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Facebook friends lists: How do you compartmentalize your digital life?

I'm curious to hear how everyone organizes their Facebook friends lists, and how they figure out which posts/content to disclose to which parties. How do you use your lists? What is your system? [more inside]
posted by Hawk V on Aug 31, 2014 - 17 answers

Is it normal to miss an ex after 2 years?

I've noticed every so often (every few months?) i start thinking about my ex boyfriend i dated 2 years ago. Should i do anything about this? [more inside]
posted by earthquakeglue on Aug 25, 2014 - 17 answers

How to deal with friend that invites others along?

I have a friend i've known for almost 6 years now and recently we started taking weekend trips to a comic convention every March since we only see each other twice a year. She's invited someone she's friends with and her 3 year old daughter to come with us, i've never met her and i really don't want to spend my weekend with someone's fussy 3 year old. How do you handle something like this? [more inside]
posted by earthquakeglue on Jul 23, 2014 - 86 answers

Help me make my friends laugh... in less than 24 hours.

In about 24 hours I will be picking up old friends from the airport and taking them to a rented apartment in the city, near where I live. They will be tired and jet-lagged so I wanted to make their first day as hassle-free and pleasant as possible. At the same time, they have a goofy sense of humor and I would love to play a prank on them. Can you help me make them laugh? [more inside]
posted by M. on Jul 1, 2014 - 20 answers

slow fade isn't working

I have a friend who I consider to be almost family. We used to be extremely close through middle and high school, and probably most of while I was in college. She had a really rough childhood that resulted in PTSD and lasting issues with relationships. Over the past few years our daily lives have become pretty different and I think as she's had less going on she's gotten harder to talk to. I've been trying the slow fade, but she's noticed and I have to figure out how much to explain. [more inside]
posted by sepviva on Jun 2, 2014 - 14 answers

Keeping friends in the loop?

Last night, while capping off a great day out, my girlfriend stumbled upon a big table crowded with friends she knew from before we met. It created a wave of sadness and nostalgia on her part that I could not do much about but listen. We go on several dates each month. I am working really hard to make our life more certain and rich but see clearly that I am not able to provide enough group experiences that my girlfriend would enjoy. I like to entertain but she is tired of always having everyone at our house. I can find lots of groups to join. I really want to ask her friends not to forget about us when they are going for a night out. What are some tactics I could use to do this?
posted by parmanparman on Dec 29, 2013 - 8 answers

forgiveness

How do you know when you've truly forgiven someone? How do you let go of old pain when you've long ago forgiven the person who caused it? Is it possible to truly forgive someone but still not want them in your life? [more inside]
posted by evil otto on Nov 30, 2013 - 21 answers

I would prefer not to spend time with my friend when she is very stoned

Is there any good way to tell a dear friend I don’t really want to chat on the phone or spend long periods of time with her when she’s very, very stoned? [more inside]
posted by JayAlfred on Nov 28, 2013 - 14 answers

Is this a normal thing when friends get a girlfriend?

I have a guy friend i've known since 1st grade (we're both 26), we went to school together all the way through high school. We had a kind of mutual unspoken, understanding/agreement over the years that we were friends, but we just didn't see each other often around school after a certain grade to be really good friends. Last year, we started talking a lot more on a pretty regular basis (about every day/night). [more inside]
posted by earthquakeglue on Oct 3, 2013 - 20 answers

How to deal with this needy friend..

I don't mind making new friends, but it's when they have to contact me every day is where I cross the line. How can I handle this situation delicately? [more inside]
posted by Autumn89 on Sep 5, 2013 - 21 answers

Eeew, that's disgusting. Elementary school lunchtime social resilience.

How can I help my son to not feel embarrassed socially for having the healthy (and admittedly a little weird) lunches that I give him for school? [more inside]
posted by spbmp on Aug 27, 2013 - 65 answers

Peers in PDX

I'm moving across the country! What resources should I use to make friends in the Portland, OR area? More details inside... [more inside]
posted by cosmicbeast on Aug 14, 2013 - 12 answers

How much to pay a cat sitter?

I am going out of town for a few days, and have asked a friend to check in on my cat. How much should I pay her? [more inside]
posted by rainbowbrite on Jul 1, 2013 - 23 answers

This could be a sitcom plot...if it was actually funny.

One of three mutual friends of mine (who are all roommates) has been behaving very strangely and it is making things awkward. Should I address this or hope it goes away on its own? [more inside]
posted by bolognius maximus on Jun 23, 2013 - 19 answers

Friend bailed on plans, what should i tell her?

How do you deal with a friend that bails on plans? [more inside]
posted by earthquakeglue on Jun 16, 2013 - 31 answers

Set the bar...at what height exactly?

Recently I became friends with a group of people that lie and act in deceitful and unfair ways towards others - so I say, they apparently find it perfectly okay. Is it right to hold your friends to your own personal standards?
posted by travelwithcats on May 19, 2013 - 38 answers

Help me tell my BFF to shut up, in the nicest of ways.

My best friend is dating a new guy and is currently in the "floating in the clouds" stage. He's all that she talks about, texts me about, emails me about, mentions, quotes, you name it. I'm happy for her, but I am quickly reaching "who cares" stage. She does this with everyone she dates, but this guy might become permanent, so I'm not brushing it off as "just wait until this passes". How can I politely tell her that we need to have conversations about OTHER THINGS? She can be very sensitive, and I don't want her to feel that I am not interested in the relationship or not happy for her. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by ElectricGoat on Apr 28, 2013 - 26 answers

My friend is in love with another friend's sister?

tl;dr: Friend likes friend's sister. Friend is very socially awkward and sister is very scared of him for his "creepy" demeanor (according to her words) and the sister needs to know how to make him stop liking her. Ideas discussed include outright rejection, fake boyfriend, fake pictures, which I had mostly disagreed with, and need advice to sort this out. [more inside]
posted by JYuanZ on Apr 8, 2013 - 18 answers

How do I politely end a friendship that has gone down the rabbit hole?

My friend "Joe" and I have been friends on and off for over 7 years. - On and Off being key words - Recently a few things in the friendship were really inappropriate - details inside - and he has since stopped talking to me. During this time I have realized my life will be much more drama-free to end the friendship, but I would like to do so with the least drama, while still getting myself heard. [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne on Apr 6, 2013 - 40 answers

All your burned bridges are belong to me.

Fubar'd a friendship. Hope me. [more inside]
posted by mibo on Apr 1, 2013 - 21 answers

Am i over thinking things with him?

Am i over thinking things with him, are we friends? Acquaintances? People that talk on occasion? [more inside]
posted by earthquakeglue on Mar 15, 2013 - 21 answers

Ending a friendship over friend's unethical behavior?

I have realized recently that I have a few friends that behave in ways, in other areas of their life, that I think is unethical. How do you draw the line, when someone's behavior is not directly affecting you, on what is acceptable for your standards of friendship? [more inside]
posted by abirdinthehand on Feb 23, 2013 - 33 answers

Iceland For Foodies?

I'm planning a trip to Iceland, probably for May, and a friend has expressed interest in coming along. I'm a bit worried ... [more inside]
posted by like_a_friend on Jan 16, 2013 - 21 answers

Should i still go to the movies?

Friend invited someone else to hang out with us should i still go? [more inside]
posted by ohtimorousme on Dec 28, 2012 - 26 answers

How do I ensure things stay platonic, but friendly, with this guy?

I just got asked by email to meet for drinks by this guy in my Meetup group. He's a nice person, and I'd like to be friends. I have a boyfriend, and I don't think he knows this. How do I politely deflect? [more inside]
posted by iadacanavon on Dec 16, 2012 - 23 answers

How can I respond to questions I don't want to answer without hurting peoples' feelings?

After posting this question, I asked out a guy that I was interested in. It's going pretty great, except that my friends won't leave me the hell alone about it, and I want to think about something else! [more inside]
posted by windykites on Nov 25, 2012 - 8 answers

What to do about a friend who doesn't make time for me and other friends

What is this kind of behavior? I have a friend who constantly turns down invitations to do anything because she says her life is so busy. [more inside]
posted by spooky car on Nov 2, 2012 - 40 answers

How often do you talk about personal things?

How often do you talk about personal topics with friends, co-workers, etc...? [more inside]
posted by ohtimorousme on Oct 24, 2012 - 27 answers

Sheltered Meets Extroverts

Your friends scare you with their kindness. Now we're going on a roadtrip - advice? [more inside]
posted by Chorus on Sep 21, 2012 - 17 answers

Why did my friend stop talking?

Why do friends sometimes stop talking to you for no reason? [more inside]
posted by ohtimorousme on Aug 25, 2012 - 20 answers

Pissing off prospective friends and alienating people since the 1980s

I pissed off a lot of people at a meetup. How can I patch things up with them and be friends, or is it even possible anymore and should I just give up? [more inside]
posted by dekathelon on Jul 22, 2012 - 90 answers

Is this stereotype real or made-for-TV?

Is this stereotype real or made-for-TV? [more inside]
posted by vignettist on Jul 18, 2012 - 50 answers

How to choose between waiting and moving on?

At the moment, I find myself waiting for a friend to grow healthier (both emotionally and physically) on the off-chance that this growth will allow our friendship to turn romantic further on. Should I simply resign myself to friendship alone (do my level best to date other people, cement myself in her friend zone), or is there some long-term logic to what feels, right now, like madness? [more inside]
posted by trainsurfing on Jul 18, 2012 - 24 answers

MeFi Car People...Please Help!

I find myself having an extra car and a close friend who needs one. Difficulty: I promised to not sell this car. [more inside]
posted by snsranch on Jun 10, 2012 - 23 answers

Overdue Wedding Gift Etiquette

OverdueWeddingGiftFilter: What's the best way to handle overdue wedding gifts? [more inside]
posted by Kattiara17 on Apr 2, 2012 - 12 answers

Should I warn my friend about working with an alleged sexual harasser?

A model friend of mine is due to work with a photographer about whom I've heard unsavoury (sexual harassment of models-related) rumours. She's an experienced pro model so would likely not take that kind of crap, but I wonder whether I should pass on my information to her (it is at best second hand), or whether I should just keep my mouth shut (for fear of spreading vicious rumours that might be unfounded). FWIW (not much) I have met, and don't particularly like, the photographer in question. Any advice?
posted by gmb on Mar 24, 2012 - 11 answers

How do I get rid of an unwanted tag-along?

There's a girl who keeps inviting herself to group gatherings, and now she's invited herself along on a trip I planned. I really don't want her there, but how do I get rid of her without creating a big scene? [more inside]
posted by cyml on Feb 9, 2012 - 32 answers

[Anger related issue filter] Do I need a tougher outer shell, or should I be bothered by this?

Difficulty with communicating anger and/or frustration toward friends--need a few techniques to move forward. [more inside]
posted by wallawallasweet on Jan 23, 2012 - 16 answers

I need to explain depression to people with no working understanding of it

Help me explain depression to my well meaning (I think) but clueless friends and family. Looking for an article or a blog that I can direct them to. [more inside]
posted by tulip-socks on Jan 13, 2012 - 25 answers

how to self invite without self inviting

I'd like to invite myself to see an old friend, without actually inviting myself. how to do it without looking like an inconsiderate boob? [more inside]
posted by camdan on Dec 4, 2011 - 9 answers

Uncommon Courtesies

In the last Roderick on the Line, John says that he always gets a houseguest a glass of water, before they ask - because 9 times out of 10, someone always loves a glass of water. I love this idea. What are some low-key courtesies you extend or have had extended to you by friends, romantic partners, suitors, etc. that show someone you're thinking about their needs and general comfort? [more inside]
posted by Apropos of Something on Nov 28, 2011 - 55 answers

Surprisingly difficult surprise party planning...

What should I do/get for my boyfriend's birthday when we've only been dating 6 months and I haven't met his friends? [more inside]
posted by Pomo on Sep 1, 2011 - 14 answers

Is it okay to surprise my best friend at the airport?

Would it be inappropriate to surprise your best friend at the airport who has been on a long international flight? She'll be arriving alone in Abu Dhabi from Toronto this evening. We haven't seen each other in about five months. See further details below: [more inside]
posted by thatgirl1985 on Aug 26, 2011 - 19 answers

Where do you meet people IRL who will not mug/kill you?

Where do you meet people IRL who will not mug/kill you? [more inside]
posted by becomingly on Aug 19, 2011 - 14 answers

I hate my roommate's boyfriend. Help!

I really, really dislike my roommate/friend's boyfriend. How do I deal with him? [more inside]
posted by spectacularicity on Jul 29, 2011 - 55 answers

Why do we go weeks without seeing each other? Are we just friends?

This guy is confusing me. He acts like he likes me but we sometimes don't see each other for a few weeks. [more inside]
posted by ohtimorousme on Jun 18, 2011 - 24 answers

Is an intervention needed on these tacky stagette plans?

My friend (let's call her Amanda) is having a stagette, which is being planned by a completely different group of friends from the ones that we share. She's known these ladies since childhood, and I hardly know them at all. I feel like Amanda's friends are planning a stagette that goes strongly against Amanda's taste and wishes. Should I say something to the party planners? If so, how? (more inside) [more inside]
posted by owlparliament on Jun 2, 2011 - 48 answers

Is it normal to be a female and not have many (okay, any) close guy friends?

Is it normal to be a female and not have many (okay, any) close guy friends? Should I actively pursue friendships with guys? [more inside]
posted by sunnychef88 on May 6, 2011 - 33 answers

We're engaged! Sort of ...

When should we tell our families we're engaged? And why aren't we ready? [more inside]
posted by ohsnapdragon on Mar 3, 2011 - 12 answers

I just want some friends.

Fellow socially awkward Mefites: How do I chill out and not screw up this new long-distance friendship? Or did I already screw it up? [more inside]
posted by cabingirl on Jan 24, 2011 - 15 answers

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