I'm booked for surgery for a deviated septum on November 27th. My wife has heard 'horror stories' and now my choice is to cancel the surgery and live the rest of my life continuing not to be able to breath through my nose properly, or have the surgery and *allegedly* needing my wife to 'take care of me' for a week and *allegedly* not being allowed to let our baby near my face for more than a month. [more inside]
posted by Kickstart70
on Oct 27, 2006 -
So I have been reading this biography of Che Guevera, and I find it gives me nightmares... Why?
posted by Deep Dish
on Oct 5, 2006 -
Frightening flicks involving feminine fears? (This is a good question for gender studies, psych, and cinema studies majors!) [more inside]
posted by np312
on Oct 2, 2006 -
How do I get over my fear of moving? How do New Yorkers deal with this overblown rental market? [more inside]
posted by scazza
on Sep 12, 2006 -
I am flying soon. I would like to bring a bottle of water to security, a nice plain Muji style bottle, with a custom label on it. What should be pasted on it for this lame, meaningless, nearly silent protest? What will not get me violated or detained, but will clearly state the idiocies of fear we are now enduring?
Or is this horrible, this idea?
posted by kingfisher, his musclebound cat
on Sep 6, 2006 -
Comfort my wife's fears. She has recently developed a phobia of flying and we are leaving on a flight on thursday. [more inside]
posted by Hands of Manos
on Sep 5, 2006 -
My previously relatively benign aversion to dogs has become cripplingly intense in the last few months, to the point that I can't make it to my house's front door without being accompanied.
I'm living in Indonesia, and don't know enough of the language to express my absolute, mortal terror or where to find English-language psychological help. I really need some help here: how can I go home at night? [more inside]
posted by mdonley
on Sep 1, 2006 -
I'm afraid to stop carrying my credit card, and because it's so handy and available, it's getting me into more and more debt. [more inside]
posted by willmize
on Aug 25, 2006 -
My wife is afraid of spiders. We just moved to Portland, Oregon, where the spider population seems to be higher than that even of slackers. I would like to not have to go on spider patrol every night, and I'd like my toddler daughter to not grow up with an irrational fear as well. Is there a way to cure her fear of spiders?
posted by sholdens12
on Aug 7, 2006 -
I'm twenty five, divorced, done with school, and finally able to get out and see the world. There's just one problem: logistics. [more inside]
posted by damnthesehumanhands
on Jun 25, 2006 -
Should I be freaked out by a random seeming violent act that just took place by my house, or just chalk it up to the risk you take when you life in a big city? [more inside]
posted by piratebowling
on Jun 6, 2006 -
My six year old daughter has recently (past few months or so) had a recurring fear of being kidnapped. I have tried many different tactics to quell this fear of hers, but would love to hear some possible tactics to relax my nervous midget.
posted by Ateo Fiel
on May 22, 2006 -
My obsessive-compulsive disorder isn't disrupting my day-to-day living, but it's annoying as hell. Good news is that I feel like I'm on the verge of being able to make myself stop giving in to the compulsive urges -- should I give it a try? Has anyone else out there with OCD tried to take the leap and just "quit"? [more inside]
posted by treepour
on May 1, 2006 -
I was heavily bitten by bedbugs over the summer of 2005, and although they're gone, I've grown very anxious about the thought of ever becoming reinfested. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Mar 25, 2006 -
Money is difficult. I'm familiar with Your Money or Your Life
, "pay yourself first", Quicken, The Tightwad Gazette
, etc. but my money problems seem to be intertwined with a lot of relationship stuff that is hard to unravel. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Mar 8, 2006 -
Oh God, my wife is going to drag me from our home in NYC to live in Philly. Where should I live? How will I survive? [more inside]
posted by Hobbacocka
on Jan 25, 2006 -
How do I learn how to stop worrying, and being anxious, and get on with life? One of my biggest flaws is worrying about a negative outcome in most aspects of my life. Even though I know that in general my life is ok, and indeed I am lucky in many ways, I worry daily about it all going wrong, and this is having a negative effect on my quality of life. How do I learn to live and enjoy life without unnecessary worry? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jan 10, 2006 -
FearOfFlyingFilter: Do you fly Lufthansa? Do you listen to their "Relaxation Program" on the in-flight radio? Do you have any idea who does the guided imagery on it? Or, have any other great suggestions for calming things I could listen to at 30,000 feet? [more inside]
posted by Your Time Machine Sucks
on Nov 17, 2005 -
I'd like to get one of those nice Nikon d50s when they come out. The problem is, I'm completely freaked out at the notion of carrying around a thousand dollars around my neck for fear of getting mugged, or stolen. I'll be moving to Miami in a month and living in an urban area too. And the camera isn't worth it if I leave it at home. Are these fears justified? Am I just freaking out? Any tips on how to make myself less of a target? I'd like to have the camera with me on a fairly occasional basis. [more inside]
posted by Stan Chin
on May 27, 2005 -
I've been driving a car for about a decade now, and it's suddenly occurred to me that I'm now completely paranoid about anyone else driving me somewhere. I'm constantly checking the mirrors while they drive, and getting stressed because I think they should be braking sooner or driving in a different lane. It even happens when I catch a bus. Has anyone else experienced this? How did you get over it?
posted by Jimbob
on Feb 8, 2005 -
How do you help somoene terrified of committment get through their fears and into the relationship you think you both were meant for?
This might just be a general "what's the best way to approach someone with emotional baggage" question; be sympathetic, caring and understanding or trying to help them get over it? I know what it is that causes this for him/her but I don't know how to best make them understand I'm not trying to "fix" them when I approach it.
posted by anonymous
on Dec 11, 2004 -
I had a terrifying flight on a small 50-seater plane today. Heavy turbulence, people screaming, lights dimming... I am supposed to fly home on Sunday and although I know it's ridiculous, I just don't think I can step back on a plane so soon. I am planning to rent a car (to drive about 8 hours v. one-hour flight), but am finding this really embarassing (not to mention a waste of time and money). Can anyone offer any advice or online resources that may be of aid and reassurance? [mi] [more inside]
posted by amro
on Nov 25, 2004 -
My boyfriend needs to go to the dentist. He recently chipped a tooth, and hasn't been in ages. The problem is two-fold: One, he's TERRIFIED of going, especially because of his long time away from the dentist, and because of deep-rooted fear of the dentist and two, he has no dental insurance. He's agreed to go if I can find a dentist that will accept him without insurance and I go with him to hold his hand. How do I find a dentist that will see him without insurance and will be accomodating to his fears? 1-800-dentist seems secretive at how they arrive at their recommendations.
posted by agregoli
on Nov 15, 2004 -
In another thread, somebody posted the following bit of advice to a 35 year old woman considering a very long car trip:
"if someone stops to help, stay in your car and from behind the closed window smile, tell them you've just called the highway patrol and that they'll be by in a minute... then thank them and wave them on
I find this a pretty shocking piece of advice, and said so: "what kind of paranoid freak lives by this advice ... That's a pretty unpleasant mental space to be living in"
And JanetLand responded: "Frankly, that's what life is like for a woman. I try not to live there, but any letters sent there will definitely reach me.
So, here's my question - is this really where most women spend their mental lives? [more inside]
posted by Irontom
on Aug 5, 2004 -
NERDS, PLEASE ADVISE! ... I have an old (but still treasured) Nintendo 64. I am currently addicted to playing games on my Gameboy SE. A friend tells me you can play Gameboy cartridges on the new Gamecube. I am excited about this, and price a Gamecube with the Gameboy add-on. I find it will be $150 for this. I am only really interested in playing Gameboy cartridges, and not so much interested in Gamecube games. So I have found this gameboy adaptor for the n64
, which I can find all over the place for about $30. This sounds awesome, especially since it's $120 cheaper and since I fear that if I upgrade to the gamecube I'll never play the n64 anymore.
My question is: is the gameboy-to-television image as good on this n64 cartridge? Has anyone actually played with this? Or if I'm just interested in playing Gameboy on the t.v. , is the Gamecube worth the money?
Thank you for your time on this most important discussion topic.
posted by Peter H
on Jul 23, 2004 -
How do you deal with fear when engaged in a sport that involves risk of physical injury or death?
I raced bicycles for a number of years, then quit after having a frightening experience with something that my doctor identified as a symptom of a benign sinus arrhythmia - felt like I was having a heart attack.
In a climbing gym, I fell and got flipped upside down and smacked into the wall several times and can't seem to give 100% anymore because I'm afraid of the same thing happening again.
Yesterday afternoon I had my first motorcycle crash - I'm fine, and the bike is mostly fine - and I'm now rather spooked. My gear worked well, the bike needs a new shift lever, and all I'm left with is some bruises and a newfound worry.
I feel like I'm spooking myself out of all the things that I really enjoy doing after having some reasonably benign experiences. So how do others who love sports or other activities that involve risk manage their fears and regain their willingness to push themselves?
Is it silly for me to ask this question?
posted by gkostolny
on Jul 12, 2004 -
Okay, I'm leaving for Boise, Idaho (driving) tomorrow and I'd really like to know from people who live there or have been there if it really is as hazardous to black men who travel there as the stories all seem to go. Should I be scared? I'm already planning not to go anywhere without an escort. [more inside]
posted by Slimemonster
on Feb 18, 2004 -
Does anybody know of alternative ways to get over an extremely irrational fear of public speaking/presenting?
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posted by repoman
on Jan 3, 2004 -
I'll be flying 8+ hours to London two weeks from today. I have a paralyzing fear of flying, any advice?
Also, what should I do once I make it there? [more inside]
posted by esch
on Dec 12, 2003 -