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Help me focus less on my fears and more on my dreams.

I'm struggling with a lack of self-confidence and undercurrent of doubt, and hoping that I might be able to shift my attention more towards what I hope for the future than what I fear from it. What are some simple techniques that I can use to gradually move the spotlight over to the positive? Looking for very concrete exercises or practices. Something like: “start each morning writing a vision of what you want.” Would that actually work? I'd think it might just freak me out more, make me feel guilty that I'm not there yet. But something concrete like that. Thanks. [more inside]
posted by Calicatt on Oct 4, 2013 - 11 answers

How to Keep My Sane during This Exchange and Have Fun

I'm on exchange in France and although I HAVE had a few fun nights, I'm generally having quite a hard time. It's my first week, so I'm aware that things will change. But what can I do to ease my way? I'm anxious, stressed, a little depressed, uncomfortable, feeling pretty low and insecure, etc. Please help me! [more inside]
posted by rhythm_queen on Jan 9, 2013 - 23 answers

Don't look back! Don't looks back!

I'm a 29 yr old female, married, and have two children. Yet, I am terrified of the dark and being home alone. For as long as I can remember darkness has petrified me and I can't enter a room that's dark, or even look into one. When I'm home alone, no matter the time of day, I get so scared that something is following me, in the house, or about to get me. I jump at every noise and will often just stand in the middle of the room looking back and forth quickly, so nothing can sneak up on me. I'm tired of being so scared and it's hard to comfort a child who's scared when you get just as scared as them. [more inside]
posted by Sweetmag on Jan 7, 2013 - 35 answers

Learning how to swim! As an adult.

I am 28 years old and never learned how to swim. I'm about to learn. Advice? Tips? Is it too late for me? [more inside]
posted by blackcatcuriouser on Jul 17, 2012 - 22 answers

Worried about going back to work after being signed off

Hi everyone. I've got a problem and wondered if anyone could give me some help and advice. I've been signed off work for a week because my old recurring problem of depression has reared its crappy head. It was very sudden. I went to the doctor on Tuesday basically in tears, exhausted and pretty much unable to function. You know; the usual. [more inside]
posted by Tiltedwindow on May 25, 2012 - 12 answers

How A went from thinking B to C

Please recommend stories about mental battles. Specifically, people overcoming deep-seated fears or beliefs. [more inside]
posted by fix on May 3, 2012 - 7 answers

Help An Unhappy Dad To Be Become A Happy Dad To Be.

My wife is pregnant and I'm not happy about it. Obviously that's a problem. Help me try to become happy about it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 27, 2011 - 71 answers

Need help coping with multiple miscarriage

Help me get over my miscarriages. I know logically that there's nothing I did that made them happen, but I can't seem to shake the feeling that a) I caused them through bad thoughts or actions, and b) that this negativity means that even if we do conceive again, I'm going to lose the next one as well because I can't make those thoughts go away. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 22, 2011 - 26 answers

How to cope with a fear of death? I

I'm terrified at the thought of dying and don't know what to do. I am not actually dying or sick in any way but sometimes I can't stop worrying about it. How can I stop, or feel better about it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 12, 2011 - 40 answers

Worst Fears Come Alive

BookFilter: I think the book takes place on Earth, and I think the book was written recently. A disaster of sorts happens and the only area of survival is a narrow strip of land, perhaps wrapping around the world, and perhaps powered/maintained by pipes. If people venture away from this strip, their worst fears/nightmares materialize and attack. I came across it somewhere on MetaFilter. Thanks in advance!
posted by Korou on Jan 2, 2011 - 5 answers

something something hive mind AHAHAHA

What exactly is happening in my brain that creates the very real feeling that I am covered in spiders when I am not, in fact, covered in spiders? [more inside]
posted by doublehappy on Dec 29, 2010 - 9 answers

Maybe I was a government experiment

Is this tokophobia or just some weirdness specific to me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 7, 2010 - 6 answers

How do I deal with multiple out-of-state family illnesses?

I can't stop feeling guilty about not being able to visit sick family members or help them more. I'm scared of others dying or being sick. [more inside]
posted by KogeLiz on Aug 12, 2010 - 5 answers

Big man scary!

My baby is terrified of her grandfather. What can we do to get her to like him a bit better? [more inside]
posted by Bardolph on Mar 2, 2010 - 19 answers

How to address recurring doubts about a long-term relationship

In serious, long-term relationships, how have you dealt with nagging doubts? How have you sorted through those doubts and then either set them aside and committed yourself, or decided to end things? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 12, 2008 - 18 answers

Arach No Phobia

Help me to find a way to be compassionate to people with a fear of spiders. Today in the work place someone started jumping up and down and screaming when they saw a spider. My wife and daughter are also very afraid of them too. My mind tells me that such fears are totally irrational and I want to tell them to "get over it." My gut tells me there is something more going on but I don't no what it is. Educate me.
posted by Xurando on Sep 8, 2008 - 49 answers

Keeping private stuff private

How do you protect your privacy when writing personal stuff down into journals, diaries, or self-help books? [more inside]
posted by Tbola on Jul 22, 2008 - 28 answers

Help me overcome my fears

How can I stop being so scared? [more inside]
posted by elquien on Nov 13, 2006 - 24 answers

How can I overcome my aversion to using telephones?

I have an irrational aversion to using the telephone, even in the most innocuous and impersonal of situations (like calling to find out if some place is open, if a store sells a certain thing, if a musical venue is selling tickets to a show in advance, etc). I wouldn't go so far as to call it a "fear", though I do get somewhat nervous when forced to use the phone in such circumstances, which makes it inconvenient and somewhat unpleasant for me when I have to use the phone for whatever reason. So how can I overcome my phone aversion?
posted by anonymous on Dec 7, 2004 - 45 answers

Fear of Spiders

PhobiaFilter: I'm an arachnophobic. How does one conquer an irrational fear? [more] [more inside]
posted by normy on Nov 15, 2004 - 14 answers

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