I see on AskMe all the time, whenever someone refers to an adult of the female gender as a "girl," several people will immediately pop up to sternly correct them. I've come to accept this as part of the site culture here, and keep it in mind for my own questions and comments, but it quite honestly seems bizarre based on my own life experience. I'm curious how common this view actually is, and whether people actually stick to it in real life. [more inside]
I'm looking for a children's book where a girl bear is the point-of-view or main character. I know about the Berenstain Bears (Sister Bear) and the Care Bears, but I am hoping that there's an option that reads a bit more "classic literature," ideally in a nice hardback edition, as this is a present for a friend's young daughter whose preferences are in that realm. [more inside]
I'm looking for a more appropriate word than "non male" that is more inclusive than "female." [more inside]
My two-year-old daughter is obsessed with Paw Patrol. I'm not in love with the gender representation on the show. What shows are similar but with better diversity in terms of gender? [more inside]
I want some books about women going on the traditional hero's journey! Ideally, non-fantasy and non-young adult. [more inside]
I am looking for images/posters of strong and powerful women to hang in my young daughter's room. So far I have considered "Votes for Women"/Suffragettes and the "We Can Do It" wartime poster. Any more suggestions?
My friend and I are starting a gaming blog/website. We've been trying to think of a good name. We're both females, and would like to incorporate that in the name somehow, but not super overtly. Do you have any ideas? [more inside]
I am a young female engineering professor who was invited to speak to incoming freshman engineering girls at my uni. I am flattered and want to inspire and motivate these young students. I need suggestions on what to focus on. I thought it would be easy because there is so much advice I can give but when I sit down it seems too disconnected and jumbled. more info inside [more inside]
Hi, I have a long term female friend who stays in a long distance, we used to chat on and off for many years and especially the last few months we had spent hours of chatting almost every day. We were very much supportive each other ,had a lot of fun talks and used to discuss almost everything, shared a nice time and eventually became really close. But gradually she seemed to be a bit less active for almost a month but still managed to chat (some days energetic, some days not) and started doing less initiation of talks from her. Since I felt this is a bit strange as to what we used to, I asked onetime in a quiet way where she just said there is nothing bothering her as the way I thought. But eventually she became in a situation of not feeling to text or talk and told me the same when I asked about it. [more inside]
Where can I find excellent movie discussion, analysis, reviews, dissection, etc by women? I feel like I have a stable of great film-related youtubers, writers, and podcasters that I enjoy, but they are largely male -- I'd love to discover more current work from women in this area. Thank you!
I'd like to dabble more in graphic novels and comics for "grown ups". I like Julia Wertz and Allie Brosh--so basically I'm looking for stuff that is kinda gritty yet also kinda funny, preferably with a female's point of view. Who else might I enjoy? [more inside]
I'm 24 and about to embark on a lot of schooling for a career that I'm passionate about. The loans from said schooling will take me 10+ years to pay back, but my job security will be pretty much guaranteed and I'll have the flexibility to live where I want (i.e., somewhere with low cost of living). However, I'm certain that I want to have children and that I'll want to spend a lot of time with them. Is it silly to pursue a serious career? [more inside]
I'm trying to plan a trip to Sri Lanka with a pit stop on the way back to California, but due to work/ family stress (nothing unmanageable) I feel like I'm getting bogged down in the details. Help, please? [more inside]
I would like to visit a city in the US that is not commonly thought of as a vacation destination, but still has a lot to offer a tourist. However, as a woman of colour that does not drive and will be travelling alone, I would like a safe and friendly choice. I would like ideas for places with a lot of history and fine dining, which are easy to travel by foot/ public transportation, and friendly towards different looking people. Examples of what I am and am not looking for inside... [more inside]
I'm looking for interesting feminist texts of any kind (poems, prose, speeches...) that are not under traditional copyright in the U.S. and are from the last few decades. So, most will be 1) works prepared by a U.S. government employee as part of that person's official duties (such as any politician's speeches written by govt employees), or 2) anything the author CC-licensed or otherwise released outside traditional copyright. Very broad definition of feminist / female-positive. Especially great would be any intersections between feminist and anti-racist or anti-war ideas.
As I plan my own transition into a career in programming/IT, I'm looking to hear from women who already work in the field and are happy about it. [more inside]
Reading this thread made me realize that I am completely unaware of the current state of SF/F. Who are some female SF/F authors from the last 15 years that you would recommend? [more inside]
I'm a woman in science. I recently finished my Ph.D in Chemistry, and, after getting burnt-out on the academic track, I've gotten a job in a small startup synthesizing new materials for energy purposes. I've been told to find a "female mentor" to help me navigate the startup/industry world of chemistry. But how do I find a female mentor? Where do I look? What do I look for? [more inside]
Where should I go as a solo female traveler?... with some specifics within [more inside]
I'm looking for the name of the artist that made a album I saw a numerous times while I was record shopping in SF but can't seem to find in Seattle. [more inside]
Help me find a video, an animation of geometric monsters, set to the music of what I believe was a female British, composer. Orchestra. Synths. Huge sound. I first saw it on a link I found on Mefi (or AskMeFi, or MetaTalk), no more than 2 years ago, I'm guessing.
Our recent cold, drizzly weather has me wanting to to curl up with a good book, but not just ANY good book, really specific specifics inside. [more inside]
I finally have enough time to read books again. My favorite books to read are fantasy with magic. I don't dislike sex in books, but I'm specifically not looking for erotica disguised as fantasy. My favorites have been The Witches of Eileanan and the Rhapsody series. I prefer to read female authors- can't stand GRRM, and am not super into Sci Fi. Can you help me find interesting and fun things to read?
A few years ago, I came across the website of a German artist, female, who specialized in creating geometric artwork featuring very fine lines (think sweeping, 1pt lines). The only other things I remember are: 30ish in age, and had a non-standard German name, e.g. not something simple like "Anna Schmid". Anyone know her name and site?
I am trying to put together a list of women explorers from history. An example, meant to be illustrative rather than limiting: [more inside]
For the first time, in my early 40's, I'm overweight and ashamed and embarrassed and can't get back on track. [more inside]
Help me find this video or gif that I can't seem to locate with google. Sometime in the past year I've seen either a video or an animated gif where someone made a hack that put a male character skin on a female video game character. [more inside]
How can you, naturally or otherwise, optimize female hormones to help regain the metabolism and hormonal profile of someone in their teens or 20s? (And is this even possible or desirable?) [more inside]
I am interested in working on a publishing/performing career (think the sort of thing you see on The Moth). However, I am female. I am aware that all women if they get well known anywhere will immediately attract trolls, stalkers, and potential rapists who will constantly send her death threats at bare minimum. Knowing this kind of thing is guaranteed to happen to me if I try to have a creative career makes me terrified to try. [more inside]
My daughter is nuts for mythology and folklore, but after a particularly testosterone-powered Norse story last night she was asking if there were any collections of stories that weren't all about the boy-gods and heroes. So: recommendations for female-centric mythology and folklore, either story-cycles or lesser-known pantheons, suitable for bedtime-reading to an intelligent six-year-old. She wants actual myths rather than modern fiction based on or in the style of myths, or traditional myths retold from a female POV. (Yes, I have the Angela Carter books of fairy-tales. No, they are not suitable for a six-year-old.)
Maybe working with a friend who turned out to be a little less than friend. [more inside]
We are about to move into a much larger home than we currently live. We already have one amazing cat but we are 90% certain we will want to add to our brood once we are settled into our new home, but.... do we get a male cat or a female cat? [more inside]
Mr. Kitty and I are adopting a puppy this Sunday! What do we call her? [more inside]
This morning I was thinking about how in the movie Housesitter, Goldie Hawn's character wears a very limited number of pieces of clothing combined in a variety of different ways. My mom pointed this out to me at a very impressionable age, and noted how this was much more realistic than infinite wardrobes. I'm wondering what other other movies have an obviously finite wardrobe for a lead female character?
I'm suddenly overcome by the urge to take a break from novels and read some interesting memoirs by women. I have read "Don't lets Go to the Dogs Tonight" by Alexandra Fuller and I really loved it because of how richly she described the setting, the humor and the tragedies her family went through. I felt like I was there. And that's really what I'm looking for- memoirs by female writers that are so alive that I feel like I'm there. Mefi Readers, what amazing memoirs can you recommend that have made you feel that way???
I am a 27 year old female and I want to take an international trip in March. I have never travelled solo and haven't been outside the US in years. I would love to go to Bali but I'm wondering if I might be biting off more than I can chew. [more inside]
I AM a woman. I don't generally like hanging out with women. Suggestions? [more inside]
My GF is running her first-ever marathon next weekend in Philadelphia. I'm looking for creative or interesting suggestions for either a gift or something I can do that she might like (beyond flowers at the finish and a massage, both of which are a done deal). Any runners out there have a specific suggestion--maybe something sweet or thoughtful that was done for you after you finished? Thanks!
I've been wondering about this for years. I have no concept of what it means to be female, apart from the body parts (which, as I've learned, don't, by themselves, mean a lot). All I can think of is a lot of cultural stuff, which doesn't seem to be universal all over the world, so surely that's just what we've learned? I get the impression that there is such a thing as a female or male identity, as inborn gender. If you have one, what does it feel like? How do you know what gender you are? [more inside]
I switched from doing cardio to lifting weights at the gym, mainly because I LOVE IT. However, despite every website telling me that, as a woman, I won't get "big and bulky," I think I might be. I've gone up 1-2 clothing sizes, my butt has exploded, jackets now seem narrow in the chest ... It would be one thing if, standing nude in the mirror, I saw a 6-pack staring back at me, but I don't. It doesn't "look" like I've lost much body fat at all (but I can definitely tell that I've gained muscle - I've got a bicep! For the first time ever!). So, my question: will one day my muscle mass get large enough that my metabolism will rev up and my body fat will melt away? What are other ladies' experiences with beginning weight training and that effect on their body? (and I mean REAL weight training - bench presses of over 100 lbs, for instance - not lifting a 5 lb weight)
A female detective had two cats, which she'd named Onanoff and Offanon. Some variation in the spelling is likely. This was Sci Fi radio program in the 80's. Anybody remember her, or her kitties? Super bonus points for a link to the archives, if it exists. Google won't even discuss it with me.
OK, here's the deal: My sister's birthday is Saturday and I need to get her something awesome and fun because her birthday happens to be the day of my grandmother's funeral. Awful, I know. [more inside]
I'm about to ask a—perhaps sexist—question about the possible differences in how men and women—broadly speaking—identify with songs in marketing. But first, some set-up. As a branding exercise, I've been working on tackling a fictitious start-up consisting of two fashion retailer brands. One's a men's brand, and one's a women's brand, both part of the same fictitious umbrella corporation. When fleshing out the details of any brand, I like to immerse myself in the environment of that brand as much as possible, approaching it almost like a method actor approaches a role. Part of this process for me is usually creating a playlist of music I identify as feeling right for that brand. Songs I can imagine playing in the store itself. I noticed my thought process behind selecting tracks for the menswear and womenswear brands were entirely different, and I'm wondering if there's any underlying truth or data to support my intuitions. [more inside]
Since it is now summer and many women have taken to wearing open toed shoes frequently would it acceptable in a social situation for a young man with a liking to female feet to compliment a female friend and acquaintance on her toe nail polish or feet. In Canada women cover their feet for most of the year so it is a treat when they do show them.
What is this music? It was a piece by a woman composer; I think she had won some sort of important contemporary classical music award or was otherwise highly acclaimed, but the piece had a very postmodern/rockish sensibility. The beginning is a repetitive, kind of Olympo-fascist horn line and I think it resolves into something messier partway through the song. It's very catchy despite being kind of cacophonous. There was a music video for it that somehow involved, I think, horses or pegasi, an MS Paint aesthetic, and things with bright red eyes. [more inside]
Is there a classification of (HR-speak) discrimination when a male employee defers to female coworkers chivalrously (e.g. holding doors open)? Because the activity is solely based on gender, it seems like this would be the case, but it is not addressed as an example in our policies. (Title is Dad-quote from the 70's.)
Screenshot of the past two years. This is not an aberration, I have been this way since I was 13. There was even one year that I only had 2 periods the whole year. I have never taken the pill, or any contraception. I do not take any medications. I became sexually active in my early 20's. my first time meeting with a gyno was at 32, my current age. I have always worried about my fertility, but I comfort myself saying I am holding onto my eggs for an important time instead of letting them go. Do you know what is wrong with me?
I'm a confident solo traveller in Europe (Eastern and Western) and am pondering a trip to Morocco in the near future. I've seen this thread and the numerous ones suggesting that Marrakech and Fez are better choices than Casablanca, but I'm wondering if anyone has specific advice for a solo female traveller in Morocco? [more inside]
I am wondering if I should continue a friendship with a woman I met on our old job almost 20 years ago. Some background: we're both in our 40's, married, and have children. We live in different cities, my family moved from our hometown 14 years ago. I work outside the home, she is a sahm since she had her first child. We have corresponded mostly by e-mail, facebook, text message over the years. When we both worked we would literally "talk" via e-mail the entire day. We have been there for each other through some really serious stuff, i.e. marital problems, deaths, pregnancies, illnesses. [more inside]
Looking for more ethereal electronic (is that even what the kids call it these days?) music with a certain feeling to it - sort of happy, sort of sad, slightly otherworldly, all blending to create a dreamy, transcendant feeling. [more inside]