to do? [more inside]
posted on Jul 2, 2008 - 24 answers

How does a woman in her mid-40s keep her self-esteem in an sea of thirtysomethings? [more inside]
posted on Jun 28, 2008 - 27 answers

I don't have any real life friends. What should I do? [more inside]
posted on Jun 23, 2008 - 34 answers

Should I suck it up and extend an olive branch or wait for her to contact me? [Long, long post. Apologies] [more inside]
posted on Jun 13, 2008 - 12 answers

How do I save this friendship? [more inside]
posted on Jun 6, 2008 - 35 answers

Basically, I want to talk to someone without feeling judged. Both now and in general. [more inside]
posted on May 23, 2008 - 16 answers

I'm a male introvert with very, very few close friends. I can make casual friends no problem, but I'm rather particular about the type of people I'd want to be serious friends with. Difficulty: I'm an atheist liberal eco-friendly vegetarian tech nerd who doesn't drink, smoke, or do drugs. [more inside]
posted on May 16, 2008 - 50 answers

I've been through some setbacks lately that are really garden variety in nature, but have really taken the wind out of me for some reason. As a side effect, I find myself unable to spend time or talk to my best friends in the world. [more inside]
posted on Apr 1, 2008 - 14 answers

How do I tell my friends and family that I'm just not going to move home? [more inside]
posted on Apr 1, 2008 - 23 answers

She never invites me anywhere. Why am I excluded, is it on purpose, and what can I do to fix it? [more inside]
posted on Mar 24, 2008 - 21 answers

I’m worried about an old friend of mine who lives far away and has been going through some tough times. I want to be a good friend to her, but I fear that she might rely a little too much on my long-distance friendship. [more inside]
posted on Mar 14, 2008 - 7 answers

Please help me meet good people in NYC! [more inside]
posted on Feb 12, 2008 - 17 answers

Do people with under-developed social skills know that their skills need work? If so, how? [more inside]
posted on Jan 14, 2008 - 23 answers

My roommate's long-distance boyfriend asked me to help him surprise her. But I'm afraid he might be the one who gets surprised, if she's sleeping with someone else (I'm not sure). What do I do? [more inside]
posted on Dec 14, 2007 - 30 answers

How do I deal with a sociopath that is connected to my social circle? [more inside]
posted on Dec 11, 2007 - 34 answers

I've developed a bit of a crush on a girl that I consider to be a good friend. How to tell her that I have these feelings for her? [more inside]
posted on Aug 7, 2007 - 33 answers

[ChicagoFilter] I moved to Chicago recently, and I'm having difficulty making friends and meeting people who are around my age (early 20s) who share similar interests -- and I am looking for suggestions on how to branch out. (mi) [more inside]
posted on Aug 7, 2007 - 31 answers

Besides being a secret gangster river-raft courier, what effects random hilarious, interesting, intimate (in a goetting-to-know-someone, not sexual way) e-mails and then dropping off the face of the earth... only to re-appear suddenly with ferver 1-2 months later? [more inside]
posted on Jul 14, 2007 - 22 answers

How do I get over a friendship breakup? [more inside]
posted on Jun 24, 2007 - 24 answers

I like him. I think he likes me. How do I find out for sure? [more inside]
posted on Jun 21, 2007 - 21 answers

Why doesn't the woman I'm dating invite me out with her friends? [more inside]
posted on Jun 14, 2007 - 26 answers

Friendshipfilter: How do I end it? [more inside]
posted on Jun 4, 2007 - 29 answers

I think a long time friend may want to be more than friends... and I don't... What do I do? [more inside]
posted on May 24, 2007 - 20 answers

When, if ever, do I try to repair this post-relationship friendship? [more inside]
posted on May 18, 2007 - 16 answers

I have a hard time talking to my friends about other people's terminal illnesses and/or deaths. I'd like to get better at this. [more inside]
posted on May 16, 2007 - 12 answers

I'm being cut out by my "friends" and I need advice on how to feel less shitty about it. [more inside]
posted on Apr 21, 2007 - 29 answers

I am starting to hate my cousin and best friend. Please help me forgive her. [more inside]
posted on Apr 3, 2007 - 33 answers

Someone who I consider a very close friend recently told me in an off-hand way that she gossiped behind my back “all the time” to our mutual classmates/friends while we were in a very intense graduate program together a few years ago. [more inside]
posted on Apr 2, 2007 - 25 answers

Throughout my life, I've had to learn social interaction as if I were a Martian anthropologist... consciously studying, taking notes, and practicing. A few years ago, I finally cracked "how to make friends" and seemingly overnight, I started making real connections. It was amazing. But now, from experience and from talking to my all-too-quickly growing posse of close female friends (most of whom I wished could have been more than that), I'm learning that the way you interact with someone you're interested in isn't as simple as having a great friend that you make out with like there's no tomorrow. There are subtle, maybe very simple, but essential things that separate lovers from pals. I need you to tell me-- in the most literal terms possible-- what those things are. [more inside]
posted on Mar 20, 2007 - 39 answers

If you have a few insecure friends that obviously get bent-out-of-shape when you make plans without them, what is the best way to deal with the situation? [more inside]
posted on Jan 25, 2007 - 16 answers

Can helping aspiring authors succeed somehow help me, or does it hurt my own chances of being published? [more inside]
posted on Dec 22, 2006 - 19 answers

Yet another ‘how to make friends’ post [more inside]
posted on Dec 10, 2006 - 4 answers

I keep my friends "separate" from each other. [more inside]
posted on Dec 3, 2006 - 10 answers

How do I deal with a relentless 'score-keeper'? [more inside]
posted on Oct 26, 2006 - 15 answers

[HighschoolDramaFilter] Am I justified in my mistrust of this person who has lived a complete lie and now claims to be reformed, or should I bury the hatchet? Much, much, much [more inside]
posted on Oct 13, 2006 - 30 answers

Someone I care for deeply is in a predicament, and I'm not sure what, if anything I can do to help her, but I will be damned if I won't try. [more inside]
posted on Sep 10, 2006 - 36 answers

I'm trying to get a life after being depressed and socially isolated for several years. I've lost 80 pounds, started working out, got a better job, and have met a couple of women through a "just friends" internet post. [more inside]
posted on Sep 3, 2006 - 16 answers

My sister was ditched by her friends in high school. It's been almost three years and she still has very few friends. It has also led to her having low self esteem. How can i help her? [more inside]
posted on Jul 29, 2006 - 15 answers

What to do with a friend that completely lacks social skills? [more inside]
posted on Jun 8, 2006 - 26 answers

How do we deal with the “cool guy” who has decided we are beneath him? [more inside]
posted on May 27, 2006 - 42 answers

I'm in a situation where two girls who are friends with each other have both given me their phone numbers (in the context of a speed dating situation). This is not a secret to either of them. [more inside]
posted on Apr 19, 2006 - 33 answers

I'm 21. I've spent most of my life on my own. I'm not much fun to be around. How do I break out of this cycle? [more inside]
posted on Mar 7, 2006 - 50 answers

In the last 15 or so years I have managed to make and keep exactly one friend. What am I doing wrong? I used to have friends from college, but they all moved away (seriously, almost all of them, to other continents and coasts). I freely admit to being judgmental and opinionated--but I'm also funny, well-read, and courteous. (Once upon a time, my friends liked that I was opinionated and judgmental.) I'm a good conversationalist. I know about balancing self-disclosure vs. showing an interest in the other person. I'm also well acquainted with professional help, and with prescription remedies, so no "go to a therapist" answers, please. [more inside]
posted on Mar 2, 2006 - 38 answers

Have you ever been asked to be the best man for a "friend's" wedding and you: 1. Are not really that good friends with the guy anymore. and 2. Have absolutely no type of desire to organize a raunchy style bachelor party and 3. Are not friends at all with his other guy friends so would have a hard and awkward time getting people to come to the bachelor party anyways? Even if not, any advice on how to handle the situation? [more inside]
posted on Dec 14, 2005 - 29 answers

How do I get over my shame at not staying in touch? [more inside]
posted on Dec 8, 2005 - 21 answers

My best friend in the world is about to move across the country for her asshole boyfriend. What should I do? [more inside]
posted on Nov 9, 2005 - 27 answers

How do I deal with my boyfriend's obnoxious and embarrassing friends? [more inside]
posted on Oct 19, 2005 - 43 answers

How can I convince my g/f to be less exclusive ? [more inside]
posted on Sep 26, 2005 - 30 answers