How do you screen for reliability and filter out self-centered/selfish nature in dating in real life and online dating? And, how do you find out whether a person (for dating or friendship) is a 'giver' or a 'taker'?
By reliability and being a giver, I don't mean something as trivial as calling when they say they will. I mean more like being there for you when you are going through one or more major challenging life events, putting the relationship and "us" before individual interests especially when the going gets rough for you and not for them individually.
Does this kind of reliability even exist among partners and can one really, truly, deeply trust another human being or do you feel you always have to watch your back even with a partner of months or years or decades?
posted by xm
on May 7, 2013 -
20 answers
I am totally overwhelmed trying to figure out what water (tap, bottled, filter, RO, etc.) to drink at home at this point. Can you help?
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posted by semacd
on Mar 12, 2013 -
25 answers
I just filled out a tax form with a signature app where I "drew" my signature in the field (with a mouse) and it applied filter "smoothing" and other things to make it look like a real ink signature... It actually looked BETTER than my real hand written signature.
Where can I get something like that to make my own ink looking images?
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posted by DaftMythic
on Feb 21, 2013 -
10 answers
Recommend me bands highly similar to Filter. I really love them; do any mefi-ers know of very similar bands? I also really loved Army of Anyone, and was bummed when they disbanded! Thanks!!
posted by thespiritroom
on Dec 1, 2012 -
8 answers
1. How exactly does Starbucks treat their water? I've seen references to "famous triple-filtered" and "reverse osmosis" but nothing definitive or comprehensive.
2. Can this process be duplicated at home? If so, how?
3. Objectively, how is water that has gone through that process different from tap water or bottled water?
4. Subjectively, how would you describe the taste and mouthfeel if you wanted to say that I want water that is.... To me it feels both cleaner and more minerally, somehow fuller, maybe more alkaline?
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posted by RandlePatrickMcMurphy
on Oct 9, 2012 -
14 answers
Travel filter regarding D.C., near election time...Has anyone ever traveled to D.C. say a week or two before the election? Mrs. Nash and I are headed to a wedding in Charlottesville the weekend of 10/27, and thought we'd make a short vacation trip down to D.C. before the wedding, but hotel prices seem to skyrocket in mid to late October, which got me thinking that there are probably all kinds of political types headed to the area in the two or three weeks leading up to the election on 11/4. Has anyone ever visited D.C. during this timeframe? If so, what was your experience like? Was it insane and best tackled on another trip?
posted by doogan nash
on Aug 7, 2012 -
18 answers
Need to change an Everpure H-300-HSD filter cartridge. The model number on the cartridge is 9720-75. How important is this number? Ordering direct from the Everpure site seems to get me a generic 300-HSD filter, and I'm finding -74 and -76 and -72 and so on models with a price difference of twenty+ dollars on other sites such as Amazon. If I'm off a number is that likely to not work at all?
posted by curious nu
on Jul 10, 2012 -
0 answers
The
Windows Live Family Safety content filter has a neat optional feature: instead of completely blocking a web page that might be inappropriate, it can display a warning that the user can then click through to visit the site if they really need to, and then a notification is sent to the parent or admin that they clicked through the warning to get to the site. Is there a similar system available for Mac OS?
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posted by eschatfische
on May 25, 2012 -
1 answer
I left the cap off my motor oil for weeks, and dust, leaves, twigs, spiders, and who knows what may have fallen in there. Can I still use it in my car? Should I filter it first somehow?
posted by brenton
on May 9, 2012 -
31 answers
greek filter! Some girls said "poli kalo avto" in my direction and giggled when I walked by today. I know it's lame, but i'm a bit curious about what it means.
posted by bruinbruin
on Apr 26, 2012 -
8 answers
Do you own a good countertop reverse osmosis water filter? Help me get one that's not made of pvc.
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posted by bobbyno
on Feb 7, 2012 -
5 answers
I feel a little strange during/after running my air purifier (non-ozone). Any ideas on what this means?
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posted by SlagBlip
on Dec 31, 2011 -
4 answers
Why does my fridge's filtered water taste ABSOLUTELY HORRIBLE but only at certain times of day?
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posted by Nattie
on Dec 8, 2011 -
8 answers
I broke up with my first girlfriend of 2 years last night; did I do the right thing? / What am I doing with my life? *CAUTION: WALL OF TEXT *
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posted by Snorlax
on Oct 18, 2011 -
25 answers
Anybody knows the music to
this video of the Move your Money project? MYM is a fascinating concept, but I'd be even more happy with the music played here.
posted by Eltulipan
on Sep 28, 2011 -
1 answer
Twitterfilter: What URL will return
original tweets with the #muckreads hashtag? (unique, filtering out all retweets, old style & new)
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posted by ahaynes
on Jul 27, 2011 -
3 answers
Assuming an island with its own supply of power via generator and/or solar power, how much electricity is consumed to turn N liters of sea water into potable drinking water?
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posted by thewalrus
on Jul 27, 2011 -
11 answers
I usually gig locally with a Moog Voyager as my primary synth, but the band is going on a small tour and — though I have a nice ATA case — I have some reservations about taking such an expensive piece of kit on an extended road trip. I have a Korg MS-2000 synth kicking around the house that I am thinking about touring with instead – it's lighter, smaller, and a million times more expendable. Trouble is, I'm having a bit of a hard time getting good, fat, Moog-like sounds out of it.
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posted by kaseijin
on Jun 17, 2011 -
6 answers
So, I'm thinking about getting a reverse osmosis water filter for my kitchen sink but have some questions. Is revese osmosis the appropriate technology to address my concerns? Is demineralized water safe, especially for children? Can you recommend a particular filter or brand?
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posted by nequalsone
on Jun 9, 2011 -
7 answers
What's the best way to implement an internet whitelist for a specific user account on Windows XP?
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posted by nowonmai
on Mar 21, 2011 -
8 answers
I am looking for a recommendation re: a great air filter for my home. I am really most interested in cutting down on dust. Any suggestions?
posted by ae4rv
on Feb 27, 2011 -
5 answers
Just a quick dumb question I can't find answered anywhere else: I have a videocamera with 37.5mm lens threads. A filter I want to buy online has 37mm threads (and that spec seem more common in general). There's a 37.5mm-to-37mm stepdown ring available elsewhere, but it costs twice as much as the filter. Is that 0.5mm really enough to need the stepping ring?
posted by AzraelBrown
on Jan 4, 2011 -
6 answers
Email Filter of my Dreams?
I get daily emails from some websites like Groupon and Mint that are only useful for one day or one week, is there anyway that I can set my gmail account to automatically delete or at least filter these messages after a specific time period (ie 24 hours)? If I set up a regular filter then these messages skip my BlackBerry inbox. Halp me?
posted by saradarlin
on Dec 7, 2010 -
10 answers
I am looking for a Filter Builder control to accept user input to filter XML data. The Filter control should be for Windows Forms (not Web pages), and it should have end-user capabilities to specify complex filter criteria.
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posted by inquisitive
on Dec 3, 2010 -
8 answers
I receive a couple of non-Gmail-filtered spam emails a day, from a friend's compromised machine/account. I can easily deal with them / filter them / discard them.
Besides hitting "Report Spam" I'm just wondering if there is a better place to report these consistent messages. I've been getting them for 6 months or so, doesn't seem the Big G's learning algorithm is ever gonna catch on...
posted by Exchequer
on Nov 30, 2010 -
9 answers
Plumbing puzzle: my neighbor has what looks like find sand which collects in her *hot water* eventually clogging metal screens on faucets, etc. The obvious answer is that this is some sort of mineral precipitate as the system has been flushed several times and a filter installed on the water coming into the house. What is causing this precipitate in the hot water and why doesn't this happen with my hot water which is the same town water on the same street (same pipes) that is going into her house?
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posted by ennui.bz
on Oct 11, 2010 -
10 answers
Help me filter my foodtruck twitter feed! I want to get only tweets referencing my street (so I can only see the foodtrucks who will be near me that day) without having to read 8000 other tweets. Iphone or web based please. Bonus points for easy -- I'm a twitter novice.
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posted by bluesky78987
on Sep 17, 2010 -
5 answers
I have access to a
UV meter. Using this tool how can I test the sunglasses I have actually filters out the light rays that are dangerous. I don't have any technical knowledge to interpret the numbers displayed by the tool.
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posted by neworder7
on Sep 10, 2010 -
7 answers
I'm taking my Canon G11 on a sailing vacation in the Greek islands. I expect lots of blue sky, brilliant sun, and light reflecting off the water. I've never used any kind of filter before, but should I consider it this time? If so, what do I need to know to make a filter work with my camera? Is a circular polarizer the best way to go or are there other filters to consider?
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posted by cabingirl
on Aug 21, 2010 -
9 answers
What is the best way to monitor/notify myself of new Craigslist listings for housing?
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posted by mikeand1
on Aug 20, 2010 -
18 answers