I think I'm ready to begin trying but I'm extremely scared of ruining the child's life or even regretting having one. How do I move forward? [more inside]
I'm struggling with a lack of self-confidence and undercurrent of doubt, and hoping that I might be able to shift my attention more towards what I hope for the future than what I fear from it. What are some simple techniques that I can use to gradually move the spotlight over to the positive? Looking for very concrete exercises or practices. Something like: “start each morning writing a vision of what you want.” Would that actually work? I'd think it might just freak me out more, make me feel guilty that I'm not there yet. But something concrete like that. Thanks. [more inside]
I'm on exchange in France and although I HAVE had a few fun nights, I'm generally having quite a hard time. It's my first week, so I'm aware that things will change. But what can I do to ease my way? I'm anxious, stressed, a little depressed, uncomfortable, feeling pretty low and insecure, etc. Please help me! [more inside]
I'm a 29 yr old female, married, and have two children. Yet, I am terrified of the dark and being home alone. For as long as I can remember darkness has petrified me and I can't enter a room that's dark, or even look into one. When I'm home alone, no matter the time of day, I get so scared that something is following me, in the house, or about to get me. I jump at every noise and will often just stand in the middle of the room looking back and forth quickly, so nothing can sneak up on me. I'm tired of being so scared and it's hard to comfort a child who's scared when you get just as scared as them. [more inside]
I am 28 years old and never learned how to swim. I'm about to learn. Advice? Tips? Is it too late for me? [more inside]
Hi everyone. I've got a problem and wondered if anyone could give me some help and advice. I've been signed off work for a week because my old recurring problem of depression has reared its crappy head. It was very sudden. I went to the doctor on Tuesday basically in tears, exhausted and pretty much unable to function. You know; the usual. [more inside]
Please recommend stories about mental battles. Specifically, people overcoming deep-seated fears or beliefs. [more inside]
My wife is pregnant and I'm not happy about it. Obviously that's a problem. Help me try to become happy about it. [more inside]
Help me get over my miscarriages. I know logically that there's nothing I did that made them happen, but I can't seem to shake the feeling that a) I caused them through bad thoughts or actions, and b) that this negativity means that even if we do conceive again, I'm going to lose the next one as well because I can't make those thoughts go away. [more inside]
I'm terrified at the thought of dying and don't know what to do. I am not actually dying or sick in any way but sometimes I can't stop worrying about it. How can I stop, or feel better about it? [more inside]
BookFilter: I think the book takes place on Earth, and I think the book was written recently. A disaster of sorts happens and the only area of survival is a narrow strip of land, perhaps wrapping around the world, and perhaps powered/maintained by pipes. If people venture away from this strip, their worst fears/nightmares materialize and attack. I came across it somewhere on MetaFilter. Thanks in advance!
What exactly is happening in my brain that creates the very real feeling that I am covered in spiders when I am not, in fact, covered in spiders? [more inside]
Is this tokophobia or just some weirdness specific to me? [more inside]
I can't stop feeling guilty about not being able to visit sick family members or help them more. I'm scared of others dying or being sick. [more inside]
My baby is terrified of her grandfather. What can we do to get her to like him a bit better? [more inside]
In serious, long-term relationships, how have you dealt with nagging doubts? How have you sorted through those doubts and then either set them aside and committed yourself, or decided to end things? [more inside]
Help me to find a way to be compassionate to people with a fear of spiders. Today in the work place someone started jumping up and down and screaming when they saw a spider. My wife and daughter are also very afraid of them too. My mind tells me that such fears are totally irrational and I want to tell them to "get over it." My gut tells me there is something more going on but I don't no what it is. Educate me.
How do you protect your privacy when writing personal stuff down into journals, diaries, or self-help books? [more inside]
How can I stop being so scared? [more inside]
I have an irrational aversion to using the telephone, even in the most innocuous and impersonal of situations (like calling to find out if some place is open, if a store sells a certain thing, if a musical venue is selling tickets to a show in advance, etc). I wouldn't go so far as to call it a "fear", though I do get somewhat nervous when forced to use the phone in such circumstances, which makes it inconvenient and somewhat unpleasant for me when I have to use the phone for whatever reason. So how can I overcome my phone aversion?
PhobiaFilter: I'm an arachnophobic. How does one conquer an irrational fear? [more] [more inside]