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Scared of attraction.

29 year old heterosexual male. I believe that I have social anxiety when it comes to talking to women I am attracted to - perhaps more than normal. This has meant very little sex or relationships throughout my life. Practical ideas for dealing with this would be appreciated. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 25, 2015 - 18 answers

What constitutes "breastaurant decorum?"

What kind of behavior do sexually charged food-service businesses expect, and welcome, from their customers? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 1, 2015 - 23 answers

Time-Sensitive Seduction? Or: not letting ship-in-the-night sail on by.

I have been crushing heavily on a guy who's been working as part of a construction team renovating my office space since September. After months of crossing paths without a word, just eye contact, we finally made small talk, but kept the talk going, and he sustained a very steady eye contact which I feel to be indicating some interest, even if he's not strongly signaling. His project wraps up in a week. Perhaps he feels there's no point in making a move. But I want something to happen. What do I do to make him mine? [more inside]
posted by taramosalata on Dec 5, 2014 - 14 answers

How do I not be a meet cute mouse?

Meet cute happens. (Yes, these actually happen IRL.) The next time I encounter my meet cute, suddenly this successful, smart, outspoken women becomes a mouse. Literally small and fuzzy and hiding in a corner if at all possible. Any concrete strategies for not doing this? HALP! Example and background after the break. [more inside]
posted by susiswimmer on Oct 8, 2014 - 21 answers

Poem ID: two lovers meet in a shop and touch hands over handkerchiefs

I've thus far been unable to find this poem online given only the lines I remember. It starts off with something like "she asked how much for the handkerchiefs..." and then she flirts with the store worker, and they use the handkerchiefs as an excuse to touch hands. And there's a line about the shopkeeper being in the back so he doesn't notice... [more inside]
posted by ch3cooh on Sep 11, 2014 - 3 answers

How to make sense of this body language?

I'm in a situation at work where I am picking up signals from a colleague that he is interested in me. I have come to return his interest. But I am single and as far as I can tell, he is not. So I wonder how to interpret his behavior: is he doing it unwittingly? Unintentionally? If intentionally, why? [more inside]
posted by macinchik on Sep 7, 2014 - 28 answers

On friend zoning: I'm not leading you on just because I'm female, right?

Does simply agreeing to hang out one-on-one with somebody of the opposite gender send the message that I'm possibly into them? If so, oops. What are some good next steps? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit on Sep 6, 2014 - 32 answers

Calling all single dads..I need your advice.

I'm crushing on a single dad, how do I go about this? [more inside]
posted by hellameangirl on Aug 8, 2014 - 33 answers

Why men gotta be like that!

Why do men with wives/girlfriends aggressively hit on me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 30, 2014 - 35 answers

Someone's keen.

I almost dated someone but complicated circumstances left us with no choice but to remain friends. Despite this, she still flirts with me continuously. How do I deal with that? A slight snowstorm inside. [more inside]
posted by sapien on Mar 10, 2014 - 24 answers

How do I get a boyfriend?

How do people go from crushes to more? [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess on Jan 14, 2014 - 23 answers

What are some cultural examples of strong, smart, flirtatious women?

I get nervous about flirting and dating, and my friend suggested I 'fake it til I make it' by trying to imitate someone I wish I could be like. But I'm having trouble thinking of fictional characters/celebrity role models. What are some examples of women who are intellectual/feminist/strong but also forward and good at flirting? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 6, 2013 - 35 answers

How should I proceed with this confusing crush?

What should you do when it would be inappropriate to be romantically involved with someone, yet the attraction between you is so strong it feels like the relationship is gathering momentum and heading towards the inevitable? [more inside]
posted by sweetshine on Nov 1, 2013 - 26 answers

Yar, I need to flirt with a pirate.

Tomorrow I (a single dad) will be volunteering at my child's Halloween Party. I have been flirting with a cute single mom for a while now and I have advance knowledge that she will be coming as a pirate. I'm in need of a good pirate/nautical opening line that can be delivered in a kindergarten setting. [more inside]
posted by unixrat on Oct 30, 2013 - 38 answers

Help, I suffer from chronic bitchface

How do I seem more approachable in social settings without being a total fake? [more inside]
posted by thank you silence on Oct 13, 2013 - 41 answers

Do I not understand Facebook standards?

I feel ridiculous for even asking but...I have a very happy and satisfying relationship with my domestic partner of several years. Seriously...everything's fine except for this one little's about how we both approach Facebook (we're both in our late 30's). He and I don't communicate, like or comment on each other's walls and we never have. But he does comment in a somewhat flirty manner with his exes (and I mean these are women from MANY years ago), and I've asked him, "What's up with that?" and his response has been, "It's nothing. Just being chatty." [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 9, 2013 - 11 answers

Husband playing with fire - chances *I* will get burned?

Husband has always been friendly with women, but never too flirtatious. Husband met a woman in the course of his workday (on his commute) and they struck up an "aquaintanceship" based around their daily metro commute. Things have progressed a bit too far for my tastes and I'm trying to understand his mindset. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 26, 2013 - 44 answers

shy person dating

Can you help an unexperienced, shy person figure out if I'm doing this dating thing right? [more inside]
posted by swamp rocket on Jul 4, 2013 - 14 answers

What advice would you give me if there might still be a chance?

I’ve had a small crush on a co worker that later turned into a pretty big one. It’s gotten to the point where I couldn’t get her off my mind and it was hard focusing on school work. I’m 25 and haven’t had much dating experience. In my younger years, middle school throughout high school, I had self esteem issues with being overweight and then with acne. I’ve come here seeking advice from a wide verity of experiences of both genders. I found a similar case to mine on here and found the answers very useful so I hope to get great advice from this community. I apologize in advance for a long winded background story but I wanted to make sure I get enough information out to aid you guys. [more inside]
posted by uberkrn on Apr 15, 2013 - 21 answers

Do you like me or what?

I kinda think the dude likes me but I'm not sure and I'm tired of waiting to find out [more inside]
posted by thank you silence on Apr 7, 2013 - 17 answers

"Who's your daddy?" "Not you."

I am only approached by men who are much older than me. I approach men my age, and it doesn't go so well. How do I stop this? [more inside]
posted by koucha on Mar 6, 2013 - 30 answers

Sick of being single, unsure of where to start

21 year old college student with past relationship experience, but I can't get a date to save my life. I believe I know the problem(s) but I'm unsure how to get started in term of solving things. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 25, 2013 - 20 answers

help me flirt in a professional setting

How do I, a barista, flirt with one of my hot regulars? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 20, 2013 - 54 answers

I like someone, how do I talk to them without sounding crazy?

I like a guy but I don't think of myself as attractive. Obviously, he is attractive to me, but I also think he is considered attractive by most people. People tell me that you should always aim for your own attractiveness-level, so I'm wary about this already. Plus I really don't know how to talk to him because I've placed him on this pedestal and I am completely in awe. How do I approach him? [more inside]
posted by madsy on Jan 18, 2013 - 27 answers

Help me at least TRY to flirt with my friend

Seeing as how I was an utter failure at my LAST crush, I’m determined to do things differently and boy do I want to move on from that nightmare. Help me figure out how to do it. [more inside]
posted by christiehawk on Dec 31, 2012 - 12 answers

how to explain to a flirty friend about being monogamish?

I didn't cheat on my girlfriend but it might look like I did; I flirted with my friend but I don't want it to be emotional. What to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 13, 2012 - 24 answers


Coworker I think I may like, and who may or may not kinda like me, did something today that I'm trying to figure out whether it was flirty or innocuous. Level-5 beanplating below the fold. [more inside]
posted by mreleganza on Nov 25, 2012 - 23 answers

Is he flirting? Trying to get my attention?

Is he flirting? Trying to get my attention? [more inside]
posted by femmefatale123 on Oct 28, 2012 - 43 answers

Have you seen the movie "Secretary"? Yeah, like that.

Asking for a Friend/CoWorker: Boss and underling develop feelings for each. Both break it off, but now friend is feeling hurt and rejected. What advice can I give her? [more inside]
posted by Danithegirl on Jun 19, 2012 - 19 answers

Getting hit on, red flags, and Europe

How can I tell when someone is hitting on me, and what red flags can I look for? In general and also specifically for Europe. [more inside]
posted by hotchocolate on Jun 7, 2012 - 13 answers

Don't Have a Man, Don't Need One, Thanks.....

I get hit on a lot at work. It's not flattering at all. I find it very embarrassing and demoralizing. I don't know how to cope. [more inside]
posted by chara on Jun 4, 2012 - 62 answers

How do I relax and just get laid, rather than obsessing over it?

I want to have more sex, but I don't want to get hung up about it. How do I stop obsessing about (not) getting any? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 25, 2012 - 17 answers

Turned off by forwardness

Is it strange that I get turned off by outright flirting and sexual advances from men? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 15, 2012 - 30 answers

Please don't flirt with me, sonny

How to kindly discourage flirting in a pen-pal context? Military perspectives very welcome. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 23, 2012 - 12 answers

How to Get What I Want

How do I, an early-30's woman, get what I want when it comes to dating and sex? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 21, 2012 - 16 answers

Damage Control

I think I accidentally lead on my non-English-speaking coworker. iAyudame, por favor! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 13, 2012 - 13 answers

Shitting where you eat.

I made the very classic mistake of sleeping with a coworker and now trying to pretend nothing happened. What is the protocol for this, because I have suspicions she is breaking it. Medium-long post. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 10, 2012 - 36 answers

Les Liaisons Dangereuses?: What is flirting, and am I doing it?

What is flirting? And am I doing it? [more inside]
posted by UniversityNomad on Feb 10, 2012 - 47 answers

Help me flirt with my uber hot sweetie?

flirting tips/ideas? i'm really good at sweet, romantic, thoughtful, etc. not the best at sexy. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 21, 2012 - 11 answers

It gives you so much to talk about, but no way to flirt about it.

Cross-cultural daters, how different is flirting across (very distinct) cultures? Please tell me about your experiences with culture flirt shock. [more inside]
posted by stroke_count on Dec 22, 2011 - 7 answers

How do I talk to gf about her past, secrecy and daddy issues?

She doesn't want to talk about her past; I feel it's relevant to our relationship. Most of her close friends are ex-FWBs and flirt incessantly/proposition her for sex, she's secretive about things. I don't know what to do or what to say. [more inside]
posted by the milky bar kid on Nov 28, 2011 - 59 answers

Less attractive than I think?

I know the general practice for women is to date guys who seem into you, but what if guys don't seem into you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 22, 2011 - 31 answers

How can I look sexier?

I can't really believe I'm asking this, but: what are some things I can do to look "sexier," in a heteronormative-woman kind of way? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 13, 2011 - 54 answers

Strikeout for the awakwrd guy

This is a follow up to my previous question. Made a move on a girl who I thought had some interest in me. I thought wrong, apparently... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 13, 2011 - 47 answers

Help the guy who trips over his own tongue compliment the girl who won't accept compliments.

Increasingly frustrated bloke looking for practical advice on how to say to his girlfriend - who won't accept compliments - without it sounding cheesy or like I'm angling to get her into bed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 10, 2011 - 26 answers

The Hook Up Guide for the Awkward Guy?

How do I make a move and initiate a hook up? Awkward guy in need of help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 5, 2011 - 31 answers

How friendly is too friendly with an attached man?

Are you a bad person if your guy friend leaves his girlfriend for you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 30, 2011 - 56 answers

Is this guy really confident, or a weirdo?

I've been asked out by a complete stranger. I need some help deciding between being flattered and impressed by his confidence, or being suspicious and forgetting the whole thing. [more inside]
posted by kmnpdx on Aug 28, 2011 - 62 answers

If I turn them down I'm a bitch; if I don't, I'm "leading them on" and I'm still a bitch

I don't know how to reject men! I just know I'm handling this all wrong, please advise. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 7, 2011 - 45 answers

To use info from a girl's online profile in talking to her offline?

I've recently made chit-chat with an attractive barista at a coffee shop I frequent, mostly about the writing group I meet with there and a band we both like that she was playing over the sound system one day. This past weekend I signed into OKCupid for the first time in awhile, and she's one of the first matches that comes up for me. So now not only do I know that she's single, but that we both like several other bands, authors, shows and movies. We actually have a good bit in common. Do I exploit my new-found knowledge of her to make conversation in person (which is publicly posted, and it's not like I went looking for it), or do I message her on OKC in a "fancy meeting you here" sort of way? Which is less creepy?
posted by Zorz on Jul 26, 2011 - 40 answers

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