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Dominant Female seeks NYC dungeon to work for

I'm a dominant female and interested in using my interest and skills to earn money in New York City. I don't know how to sort my options or what, specifically to watch out for. NSFW. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 8, 2014 - 5 answers

And if you don't kink then you're no friend of mine.

I'm kinky, but only sometimes. He's kinky, all the time, and more so than me. He also displays a focus on certain specific sex acts that I find worrying and is interfering with our sex life - not the things we do, but the things it seems he has to do to come or be happy. How do we deal with this? What do these desires of his mean? And if I'm not into the things he has to do, does it mean he's not into me? (Insecurities abound) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 20, 2013 - 28 answers

Why would you want someone to say that to you?

Why are humiliation and/or degradation sexually exciting for some? [more inside]
posted by thrasher on Oct 10, 2012 - 18 answers

UK bdsm / fetish dating sites?

Are there any genuine fetish / bdsm dating sites in the UK, or are they all weird fronts for dating farms? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 2, 2012 - 10 answers

Fetish footwear that isn't boots or heels?

I'm looking for shoes I can wear with my sexy/gothy/fetishy clothes that aren't boots or heels. [more inside]
posted by rhiannonstone on Sep 8, 2012 - 20 answers

Husband has a double life

My husband is making fetish videos of himself, and I'm not sure what to do about it (if anything) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 23, 2012 - 21 answers

How to deal with this mismatched kink?

He's into being dominated; I'm not into dominating. He wants to visit a dominatrix; I'm terrified about what it might do to our relationship, but also worried about our sans-dominatrix relationship more generally. Help? [more inside]
posted by sock puppety puppet on Jun 22, 2012 - 26 answers

OMG your braid makes me so horny. (note: not really)

Help me understand the psychology of a sexual fetish. Most of the time I have no problem at all indulging my boyfriend's fetish and actually enjoy it myself. Occasionally it makes me feel insecure and shitty, which ruins it for him. How to deal? [more inside]
posted by thrasher on Apr 13, 2012 - 36 answers

Should I let my boyfriend sleep with other women?

Is it a poor idea to let your partner have sex with other people, knowing that you will be hurt by it? Will it be more likely to help or hurt our relationship if he indulges in his fantasies with other women – and is this a reasonable compromise for someone to make? [more inside]
posted by labandita on Jan 22, 2012 - 107 answers

How does one get rid of their scat fetish?

Okay, so I'm gay and I have a scat fetish and I really hate it. It's embarrassing, shameful and disgusting when I think about it. How on earth do I get rid of it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 7, 2011 - 20 answers

How do I deal with my boyfriend's secret?

I have accidentally discovered my boyfriend's secret fetish. He is ashamed and upset. I'm terrified of losing him. Please help me navigate this. (Some details NSFW.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 19, 2011 - 47 answers

Can you tell me how to get my bum get cleaner than your average whistle?

How can I best prepare my rear end for "special" anal sex? (NSFW) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 17, 2011 - 16 answers

I want to watch her have sex with someone she loves.

How can I encourage my SO to go solo..and let me watch? NSFW details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 11, 2011 - 10 answers

Fetish... Anxiety... Asexuality... Help?!

A fetish is causing me a great deal of anxiety, could anyone help me figure out how to deal with this? [more inside]
posted by Scrimshaw on Apr 26, 2011 - 19 answers

Hi, my name is -, and I'm incredibly creepy

Can you recommend good books on forgiving yourself / accepting yourself for having a kink? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 15, 2011 - 22 answers

I need help with sex and gender issues.

Please help me deal with issues regarding sexual orientation and gender identity, and either assure me that I’m not a bad person or tell me how to stop being a bad person. A lengthy, detailed and NSFW explanation follows. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 28, 2011 - 19 answers

What to wear to a kink con?

I'm attending a weekend-long alt-sex/kink convention. What clothing should I pack? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 31, 2011 - 10 answers

Replacement for Craigslist's Adult Gigs section?

Trying to find a replacement for the "Adult Gigs" section on Craigslist that was removed... [more inside]
posted by supernaturelle on Jan 16, 2011 - 6 answers

Sexy bodypaint movies

Question about sci-fi/fantasy pornography and bodypaint. (NSFW) [more inside]
posted by spockpuppet on Nov 19, 2010 - 7 answers

Anxiety about a fetish

Can you help me get rid of anxiety about a fetish and my sexuality? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 5, 2010 - 12 answers

What if she won't ever do what I need to do?

My fiance has basically told me, that she will NEVER/practically never be willing to do my personal fetishes with me..... I don't know what to do about that. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 3, 2010 - 89 answers

Naughty music needed

Imagine a party à la Madonna's Justify my Love video. What music would you play?
posted by Dragonness on May 27, 2010 - 31 answers

Boyfriend has fat fetish and monogamy issues - how to deal with it?

Boyfriend has fat fetish and monogamy issues. How to deal with it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 1, 2010 - 47 answers

Are there common teeth/dental patterns? If so, what are they?

I'm really fascinated by teeth and their various shapes, arrangements, etc. I remember reading something a few years back that discussed several basic dental patterns, but I can't find it, or any info remotely like it. It was a fluff piece in a fashion mag I think, but I'm more interested in reading something slightly more substantial or scientific. Does there exist a taxonomy, or a conventionalized way for describing common dental patterns? Google searching yields little, and frankly, I feel like a bit of a freak for having such a weird attraction to these cute little things and all their delightful quirks. Bonus question, am I alone on this?
posted by anonymous on Feb 12, 2010 - 13 answers

Is three months too early to ban your girlfriend from ever wearing flip flops again?

Resources for lady new to foot fetishism? Many details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2010 - 10 answers

Humiliation fetish - do I need therapy?

I like being humiliated, and go to great lengths to get it. Should I rather go into therapy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 5, 2010 - 11 answers

I want to be more kinky and less thinky.

My hang-ups are stopping me enjoying kinky times with my wife. I want to find a way to get over them because they're driving me crazy. (Very NSFW details inside.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 22, 2010 - 19 answers

Is extreme but consensual sadism immoral?

What is a good argument for the immorality of terribly sadistic but ultimately consensual sex, from a secular perspective? [more inside]
posted by limon on Jan 2, 2010 - 61 answers

So, you really, really like shoes.

What does it mean when someone has a shoe fetish? What might turn them on? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 22, 2009 - 25 answers

Hiding my porn... when it's not porn

How do you keep your fetish materials secret when they look perfectly normal? I don't want a porn buddy; I just never, ever want to have to explain myself or talk about them. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 13, 2009 - 24 answers

Leave The Mask On

Help me find music about sexin' up Superheroes! I'm running an event based on Yoe's "Secret Identity" and I need background music that references a bunch of things and/.or sounds like something The Silk Specter would enjoy. [more inside]
posted by The Whelk on Nov 2, 2009 - 25 answers

BDSM costume ideas, please!

Looking for an original costume idea for Halloween at a BDSM club. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 17, 2009 - 17 answers

Fetish too far vis a vis my girlfriend.

Fetishes and relationships: Help me find objective, balanced, third-party information for my girlfriend. [more inside]
posted by zeek321 on Aug 2, 2009 - 11 answers

Catsuit: how/where to buy?

Catsuit: how/where to buy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 28, 2009 - 15 answers

I'm disgusted by what turns me on. Please help.

It seems like the only thing that can get me off is extremely unpleasant written erotica (details inside, to keep the front page clean). Do I have a problem? Should I see a therapist? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 30, 2009 - 47 answers

How should I respond to sincere, respeated requests for a blumpy?

NSFW: My boyfriend and I (a woman) have explored many sexual fantasies together - but how should I respond to his desire for a blumpy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 2, 2009 - 33 answers

Which demographics are the kinkiest?

KinkFilter: Is there currently any sociological research on sexual kinks, specifically long-term BDSM relationships? My friend and I were talking a couple days ago, and we were wondering if D/s dynamics were more common among certain demographics (i.e., college-educated, middle class, particular ethnic groups, certain religions, etc.), and I decided that MeFi might know if anyone was publishing on this stuff.
posted by aliceinreality on Nov 26, 2008 - 14 answers

Is it healthy to reenact childhood discipline as an adult?

Some of the disciplinary acts I endured as a child and teenager have spilled over into my adult sex life. Is this a healthy thing to encourage, or should I avoid these acts altogether? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 31, 2008 - 16 answers

Fetish vs. Phobia: recipe for disaster?

A potential romantic partner has a very specific phobia. As luck would have it, it happens to be pretty much the exact thing that is my very private fetish. I have never shared it with anyone and don't plan to share it with anyone. Are we doomed, or could we somehow make this work to our advantage? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 16, 2008 - 31 answers

Dress code for male Doms?

What is the minimum acceptable dress code for male Doms who want to go public? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 18, 2008 - 12 answers

More thera-fishes in the sea?

I was seeing a sex therapist for about a year. We had a little tiff and now I don't go there anymore. I could still use the therapy though. Should I forgive and forget or are there more thera-fish in the sea? (Potentially NSFW) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 2, 2008 - 22 answers

How do I find my match?

I'm a straight guy and I have several kinks which drive me wild in bed. I'd like to date a straight girl who has similar kinks which drive her wild in bed. But I don't want to get into fetish lifestyles or anything extreme (unfortunately kink owners tend to get polarized into one big group of "alternative people" who dress in rubber and go to subterranean bondage clubs every week) - I just want a regularish relationship with some special orders in the bedroom. How do I do this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 2, 2008 - 18 answers

Bike-sex, breaking the law?

Why does the law have a problem with sex with a bicycle? [more inside]
posted by popcassady on Nov 15, 2007 - 21 answers

Where can I find help in dealing with a sexual fetish?

Where can I find therapy which will allow me to understand / cope with / overcome a fetish? [more inside]
posted by ninepin on Nov 1, 2007 - 25 answers

What's my kink?

Do I have a (sexual) kink? Should I have a kink? If I do have a kink, how do I discover it? [more inside]
posted by Ethereal Bligh on May 31, 2007 - 27 answers

Where can I find the pro-ugly sites?

Ugliness as a fetish on the Internet - resources? websites? chat? [more inside]
posted by stinkycheese on May 9, 2007 - 10 answers

Seeking a specific heat-fetish story (description inside)

Seeking a specific fetish story, published on the web in the mid 90s or earlier, that had to do with a heat fetish (being heated to extreme temperatures as sexually arousing). I know it's a long shot but this story made such an impression on me and I can't find it again. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 26, 2007 - 3 answers

Do many Muslim men have foot fetishes?

The Burquini thread got me to thinking about fetishes among Muslims. There is [more inside]
posted by Ynoxas on Jan 12, 2007 - 35 answers

Selling used undies?

Selling used, ahem, clothing online. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 6, 2006 - 8 answers

overcoming a fetish?

FetishFilter: can a person overcome a dangerous or detrimental sexual fetish? or any fetish for that matter?
posted by brandz on May 29, 2006 - 16 answers

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