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Shitting where you eat.

I made the very classic mistake of sleeping with a coworker and now trying to pretend nothing happened. What is the protocol for this, because I have suspicions she is breaking it. Medium-long post. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 10, 2012 - 36 answers

Les Liaisons Dangereuses?: What is flirting, and am I doing it?

What is flirting? And am I doing it? [more inside]
posted by UniversityNomad on Feb 10, 2012 - 47 answers

Help me flirt with my uber hot sweetie?

flirting tips/ideas? i'm really good at sweet, romantic, thoughtful, etc. not the best at sexy. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 21, 2012 - 11 answers

It gives you so much to talk about, but no way to flirt about it.

Cross-cultural daters, how different is flirting across (very distinct) cultures? Please tell me about your experiences with culture flirt shock. [more inside]
posted by stroke_count on Dec 22, 2011 - 7 answers

How do I talk to gf about her past, secrecy and daddy issues?

She doesn't want to talk about her past; I feel it's relevant to our relationship. Most of her close friends are ex-FWBs and flirt incessantly/proposition her for sex, she's secretive about things. I don't know what to do or what to say. [more inside]
posted by the milky bar kid on Nov 28, 2011 - 59 answers

Less attractive than I think?

I know the general practice for women is to date guys who seem into you, but what if guys don't seem into you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 22, 2011 - 31 answers

How can I look sexier?

I can't really believe I'm asking this, but: what are some things I can do to look "sexier," in a heteronormative-woman kind of way? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 13, 2011 - 54 answers

Strikeout for the awakwrd guy

This is a follow up to my previous question. Made a move on a girl who I thought had some interest in me. I thought wrong, apparently... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 13, 2011 - 47 answers

Help the guy who trips over his own tongue compliment the girl who won't accept compliments.

Increasingly frustrated bloke looking for practical advice on how to say to his girlfriend - who won't accept compliments - without it sounding cheesy or like I'm angling to get her into bed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 10, 2011 - 26 answers

The Hook Up Guide for the Awkward Guy?

How do I make a move and initiate a hook up? Awkward guy in need of help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 5, 2011 - 31 answers

How friendly is too friendly with an attached man?

Are you a bad person if your guy friend leaves his girlfriend for you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 30, 2011 - 56 answers

Is this guy really confident, or a weirdo?

I've been asked out by a complete stranger. I need some help deciding between being flattered and impressed by his confidence, or being suspicious and forgetting the whole thing. [more inside]
posted by kmnpdx on Aug 28, 2011 - 62 answers

If I turn them down I'm a bitch; if I don't, I'm "leading them on" and I'm still a bitch

I don't know how to reject men! I just know I'm handling this all wrong, please advise. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 7, 2011 - 45 answers

To use info from a girl's online profile in talking to her offline?

I've recently made chit-chat with an attractive barista at a coffee shop I frequent, mostly about the writing group I meet with there and a band we both like that she was playing over the sound system one day. This past weekend I signed into OKCupid for the first time in awhile, and she's one of the first matches that comes up for me. So now not only do I know that she's single, but that we both like several other bands, authors, shows and movies. We actually have a good bit in common. Do I exploit my new-found knowledge of her to make conversation in person (which is publicly posted, and it's not like I went looking for it), or do I message her on OKC in a "fancy meeting you here" sort of way? Which is less creepy?
posted by Zorz on Jul 26, 2011 - 40 answers

How do you flirt with someone on the other side of a room?

How do you flirt with someone on the other side of a room? Let's say I'm sitting in a bar at a table with some friends and I see a girl sitting with a female friend on the other side of the room who appears to look at me a couple of times. What should I do? Smile? Go over and say hello? Assume she was just looking in my general direction and not at me?
posted by rwatson on Apr 6, 2011 - 32 answers

Asking someone out when there's no sign they're interested?

Does it make sense to ask someone out even when there aren't any signs that the other person is interested? [more inside]
posted by rwatson on Mar 23, 2011 - 24 answers

Help me flirt like a man?

How do men and women flirt differently? I'm a straight man who often comes off as feminine or gay, and I don't like it. I think it's ruining my success with women. Help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 21, 2011 - 53 answers

To Online Date, or Not to Online Date, that is the question

Should I try online dating or stick to hoping to meet someone in the outside world? More details inside. [more inside]
posted by Polgara on Feb 5, 2011 - 29 answers

And no, unavailable is not code for married...

I've realized that I can only relax and be myself around men I'm attracted to if I believe they are unavailable. How do I break through this mental barrier so I can relax with men who are available? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 11, 2011 - 11 answers


I believe my boyfriend may be entering in to an emotional affair with a former coworker via facebook. How do i bring this up without seeming untrusting when nothing physical has happened (yet?) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 2, 2011 - 37 answers

Could we maybe just kiss a little and then forget this ever happened?

Given that I know my defence mechanisms are still operating on high after leaving an emotionally abusive relationship, and I keep getting cold feet with anyone who tries to get close to me, and yet still crave small doses of intimacy, how can I ethically conduct myself with people who are/could be interested in me? [more inside]
posted by Chrysalis on Dec 21, 2010 - 6 answers

I need help with flirting!

I'm a straight 29-year old male, who for various reasons has never dated and now is trying to get started. The problem is that I never learned how to flirt, and I'm totally clueless about how to either generate interest or recognize interest in others. What's worse, the standard "Martian's guides to dating" are almost useless to me because my primary social activities are forms of partner dancing, in which the norms of physical contact are different enough that I can't use the standard signals to judge someone's interest. So, what can I do to attract the ladies or notice when they're attracted to me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 30, 2010 - 19 answers

Places for flirty conversation online?

Where can I find people to chat with online who are interested in flirting, but not necessarily a relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 26, 2010 - 8 answers

You're like a fixed gear bike, fun to ride and hard to stop

For Halloweeen I'm going to be Valentine's Day and pass out homemade Valentines to people. I need a lot of repurposed pick-up lines and dirty jokes and terrible puns for the cards. Think "I CHOO-CHOO-CHOOSE YOU!" for drunken adults. [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana on Oct 17, 2010 - 12 answers

No, I really do just want to be friends.

How can I best deal with the unwanted romantic advances of someone I will be seeing on a regular basis? Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 18, 2010 - 26 answers

How easy do I or do I not have it as a woman in the dating world?

All right. How difficult is it for women to flirt with men *really*? I often hear that just smiling at a dude is good enough, but how true is that? What tactics have been successful for you, ladies? What is it you gentlemen out there wish a woman would (reasonably) do in a social situation? I've read the SIRC guide to flirting, but I'm looking for some real world anecdotes to supplement that. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 12, 2010 - 38 answers

My schedule is totally not interested in you

Mind-reading Filter: What does this mean - "Well, I'm totally booked up this week... I don't know what my schedule is next week." [more inside]
posted by XMLicious on Aug 10, 2010 - 21 answers


Help me not be a socially-awkward weirdo around men I find attractive. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 4, 2010 - 11 answers

Did I Just Waste My Flirting Skills on a Back-Up Boyfriend?

Thought I hit it off with somebody I met through a mutual friend. There's been lots of fun chatting at parties, a bit of drunk flirting, but I fear I may have misread their intentions. After talking with both the mutual friend & this person, I'm starting to suspect that this person perhaps has feelings for the mutual friend. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 25, 2010 - 7 answers

Excuse me, what?

Do guys mention wanting to get laid to girls they don't want to lay? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 14, 2010 - 38 answers

Always have a plan b

What's the best way to keep things light and limit embarrassment for both people if the other person rejects you when you make a move? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 28, 2010 - 25 answers

Hi AskMetafilter, nice to meet you!

What are some of the sweetest text messages you have sent or received? [more inside]
posted by lover on Jun 22, 2010 - 16 answers

When is it okay to ask someone out?

Great with online dating, not so much in the real world. How can I better recognize when it's okay to ask someone out? [more inside]
posted by photo guy on Jun 13, 2010 - 13 answers

Embracing the inner flirt for work, but probably not evil.

In which professions/careers is being flirty a plus? [more inside]
posted by mokudekiru on Jun 1, 2010 - 46 answers

Please don't ask me on a date.

I know a guy in person that I've been chatting with online. In person, I'm not attracted to him at all. But I am intellectually turned on by the conversations we have. (Anon because I talk to this guy on the internet.) I don't want this to go any farther. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 23, 2010 - 15 answers

Should guys stay alone in their unsuccessful social situations?

Relatively unfriendly guy, exceedingly caring and friendly with good-looking girl. Help me understand this social behavior -- and should I do anything? [more inside]
posted by knz on May 22, 2010 - 21 answers

Is there a way for a guy to flirt with men who aren't in a gay bar?

How do I flirt with men without upsetting straight ones? [more inside]
posted by beingresourceful on May 2, 2010 - 27 answers

Why is flirting hard to read and easy to mistake?

Trying to decipher whether or not to embarrass myself by attempting to flirt with a guy in one of my classes. Should I even bother? Am I reading WAY too much into a comment? I was always bad at this. [more inside]
posted by ChucksNPaintbrushes on Apr 29, 2010 - 51 answers

Is my behavior completely wrong?

Alright, so I am 20-something female, pretty outgoing/friendly, and (I think) relatively well-liked. My problem is that I can't figure out the nuances of human interaction. (FYI: somewhat-long question ahead). [more inside]
posted by Sakura3210 on Apr 25, 2010 - 26 answers

How can I return a favour without being flirtatious?

How can I return a favour without being flirtatious? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 14, 2010 - 37 answers

Why don't good looking guys my age hit on me, but groups of 14 year olds will?

Do really good looking guys ever ask for the numbers of women they don't know? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 20, 2010 - 44 answers

Should a (probable) asexual still date?

I am asexual (I think) but I still get strong feelings for people. Should I still pursue relationships? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 6, 2010 - 27 answers

I'm unavailable and not really interested in snogging you...but please think I'm brilliant and awesome and hot!

Why am I addicted to male attention? And how do I stop? [more inside]
posted by blackcatcuriouser on Mar 1, 2010 - 29 answers

He's a lot like me. But handsomer.

How to deal with a Lothario in your social scene? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 23, 2010 - 34 answers


Help a late-blooming dating newbie figure out the mysteries of entering a relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 25, 2010 - 11 answers

How can I get my friend to stop flirting with me?

How can I get my friend to stop flirting with me? [more inside]
posted by whitelily on Jan 15, 2010 - 43 answers

I don't know how to be gay.

I'm a twenty year old gay woman. For 2010, I want to learn how to flirt with other women. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 24, 2009 - 15 answers

I just think that we'd get on.

I haven't had a crush since I was 14 and now I have a HUGE one. I have never had to be the pursuer before, but now I think I need to be. AskMeFi, teach me to flirt and pursue while still keeping me cool!! [more inside]
posted by SkylitDrawl on Nov 16, 2009 - 19 answers

Extroversion or flirting?

How do you tell the difference between someone who's an extrovert and someone who's romantically interested in you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 21, 2009 - 23 answers

Men: "Nice shoes!" (trans: let's fuck!) Women: "Nice shoes!" (trans: let's be friends!)

Previously dated men, now wants to date women. Problem: I can't tell when women are interested in me or if they just want to be friends. [more inside]
posted by Eleutherios on Oct 13, 2009 - 17 answers

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