Recently I became friends with a group of people that lie and act in deceitful and unfair ways towards others - so I say, they apparently find it perfectly okay.
Is it right to hold your friends to your own personal standards?
posted by travelwithcats
on May 19, 2013 -
37 answers
My best friend is dating a new guy and is currently in the "floating in the clouds" stage. He's all that she talks about, texts me about, emails me about, mentions, quotes, you name it. I'm happy for her, but I am quickly reaching "who cares" stage. She does this with everyone she dates, but this guy might become permanent, so I'm not brushing it off as "just wait until this passes". How can I politely tell her that we need to have conversations about OTHER THINGS? She can be very sensitive, and I don't want her to feel that I am not interested in the relationship or not happy for her. More details inside.
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posted by ElectricGoat
on Apr 28, 2013 -
26 answers
tl;dr: Friend likes friend's sister. Friend is very socially awkward and sister is very scared of him for his "creepy" demeanor (according to her words) and the sister needs to know how to make him stop liking her. Ideas discussed include outright rejection, fake boyfriend, fake pictures, which I had mostly disagreed with, and need advice to sort this out.
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posted by JYuanZ
on Apr 8, 2013 -
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My friend "Joe" and I have been friends on and off for over 7 years. - On and Off being key words - Recently a few things in the friendship were really inappropriate - details inside - and he has since stopped talking to me. During this time I have realized my life will be much more drama-free to end the friendship, but I would like to do so with the least drama, while still getting myself heard.
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posted by Crystalinne
on Apr 6, 2013 -
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I have realized recently that I have a few friends that behave in ways, in other areas of their life, that I think is unethical. How do you draw the line, when someone's behavior is not directly affecting you, on what is acceptable for your standards of friendship?
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posted by abirdinthehand
on Feb 23, 2013 -
33 answers
I'm planning a trip to Iceland, probably for May, and a friend has expressed interest in coming along. I'm a bit worried ...
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posted by like_a_friend
on Jan 16, 2013 -
21 answers
I just got asked by email to meet for drinks by this guy in my Meetup group. He's a nice person, and I'd like to be friends. I have a boyfriend, and I don't think he knows this. How do I politely deflect?
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posted by iadacanavon
on Dec 16, 2012 -
23 answers
After posting
this question, I asked out a guy that I was interested in. It's going pretty great, except that my friends won't leave me the hell alone about it, and I want to think about something else!
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posted by windykites
on Nov 25, 2012 -
8 answers
What is this kind of behavior? I have a friend who constantly turns down invitations to do anything because she says her life is so busy.
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posted by spooky car
on Nov 2, 2012 -
40 answers
Your friends scare you with their kindness. Now we're going on a roadtrip - advice?
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posted by Chorus
on Sep 21, 2012 -
17 answers
I pissed off a lot of people at a meetup. How can I patch things up with them and be friends, or is it even possible anymore and should I just give up?
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posted by dekathelon
on Jul 22, 2012 -
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At the moment, I find myself waiting for a friend to grow healthier (both emotionally and physically) on the off-chance that this growth will allow our friendship to turn romantic further on. Should I simply resign myself to friendship alone (do my level best to date other people, cement myself in her friend zone), or is there some long-term logic to what feels, right now, like madness?
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posted by trainsurfing
on Jul 18, 2012 -
24 answers
I find myself having an extra car and a close friend who needs one. Difficulty: I promised to not sell this car.
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posted by snsranch
on Jun 10, 2012 -
23 answers
A model friend of mine is due to work with a photographer about whom I've heard unsavoury (sexual harassment of models-related) rumours. She's an experienced pro model so would likely not take that kind of crap, but I wonder whether I should pass on my information to her (it is at best second hand), or whether I should just keep my mouth shut (for fear of spreading vicious rumours that might be unfounded).
FWIW (not much) I have met, and don't particularly like, the photographer in question.
Any advice?
posted by gmb
on Mar 24, 2012 -
11 answers
There's a girl who keeps inviting herself to group gatherings, and now she's invited herself along on a trip I planned. I really don't want her there, but how do I get rid of her without creating a big scene?
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posted by cyml
on Feb 9, 2012 -
32 answers
Help me explain depression to my well meaning (I think) but clueless friends and family. Looking for an article or a blog that I can direct them to.
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posted by tulip-socks
on Jan 13, 2012 -
25 answers
I'd like to invite myself to see an old friend, without actually inviting myself. how to do it without looking like an inconsiderate boob?
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posted by camdan
on Dec 4, 2011 -
9 answers
In the last
Roderick on the Line, John says that he always gets a houseguest a glass of water, before they ask - because 9 times out of 10, someone always loves a glass of water. I love this idea. What are some low-key courtesies you extend or have had extended to you by friends, romantic partners, suitors, etc. that show someone you're thinking about their needs and general comfort?
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posted by Apropos of Something
on Nov 28, 2011 -
55 answers
What should I do/get for my boyfriend's birthday when we've only been dating 6 months and I haven't met his friends?
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posted by Pomo
on Sep 1, 2011 -
14 answers
Would it be inappropriate to surprise your best friend at the airport who has been on a long international flight?
She'll be arriving alone in Abu Dhabi from Toronto this evening. We haven't seen each other in about five months. See further details below:
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posted by thatgirl1985
on Aug 26, 2011 -
19 answers
This guy is confusing me. He acts like he likes me but we sometimes don't see each other for a few weeks.
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posted by ohtimorousme
on Jun 18, 2011 -
24 answers
My friend (let's call her Amanda) is having a stagette, which is being planned by a completely different group of friends from the ones that we share. She's known these ladies since childhood, and I hardly know them at all. I feel like Amanda's friends are planning a stagette that goes strongly against Amanda's taste and wishes. Should I say something to the party planners? If so, how? (more inside)
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posted by owlparliament
on Jun 2, 2011 -
48 answers
Is it normal to be a female and not have many (okay, any) close guy friends? Should I actively pursue friendships with guys?
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posted by sunnychef88
on May 6, 2011 -
33 answers
Fellow socially awkward Mefites: How do I chill out and not screw up this new long-distance friendship? Or did I already screw it up?
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posted by cabingirl
on Jan 24, 2011 -
15 answers
I'm going to be in a cabin in the wilderness for three days with one of my best friends. We will each be bringing flip cameras with us.
We want to make a viral video and we're looking for ideas of what to shoot/make. Any ideas? Go wild! We're open to just about anything.
If we end up using your idea, we promise to mention your name in the credits.
posted by joshuamcginnis
on Nov 21, 2010 -
12 answers
A friend invited me to a private birthday hangout about a month and a half ago, but hasn't brought it up since. I think she may have forgotten, and I'm fine either way - how do I check and see if I'm still invited without making her feel like she has to have me over?
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posted by agentmunroe
on Oct 29, 2010 -
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Mrs. Killaseal's best friend started a business less than a year ago (so far, so good). Mrs. K would like nothing more than to be able to assist best friend at the new business (food industry), but distance we live apart will not permit that, so that is out. So, we would like to give her a nice gift to congratulate her. Mrs. K wants to know, should we buy her an actual item (or items), in the 200-300 dollar range, or should we just give her a nice card with equivalent cash, since every budding entrepreneur could probably use the extra cash to help out with the new business? Mrs. K worries that although they are best friends, cash might still be tacky.
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posted by KillaSeal
on Oct 26, 2010 -
9 answers
I know I should have spoken up sooner, but I didn't. Help me live with the consequences. Not life or death (or even remotely close).
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posted by Leezie
on Oct 18, 2010 -
11 answers
Yet another FaceBook friends question: Is FaceBook now spoofing friend requests? A few times now, I feel like I've been "tricked" into friending someone I only casually know.
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posted by ctmf
on Aug 26, 2010 -
31 answers
My mom recently told me that she had a best friend when she was in grade school, many many many years ago. When her friend moved across the world, they lost track of each other. Now I want to find that person.
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posted by nondescript
on Aug 5, 2010 -
9 answers
was NBC's sitcom "Friends" shot on film @30fps? was/is that common practice?
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posted by yosh
on Jul 29, 2010 -
8 answers
Any inspiring speeches, short stories, or parables about the importance of friends, family, and health?
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posted by typography
on Jul 7, 2010 -
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This is an update correlating to a previous post about my social problems and lack of interests in life. I moved to a new location in an attempt at clarity and change, and to some extent have gained some, but I still have a question. THIS IS A VERY VERY LONG POST, like 25+ paragraphs long, so thanks out to those who take time to read it.
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posted by formaltide
on Feb 22, 2010 -
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