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Looking for a type of phobia that results in fight rather than flight.

If you have, say a spider phobia, are you the "Run away!!" type of phobic or the "OMG SMASH SMASH SMASH HIT IT WITH A BOOK TURN OVER THE TABLE SET THE HOUSE ON FIRE... is it dead?" type? Is there a term or specific type of phobia for the second option? [more inside]
posted by The otter lady on Aug 14, 2013 - 7 answers

Goal: No more terrorizing myself.

Advice me, Metafilter, on how to get over this totally irrational fear I have of being single forever. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 11, 2013 - 23 answers

Should I have called the police?

Should I have called the police? And in the future, when should I? [more inside]
posted by rawralphadawg on Aug 10, 2013 - 26 answers

Paranoia = Dementia?

My parents sort of lost it after the 2004 election. I think they're getting even more out of touch and I don't know what to do as they age. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2013 - 33 answers

Is it always a bad idea to file bankruptcy at an early age?

I'm 23 and thinking of filing bankruptcy. I have $16,000 + in debt - is this a bad idea? [more inside]
posted by Autumn on Jul 29, 2013 - 31 answers

How can I get over a mild fear of heights and enjoy my balcony?

I live on the 24th floor of a highrise apartment building. I have a kick-ass balcony. Seriously, the view is incredible, and I get some amazing afternoon sun. However, I also have a mild (??) fear of heights that keeps me from really appreciating it. Now that our fleeting summer's here, I've realized I don't want to go another year not being able to enjoy my balcony! [more inside]
posted by cgg on Jun 29, 2013 - 15 answers

Facial hair is not an issue.

My dog is scared of men. [more inside]
posted by Uppity Pigeon #2 on Jun 5, 2013 - 17 answers

Help a layperson better understand the current science of climate change

I would like to become much better educated on the subject of climate change, with the ultimate goal of making work that explains specific aspects of climate science for a lay audience. To that end, can you recommend to me:
- books/articles/podcasts/websites covering:
----current predictions of climate change
----explanations of how climate processes interact
----discussions of specific changes that would need to take place to prevent the worst-case scenarios
----histories of the study of climate change
-authors or organizations that you'd consider leading experts
[more inside]
posted by AndNeverWell on May 18, 2013 - 11 answers

How do I speed myself up without a nervous breakdown?

Just started a new job that moves way faster than me. I'm scared that I can't keep up. What can I do to make it work? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 16, 2013 - 26 answers

My feelings were hurt. Should I say anything at all?

I told my friend about an experience that caused me anxiety in the past. I felt that her responses were tone-deaf and hurtful. Was it? And should I say anything, even though the moment has passed? If so, what should I say? [more inside]
posted by orangutan on May 13, 2013 - 37 answers

Getting Your Creative Motivation Back After A Long Dry Spell?

I went on a long, long break form my creative career cause I was feeling burnt out due to some failures and now I can't seem to get back into it, possibly because I no longer have a financial incentive to do so. How can I fix this? Warning: Long, super privileged person problems. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 7, 2013 - 18 answers

Why is my young dog sometimes weird about entering the house?

Our two year old Husky has some sort of odd and inconsistent anxiety about crossing thresholds. Please help. [more inside]
posted by mireille on May 2, 2013 - 24 answers

How to build confidence and destroy fear?

I'm working on a project designed to help people build confidence and overcome fear. As part of that, I'm trying to build a library of resources -- books, quotes, websites, video clips, etc. -- that explore what it's like to face fear and build courage. I have lots of material already, but I'm looking for more. What are some of your favorite bits about developing confidence and/or destroying fear?
posted by jdroth on Apr 26, 2013 - 10 answers

I donĀ“t want to be pushed or scared anymore! (Details inside)

How can I be more creative, self-motivated and stick to my goals? [more inside]
posted by Matrod on Mar 20, 2013 - 8 answers

How do I make up for 10 years of blowing her off?

I've been married for a few more than 10 years. For most of that time, I did not really listen to my wife or honor her goals and desires for our life together. Starting in 2012, I have made a change in my attitude and actions, and we are communicating and making significant progress in our relationship. If it were just making the current state of affairs good, I think we're on a good track and we'd be ok. My question is: How do I make up for the previous ~10 years? If you want to email: accommodatee@mail.com. Thanks in advance for any advice, here or via email. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 20, 2013 - 30 answers

How can I most peacefully exit an abusive housing situation?

I called for a house meeting to address a housemates abusive behavior towards me but have determined that the best option for me is to simply remove myself from the situation and move out. Do I call off the meeting or do I still have it and then tell the house later that I want to move out or something else? [more inside]
posted by defmute on Mar 19, 2013 - 23 answers

Still scared about stupid sex

How to deal with intense anxiety from stupid and risky sexual decisions in the (pretty) distant past? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 8, 2013 - 27 answers

I'm up and down on this whole roller coaster thing...

I'm about to go on a much needed vacation and am heading to California. While there, I'm planning on hitting the Disney parks and am contemplating experiencing my very first roller coaster. I also have problems with anxiety and nervousness. Is it possible for me to enjoy this (terrifying) experience? [more inside]
posted by BrianJ on Feb 28, 2013 - 27 answers

My dog is afraid of people who are afraid of dogs

My shy 4 year old rescue pit bull/shepherd mix and I live in a large apartment building. A couple recently moved in next door to me, and they are terrified of dogs. [more inside]
posted by ohmy on Feb 5, 2013 - 59 answers

How likely is it that cockroaches feel fear?

From Googling it seems to be unknown as to whether or not cockroaches are exhibiting fear when confronted or some more basic instinct. Even if it's not 100% known, is there strong evidence either way? [more inside]
posted by Danila on Feb 1, 2013 - 18 answers

Possibly HIV Positive -- Now What

I may have HIV and I don't know what to do about it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 28, 2013 - 51 answers

This cowardly lion wants to GRRL up

I'm in a difficult life situation, in addition to which I am having some problems with ADHD, depression and anxiety. I'm insecure to the point that I cannot accurately assess my situation, and frozen with fear. [more inside]
posted by bunderful on Jan 26, 2013 - 16 answers

Seattle Therapist that specializes in health anxiety and anger?

I've been dealing with terrible health anxiety for several years, coupled with being incredibly short and angry with my wife when in the midst of a panic attack or uncomfortable symptoms. My wife is fed up and I need to make this better. NOW. I need recommendations for therapists that take Premera and any other ideas people have for dealing with this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 8, 2013 - 4 answers

Kindle self-help book recommendations

Looking for recommendations of effective books/workbooks/web resources on emotional intelligence, abandonment issues, anger, fear, jealousy, trust issues and self-compassion. Bonus points for including all of the above and being available on Kindle. [more inside]
posted by f3l1x on Dec 30, 2012 - 6 answers


How do I get over my completely insane (and crippling) fear of spending time alone. [more inside]
posted by pandorasbox on Dec 25, 2012 - 13 answers

How to help my girlfriend through apocalypse anxiety?

Help my girlfriend get through apocalypse anxiety? [more inside]
posted by drd on Dec 20, 2012 - 29 answers

The 39 year old semi-virgin

I'm dating someone new who is 38 and considers herself to be more or less a virgin. She's nervous about sex but also pretty interested. How can I make this ok for her? Total NSFW oversharing below... [more inside]
posted by mockpuppet on Nov 23, 2012 - 15 answers

Takeoff-specific flying phobia

Takeoff-specific flying phobia [more inside]
posted by davisnot on Nov 17, 2012 - 17 answers

How to get over this big/little step

How to get over fear of this ( Long story inside) [more inside]
posted by Autumn89 on Nov 7, 2012 - 15 answers

A 3 year old's strange phobias

Over the summer, my 3.5 year old developed a bunch of odd aversions/phobias. And now, over the last three weeks or so, he seems generally anxious when we go out. I'm wondering if it's just a phase related to his age, and I should keep him mostly at home till it passes? Or is this the start of a more serious anxiety condition? Or a sign that our city life is too much for him? [more inside]
posted by misoramen on Oct 19, 2012 - 26 answers

Take a math course to overcome math fear?

Math is sexy! But I am afraid of math. What class should I take to overcome my fear and get cozy with numbers? [more inside]
posted by epanalepsis on Oct 1, 2012 - 28 answers

I never grew out of fear of the dark.

I am an adult with fear of the dark, along with other anxiety problems. I hate driving in the dark, even on streets with streetlights (I even hesitate to ride in the car at night) and feel panicky in dark rooms. I sleep with a nightlight, but wish it didn't feel like a necessity, and with fall coming, I dread the long nights ahead. Beyond therapy (which I have tried for my other problems and cannot currently afford) are there any methods of coping with this?
posted by juniper on Sep 6, 2012 - 18 answers

Delicate Situation, a bit complicated

How long should I wait to tell my friend about my feelings? So here goes (sorry in advance for the very long post, please stick with me). First time around that I ask for advice on any website... [more inside]
posted by 560fence_cat on Aug 29, 2012 - 31 answers

Would You Move for Better Schools?

Moving to a better school zone. Should I do it? Tough decisions concerning moving, staying put, and financial future. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 25, 2012 - 19 answers

Am I afraid or just not that into him?

Is this a sign that it's not a good match or am I just afraid of intimacy after my last relationship? [more inside]
posted by abirdinthehand on Jul 17, 2012 - 13 answers

Harass and serve?

Guy who sexually assaulted me is trying to become a cop. This makes me terrified and enraged. Help?! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 5, 2012 - 21 answers

How can I stop comparing myself to other people?

How can I stop comparing myself to other people? [more inside]
posted by deathpanels on Jul 1, 2012 - 27 answers

Finding Good CBT

Looking into CBT for acrophobia. What do I need to know to evaluate practitioners and get the most out of this?
posted by bfranklin on Jun 29, 2012 - 2 answers

"In space, no one hears you scream"

Should I watch Prometheus? I'm afraid of horror films. [more inside]
posted by polymodus on Jun 13, 2012 - 23 answers

How can a former shy person go from merely functional to friendly?

I used to be very shy. Through years of pushing myself (I'm 33 now), I've become pretty amazingly functional. But I find myself in an unexpected spot. While I very much want to be around people and I can now handle it without freezing up, my experience of actually being around people is one of gritted teeth and willpower. There's very little joy in it. In theory, I'd like nothing more than a bushel of friends hanging out in my kitchen on a Sunday night. In practice, I push myself into social situations like dunking my arm in freezing water, pulling it out with a huge sigh of relief as soon as I let myself. That's not a recipe for forging new friendships, which I know take time and certain amount of vulnerability. What can I do to take myself to the next level -- from functional to genuinely friendly? Do people ever make it to the next level? On the phobia scale, it's not enough for me to be able to let a spider crawl on my arm without having a panic attack, I need to be able to lay down in a cave full of spiders and love it. (I've been in therapy for a year, but aside from that, I'd like to hear from you all.)
posted by anonymous on Jun 7, 2012 - 21 answers

How can I stop worrying about the revolution?

Part of my family was butchered by communists in their country of origin. How do I keep from worrying about civil unrest in America, particularly over economic inequality? How valid are these fears? [more inside]
posted by corb on Jun 4, 2012 - 61 answers

Make me more comfortable with biking

You started biking later in life, and you did it in a big city. How did you become comfortable biking on roads with cars? I'm kind of freaked out by this. [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz on May 22, 2012 - 42 answers

Crush Hooked Up With Someone Else

First things first: I am a gay female. I have had a crush on my friend for several months (also a gay female), however, being inexperienced at making first moves and being shy, I have been moving very slowly. I thought perhaps she felt something for me, but never made any overt moves. Recently she drunkenly hooked up with another girl (whom she had just recently met within the last 2 weeks and this was only the second or third day they had really hung out together) at a party. I am wondering if I have completely missed my chance, and what I should do. [more inside]
posted by christiehawk on May 19, 2012 - 22 answers

How I learned to stop worrying and love the dog

Tell me your experiences getting over fear or discomfort with dogs. My wonderful brother, bless him, loves me, but fears dogs. But now I'm getting a second one (German Shepherd puppy), the breed of his nightmares, and he is struggling. He's told me himself he wants to get over it, and I'm sure exposure and puppies will help, but I'd love to hear your own experiences and anecdotes getting past this. [more inside]
posted by Elfasi on May 3, 2012 - 27 answers

How did I lose my common sense and run this red light?

Freaked out like crazy: I ran a red light and put myself and others in very real danger. How did I forget how to drive safely for 10 seconds? [more inside]
posted by chocolatemilkshakes on Mar 27, 2012 - 49 answers

Fight the future?

How do you deal with fears about global warming? [more inside]
posted by gentian on Mar 22, 2012 - 33 answers

I won't. But I could.

I am irrationally afraid of heights and subway trains. I live in New York City. HELP! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 21, 2012 - 18 answers

How can I alleviate my fear of thunderstorms tonight?

There is a line of thunderstorms heading our way, and my anxiety (nay, fear) is rising sharply. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by raintree on Mar 15, 2012 - 23 answers

Will my boyfriend stop being attracted to me if he learns I am infertile, even though he doesn't want to have more children?

I'm in a relationship with someone and it's getting pretty serious. He has two kids from a previous marriage who I love (and they seem to love me, too). It's all quite great. However, I have what seems like an irrational fear that I can't seem to get out of my head and wanted some input. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 14, 2012 - 18 answers

Lump on the pup: what do I need to be researching?

While I wait to hear results from a needle aspiration... what can you tell me about scary doggy lumps, in your experience? After getting our dog her radical spring haircut we discovered a lump, between marble and walnut-sized, on her upper front left leg, about midway above the joint, on the front of the leg. It's movable (moves around under finger pressure/movement), and doesn't seem to cause her any pain or warrant her attention at all. [more inside]
posted by taz on Mar 13, 2012 - 28 answers

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