My BF and I saw an ad for the upcoming Deep Water Horizon movie, and I commented that there seem to be a lot of these "men trapped in desperate situations" movies. He wanted suggestions for "based on actual events" that aren't exclusively men. Trying to google turned up a lot of unhelpful results. Any ideas?
MetaFilter regularly features negative examples of what men should not do when approaching women (for example, stories from women who work in the service industry who have to fend off advances by men who have confused good customer service with attraction). I'm looking for positive examples of how flirting and asking people out should work. [more inside]
What are your favorite comedians that punch up not down really well, and are happy to take on heavy content while lifting up those who need it most instead of getting laughs at their expense? [more inside]
I have a brother who needs to learn about feminism. This is important because we have delightful conversations other than when he says things that make me want to shake him until his teeth rattle; he's got some fairly fucked up unconscious assumptions about women. Having dealt with my own unconscious assumptions on many occasions, I've found that I do best with resources that have me as their target audience, especially when the ideas are new. I'd like to give such a resource to my brother--one that is therapeutically gentle/learning oriented with where he's starting as a man, but which also helps him get some of the feminism basics down. I'm not looking for general feminism 101; I'm hoping to find more male-targeted resources. Engaging tone is preferred to academic, but I'll take what I can get.
How did you “know” you’re trans? [more inside]
I see on AskMe all the time, whenever someone refers to an adult of the female gender as a "girl," several people will immediately pop up to sternly correct them. I've come to accept this as part of the site culture here, and keep it in mind for my own questions and comments, but it quite honestly seems bizarre based on my own life experience. I'm curious how common this view actually is, and whether people actually stick to it in real life. [more inside]
Specifically if a man identifies as feminist, should he then understand why a woman would take stories of sexism against other women personally? An ongoing source of conflict with a man in my life is that we'll discuss something sexist happening in the world and when I want a moment of commiseration about it like "man, that sucks, what a shitty world, I'm sorry" he won't give it and doesn't understand why I take it personally unless it is something that personally happens to me. [more inside]
I've started an English-language feminist book club in an East Asian city and I'm looking for more titles that aren't written by or about women in the U.S. Books about women in Asia and feminism in this part of the world would be ideal. What are some great book club picks for our group? [more inside]
I recall reading in Overwhelmed by Brigid Schulte about a study in which participants were asked to evaluate how much men and women talked during a discussion. It demonstrated that while both men and women talked equal amounts during the discussion, evaluators thought women talked more. Am I imagining this, or can someone point me to the study? I would also welcome other research in the same vein - cognitive bias that causes people to not see the effects of privilege.
I have been asked to edit an interview using they/them/their instead of gendered pronouns. Please give me your tips / best practices for clarity! [more inside]
In what ways could I quantify differences in sexism/gender norms/rape culture across US states, cities, and/or universities using publicly-available data? [more inside]
What are your best examples of women's or feminist organizing behind the barricades in urban uprisings?
This is on the tip of my tongue and I will slap myself when you name it for me: a poem from the 70s or 80s about community and activism. It counts up from 1: with 1 you can do this, with two you can do that. I remember that with six, you can share a pie. At some number, you start putting out a newsletter. I want to think Marge Piercy was the author, but I've almost certainly got that wrong.
I have to give a 45 min lecture in a week, on any subject of my choosing, semi-academic. I'd like to present a feminist discussion/dissection of cultural material (books, movies, songs, even court rulings). I have access to a university catalogue. [more inside]
I'm scheduled to be on a panel about lack of women in senior roles within my industry. So I'm looking for pointers to articles, short podcasts, studies, puff pieces, reports, and just general interesting point of views on encouraging women into industries (from both women AND women). [more inside]
I'm looking for historical overviews and more specific personal accounts, with an emphasis on readability. [more inside]
I've always been a nerd/geek girl and as a result I have internalized a ton of toxic misogyny. As I get older I'm finding it difficult to accept (and god forbid love) my femininity. I know I need to learn to be OK with being a woman, but it feels shameful and gross. Help? [more inside]
I'm trying to put together a reading list for an introductory philosophy of feminism class, and there's a concept that I can't articulate well enough to find any readings on! Recommendations? Concept inside, of course. [more inside]
I recently joined the board of my professional school women's organization (in a, for what it's worth, traditionally male dominated profession). Maybe I shouldn't have. [more inside]
A little while ago I showed my boyfriend, who has sometimes infuriating views about women, this College Humor video about women's hymens. After watching this, he said that the video was sexist towards men. Why am I so angry, and is that a fair assessment? And how to defend feminist positions more cogently than I presently do? [more inside]
From I guess what you could call an "aspiring" feminist to all else well-read on the matter: How do I become a "good" feminist? [more inside]
I'm getting married next year, and my friends have started asking me what I'd like to do as a batchelorette party. I'm really conflicted about who to invite because a) I'm a staunch feminist and want the least sexist wedding ever BUT b) I've enjoyed the "female space" at other people's parties AND ALSO c) my brother is in my bridal party, where does he fit in? [more inside]
Is there a way for me to blog under my real name and still avoid exposing myself to stalking, doxxing, threats, and harassment? [more inside]
Could anyone suggest a feminist activist in London, UK, who could be invited to speak on the topic of slutshaming? [more inside]
A long time ago, on another forum, someone wrote a quote that came from Pride & Prejudice, or some other work by Jane Austen. The quote criticized women who put down other women in an attempt to appeal to men. [more inside]
I am female and 30 years old and currently in a great awakening that has been forming my whole life but only really starting to happen over the last few years. I'm a recovering Christian with relatively new feminist realizations and I want to find others like me. [more inside]
Over the past month I’ve had what is essentially elaborate, well-intentioned street harassment situations that I can’t quite figure out how to respond to. [more inside]
I want some books about women going on the traditional hero's journey! Ideally, non-fantasy and non-young adult. [more inside]
I'm looking for upbeat feminist resources--blogs, comics, music, film, Twitter accounts, Tumblrs, etc, that are celebratory, happy, and proud. [more inside]
I have employed a cleaner on and off or the last few years, but am now at a stage where I'm deciding to commit to a fortnightly clean as work responsibilities ramp up. The cleaning agency I use has sent me a male cleaner to be my new regular, the first I've ever encountered. I am having a strange reaction that I'm trying to reconcile myself with and need a little help to differentiate the crazies. Details after the jump... [more inside]
I'm looking for more examples of professions like programming that started out as "women's jobs" but were later taken over by men, when they realized the work had potential to be prestigious. Mothers cooking for their families vs mostly male pro chefs is another one, though probably harder to place historically. I'm sure there are more examples. Do you know any, with sources if possible?
A mailing list I'm in has received a job posting calling for a male journalist. The justification for the gender is that it's a tv channel for financial news, and the reporters will be reading stuff all day, so they want to have a man and a woman alternate reading stories, and they have already hired the woman. [more inside]
I'm single (straight male, 32) and starting to date women online again. I tend to have much better relationships with feminist-leaning women than with women that believe in traditional gender roles because they match better with my personal feelings about gender. How do I represent this in either my online dating profile or messages without coming across as awkward? I tend to overthink these kind of things. [more inside]
Inspired by the EL thread and the askme on it after following this moving thread about male socialization, what can I do as a parent (specifically a mother) do to help my sons grow up to be happier and healthier feminist men in a toxic patriarchy? What resources and strategies can I add to my parenting toolbox?
Assume I'm not from this planet. What is the appropriate way, if even allowed, to approach a woman at a bar? [more inside]
I recently caught up with an old friend who's developed a lot of horrible opinions about women's presentation and I didn't know how to deal with it, please advise! [more inside]
Hey Brilliant Minds! Happy Monday :) I'm wondering if you might point me in the direction of any films, books, tv, plays, etc. that utilize a classic hero's journey structure (Joseph Campbell) from a feminist perspective and/or have a female protagonist. Thanks so much!
What are some great movies from the 80's and 90's that were either directed by or written by women? [more inside]
What would a culture that doesn't hate women look like? I'm looking for books, movies, works of fiction and non-fiction in various formats/media, and your own musings and imaginings. [more inside]
What would a Social Justice Warrior put on her shield? (Also, the rest of her?) [more inside]
Who are some actually-radical feminists and what (and where) are they writing these days? [more inside]
A friend has been given an opening by a leader in a large, conservative organization to help him understand women's experiences of sexism in the workplace. Is there a book or article by a woman talking about her experiences you would recommend? [more inside]
Does anyone remember a recent post (possibly on a Tumblr) describing a satirical, feminist-alternate-universe history of video games? [more inside]
Help me find blogs/books/articles that will make me feel better about being an outspoken lady. [more inside]
As a gay man, I've been having increasing problems with sexual harassment from complete strangers while out at gay bars. When this harassment happens in front of friends, I'm treated like I'm crazy for being upset. What are some clear and direct ways I can communicate my own discomfort and just how inappropriate what happened was - to people who are completely ignorant of feminism and women's issues and have bought into the toxic idea that we should be grateful for any attention we get? [more inside]
I'm writing about feminism and gaming on the internet. I'm a woman. I know that if I gain any reasonable amount of success, it'll probably come with death threats and hacking attempts and doxxing and the like. What should I do now, while very few people are reading me, to protect myself? [more inside]
I want to read/learn/discover more about make-up as part of the fashion industry, as a feminist act, as a weapon of patriarchy, personal stories of make-up - not the how to do it or what to buy, but the whys of make-up. Tumblrs, videos, articles, books - where are people interrogating and discussing and celebrating make-up? I'm mostly interested in the feminist take, but I'm also interested in other aspects, and from commercial make-up to theatrical fantasy stuff.
I'm a woman in science. I recently finished my Ph.D in Chemistry, and, after getting burnt-out on the academic track, I've gotten a job in a small startup synthesizing new materials for energy purposes. I've been told to find a "female mentor" to help me navigate the startup/industry world of chemistry. But how do I find a female mentor? Where do I look? What do I look for? [more inside]
I am a woman whose experience in technology is eerily similar to that of the women in these two articles. I am at a breaking point. But rather than leave the field, I would like to shift employment so that I'm working at exclusively women-led or women-run companies. Can anyone provide some ideas for potential places to apply for full-time employment? [more inside]
My 15-year-old nephew has become interested in social movements, and as teenagers do, he's positioned himself against a few. I want him to have some facts that he can understand. Is there a book about feminism written specifically for boys? One that includes history plus arguments, both pro and con?