A group of friends effectively dropped me for the last year and now they are making overtures as if nothing happened. How to react?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 16, 2013 -
26 answers
Death of a parent and a breakup- how to disentangle the two, get a virtual lobotomy regarding the breakup, and for heavens sake just fucking move on regarding the breakup.
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posted by xm
on Feb 27, 2013 -
20 answers
I started smoking weed in my early twenties, when I moved away from my hometown to a larger city in a different country. It's enough to say that I wasn't adapted well to being on my own; that, combined with the stress of a new job, a language barrier, and a few health problems that chipped away at my self-esteem, led me to take comfort in marijuana, on and off, for ten years. How do I forgive myself for the feelings of shame I have?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 8, 2013 -
26 answers
An in-law said a bunch of hurtful things to me and now I can't get over it. How do I get past anger and resentment—and the worry that the in-law's hostility to me will harm my kids—so we can get on with the business of being a family?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 6, 2012 -
23 answers
I suffer from depression and issues relating to low self esteem. In a moment of unbelievably horrible judgment and extreme selfishness I slept with my best friend's husband. She found out. I'm pretty sure I've lost her friendship forever and I have no idea how to deal with this crushing guilt and regret.
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posted by anonymous
on May 8, 2012 -
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I am angry at everyone who tries to be friendly with me because of a repeated thing that has happened to me socially and with my family as well. I really don't want to become bitter and friendless but I either feel like I'm putting on an act or I get angry.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 22, 2012 -
19 answers
I thought I had forgiven my friend, but whenever it comes up I am disturbed by our differing accounts of the same events. Why does this bother me so much? How can I truly forgive her?
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posted by abirdinthehand
on Nov 18, 2011 -
32 answers
Am I in a good relationship, or is it time to move on? When do you let someone go, even though you love them? My S.O has chronic pain and I have helped him through alot, are things about to get better for us, or would you say this is a dead-end relationship that could go on like this forever?
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posted by amacph10
on Jun 8, 2011 -
32 answers
Please help me help my friend find the source of a story she remembers. I don't know why, but she really, really wants to find it, so I'm hoping the hive mind can help. (story after the jump)
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posted by kestralwing
on Jan 11, 2011 -
6 answers
A good friend intentionally hurt me. I cut off all contact in an attempt to move on, which so far seems to be working. The only problem? He's also my roommate and business partner. He'll be home from an extended absence soon and I need help drawing and maintaining boundaries for two people who should realistically have no contact with each other, but are instead stuck sharing a bathroom and a checking account.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 24, 2010 -
23 answers
I did a bad thing this weekend. Everybody I hurt has been apologized to and has forgiven me, but I'm having a hell of a time forgiving myself.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 4, 2009 -
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I need some secular resources for learning to forgive, and how to relate if you have a broken relationship model. I have got to stop wanting an apology from someone who is never going to apologize to me.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 11, 2009 -
31 answers
ForgivenessFilter: help me to get over something a now-SO had the right to do, but hurt like hell anyway.
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posted by trouserlouse
on Mar 2, 2008 -
28 answers
I was seeing a sex therapist for about a year. We had a little tiff and now I don't go there anymore. I could still use the therapy though. Should I forgive and forget or are there more
thera-fish in the sea? (Potentially NSFW)
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 2, 2008 -
22 answers
Please tell me you remember an episode of
Davey and Goliath where Davey steals a hypnotic, psychedelic toy from a friend and learns a valuable lesson in return.
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posted by item
on Dec 25, 2007 -
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Is there any other way (other than the passing of time and being completely truthful) to help better regain someone's trust after a lie or two has been committed?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 14, 2007 -
12 answers
What does buddhism/hinduism/christian say about forgiving self.
I am not able to forgive myself for the mistakes i made and mistakes i will be making in the future and keep torturing myself saying i should be perfect.
I am not able to change myself as a result.
Any other insight on self-forgiveness.
posted by mot123
on Oct 16, 2007 -
28 answers
I'm having trouble thinking of any narrative movies with "forgiveness" as a theme...anyone?
posted by beautiful
on Aug 22, 2007 -
39 answers
How can I forgive my SO for hurtful things done (and apologized for) in the past? I'm having a really hard time moving on and moving forward due to my inability to forgive.
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posted by zoey08
on Dec 12, 2006 -
19 answers
I have a friend who is convinced, because of a combination of a breakdown of some sort and failing most of her freshman classes, that she has to sit out for something like seven years before she can go back to a University. Is this right? Is there some sort of grade forgiveness or a 'do over' button or something for getting a higher education? What's the deal? Is she forever screwed?
posted by geekhorde
on Nov 5, 2006 -
26 answers
How do I make amends for being a complete jerk to a family member? I'm looking for something specific I can do to express my regret without coming across as condescending or smarmy.
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posted by jesourie
on Jul 10, 2006 -
19 answers
DebtForgivenessFilter: I'm currently student teaching and expect to get my licensure in May or June, and a job shortly thereafter. Problem is, over my educational career, I've managed to accumulate a not-insubstantial amount in student loans. I'd like to see them lessened to vanish entirely. [+mi]
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posted by absalom
on Jan 20, 2005 -
7 answers
