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Is it really me, or is it them? Maybe combo of both?

Okay, so , I am a 27 year old woman, currently in the dating scene , but having bad luck. I have managed to find Two guys, one I was dating ( 27 yr like me,and currently don't know where we stand) and the other just remained a friend (29 yr old male) It has been rocky with Both men, known both for only a few months, met off dating website, and unfortunately,they have Both blamed me for the majority of the rockiness... [more inside]
posted by little_miss_m on Apr 17, 2015 - 17 answers

Should I stay in retail or go back to school and pursue a dream?

I've been sucked into retail and have put my education on hold due to a lack of certainty on a major. I had tried three different programs, but an impractical dream sits in the back of my mind that I have never even attempted. Do I give up good money in the interim for long term fulfilment with a risk? [more inside]
posted by Chelsaroo650 on Apr 13, 2015 - 26 answers

Baby Shower Invite Etiquette?

Received a baby shower invitation from an acquaintance who I would like to turn into a friend. Unsure of how to handle this and other social events. [more inside]
posted by Malleable on Apr 9, 2015 - 17 answers

Grad school - last chance to make friends, but how?

I finally start my grad school program this coming week. I attended the new student orientation last week and most of the people seem like cool and interesting people. But how does one go about making friends in grad school? + Special Snowflake details [more inside]
posted by lana0112 on Apr 3, 2015 - 17 answers

Extremely paranoid(VERY long). Help please?

**DISCLAIMER: This is very long, tediously written, incoherent, etc., so I don’t expect you to read all of it. I have listed my main problems in numbers 1., 2. and 3., and I don’t care how much you have read, as long as I get as many opinions as possible. The therapy section is in number two, just in case you were going to suggest that. I need some advice on what to do now, not what to tell my therapist** [more inside]
posted by ParanoidAndroid on Apr 1, 2015 - 25 answers

I'm having trouble deciphering my friend's new behavior toward me

I was going through a tough time with some family members, and one day it became too much to handle. I cried in front of this guy I'll call him C, who is the leader of this meetup group I'm in. He's two years older than me. We've been casual friends for a few years, but I've had the biggest secret crush on him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 31, 2015 - 15 answers

I need to get outside my shell. How do I begin?

I'm a plain-vanilla guy, and I really want to change that and get out of my shell. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude on Mar 29, 2015 - 16 answers

I might've ruined one of my closest friendships. Should I make amends?

The backstory might shed light, but it's long and I'm sorry if it bores you. I might make a TL;DR sentence, but I suggest you read the whole thing. TL;DR. Befriended girl and crushed, had a lot of issues that turned me off, turned into a very close friend, badly timed telling her about dead feelings, and managed to still communicate until I had to back off for a bit. Don't know what I should do? [more inside]
posted by krs15 on Mar 29, 2015 - 31 answers

It's not that I mind having more friends, but...

It seems that whenever I meet a woman I really like and think I have a connection with, she can only view me as a friend. I'm generally okay with this, because their great qualities as people is what attracted me to them in the first place, and those don't change just because she's not interested in me. But when it happens over and over and over again, it does make me wonder whether there's something I'm doing wrong. Why is it I'm consistently viewed as good friend material, but not good lover material? [more inside]
posted by KantGoOn on Mar 27, 2015 - 84 answers

gift/gesture for girlfriend's roommates

Hivemind! Throw ideas at me! I'm looking to get a small token of "thanks for letting me hanging out in your place for a week" for my long-distance girlfriend's roommates. Ideally <$10. Food items are great. [more inside]
posted by redwaterman on Mar 24, 2015 - 20 answers

it wasn't me, I wasn't there / I was stone drunk, it isn't clear

I used to be very, very wild. Now I am very, very boring. How can I bridge the gap to get back in touch with the people who only knew me as I was back then? Difficulty level: I don't want to talk about the old days at all. [more inside]
posted by divined by radio on Mar 24, 2015 - 21 answers

Making friends for people who hate being in groups.

I dislike being in groups, but I'm finding that I'm at a life stage where my friendships are dwindling - people have kids, move away, etc. I like being around people in one-on-one interactions. [more inside]
posted by unstrungharp on Mar 17, 2015 - 16 answers

I no longer want to be friends with my friend/co-worker. What to do?

How should I handle a work relationship after having gone on a 7-day vacation where my friend and co-worker revealed herself to be selfish and inconsiderate? [more inside]
posted by KathyK on Mar 16, 2015 - 10 answers

I am not one of the "cool" kids

Since I moved to the new city a year ago, I started work at a place that has rich social life. While I was initially warmly welcomed and invited to things, the invites faded away and I now see pictures on FB of their nights out minus me. How to stop feeling rejected? [more inside]
posted by sabina_r on Mar 13, 2015 - 27 answers

Boyfriend bad juju beanplating

Dating for 6 weeks, "officially" boyfriend and girlfriend, have been spending time together most days. I've excitedly told my friends about him and invited him to a 30th and on a group holiday a few of us were going on. Last weekend he went to a farewell party on the Friday and a birthday on the Saturday without inviting me, but came to my place afterwards (on the Friday he left my house to go to the farewell party, then returned afterwards). I felt disappointed that he seemed less excited to introduce me to his friends than I did him and my gut feeling is not good. Thoughts? [more inside]
posted by lifethatihavenotlivedyet on Mar 5, 2015 - 41 answers

My friend drugged someone

My friend gave another friend a pot brownie without his knowledge or consent (he is foreign & naive & terrified because he thinks he's going to get deported). I am furious at the friend who did this, and am struggling to maintain social graces in public. I have to see him in class, and I want to punch him. What can I do to feel and act normally in public? [more inside]
posted by Chaussette Fantoche on Feb 25, 2015 - 46 answers

You CAN sit with us.

Growing up, my family moved every few years and I was constantly a "new kid" navigating unfamiliar social situations. Although as an adult I now have many great friendships, I have an almost compulsive desire to be inclusive and not exclude others. I have a pattern of befriending people who say they are lonely and then feeling responsible for making them not feel lonely. How can I be compassionate to lonely people without reliving my childhood anxiety? [more inside]
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto on Feb 20, 2015 - 13 answers

Are you trying to hurt my feelings?

Am I being overly sensitive or is my new friend mean? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 14, 2015 - 56 answers

Objective perspectives needed!

I'm having an argument with a friend and need to know if she has a valid complaint about me. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 14, 2015 - 19 answers

How can I connect with people?

I'm feeling very disconnected from the people around me. I'm looking for some advice on how to make new connections. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 9, 2015 - 16 answers

The Game of Life

Trying to identify this elaborate custom-tailored performance art/ARG project I read about, possibly on MetaFilter, circa 2007-2010. Basically: you apply for the chance to have this group go to your hometown and stage an elaborate theatrical experience personalized to you, starring all your friends and family, for the purposes of creating a powerful emotional experience. [more inside]
posted by Rhaomi on Feb 5, 2015 - 3 answers

What vintage model of International Harvester refrigerator is this?

What vintage model of International Harvester refrigerator is this? It's the one that Monica, from Friends uses. I love it!
posted by tellUwut on Feb 2, 2015 - 2 answers

Likable to all except single men?

Why is it so easy for me to naturally make friends but never meet guys that ask me out? I always thought that people skills in both scenarios are transferable. The only difference I can think of are looks but I don't think that's my problem. [more inside]
posted by sabina_r on Jan 28, 2015 - 27 answers

How can I be less sensitive?

There is no question about it – I am an extremely sensitive person. What I want to know is how can I be less sensitive, or, maybe, if I should be less sensitive? [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend on Jan 20, 2015 - 16 answers

affectionate videos for a toddler

I'd like to show my toddler videos/tv shows/movies/books that include genuine affection - parents, families, friends all giving hugs or smiles or other close, positive interactions. Any good ideas? [more inside]
posted by jillithd on Jan 16, 2015 - 18 answers

Should I give my friend a letter of recommendation for my old dream job?

Last year, I worked my dream job as the Director of a small museum and cultural center, and was forced to leave because my husband's job took us to another city. A friend of mine has expressed an enthusiastic interest in the job, but does not have any museum training, or any background in managing or running any type of business or institution whatsoever. He wants me to write a letter of recommendation. Should I? [more inside]
posted by chatelaine on Jan 9, 2015 - 22 answers

Tips for reoccuring, family-style dinner parties?

What are your key tips to throwing a good dinner party? What do you do about that one friend who will. not. stop. eating? What do you think is a good price per head for a group meal? How many people do you think is ideal for a good dinner? [more inside]
posted by rebent on Jan 2, 2015 - 37 answers

Can we be friends?

Can I/should I ask someone I was casually dating (who recently ended things) to be friends? [more inside]
posted by hrj on Dec 30, 2014 - 14 answers

So...what do YOU want to do?

Need recommendations for stuff to do with a friend. A few snowflakes ahead. [more inside]
posted by xenization on Dec 30, 2014 - 12 answers

What if I just don't fit in with people?

I have the sneaking suspicion that I was born in the wrong place (or planet), and I want to come to terms with the loneliness that sometimes creeps in. Please help? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by The Shonky Shop on Dec 28, 2014 - 14 answers

How to keep people informed by web/email about my father's illness?

We are looking for a good way to keep people informed about my dad's cancer treatment. Specifically: I'd like to be able to write posts that are visible on a blog or site of some sort, but that can also be sent to a couple dozen friends and family members by email. I looked at caringbridge, but it looks like there's no way to automatically sign people up to get email updates: They have to sign in and set their notification options, which seems more complicated that we'd like. [more inside]
posted by ManInSuit on Dec 21, 2014 - 11 answers

have I made a horrible mistake

I just moved to a new apartment in a different town and I hate it. Have I made a mistake? How do I cope and feel better about this? [more inside]
posted by thereemix on Dec 17, 2014 - 26 answers

How to respect boundaries between friend and SO.

I have a good female friend whom I have some history with and a girlfriend. My friend is hurting as I prioritize her less and my girlfriend more. I want to respect both of them and their feelings. [more inside]
posted by Durin's Bane on Dec 16, 2014 - 56 answers

Should I call out my friend for racially insensitive Facebook posts?

The Ferguson incident has of course sparked many reactions from people. Facebook makes it easy for people to share images, articles, and thoughts related to their views on the incident. One of my best friends (since middle school) has been sharing things lately that skirt the boundaries of tolerance for me. I'm uncertain as to the best way to respond to her, or if I should even respond at all. Her latest share on Facebook was offensive to me, and shows a lack of sensitivity and understanding of the real things black Americans are fighting for. [more inside]
posted by starpoint on Dec 8, 2014 - 41 answers

Friend upset with me for asking her for financial help - now what?

I pissed off/offended one of my oldest friends recently and I'm at a loss as to how I should proceed. I asked her for a favor I've never really asked of any of my friends before: if she had the means to loan me around $200, though I made it clear that a lesser amount would help just as much right now. I told her I'd be able to repay it in approximately six weeks. She didn't take any of this well. [more inside]
posted by item on Dec 4, 2014 - 40 answers

How to keep it real around people I think are super cool

people who are a bit older than me in my field but who somehow see me as an equal [more inside]
posted by winterportage on Nov 27, 2014 - 9 answers

Best pro-tips for managing a five day drink-a-thon

I'm home for the holidays and seeing many friends after years apart. I have five days, each consisting of brunch, lunch and dinner with others, and am looking forward to unimaginable quantities of free alcohol. I am a seasoned (pickled?) drinker that does not normally get hangovers but never have I been on such a social whirlwind with so many opportunities to celebrate. Does anyone have advice for overcoming the potential weaknesses of the flesh to rise to this challenge? Or, how to pace myself when offered so much free deliciousness? Details below [more inside]
posted by partly squamous and partly rugose on Nov 24, 2014 - 24 answers

He didn't even want to have sex with me

My co-worker is the first guy I have been attracted to in a year and he seemed to reciprocate but then abpruptly lost interest. I can't stop obssesing over it and feeling rejected and down. [more inside]
posted by sabina_r on Nov 19, 2014 - 27 answers

how to tell people we're getting married

We’ve decided to get married after dating for about 1.5 years because he needs a visa to stay here, and I feel weird telling my friends about it. [more inside]
posted by swamp rocket on Nov 7, 2014 - 44 answers

I love you so we're done

How do I maintain the resolve to cut off a great but unhealthy friendship? [more inside]
posted by R a c h e l on Oct 26, 2014 - 15 answers

Am i in the right here, or is what she did okay?

Me and my friend had been planning to go back to a convention since it ended in March. She invited someone else to stay with us in our room, i feel uncomfortable staying with someone i've never met, and i told her all this and even linked her to the hotels website. The rooms aren't cheap enough for him so she's telling me he's going to have to stay with us. Is this right? I don't know what else to do, i've already bought my tickets and my cosplay outfit. [more inside]
posted by earthquakeglue on Oct 21, 2014 - 61 answers

... I'm probably overthinking this.

I am a single woman, all of whose straight male friends are taken. I find that this is the only kind of opposite-sex friendship I can cultivate, but when the guys in question are single, it's different story. I find it difficult to get to know or be friends with guys when they're single and I'm single. Thought I'd ask the Hivemind for your ideas. [more inside]
posted by sockandawe on Oct 15, 2014 - 16 answers

Was my friend rude to grab popcorn out of my bag without asking?

I was at the movies with two friends. We arrived early and were chatting in our seats. I like to save my popcorn for when the movie starts. So, I put a napkin over my popcorn. It's been a habit of mine since childhood (my family all does that). [more inside]
posted by starpoint on Oct 12, 2014 - 48 answers

Help me remember to get out and see my awesome friends more often

I'd like to make a list of all the people I know who live close enough to make casual plans with -- like getting a coffee or having dinner or seeing a movie -- and then keep track of how long it's been since I saw each person on that list. I'll set up a spreadsheet if I have to, but is there by any chance an app that will make this simpler for me? [more inside]
posted by Narrative Priorities on Oct 7, 2014 - 11 answers

The value of online friendship?

I'm uncertain how to proceed w/maintaining an online friendship and if I should move on or not. Internet drama ensues. [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit on Sep 28, 2014 - 14 answers

Finding friends in Fresno?

My mother moved to Fresno 4 years ago, to be near her sister. She likes it here, more or less. However, she is 65, single, bored, and I have run out of suggestions. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by ananci on Sep 20, 2014 - 11 answers

Sex, Lies, and Drama

How do I deal with the fallout from two close friends cheating with each other on a third close friend within the same social circle? [more inside]
posted by christiehawk on Sep 15, 2014 - 16 answers

It's me isn't it?

SO and I are not being invited to smaller gatherings that spin off from our social circle. SO is noticing it lately and getting a little insecure while I'm pretty sure I'm to blame. Are there any remedies for this? [more inside]
posted by 01080591 on Sep 15, 2014 - 14 answers

Where are my people?

I'm a 35-year-old American who has been living abroad for the past ten years, and I've had trouble making friends. The expat community isn't my scene (a lot of drama and drinking) and the locals aren't so welcoming to foreigners. I'm looking for some kind of online community that will give me the sense of belonging I don't have. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 12, 2014 - 10 answers

Making Friends and Dating in Madison, WI at Age 32

Hi all, I've gone through previous questions relating to live in Madison, and it looks like I'm far from the first person to feel like it's super hard to make friends or find dates here at age 32. Before I give up and move, which I am very much considering, I want to know if there are options I've overlooked as far as meeting people goes. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe on Sep 12, 2014 - 16 answers

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