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Should I do online dating? (22 year-old female)

I'm 22 years old. I have never had a boyfriend and have never been on a date. Currently I'm finishing up my undergrad and will be entering a Master program in the Fall. I think I'm fairly attractive and I do not have a super high standard. At my college, I do socialize and have a lot of friends but for some reasons, I don't know many guys and the ones I know are either already in a relationship or just not interested in me. I've thought about online dating but I don't know if I'm too young for it, if my inexperience would put me in dangerous situations, etc. I've thought about joining paid sites such as match.com or eharmony.com because I thought maybe guys are more serious on those sites. However, I am still a student and my budget is limited. I'd greatly appreciate any advice anyone has for me.
posted by missybitsy on Mar 12, 2014 - 18 answers

I Went Out With A Dreamboat and It Went Well - Now What?!

I'm really inexperienced with these things, so forgive me! I went on a first date with a wonderful dude- he's one of those mind-blowingly amazing dudes, too cool for school, super amazingly successful, a fantastic artist, puts every inch of his abilities to full use, makes the best of himself and all his abilities..He's a dreamboat in everyway. I've known him from online for a few years. And we'd run into each other once in a while and say hi. He asked me out about a year ago, canceled on me the morning of our date and then didn't contact me again. Then a few weeks ago he asked me out and we weren't able to make a time to hang out (actually, I suggested Monday and he got back to me Monday evening saying he's too busy.) Then we decided to hang out yesterday. The date went very well! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 17, 2013 - 36 answers

Dating, touching, "sparks", and so on... what should I be looking for?

I'm an late-20s-guy finally starting to date for the first time. Overall, I'm finding the process fun, but as someone completely new to relationships and how they form - and someone who's self-analytical to the point of over-analyzing - I feel a little uncertain as to what's expected of me, and how I should behave on the first few dates. I've found a few useful resources on the Internet, but there's a lot of creepy advice out there, and I'd like to get some feedback from real people. So: when should I expect to feel a "spark"? Do you start touching your date in small ways before you feel a connection, or do you really only do that if you feel something? And what are the expectations surrounding that first kiss? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 17, 2013 - 23 answers

First and second date within 48 hours-Money don't matter tonight?

I finally got to ask a coworker out for coffee. The meeting, I think, went down pretty well. 1 and 1/2 hour of good conversation with no awkward silences as far as I know. We had previously talked briefly several times at the workplace, and I knew we shared several interests, which I confirmed after today's mostly pleasant encounter. HOWEVER... [more inside]
posted by Basque13 on Jul 12, 2013 - 17 answers

Asked someone out for a first date, how long do I wait for an answer?

I'm totally rusty on this sort of thing, and so have no idea myself. I asked a woman out, and I haven't received a response yet. Should I keep expecting a response? When does her non-answer become my answer? (Snowflake details within.) [more inside]
posted by Capt. Renault on Jul 5, 2013 - 24 answers

Should I ask her when would be a good time to call her for a date?

I (30) met this woman (35) at a work-related meeting ten days ago. We were in a small group (2 men, 2 women), and chatted briefly. Among a few other things, she asked me if I was married and had children (no to both). She is divorced and told us (most of the interaction was with the group) that she was on her own, and had to work really hard to support herself and her two young children. She seems a very loving mother, in addition to an attractive and easygoing person. Before leaving she asked me (and the other guy) for our email addresses and told me she would send me a facebook friend request. This didnĀ“t mean much in itself, as we might conceivably need to get in touch for work-related issues. Later that evening I see and accept her fb friend request, and we chatted for a few minutes. [more inside]
posted by Basque13 on Mar 12, 2013 - 23 answers

I hear the espresso's really cheap in this joint

Paying for first dates: who should do it? [more inside]
posted by Miss T.Horn on Sep 13, 2012 - 86 answers

I'm in a terrible fix

How do you NOT have sex on the first or second date? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 21, 2012 - 58 answers

Should I date now, or wait until some life improvements I'm working on come to fruition?

For the first time in my life, I feel confident enough to start dating. Thing is, my life situation isn't great at the moment, but should hopefully be better in the next 3-6 months. Should I actually start, or hold off? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 23, 2012 - 23 answers

In Tokyo and back in the dating game: help me be the most amazing first date ever!

FirstDateFilter, Tokyo Edition: I've been out of the dating game for some time and am looking for some creative afternoon date ideas in Tokyo. (I could also use any general first-date wisdom to help me regain a little bit of my dating confidence.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 27, 2012 - 8 answers

"Sooo... can we have sex now?"

Second hookup/date tips for a girl who likes to pick up guys? (How to encourage said guys to make a move the second time around). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 15, 2012 - 18 answers

What to message friend after first date?

Went on a first date with a friend of a friend yesterday. She's pretty cool and the conversation flowed easily, but I wasn't feeling anything special. I want to message her on facebook any say something along the lines of "I had fun but I don't think we should continue" but need help composing the message. [more inside]
posted by katerschluck on Jan 29, 2012 - 20 answers

Nervous for a first date after red flag, please hope me!

Got a first date tomorrow. Yay! Red flag came up in first phone conversation last night. Boo! New to online dating, and dating in general really. Tips? [more inside]
posted by Ceci n'est pas un sockpuppet on Aug 25, 2011 - 25 answers

It says you like Cool-jams? I do like Cool-jams.

What can I do to make first dates more fun and interesting, and less like a job interview? [more inside]
posted by soonertbone on Jun 13, 2011 - 34 answers

Dinner date in DC

DC Filter: Affordable and romantic dinner date spots in DC? Warning: Extremely picky criteria inside. [more inside]
posted by windbox on Apr 27, 2011 - 29 answers

Long-distance first date in Miami.

I'm looking for recommendations for first-date ideas in Miami. The catch is that the first date is with someone who lives 2000 miles away from me, and we're both traveling to Miami from elsewhere. I want to spend time getting to know him in a low-key way, but also see a little bit of Miami while I'm there. Suggestions for places we should see/those we should avoid? [more inside]
posted by splendid animal on Feb 9, 2011 - 9 answers

Wanna go out for coffee? In Eastern Queens?

Non-bar first date ideas in (mostly eastern) Queens? [more inside]
posted by ThisIsNotMe on Feb 8, 2011 - 13 answers

What's a good first date bar in Cambridge/Somerville?

What's a good bar to take a first date for a drink in Cambridge/Somerville MA? [more inside]
posted by earlofrochester on Oct 12, 2010 - 20 answers

Fifty First Dates. (OK, more like three.)

What should I say on a first date? [more inside]
posted by sesquipedalian on Jul 28, 2010 - 41 answers

Help me not to make a fool of myself on my first date.

Help me not to make a fool of myself on my first date. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 17, 2010 - 18 answers

So how does this dating thing go?: The Sequel

I'm pretty new to dating, and I feel like my lack of experience and ideas is making it hard for me to be spontaneous and natural. Can you help me cure some of my ignorance with your anecdotes, personal experience, and wisdom? [more inside]
posted by dogcat on Jul 1, 2010 - 21 answers

So how does this dating thing go?

I'm pretty new to dating, and I don't really understand the progression from first date to second date and onward. Can you help me cure some of my ignorance with your anecdotes, personal experience, and wisdom? [more inside]
posted by dogcat on Jun 24, 2010 - 16 answers

Dating: Be proactive or wait and see what happens?

I thought we were having a good time, but maybe it was only me. [more inside]
posted by janekate on Jun 6, 2010 - 58 answers

How to get past the nervousness and have fun?

Good suggestions for calming first-date nerves? [more inside]
posted by photo guy on May 28, 2010 - 28 answers

Long lost friends or finally making a move???

Is he asking me out to hangout and catch up on old times or is he asking me out on a real date? [more inside]
posted by penguingrl on May 24, 2010 - 17 answers

Let's be non sexual the first time we meet!

What are some sweet things to do on a first date that will be non sexual, yet limited to a hotel room? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 6, 2010 - 36 answers

First Dates in Portland Oregon

In the need of first date ideas, particularly in Portland, Oregon. [more inside]
posted by captainsohler on Nov 17, 2009 - 11 answers

First Dating for the First Time

Please describe the best and/or the worst first date you've ever gone on. [more inside]
posted by EatTheWeak on Jul 9, 2009 - 60 answers

What do I need to know about going on a blind date?

What should I know about going on a blind date? [more inside]
posted by lxs on Sep 9, 2008 - 23 answers

Club soda is a drink, too, isn't it?

Due to health reasons, I cannot drink alcohol. However, I still want to ask girls out for drinks because it's a good first date. What to do? [more inside]
posted by Elmo Oxygen on Jan 7, 2008 - 72 answers

And s-so I told him, n-no, man, y-you can't keep that h-horse!

FirstDateFilter: How do I keep my calm and not turn into a stammering sticky pile of jello? [more inside]
posted by Glitter Ninja on Mar 26, 2007 - 22 answers

What are some great places/activities for a guy to take a girl on a first date in Boston?

FirstDateFilter, BostonFilter: I'm looking for some fun, low-pressure sorts of places in Boston to take someone on a first date. Movies are boring and you don't get to talk. I like nice restaurants, but I think going too fancy can make people uncomfortable and feel pressured on a first date. [more inside]
posted by santry on Mar 3, 2006 - 28 answers

Is there a word for arranged 1st date interruption?

Is there a word for arranging to have a friend call you shortly after a first date starts?
posted by dmo on Aug 22, 2005 - 25 answers

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