My best friend is dating a new guy and is currently in the "floating in the clouds" stage. He's all that she talks about, texts me about, emails me about, mentions, quotes, you name it. I'm happy for her, but I am quickly reaching "who cares" stage. She does this with everyone she dates, but this guy might become permanent, so I'm not brushing it off as "just wait until this passes". How can I politely tell her that we need to have conversations about OTHER THINGS? She can be very sensitive, and I don't want her to feel that I am not interested in the relationship or not happy for her. More details inside.
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posted by ElectricGoat
on Apr 28, 2013 -
26 answers
At the beginning of the relationship, she had asked to be exclusive. Told me she wants me to be her boyfriend. Thing's were going great. She mentions that she has a male friend visiting from out of town. Wasn't a big deal for me. Then it comes to light that he would be staying at her place for the weekend.
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posted by Nicholas Geary
on Jan 2, 2013 -
120 answers
My date canceled on me because he's best friends with a guy who is in love with me...even though I have absolutely no feelings for said friend and I've told him so. How do I handle this?
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posted by mlk915
on Dec 13, 2012 -
64 answers
I am a good friend, I meet loads of interesting people, but I am terrible at maintaining friendships. Help me not end up alone, on my couch, eating out of a tuna can every night wondering what happened to all my friends.
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posted by amoeba
on Nov 5, 2012 -
17 answers
I have just ended a long term relationship due to a breach of trust. This has, however, added to my increasing lack of trust in other people -- which was little to begin with. Why should and how do I learn to trust people again?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 31, 2012 -
15 answers
My ex has sneaked back into my life during a difficult time. I'm appreciative of his support but I'm nervous about backsliding emotionally. How do I set the right boundaries? Or is this just the "being friends with your ex when you're ready" thing I've read so much about here on the green?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 26, 2012 -
17 answers
I have a great boyfriend who treats me really well, but we hardly ever hang out with his friends, except sometimes at parties. And even though he agrees that we're for (very) serious, he hasn't even mentioned the idea of introducing me to his parents. I have told him that I'm upset about the friend stuff.
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posted by sockity sock
on Sep 13, 2012 -
37 answers
How do you know if someone is a good friend to keep around? Is it judging them by their support or their company?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 5, 2012 -
23 answers
I pissed off a lot of people at a meetup. How can I patch things up with them and be friends, or is it even possible anymore and should I just give up?
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posted by dekathelon
on Jul 22, 2012 -
90 answers
We dated for quite a while, but it didn't work out and we've ended up as good friends. But now I'm entering a serious relationship for the first time since it ended, and the shift in my attention seems to be rattling her. How can I handle this gracefully?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 12, 2012 -
39 answers
I am nervous(totally) about meeting bunch of strangers and the thought they are all there to meet me.
How do you handle this? what kind of conversations would you have with them?
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posted by daveg02
on May 18, 2012 -
23 answers
Japanese friend/relationship advice. She all of a sudden became very cold and distant, and I don't understand why. What should I do?
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posted by iamcrispy
on Apr 6, 2012 -
26 answers
Help me interpret my situation and figure out the practical implications of the social advice/philosophies that my friends have been giving me about it. (Warning: a super long and arguably dramatic story awaits you.)
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posted by Conspire
on Nov 4, 2011 -
38 answers
Would it be inappropriate to surprise your best friend at the airport who has been on a long international flight?
She'll be arriving alone in Abu Dhabi from Toronto this evening. We haven't seen each other in about five months. See further details below:
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posted by thatgirl1985
on Aug 26, 2011 -
19 answers
A friend and I had a very brief fling a long time ago. To this day, she informs of every single romantic advance a man makes toward her and it's starting to annoy me (longer than I thought).
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 9, 2011 -
29 answers
This guy is confusing me. He acts like he likes me but we sometimes don't see each other for a few weeks.
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posted by ohtimorousme
on Jun 18, 2011 -
24 answers
My behaviour towards a friend of mine is sort of cruddy, and I'd like an outside perspective on how to change it.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 7, 2011 -
13 answers
Is it normal to be a female and not have many (okay, any) close guy friends? Should I actively pursue friendships with guys?
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posted by sunnychef88
on May 6, 2011 -
33 answers
I need to improve my social and relationship skills. Can anyone recommend a behavior therapist in NYC who does social skill training and takes Empire Blue Cross/Blue Shield?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 28, 2011 -
3 answers
Do you ever meet someone, think they're pleasant, but then don't really want to run into them again?
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posted by thorny
on Jan 16, 2011 -
37 answers
Asking for mom: how do you get back out there and form close friendships/relationships after you've already settled down, raised a family, and devoted yourself to work?
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posted by Amaranta
on Jan 9, 2011 -
13 answers
I seem to have a neverending list since adulthood of people that just simply do not like me, and increasingly shorter list of those that do. How do I become less of an asshole?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 2, 2010 -
55 answers
This would be a fairly standard 'how do I make friends' question, except I know the reason I can't. Lack of social skills, not liking normal socialising exercises (e.g. parties), and living miles from anywhere are part of it, but before I get to those problems I have this one: I don't like anybody. Seriously, this is an even bigger problem than people not liking me.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 15, 2010 -
32 answers
Emotional atom bomb. Two best friends have been hooking up with my old flame, keeping it a secret from me, but discussing with the rest of my circle of friends. Announced this last night, and today I was planning on ending my current relationship.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 22, 2010 -
46 answers
Should I date someone I'm not attracted to if the other option is never dating?
I'm a girl. I went on a date with a boy I met on the internet, and it was pathetic. We talked about my mother, his mother, and lesbian movies I've seen. (Was that a bad subject for a first date? I'm inexperienced.) He was using open body language and I was using closed. I didn't realise this at the time. He was totally uninitiative and way too nice and I found that unappealing.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 6, 2010 -
32 answers
I just want to be friends with guys, but I keep getting crushes on them! How can I stop it?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 16, 2010 -
17 answers
Help me find short, touching essays written in the first person, about personal relationships.
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posted by yawper
on Mar 25, 2010 -
16 answers
Collegedorkfilter: He's acting like he's in love with me, and I feel the same, but he seems to have another girl. What do I do? Nerdy ass literary references, awkward silences, and lots of hot-wild cuddling action ensue!
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posted by cheberet
on Mar 20, 2010 -
41 answers
How do I break the "ice" with others (especially girls) and get closer with them?
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posted by rintako
on Nov 13, 2009 -
19 answers
Going from friends to more-than-friends to back to friends, successfully. Can it be done?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 9, 2009 -
12 answers
