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I want to get rid of my irrational dog racism. How?!

I admit it, I am afraid of many large dogs. Mostly, this includes boxers, rotties and pit bulls, sometimes even great danes if they're loose in yard. What can I do to alleviate this? Dogs can tell that I am afraid, I know. I feel adrenaline shoot through me when I encounter people with these dogs or dogs in a yard. I suspect that my fear is socially conditioned, and I feel bad about being a "dog racist." [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 13, 2014 - 21 answers

How do I manage my dream project when I'm sad and anxious?

I am faced with a hugely exciting, complex, challenging project of my own devising. It's a chance for me to build my dream and ... I'm sitting here crying instead of working. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 24, 2014 - 6 answers

Relationship plagued by fear/anxiety or is it just bad fit?

How is it possible to feel anxious and questioning most of the time, but also feel genuine moments of excitement to see him and genuine calm/happiness to be in his presence? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 9, 2014 - 29 answers

How can you recognize a secure person if you’re insecure?

Am I ruining a great relationship with my anxiety or am I anxious because my relationship is not great? Is there a way to tell the difference between irrational anxiety and alarm bells? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 20, 2014 - 9 answers

New, unreasonable anxiety

I've recently started to experience unreasonable anxiety about a lot of everyday activities. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 5, 2014 - 11 answers

Help me break this self-destructive cycle of insecurity and clinginess

I am a very insecure person (who is working on it, in therapy/in recovery/rocking it). I get in these head spaces where I feel crippling insecure, especially with my boyfriend. I want verbal validation from him, but my asking for it makes him feel pressured. When he feels pressured, he gets distant, and then I feel even more insecure. We both know this is happening. What tricks can we use to make it stop before it gets out of hand? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 7, 2014 - 12 answers

Concerned with husband's recent forays into binge drinking

My moderate-drinker husband has twice in the last month drank to the point of repeatedly vomiting. These binges are out of character and deeply concerning. Should he see his doctor? What can I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 25, 2014 - 42 answers

Really in need of employment and career help

Hello. I am really in need of help and have never been set on any stable career or employment course. What can I do with very few resources (I am down to my last $100 bucks or so; I do not own a cell phone) to get a job ASAP or at least learn more about careers? Are there any lifehacks, tricks, ideas or pathways that I am missing? I know there have to be some people here who have recently had to find new jobs and know the modern job hunt a lot better than the standard advice that's outdated. What did you do when you felt between a rock and a hard place? One thing I was interested in is teaching (either substitute or full-time) but I have no clue how to become certified or where to start. My parents are really losing their patience and I have no clue how long I can be here without contributing pay from a job. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 6, 2013 - 17 answers

Goal: No more terrorizing myself.

Advice me, Metafilter, on how to get over this totally irrational fear I have of being single forever. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 11, 2013 - 23 answers

Paranoia = Dementia?

My parents sort of lost it after the 2004 election. I think they're getting even more out of touch and I don't know what to do as they age. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2013 - 33 answers

How do I speed myself up without a nervous breakdown?

Just started a new job that moves way faster than me. I'm scared that I can't keep up. What can I do to make it work? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 16, 2013 - 26 answers

Getting Your Creative Motivation Back After A Long Dry Spell?

I went on a long, long break form my creative career cause I was feeling burnt out due to some failures and now I can't seem to get back into it, possibly because I no longer have a financial incentive to do so. How can I fix this? Warning: Long, super privileged person problems. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 7, 2013 - 18 answers

How do I make up for 10 years of blowing her off?

I've been married for a few more than 10 years. For most of that time, I did not really listen to my wife or honor her goals and desires for our life together. Starting in 2012, I have made a change in my attitude and actions, and we are communicating and making significant progress in our relationship. If it were just making the current state of affairs good, I think we're on a good track and we'd be ok. My question is: How do I make up for the previous ~10 years? If you want to email: accommodatee@mail.com. Thanks in advance for any advice, here or via email. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 20, 2013 - 30 answers

Still scared about stupid sex

How to deal with intense anxiety from stupid and risky sexual decisions in the (pretty) distant past? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 8, 2013 - 27 answers

Possibly HIV Positive -- Now What

I may have HIV and I don't know what to do about it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 28, 2013 - 51 answers

Seattle Therapist that specializes in health anxiety and anger?

I've been dealing with terrible health anxiety for several years, coupled with being incredibly short and angry with my wife when in the midst of a panic attack or uncomfortable symptoms. My wife is fed up and I need to make this better. NOW. I need recommendations for therapists that take Premera and any other ideas people have for dealing with this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 8, 2013 - 4 answers

Would You Move for Better Schools?

Moving to a better school zone. Should I do it? Tough decisions concerning moving, staying put, and financial future. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 25, 2012 - 19 answers

Harass and serve?

Guy who sexually assaulted me is trying to become a cop. This makes me terrified and enraged. Help?! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 5, 2012 - 21 answers

How can a former shy person go from merely functional to friendly?

I used to be very shy. Through years of pushing myself (I'm 33 now), I've become pretty amazingly functional. But I find myself in an unexpected spot. While I very much want to be around people and I can now handle it without freezing up, my experience of actually being around people is one of gritted teeth and willpower. There's very little joy in it. In theory, I'd like nothing more than a bushel of friends hanging out in my kitchen on a Sunday night. In practice, I push myself into social situations like dunking my arm in freezing water, pulling it out with a huge sigh of relief as soon as I let myself. That's not a recipe for forging new friendships, which I know take time and certain amount of vulnerability. What can I do to take myself to the next level -- from functional to genuinely friendly? Do people ever make it to the next level? On the phobia scale, it's not enough for me to be able to let a spider crawl on my arm without having a panic attack, I need to be able to lay down in a cave full of spiders and love it. (I've been in therapy for a year, but aside from that, I'd like to hear from you all.)
posted by anonymous on Jun 7, 2012 - 21 answers

I won't. But I could.

I am irrationally afraid of heights and subway trains. I live in New York City. HELP! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 21, 2012 - 18 answers

Will my boyfriend stop being attracted to me if he learns I am infertile, even though he doesn't want to have more children?

I'm in a relationship with someone and it's getting pretty serious. He has two kids from a previous marriage who I love (and they seem to love me, too). It's all quite great. However, I have what seems like an irrational fear that I can't seem to get out of my head and wanted some input. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 14, 2012 - 18 answers

How do I love better?

I really don't want to end up alone. What can I start doing to break this generational cycle? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 26, 2012 - 12 answers

Calming strategies/advice for impending older-child adoption?

Best way to calm new adoptive parent fears and prepare for attachment issues? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 29, 2011 - 13 answers

I am so afraid

I am stuck in a hole of fear. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 8, 2011 - 25 answers

How to have sex when you suffer from eurotophobia

I want to have sex with my boyfriend for the first time, but I have an extreme phobic reaction to both genitalia and vaginal penetration. How can I possibly overcome this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 3, 2011 - 44 answers

"Please like me."

Why do I get so stressed out by the idea of confrontation, or of people being angry with me? I obsess about it for ages. How can I move past this constant need for people to approve of me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 30, 2011 - 21 answers

How can I convince myself that I can actually make friends?

How can I stop feeling broken and try to make friends without baggage? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 14, 2011 - 14 answers

I Feel So Average

I feel so average and uninteresting. What can I do to remedy this situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 18, 2011 - 22 answers

Help me get over my fear of conflict.

Help me become ok with conflict. I avoid conflict. Not just overt, head-butting conflict, but also minor disagreements, disapproving looks, divergent preferences... all the way down to the friction generated by the give and take of an interesting conversation. Anything short of complete harmony, and I'm looking for a way out. Sometimes this means avoiding the person or situation. Sometimes this means just shutting up and smiling. Sometimes it means not developing an opinion of my own until I know what other people think first. My absolute fear of conflict is a drag. It makes me and my life pretty bland and I want to beat it. Tell me how to beat it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 16, 2011 - 16 answers

Ron Suskind probably won't be calling

How do you know when it's anxiety and when it's something you really need to worry about? I don't trust my judgment anymore. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 1, 2011 - 8 answers

Hope for a reactive dog?

The adorable puppy our family adopted last year has matured into a reactive, resource guarding adult dog. Has anyone been able to rehabilitate this type of dog? What helped for you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 16, 2011 - 14 answers

Afraid of Natural Gas Job

I've accepted a role with a utility that distributes natural gas (not fracked). I'm plagued by doubt. I need information on the industry and advice on how to proceed next. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 9, 2011 - 14 answers

Are things really worse than ever? How can I cope?

Are things really worse than ever? How can I cope? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 8, 2011 - 63 answers

Is this a phobia?

Why do I avoid looking at maps, satellite images and the Mona Lisa? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2011 - 13 answers

Knowing Your Limits/Accepting or Mitigating Intellectual Failure

I have a serious problem with being seen to be intellectually 'wrong'. I need ways to get over it [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 24, 2011 - 26 answers

I'm not over her; help me deal with her presence.

I've accepted that I likely won't be completely over my ex until after we both graduate. Considering that, how can I deal with being around her? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 24, 2011 - 12 answers

Holes. Goddamned holes.

Saw disturbing images over a month ago. Still disturbed/unsettled. Any techniques or ideas for scrubbing my brain? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 14, 2011 - 41 answers

How to stop emotional "attack" reflex?

How can I be more comfortable with my SO's vulnerability? Whenever he's emotionally open with me, my claws come out! Our relationship is healthy/supportive/friend approved, and I don't want to lose him over this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 11, 2011 - 24 answers

Internal Relationship Struggle in the Face of Healthy Change

I am going through a period of significant change at the moment where I am trying to address some long-standing problems in my life, and I think I am on the right track and making some real progress. My one big dilemma is related to my relationship. I actually credit a lot of my progress to my boyfriend and his unshakable support and the undercurrent of what I think is calmness in our house. BUT, I am finding myself kind of shrinking from him, and if I am being honest, feeling a sort of (shameful) disgust towards him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 16, 2011 - 9 answers

Fear is the Mindkiller

I am a reporter. How do I become a braver interviewer? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 2, 2011 - 9 answers

How can I get over the fear of (or get OUT OF) dancing at my wedding?

Getting married in two months. GF and her family love dancing and will do a lot of it at the wedding. I want to make her happy, but I'm a terrible dancer and the whole thing is making me very anxious. What to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 29, 2011 - 29 answers

Not really a go-getter but need to go get a job

Please help me overcome my fear of job hunting and the self-limiting belief system that causes it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 1, 2011 - 6 answers

Please help me with my fear of being in a car...

Please help me with my fear of driving - either as the actual driver or even in the passenger seat. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 17, 2011 - 6 answers

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I'm a bit lazy, and a bit irresponsible. But most of all, I'm scared. Hope me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 9, 2011 - 19 answers

Do I dare to eat this peach?

Special snowflake quasi-stalker question.... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 14, 2011 - 27 answers

Should I stay or should I go?

Is the drive on 95 to Georgetown in DC a thing to be feared? Any tips for a noob? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 7, 2011 - 24 answers

help me move on.

How can I psychologically process being mugged, and move on? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 7, 2011 - 29 answers

How to stop an overblown but not totally irrational fear?

I am a grown-ass woman who is afraid of going to bed alone. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 22, 2010 - 27 answers

No longer want to have kids?

Did you always want kids and then at some point change your mind? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 14, 2010 - 28 answers

Is my mother in danger with her relationship?

Is my mother's boyfriend potentially dangerous and is there anything I can do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 10, 2010 - 14 answers

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