My friend is deeply depressed and is trying to cut herself off from me and her other friends. How can I try to help her? Key questions: 1) Any suggestions on how to try to convince her that I genuinely want to stick around and be her friend and it's not just out of obligation, and/or other other ways to respond to her trying to push me away? 2) She's given up on hope of any treatment or improvement-- I think she might be borderline and that DBT could be a good fit for her regardless-- any suggestions of what I could send her about DBT and/or BPD (or anything else) that would have the best chance of getting through to her and giving her hope that things can get better?
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posted by EmilyClimbs
on Apr 8, 2011 -
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Am I just being oversensitive? My girlfriend shares an apt with her cousin (male) whom she calls her best friend. I feel like the relationship is kind of creepy and closer than any best friend situation I've ever seen. He calls her 3-4 times a day, just to check in. She waits until late night to eat dinner with him even though she gets home at 5. They do everything together.
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posted by antipode12
on Apr 3, 2011 -
68 answers
Married white female seeks a good night's rest without dreams of having intimate relations with a close male friend. Can you help?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 21, 2011 -
17 answers
I can't decide if I should offer any financial assistance to an old HS friend and his family who are facing some heavy duty medical bills also while enduring extended unemployment.
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posted by Jamesonian
on Mar 9, 2011 -
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A new friend/acquaintance has made some quasi-suicidal statements and is obviously delusional and routinely binge drinks. What, if anything, should I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 2, 2011 -
10 answers
My friend's dad just passed away. How can I help him? What can I do?
I live couple thousand miles away from where he is. Can you give me some suggestions?
Is it bad if I start compiling list of government agencies or funeral homes for them to call? What else I can do?
posted by Carius
on Jan 2, 2011 -
16 answers
Loaned a friend a smart phone and very soon afterward he dropped it in water. Help me to beanplate how to get over feeling irritated at my friend.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 23, 2010 -
36 answers
How to help recover $400+ owed to my mother; or how to help her let go of this (minor) debt and move on?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 14, 2010 -
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I am a guy who is inexperienced with relationships. I like a girl who has been my friend for couple of years. I don't know what her feelings are. We sometimes hang out together, but usually with other people. I want something more but don't know how to proceed. Details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 29, 2010 -
16 answers
Invited to an old friend's wedding, but not as a guest. I'm feeling guilty about how I'm feeling... Am I right to feel this way?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 8, 2010 -
75 answers
My friend was in the hospital and a surgeon delivered the wrong (and devastating news to the family). How should we handle the situation?
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posted by Felex
on Nov 3, 2010 -
43 answers
Bored with Friends, What to Do? I've tried coming up new ideas for creative fun but somehow we always end up sticking to the routine (walk and coffee or meals). And we are entering this phase that our conversations have gone a bit less personal, less humorous, somewhat meaningless and flat.
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posted by easilyconfused
on Nov 1, 2010 -
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How should I deal with a friend's toddler who is repeatedly aggressive toward my toddler?
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posted by chippie
on Oct 30, 2010 -
28 answers
I think a friend of mine may have feelings for me, but I'm not sure how all that works nor what to do about it. Can you help a romantically clueless girl in the right direction? Details below.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 27, 2010 -
18 answers
What should friends know about each other? For lovers, there are lots of lists of "questions you should ask". I'd like to find something like that, but for good friends.
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posted by sninctown
on Oct 15, 2010 -
10 answers
Did I do the right thing by telling a friend off about her abusive ex? If not...how to fix, please?
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posted by motsque
on Oct 8, 2010 -
15 answers
You are a 22 year old guy who asks to stay over at a female friends' place where there is only one bed and no other furniture, and then decide to sleep on the floor after being offered a spot on the bed. What are you thinking?
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posted by bearette
on Oct 4, 2010 -
56 answers
I have been with my girlfriend for what will be 4 months total as of October 4th. Still feels like the “honeymoon” period. Though, neither of us have had the best lives, so meeting each other was a blessing to say the least. Life changing in a lot of ways.
The only issue that seems to ever come up doesn't even directly relate to us or our relationship. It's her one friend of 3 years.
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posted by jolynntech
on Sep 24, 2010 -
21 answers
A friend of mine who is an intelligent, hard worker, is looking for a job. She's been applying for a while, and I was truly surprised that she hasn't had an offer yet (academic post-docs) - until I saw her CV/ resume. It is not at ALL well-written.
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posted by Everydayville
on Sep 23, 2010 -
29 answers
My friend asked if I was bisexual and I am feeling really angry about it. Should I be mad at her?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 18, 2010 -
39 answers
An ex-friend I ended the frienship with contacted me via email after over a year of no contact. The email was along the lines of, "do you still use this account? I guess sending this means I wish to reconnect." I don't want to resume the friendship with her, but she has serious mental health issues and we have a lot of friends in common so I feel obligated to answer the email... mostly to not seem like an a-hole. Do I have to answer it? If so, what should I say? I'm afraid even a really vague response will encourage her; she has really poor boundaries.
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posted by ShadePlant
on Sep 15, 2010 -
26 answers
My ladyfriend's ex is inviting himself to her birthday visit, how do I untangle this soap opera?
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posted by rhizome
on Aug 31, 2010 -
25 answers
How does one remain friends with an uber-environmentalist/naturalist without having them drive you crazy?
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posted by teg4rvn
on Aug 18, 2010 -
33 answers
My friend is seeing a married man. I am NOT excited at all for her. How do I stay out of it when all she ever does is talk about how great he is? Help me mind my own business.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 9, 2010 -
35 answers
Should my partner tell her vegan friend that she's started eating fish? If so, how should she break the news?
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posted by Beardman
on Jul 20, 2010 -
32 answers
A girl I am currently living with and working with abroad has the terrible habit of unknowingly chewing all of her food with her mouth open and making a terribly annoying sound. We´re friendly though not best friends. Do I tell her? I feel like I would only be doing her a favor but I haven´t known her that long and I don´t know if it´s my place to intervene. Thoughts?
posted by masters2010
on Jul 15, 2010 -
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I didn't think the whole "if you're persistent it'll work" thing would work, but it did and now I have a chance to get to know her better...what do I do? She's gorgeous and smart...now if I can just get her to laugh some more with me, I'll be on the right path. Or do I boast, or compliment?
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posted by talljamal
on Jul 15, 2010 -
25 answers
What's the best way to recommend a friend for a job that I
know my institution will think she's overqualified for?
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posted by dlugoczaj
on Jun 24, 2010 -
8 answers
I want to make the perfect goodbye mix for a best friend who is moving cross-country.
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posted by lunit
on Jun 6, 2010 -
11 answers
How can I begin taking steps to get past this heartache that I've been hanging onto after falling in love with my best friend and move on to find someone who is actually emotionally available?
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posted by dorothyrose
on Jun 6, 2010 -
5 answers
My wife and I moved small, rural town of 10,000 about a year ago. I've yet to meet a single local geek. Tell me how to meet them!
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posted by petehern
on Jun 4, 2010 -
22 answers
I have no phone and little contact information on a friend who may be suicidal right now. I need quick answers -
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posted by deacon_blues
on May 27, 2010 -
18 answers
I think I accidentally got a job for someone I really don't want to work with, at my company.
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posted by anonymous
on May 26, 2010 -
12 answers
This girl (20's) and myself (guy in my 20's) have been planning this trip for her to come visit me for some time. I go to an east coast graduate school and she goes to my old college in the Midwest. She wants to check out the school for graduate potential and we've been pretty close friends for a few years (we were in the same major, took many classes together, hung out frequently). The plan was for her to come here and sleep at my place.
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posted by anonymous
on May 26, 2010 -
27 answers
I'm writing a cover letter for a job application at a company. Should I mention in the letter how I found out about the opening?
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posted by bluefly
on Mar 28, 2010 -
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