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"In space, no one hears you scream"

Should I watch Prometheus? I'm afraid of horror films. [more inside]
posted by polymodus on Jun 13, 2012 - 23 answers

How can a former shy person go from merely functional to friendly?

I used to be very shy. Through years of pushing myself (I'm 33 now), I've become pretty amazingly functional. But I find myself in an unexpected spot. While I very much want to be around people and I can now handle it without freezing up, my experience of actually being around people is one of gritted teeth and willpower. There's very little joy in it. In theory, I'd like nothing more than a bushel of friends hanging out in my kitchen on a Sunday night. In practice, I push myself into social situations like dunking my arm in freezing water, pulling it out with a huge sigh of relief as soon as I let myself. That's not a recipe for forging new friendships, which I know take time and certain amount of vulnerability. What can I do to take myself to the next level -- from functional to genuinely friendly? Do people ever make it to the next level? On the phobia scale, it's not enough for me to be able to let a spider crawl on my arm without having a panic attack, I need to be able to lay down in a cave full of spiders and love it. (I've been in therapy for a year, but aside from that, I'd like to hear from you all.)
posted by anonymous on Jun 7, 2012 - 21 answers

How can I stop worrying about the revolution?

Part of my family was butchered by communists in their country of origin. How do I keep from worrying about civil unrest in America, particularly over economic inequality? How valid are these fears? [more inside]
posted by corb on Jun 4, 2012 - 61 answers

Make me more comfortable with biking

You started biking later in life, and you did it in a big city. How did you become comfortable biking on roads with cars? I'm kind of freaked out by this. [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz on May 22, 2012 - 42 answers

Crush Hooked Up With Someone Else

First things first: I am a gay female. I have had a crush on my friend for several months (also a gay female), however, being inexperienced at making first moves and being shy, I have been moving very slowly. I thought perhaps she felt something for me, but never made any overt moves. Recently she drunkenly hooked up with another girl (whom she had just recently met within the last 2 weeks and this was only the second or third day they had really hung out together) at a party. I am wondering if I have completely missed my chance, and what I should do. [more inside]
posted by christiehawk on May 19, 2012 - 22 answers

How I learned to stop worrying and love the dog

Tell me your experiences getting over fear or discomfort with dogs. My wonderful brother, bless him, loves me, but fears dogs. But now I'm getting a second one (German Shepherd puppy), the breed of his nightmares, and he is struggling. He's told me himself he wants to get over it, and I'm sure exposure and puppies will help, but I'd love to hear your own experiences and anecdotes getting past this. [more inside]
posted by Elfasi on May 3, 2012 - 27 answers

How did I lose my common sense and run this red light?

Freaked out like crazy: I ran a red light and put myself and others in very real danger. How did I forget how to drive safely for 10 seconds? [more inside]
posted by chocolatemilkshakes on Mar 27, 2012 - 49 answers

Fight the future?

How do you deal with fears about global warming? [more inside]
posted by gentian on Mar 22, 2012 - 33 answers

I won't. But I could.

I am irrationally afraid of heights and subway trains. I live in New York City. HELP! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 21, 2012 - 18 answers

How can I alleviate my fear of thunderstorms tonight?

There is a line of thunderstorms heading our way, and my anxiety (nay, fear) is rising sharply. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by raintree on Mar 15, 2012 - 23 answers

Will my boyfriend stop being attracted to me if he learns I am infertile, even though he doesn't want to have more children?

I'm in a relationship with someone and it's getting pretty serious. He has two kids from a previous marriage who I love (and they seem to love me, too). It's all quite great. However, I have what seems like an irrational fear that I can't seem to get out of my head and wanted some input. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 14, 2012 - 18 answers

Lump on the pup: what do I need to be researching?

While I wait to hear results from a needle aspiration... what can you tell me about scary doggy lumps, in your experience? After getting our dog her radical spring haircut we discovered a lump, between marble and walnut-sized, on her upper front left leg, about midway above the joint, on the front of the leg. It's movable (moves around under finger pressure/movement), and doesn't seem to cause her any pain or warrant her attention at all. [more inside]
posted by taz on Mar 13, 2012 - 28 answers

Pining away

Please help me deal with my fear of the giant pine tree out front falling on our apartment. [more inside]
posted by indognito on Mar 2, 2012 - 14 answers

Say No To Bulls**t!

Why do I find propaganda so creepy? [more inside]
posted by DuchessProzac on Mar 1, 2012 - 18 answers

How do I love better?

I really don't want to end up alone. What can I start doing to break this generational cycle? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 26, 2012 - 12 answers

How to distinguish relationship doubts from a complicated history?

I've been with a wonderful man for 4 years and I'm panicking about ending the relationship for no good reason. I still get smiley when he texts me and he makes me laugh, he's gorgeous, but I have these sudden adrenalin rushes and an overwhelming panicky feeling that I have to end the relationship immediately. I asked for three weeks apart to clear my head, and we made it to two before I wanted him here again... but the panicking is back! [more inside]
posted by Anne Onymouse on Feb 24, 2012 - 29 answers

How decrease my levels of frustration when learning a skill?

How do I get over the sudden fear, anxiety, frustration and embarrassment I feel when learning a new skill? [more inside]
posted by Shebear on Feb 18, 2012 - 15 answers

Does she stay or does she go?

18 year old daughter doesn't want to go on annual family vacation because of anxiety. How does a caring single parent work through this? [more inside]
posted by kinetic on Feb 17, 2012 - 36 answers

Why do the backs of my legs tingle when I'm afraid?

Why do the backs of my legs tingle when I'm scared? [more inside]
posted by facetious on Jan 30, 2012 - 9 answers

Calming strategies/advice for impending older-child adoption?

Best way to calm new adoptive parent fears and prepare for attachment issues? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 29, 2011 - 13 answers

I am so afraid

I am stuck in a hole of fear. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 8, 2011 - 25 answers

Are dedicated snow tires worth it?

We have a Ford E150 van (2005) and are driving from Utah to Oregon. The last time we made this trip in we had to put on chains when crossing the blue mountains around 2003 (via I-84). Should we get dedicated snow tires this time around? [more inside]
posted by craniac on Dec 3, 2011 - 15 answers

How to have sex when you suffer from eurotophobia

I want to have sex with my boyfriend for the first time, but I have an extreme phobic reaction to both genitalia and vaginal penetration. How can I possibly overcome this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 3, 2011 - 44 answers

My fear of AIDS is destroying my life

I'm a 28 year old gay male. My fear of AIDS is destroying my life. It's so bad that I don't really want to be gay anymore. [more inside]
posted by Tyrant King Porn Dragon on Dec 1, 2011 - 45 answers

"Please like me."

Why do I get so stressed out by the idea of confrontation, or of people being angry with me? I obsess about it for ages. How can I move past this constant need for people to approve of me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 30, 2011 - 21 answers

How to overcome hypochondria

Has anyone ever had experience with overcoming hypochondria? [more inside]
posted by PrettyKnitty on Nov 30, 2011 - 9 answers

How do I help my flatmate get past a disturbing home invasion?

How do I help my flatmate get past a disturbing home invasion? [more inside]
posted by neilb449 on Nov 19, 2011 - 9 answers

How can I convince myself that I can actually make friends?

How can I stop feeling broken and try to make friends without baggage? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 14, 2011 - 14 answers

Don't be scared

Anyone have any tips for speeding up the process of "forgetting" scary things? [more inside]
posted by simplethings on Oct 23, 2011 - 14 answers

I Feel So Average

I feel so average and uninteresting. What can I do to remedy this situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 18, 2011 - 22 answers

Severe emetophobia. Need help.

I am posting this for my partner, who has severe emetophobia. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by tumid dahlia on Sep 16, 2011 - 41 answers

Help me get over my fear of conflict.

Help me become ok with conflict. I avoid conflict. Not just overt, head-butting conflict, but also minor disagreements, disapproving looks, divergent preferences... all the way down to the friction generated by the give and take of an interesting conversation. Anything short of complete harmony, and I'm looking for a way out. Sometimes this means avoiding the person or situation. Sometimes this means just shutting up and smiling. Sometimes it means not developing an opinion of my own until I know what other people think first. My absolute fear of conflict is a drag. It makes me and my life pretty bland and I want to beat it. Tell me how to beat it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 16, 2011 - 16 answers

What's the action plan for pure angst?

I've got angst - the honest-to-goodness, existential, "why are we here?" kind. Two years of trying to shake it haven't worked - and have sometimes made me wonder if it's worth fixing at all. What do I do now? [more inside]
posted by Apropos of Something on Sep 16, 2011 - 48 answers

Ron Suskind probably won't be calling

How do you know when it's anxiety and when it's something you really need to worry about? I don't trust my judgment anymore. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 1, 2011 - 8 answers

Help me enjoy the scenic views

How and/or can I get over my fear of (a specific kind of) heights? [more inside]
posted by RajahKing on Aug 27, 2011 - 10 answers

Hope for a reactive dog?

The adorable puppy our family adopted last year has matured into a reactive, resource guarding adult dog. Has anyone been able to rehabilitate this type of dog? What helped for you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 16, 2011 - 14 answers

Name for the fear you're doing something wrong but don't know what it is?

Is there a word for the fear that you're doing something wrong but don't know what it is? [more inside]
posted by colinmarshall on Aug 9, 2011 - 20 answers

Afraid of Natural Gas Job

I've accepted a role with a utility that distributes natural gas (not fracked). I'm plagued by doubt. I need information on the industry and advice on how to proceed next. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 9, 2011 - 14 answers

Are things really worse than ever? How can I cope?

Are things really worse than ever? How can I cope? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 8, 2011 - 63 answers

Please help me survive a flight without panic

Please help me survive a flight without panic [more inside]
posted by soft and hardcore taters on Aug 6, 2011 - 24 answers

Is this a phobia?

Why do I avoid looking at maps, satellite images and the Mona Lisa? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2011 - 13 answers

Knowing Your Limits/Accepting or Mitigating Intellectual Failure

I have a serious problem with being seen to be intellectually 'wrong'. I need ways to get over it [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 24, 2011 - 26 answers

I'm not over her; help me deal with her presence.

I've accepted that I likely won't be completely over my ex until after we both graduate. Considering that, how can I deal with being around her? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 24, 2011 - 12 answers

Holes. Goddamned holes.

Saw disturbing images over a month ago. Still disturbed/unsettled. Any techniques or ideas for scrubbing my brain? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 14, 2011 - 41 answers

Please help us figure out why she's suddenly afraid of places that weren't a problem before. But before "what", exactly?

Why would a 7 month old puppy suddenly develop a fear of her dedicated pee spots in our yard? [more inside]
posted by mireille on Jul 13, 2011 - 14 answers

How to stop emotional "attack" reflex?

How can I be more comfortable with my SO's vulnerability? Whenever he's emotionally open with me, my claws come out! Our relationship is healthy/supportive/friend approved, and I don't want to lose him over this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 11, 2011 - 24 answers

Fear of Flying

I'm a terrible flyer and have to take a 9-hour flight this evening. Does anyone have any advice, statistics, tips, etc. to put my mind at ease and make this flight more bearable? [more inside]
posted by Tenacious.Me.Tokyo on Jun 6, 2011 - 31 answers

Internal Relationship Struggle in the Face of Healthy Change

I am going through a period of significant change at the moment where I am trying to address some long-standing problems in my life, and I think I am on the right track and making some real progress. My one big dilemma is related to my relationship. I actually credit a lot of my progress to my boyfriend and his unshakable support and the undercurrent of what I think is calmness in our house. BUT, I am finding myself kind of shrinking from him, and if I am being honest, feeling a sort of (shameful) disgust towards him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 16, 2011 - 9 answers

Fear is the Mindkiller

I am a reporter. How do I become a braver interviewer? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 2, 2011 - 9 answers

How can I get over the fear of (or get OUT OF) dancing at my wedding?

Getting married in two months. GF and her family love dancing and will do a lot of it at the wedding. I want to make her happy, but I'm a terrible dancer and the whole thing is making me very anxious. What to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 29, 2011 - 29 answers

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