Almost two weeks ago I suddenly started having strange feelings of lightheadedness, abnormal difficultly concentrating, a lack of coordination (feeling as though I might fall over or run in to things), and visual issues (difficulty focusing on distant objects, seemingly less aware of my periphery - though there are no noticable gaps in my visual field). I've had these, albeit with decreasing frequency and severity, since that time. I'm often very fearful during these episodes (which can last 4-5 hours at a time, the dizziness/lightheadedness sometimes all day), fearing permanent brain damage and having extreme feelings of derealization
. I've come to the conclusion that at least some of these symptoms are due to panic attacks
. Does that explain it all though? [more inside]
How can I find a dentist who is good with terrified patients? [more inside]
How do I stop having 'bipolar' feelings of excitement and fear at the first stages of a relationship? [more inside]
Discovered recently that my wife is expecting our second child - mixed feelings are overwhelming me - practical solutions? [more inside]
Talk me down: Wisdom teeth removal and utter terror. [more inside]
I'm having the same problem as the poster below me "Help me deal with high stakes situations.." (BTW I read all those responses too).
Like her it happens with meetings, people with authority, friends and dating. But, I'm a guy, and the only part I really care about is how it effects friends and dating. The rest I can live with.. [more inside]
Recently, during a movie, my boyfriend pointed to an actress and said “Hey, that’s a really nice color. I think it would look really nice on you.” And my reaction involved mentioning hair damage, fading, and a fear I’d never get my natural color back or that dyeing my hair might cause grays (I have none, and all my family members dye their hair and had a bunch of grays at my age). I love my natural hair color and texture, and if I could guarantee that after dyeing my hair, it would be exactly the same as before, I’d do it. So I tend to stick with what I’ve got because I’m afraid of what I’m going to get. I'd like to loosen up a bit.... [more inside]
Ice falling from tall buildings filter. Help me lay to rest a question that has plagued my wife. We live in Chicago, with lots of tall buildings. Ice falls off of the buildings from time to time and about once a year, some poor bastard gets mushed. Where in terms of physics and I suppose statistics would be the safest place to walk down the sidewalk: as close to the building as possible? The middle of the sidewalk? The far edge? Does it depend on building height?
I'm off work the next four days over the New Year's holiday & weekend. I am usually a very social person, but I live alone and I don't have much of anything planned this weekend. And I'm worried about spending the whole weekend alone, because I think I will get really lonely and unhappy. How can I enjoy myself? [more inside]
Help me not descend into extreme paranoia. Last night a male intruder approached me in my back yard. Police came and "caught" him. I have always been on the fairly cautious/paranoid side of personal security so I am afraid this incident may spiral downward to a place I do not want it to go. Any thoughts? (Longer story below) [more inside]
I'm generally a pretty nervous person. Lately (over the last two months), it's become worse. I jump whenever someone enters the room. I'm quite stressed about everyday things (a disagreement, a social event, my future), and nearly every day my stomach or chest or shoulders ache from these worries. I recognise that my response to this is overblown and irrational, and that maybe I need to seek medical attention. But that's the problem. Can you help me gather the courage to see a doctor? [more inside]
I'm flying in a few weeks. I'm scared to death, and I want to try some of those anti-anxiety meds that people say you can get from your doctor. But how do I talk to my doctor about it? [more inside]
I see the world, and all
in it, as something vicious and ready to attack me, and that influences far too much stuff in my life. Help. [more inside]
I smoked marijuana early this morning and had terrifying experiences. What happened, why, and what should I do now? I could use some reassurance. [more inside]
How do I make my voice sound scared? [more inside]
How do I conquer fear? I'm quite afraid of doing things that I have not done before, and it does not get better when I conquer fear of some things. [more inside]
Weddings freak me out, why? [more inside]
How can I learn to love my looks? [more inside]
How can I ignore my ego and feelings of self-importance? [more inside]
Looking for an adventurer and author who was noted for confronting specific fears and paying people to ensure he had no option but to follow through. [more inside]
Every member of my family, save one, has died young from a heart attack. Am I doomed? [more inside]
My wife is an anatomy professor and needs help with this question: Most anatomy textbooks say that urination and defecation are controlled by the parasympathetic nervous system (aka "rest and digest system") Then why is it that some lose bladder and bowel control in frightening situations? Isn't the opposing sympathetic "fight or flight" system supposed to in charge?
Help me overcome my fear of sex. [more inside]
Is it possible to overcome a fear of intimacy without therapy? [more inside]
Should I take the job or hope I get another offer? [more inside]
How can I make time slow down? [more inside]
How do I let go of the past? [more inside]
I would like to be more, er, assertive in bed, but I'm too shy. How can I get past this? Is there a good self-help book on the subject? Is there anything you've personally tried that worked for you? [more inside]
Anxieties about my own safety and that of my loved ones are making it hard for me to sleep at night. The onset of dusk makes my stomach knot. [more inside]
How do I get people to respect my phobia? How do I make them stop antagonizing me by showing me the thing I'm afraid of? [more inside]
Should I have said something to the kid waiting for the MRI at the hospital? [more inside]
Is there something with which I could spray my clothes in the stead of washing them? [more inside]
Basically, I want to talk to someone without feeling judged. Both now and in general. [more inside]
How did you adjust to living in New York City? I just got here and I'm feeling incredibly overwhelmed and uncertain about my decision to move here. Any advice? [more inside]
Post-marathon advice: I'm running my second marathon this weekend; I was very sore after my first and am convinced that an ice bath is probably my best bet post-race to combat soreness
. Problem is, I'm more scared about the bath than the race. [more inside]
I'm thinking of a term to describe a causation related to taboos. [more inside]
What is going on with my teeth / gums (very disgusting stuff inside)?
If you, like me, do not like to hear or see sensitive parts of the body going wrong, please do not read this question. [more inside]
Has my overactive imagination turned into anxiety? [more inside]
How do I get people to try new things? [more inside]
Why do women (predominantly) scream? Is it a conscious choice? What goes through their minds when they're screaming? I've noticed that young girls do it frequently while playing in the schoolyard I live near too. [more inside]
TERROR! After 25 years in the IT industry in Ireland I feel like the 21st century equivalent of an expendable 19th century coal miner. I'm about to be made redundant (again) this afternoon and am gripped by terror. I don't even know now what I want. Any career counseling advice?
Okay, this is kind of embarrassing, but how do I not be a whimp? [more inside]
My golden retriever-lab mix freaks out when we cook lamb -- he whines and puts his tail between his legs. He'll eat the cooked lamb fine, but he finds the smell of it cooking distressing.
I've read elsewhere
about this phenomenon, but does anyone have this experience with their dog or have an idea what makes lamb so scary? Does he think we're cooking his pals?
He has his skittish moments (scared of thunder, natch), but this is the only time I've seen him behave this way. And he's a rescue dog, so it's possible he had some early traumatic experience involving lamb. But since I've read about other dogs behaving this way, I doubt it.
I've reached my late 20s without ever facing death. How do I deal with death when I know I will face it sooner or later? [more inside]
I am in my twenties, and I have given up on the idea of ever having sex again because I believe I am secretly too hideous for it. [more inside]
Please help me figure out how to get on an airplane. [more inside]
I want to shake my irrational fear of going back to school. It's for my own good! [more inside]
I need to learn to drive, but the idea scares the crap out of me. [more inside]
I am afraid to make music. [more inside]
What is the best way for me - a gay man living in a country where I don't speak much of the language and where gay people are relatively repressed - to promote greater rights for gay people here? [more inside]