For the first time, in my early 40's, I'm overweight and ashamed and embarrassed and can't get back on track. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jul 26, 2014 -
Help me find this video or gif that I can't seem to locate with google. Sometime in the past year I've seen either a video or an animated gif where someone made a hack that put a male character skin on a female video game character. [more inside]
posted by MsMolly
on Jul 17, 2014 -
How can you, naturally or otherwise, optimize female hormones to help regain the metabolism and hormonal profile of someone in their teens or 20s? (And is this even possible or desirable?) [more inside]
posted by mintchip
on Jul 7, 2014 -
I am interested in working on a publishing/performing career (think the sort of thing you see on The Moth
). However, I am female. I am aware that all women if they get well known anywhere will immediately attract trolls, stalkers, and potential rapists who will constantly send her death threats at bare minimum. Knowing this kind of thing is guaranteed to happen to me if I try to have a creative career makes me terrified to try. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on May 24, 2014 -
My daughter is nuts for mythology and folklore, but after a particularly testosterone-powered Norse story last night she was asking if there were any collections of stories that weren't all about the boy-gods and heroes. So: recommendations for female-centric mythology and folklore, either story-cycles or lesser-known pantheons, suitable for bedtime-reading to an intelligent six-year-old. She wants actual myths rather than modern fiction based on or in the style of myths, or traditional myths retold from a female POV. (Yes, I have the Angela Carter books of fairy-tales. No, they are not suitable for a six-year-old.)
posted by Hogshead
on Apr 30, 2014 -
We are about to move into a much larger home than we currently live. We already have one amazing cat but we are 90% certain we will want to add to our brood once we are settled into our new home, but.... do we get a male cat or a female cat? [more inside]
posted by JenThePro
on Mar 10, 2014 -
This morning I was thinking about how in the movie Housesitter, Goldie Hawn's character wears a very limited number of pieces of clothing combined in a variety of different ways. My mom pointed this out to me at a very impressionable age, and noted how this was much more realistic than infinite wardrobes. I'm wondering what other other movies have an obviously finite wardrobe for a lead female character?
posted by Nimmie Amee
on Jan 22, 2014 -
I'm suddenly overcome by the urge to take a break from novels and read some interesting memoirs by women. I have read "Don't lets Go to the Dogs Tonight" by Alexandra Fuller and I really loved it because of how richly she described the setting, the humor and the tragedies her family went through. I felt like I was there. And that's really what I'm looking for- memoirs by female writers that are so alive that I feel like I'm there. Mefi Readers, what amazing memoirs can you recommend that have made you feel that way???
posted by misspony
on Jan 17, 2014 -
I am a 27 year old female and I want to take an international trip in March. I have never travelled solo and haven't been outside the US in years. I would love to go to Bali but I'm wondering if I might be biting off more than I can chew. [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso
on Jan 6, 2014 -
I AM a woman. I don't generally like hanging out with women. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by skbw
on Dec 31, 2013 -
My GF is running her first-ever marathon next weekend in Philadelphia. I'm looking for creative or interesting suggestions for either a gift or something I can do that she might like (beyond flowers at the finish and a massage, both of which are a done deal).
Any runners out there have a specific suggestion--maybe something sweet or thoughtful that was done for you after you finished?
posted by eggman
on Nov 9, 2013 -
I've been wondering about this for years. I have no concept of what it means to be female, apart from the body parts (which, as I've learned, don't, by themselves, mean a lot). All I can think of is a lot of cultural stuff, which doesn't seem to be universal all over the world, so surely that's just what we've learned?
I get the impression that there is such a thing as a female or male identity, as inborn gender.
If you have one, what does it feel like? How do you know what gender you are? [more inside]
posted by Too-Ticky
on Oct 29, 2013 -
I switched from doing cardio to lifting weights at the gym, mainly because I LOVE IT. However, despite every website telling me that, as a woman, I won't get "big and bulky," I think I might be. I've gone up 1-2 clothing sizes, my butt has exploded, jackets now seem narrow in the chest ... It would be one thing if, standing nude in the mirror, I saw a 6-pack staring back at me, but I don't. It doesn't "look" like I've lost much body fat at all (but I can definitely tell that I've gained muscle - I've got a bicep! For the first time ever!).
So, my question: will one day my muscle mass get large enough that my metabolism will rev up and my body fat will melt away? What are other ladies' experiences with beginning weight training and that effect on their body? (and I mean REAL weight training - bench presses of over 100 lbs, for instance - not lifting a 5 lb weight)
posted by athena2255
on Oct 16, 2013 -
A female detective had two cats, which she'd named Onanoff and Offanon. Some variation in the spelling is likely.
This was Sci Fi radio program in the 80's.
Anybody remember her, or her kitties? Super bonus points for a link to the archives, if it exists.
Google won't even discuss it with me.
posted by mule98J
on Oct 8, 2013 -
OK, here's the deal: My sister's birthday is Saturday and I need to get her something awesome and fun because her birthday happens to be the day of my grandmother's funeral. Awful, I know. [more inside]
posted by mzwz
on Oct 1, 2013 -
I'm about to ask a—perhaps sexist—question about the possible differences in how men and women—broadly speaking—identify with songs in marketing. But first, some set-up.
As a branding exercise, I've been working on tackling a fictitious start-up consisting of two fashion retailer brands. One's a men's brand, and one's a women's brand, both part of the same fictitious umbrella corporation. When fleshing out the details of any brand, I like to immerse myself in the environment of that brand as much as possible, approaching it almost like a method actor approaches a role. Part of this process for me is usually creating a playlist of music I identify as feeling right
for that brand. Songs I can imagine playing in the store itself. I noticed my thought process behind selecting tracks for the menswear and womenswear brands were entirely different, and I'm wondering if there's any underlying truth or data to support my intuitions. [more inside]
posted by ferdinandcc
on Aug 2, 2013 -
Since it is now summer and many women have taken to wearing open toed shoes frequently would it acceptable in a social situation for a young man with a liking to female feet to compliment a female friend and acquaintance on her toe nail polish or feet.
In Canada women cover their feet for most of the year so it is a treat when they do show them.
posted by Jack V
on Jul 12, 2013 -
What is this music? It was a piece by a woman composer; I think she had won some sort of important contemporary classical music award or was otherwise highly acclaimed, but the piece had a very postmodern/rockish sensibility. The beginning is a repetitive, kind of Olympo-fascist horn line and I think it resolves into something messier partway through the song. It's very catchy despite being kind of cacophonous. There was a music video for it that somehow involved, I think, horses or pegasi, an MS Paint aesthetic, and things with bright red eyes. [more inside]
posted by threeants
on May 27, 2013 -
Is there a classification of (HR-speak) discrimination when a male employee defers to female coworkers chivalrously (e.g. holding doors open)? Because the activity is solely based on gender, it seems like this would be the case, but it is not addressed as an example in our policies. (Title is Dad-quote from the 70's.)
posted by panmunjom
on May 23, 2013 -
Screenshot of the past two years
This is not an aberration, I have been this way since I was 13. There was even one year that I only had 2 periods the whole year. I have never taken the pill, or any contraception. I do not take any medications. I became sexually active in my early 20's. my first time meeting with a gyno was at 32, my current age.
I have always worried about my fertility, but I comfort myself saying I am holding onto my eggs for an important time instead of letting them go.
Do you know what is wrong with me?
posted by squirbel
on May 20, 2013 -
I'm a confident solo traveller in Europe (Eastern and Western) and am pondering a trip to Morocco in the near future. I've seen this thread
and the numerous ones suggesting that Marrakech and Fez are better choices than Casablanca, but I'm wondering if anyone has specific advice for a solo female traveller in Morocco? [more inside]
posted by SymphonyNumberNine
on May 8, 2013 -
I am wondering if I should continue a friendship with a woman I met on our old job almost 20 years ago. Some background: we're both in our 40's, married, and have children. We live in different cities, my family moved from our hometown 14 years ago. I work outside the home, she is a sahm since she had her first child. We have corresponded mostly by e-mail, facebook, text message over the years. When we both worked we would literally "talk" via e-mail the entire day. We have been there for each other through some really serious stuff, i.e. marital problems, deaths, pregnancies, illnesses. [more inside]
posted by getyourlife
on Apr 27, 2013 -
Looking for more ethereal electronic (is that even what the kids call it these days?)
music with a certain feeling to it - sort of happy, sort of sad, slightly otherworldly, all blending to create a dreamy, transcendant feeling. [more inside]
posted by lunasol
on Apr 25, 2013 -
I am a woman, live in the U.S., and I'm planning several trips to Europe over the next 3 years. They will be about 10 days to 2 weeks long, and will be in warmer months (spring, summer or fall). When I travel domestically, I always take just one bag (sometimes I take a second "personal item"). I need help thinking about what clothes I should take that will fit within these constraints. I am a plus-size woman, so that makes this more of a challenge. [more inside]
posted by OrangeDisk
on Apr 8, 2013 -
Please help with a complicated work situation.
Some context: Mid-twenties, female, graduated from a top-ranked university in liberal arts (I know, I know, but it worked out in the end. Sort of.) I work in sort of a niche, new media-y entertainment field, for which I am extremely grateful. I love this industry and I love the company I work for. And yet, snowflakes abound… [more inside]
posted by themaskedwonder
on Mar 19, 2013 -
Embarrassing and unusual symptom has been plaguing me for months now. Your insight, experience and advice appreciated. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Feb 8, 2013 -
What can I do, as a mid-twenties female, to ensure my reproductive organs will be as healthy as possible by the time I want kids? There is also history of problems in my family. [more inside]
posted by ramenopres
on Feb 3, 2013 -
How do Russian female friendships differ from American female friendships? [more inside]
posted by akka
on Jan 7, 2013 -
Can the hive mind confirm that men need a dark side to seduce women ? I’m a nice guy and I’ve not been lucky in love. Have I not been lucky in love because
I’m a nice guy ? [more inside]
posted by Baud
on Jan 2, 2013 -
Recently I went on a trip with my kid sister and each time, the pilots were men and the flight attendants were women and even while we were waiting to board, we watched the pilots and flight attendants for other airlines walk to their gates and it was always the same and she was curious and disgruntled about this, so I thought I would ask the hive mind. Are there institutional/systemic/socioeconomic reasons why the pilot/flight attendant makeup isn't proportionate to the population they serve?
posted by Sully
on Dec 15, 2012 -
YANMD, but what could be causing these bizarre health issues in a previously (fairly) healthy twenty-year-old female? Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by sarahgrace
on Nov 15, 2012 -
My "ovaries are polycystic, but this is not a significant pathological process" -what? [more inside]
posted by jrobin276
on Oct 17, 2012 -
Romantic song sung by female singer, with lyrics like, "Why do I need stars when I have you"? [more inside]
posted by catburger
on Sep 28, 2012 -
Try as I might, I can only think of one fantasy novel that I've ever (*ever*) read that had a girl as the main character. Can you suggest some for my 8yo daughter? [more inside]
posted by nonspecialist
on Sep 1, 2012 -
Enlighten me on current state of the art thinking, discourse and vocabulary around gender politics please. Terminally unique details inside. [more inside]
posted by infini
on Aug 22, 2012 -
Help my identify a band I heard earlier this year! Two Scottish girls that sound like two PJ Harveys... [more inside]
posted by indiebass
on Jul 13, 2012 -
Graduating with an IT degree at 31 - how to be attractive to employers, please? [more inside]
posted by Chorus
on Jun 14, 2012 -
Can you help me show a friend that plenty of people find love after 35? She is afraid that no one will want a relationship with a woman who is single at 35. [more inside]
posted by persephone's rant
on May 27, 2012 -
I'm really liking female indie-pop vocalists right now (Kimba, Florence Welch, Adele, Marina + the Diamonds). Who else should I listen to? Sorry, I hate Kate Bush.
posted by flibbertigibbet
on May 26, 2012 -
Where are all the cool lady podcasts? I listen to TAL, Wiretap, Radiolab, The Truth, etc., all of which I love, but I would like to hear some female perspectives in the mix as well. I prefer science-y content but comedy or just life in general works too. I'm open to anything, really, just want to hear some great female podcasting.
posted by tatiana wishbone
on May 9, 2012 -
I'm a 24-year-old female with severe hair loss from Accutane, and it's only getting worse. How do I get past this, emotionally and practically?
posted by anonymous
on Apr 16, 2012 -
I want a semi-private cabin on a lake with mountains in eastern Europe. Where do I go? [more inside]
posted by Cwell
on Mar 27, 2012 -
A few years ago I attended a talk on women's wellness in which the speaker referred to the idea that in our male-dominated society, work quality/style is considered superior when the work is cranked out regularly (in the way that men produce sperm all day long), whereas a feminine perspective would be more cyclical (as in the menstrual cycle), with production of work involving periods of contemplation/incubation and rest and less volume of production. Does anyone know the origin or source for this concept? I don't think it was the speaker's original idea. [more inside]
posted by pupstocks
on Jan 18, 2012 -