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Company in turmoil; how to talk myself down off the panic ledge?

My company is undergoing the first steps into being sold. How do I stop panicking long enough to figure out my next steps? [more inside]
posted by droplet on Oct 15, 2014 - 7 answers

I want to get rid of my irrational dog racism. How?!

I admit it, I am afraid of many large dogs. Mostly, this includes boxers, rotties and pit bulls, sometimes even great danes if they're loose in yard. What can I do to alleviate this? Dogs can tell that I am afraid, I know. I feel adrenaline shoot through me when I encounter people with these dogs or dogs in a yard. I suspect that my fear is socially conditioned, and I feel bad about being a "dog racist." [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 13, 2014 - 21 answers

How do I manage my dream project when I'm sad and anxious?

I am faced with a hugely exciting, complex, challenging project of my own devising. It's a chance for me to build my dream and ... I'm sitting here crying instead of working. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 24, 2014 - 6 answers

How to succeed in business without ever flying

What categories of (or what specific) jobs and/or career paths in large corporations are least likely to require travel with turnaround and/or distance that necessitates flying? What types of industries (while otherwise thriving) seem to be paring down their travel budgets and relying more on videoconferencing and similar tech? What about government jobs? Are you a highly successful ........ and don't, or at least have never been required to, fly for work? I would love to know about your job. [more inside]
posted by notquitemaryann on Sep 11, 2014 - 27 answers

Relationship plagued by fear/anxiety or is it just bad fit?

How is it possible to feel anxious and questioning most of the time, but also feel genuine moments of excitement to see him and genuine calm/happiness to be in his presence? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 9, 2014 - 29 answers

Can you help me set my friend's mind at ease about ebola?

My friend, who lives in a very safe place in the United States, is unusually scared about ebola. More than really makes any sense. Ebola has appeared sporadically every several years since it was discovered in the 70s. Most years, there are zero cases worldwide. Is it right to say that the current outbreak is likely to be another case of ebola flaring up and then disappearing? [more inside]
posted by Sleeper on Sep 6, 2014 - 14 answers

My chest pain is freaking me out

I had pneumonia about four years ago in my left lung. Now it's bothering me again in the same spot, but I really don't think it's pneumonia this time. Help me relax until I can get in to see my doctor. [more inside]
posted by sockermom on Sep 3, 2014 - 17 answers

Talk Me Down From Terror Over a Routine Surgery, Please

Thanks to marinating myself in others’ bad outcomes, I’m terrified of my gallbladder removal this Monday, a surgery that happens 700,000 times a year. I could use a ton of positive-outcome, no-problem, no-side-effect stories, and/or any good sensible cognitive talk on not letting people’s health forum posts terrify you. [more inside]
posted by WCityMike on Jul 22, 2014 - 52 answers

How can you recognize a secure person if you’re insecure?

Am I ruining a great relationship with my anxiety or am I anxious because my relationship is not great? Is there a way to tell the difference between irrational anxiety and alarm bells? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 20, 2014 - 9 answers

Suggestions for "milder" horror movies?

After being a wimp my whole life and doing everything I could to avoid scary movies, I'd like to now slowly build up my tolerance to be able to handle them to some degree. What I really dread about them is the feeling I get afterwards of someone or something being hidden anytime I'm in the dark and coming to get me, and that's caused me to avoid watching movies with friends and miss a lot of great fiction. What are some suggestions of "easier" scary movies that I can use as a stepping stone before I start watching the really scary stuff? Books and other types of media are also welcome.
posted by PlasticSupernova on Jun 29, 2014 - 32 answers

New, unreasonable anxiety

I've recently started to experience unreasonable anxiety about a lot of everyday activities. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 5, 2014 - 11 answers

Anxiety and Fear-Based Decisions

Yes, another anxiety-related question from me. I'm sorry. I'm currently in the throes of a possible breakup, and I've recently realized that I'm making far too many decisions based on fear - fear of having a panic attack, fear of getting sick, fear of having needs. This has damaged my relationship. I need to stop this behavior, but I'm not sure how to do so without becoming non-functional from the resulting anxiety. [more inside]
posted by msbadcrumble on May 30, 2014 - 8 answers

Help me break this self-destructive cycle of insecurity and clinginess

I am a very insecure person (who is working on it, in therapy/in recovery/rocking it). I get in these head spaces where I feel crippling insecure, especially with my boyfriend. I want verbal validation from him, but my asking for it makes him feel pressured. When he feels pressured, he gets distant, and then I feel even more insecure. We both know this is happening. What tricks can we use to make it stop before it gets out of hand? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 7, 2014 - 12 answers

Concerned with husband's recent forays into binge drinking

My moderate-drinker husband has twice in the last month drank to the point of repeatedly vomiting. These binges are out of character and deeply concerning. Should he see his doctor? What can I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 25, 2014 - 42 answers

Quick to anger, implode and then shake really bad

Let me first state that I have started seeing a counselor and take anxiety meds. What I am hoping to learn from fellow mefites : What works for your *if* you are hyperquick to anger even in times when you feel calm? [more inside]
posted by snap_dragon on Apr 2, 2014 - 14 answers

Classes or Activities in NYC to get over fear of humiliation?

I'm looking for things to do, classes to take, etc., in New York that will help conquer a fear of humiliation. Ideally this would be done gently or gradually. Improv classes come to mind, but I'm afraid that they might be too much too soon. I've also heard of dating gurus (I'm male) who help with this sort of thing, but when you search for them online most of them seem creepy or weird. Any ideas along these lines?
posted by malhouse on Mar 27, 2014 - 10 answers

Scaredypants!

My soon-to-be 3-year-old daughter is pretty timid, physically. It's nothing crippling or even worrisome, but still…c'mon kid, geez, just jump! You'll be fine! [more inside]
posted by 2or3whiskeysodas on Mar 10, 2014 - 34 answers

Silence!! I kill you!

Mefis, please help me quiet the terrorist in my head. I have panic disorder and I'm afraid of everything, it seems. [more inside]
posted by msbadcrumble on Feb 5, 2014 - 13 answers

Managing fear of sex noises/PDA

How can I manage my fear of PDA and sex noises? [more inside]
posted by bluekazoo on Dec 16, 2013 - 14 answers

How to get past overwhelming feelings of guilt and anxiety?

As long as I can remember, I have experienced extreme guilt, embarrassment, and anxiety about simply relaxing and living life for myself. I have an anxiety disorder, so these feelings are to be expected somewhat, but they’re incredibly uncomfortable and affect my daily life. Snowstorm inside. [more inside]
posted by sarahgrace on Dec 8, 2013 - 21 answers

need help surviving the worst breakup I've had

I just got dumped by my partner. It was the best relationship I've ever been in. I feel like my life is falling apart. Please advise. [more inside]
posted by Harry Potter and the Puppet of Sock on Dec 3, 2013 - 32 answers

I am afraid to write.

I'm a writer who doesn't really write anything...help? [more inside]
posted by Cybria on Nov 21, 2013 - 31 answers

Can't bring myself to change my address

I'm being unreasonably emotional about changing my address. Help me snap out of it. [more inside]
posted by glache on Nov 11, 2013 - 16 answers

Really in need of employment and career help

Hello. I am really in need of help and have never been set on any stable career or employment course. What can I do with very few resources (I am down to my last $100 bucks or so; I do not own a cell phone) to get a job ASAP or at least learn more about careers? Are there any lifehacks, tricks, ideas or pathways that I am missing? I know there have to be some people here who have recently had to find new jobs and know the modern job hunt a lot better than the standard advice that's outdated. What did you do when you felt between a rock and a hard place? One thing I was interested in is teaching (either substitute or full-time) but I have no clue how to become certified or where to start. My parents are really losing their patience and I have no clue how long I can be here without contributing pay from a job. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 6, 2013 - 17 answers

Cat suddenly afraid of my coat. Whut?

My cat seems to have developed a sudden fear of... moving dark things? Taking my black jacket off or putting it on sends her running for the bed for hours. And I just reached for my purse on the couch, and the motion of the big black purse sent her scurrying too. No idea what could have triggered this. How do I get her relax again? [more inside]
posted by Caravantea on Nov 3, 2013 - 12 answers

How to help young child with anxiety/fear of fire

Precocious 6 y.o. daughter has suddenly developed an intense fear of fire. If the stove is on, she is sobbing or screaming or fretting. Same thing with the (outside) grill and my neighbor's fire pit. Logic, reason, discussion are all fruitless; as long as there is visible fire, she's terrified. How to help her cope? [more inside]
posted by disconnect on Oct 7, 2013 - 21 answers

Coaster no-go doesn't have to blow!

We bought theme park tickets but decided not to go. How can I assure my partner that it's really okay? [more inside]
posted by horizonseeker on Sep 13, 2013 - 16 answers

Babysitter fear?

My two year old isn't talking yet (yes, this is being addressed) but he became very, very upset when I told him his sitter was coming to stay with him today. Should I be worried? [more inside]
posted by cestmoi15 on Sep 5, 2013 - 23 answers

Hiking / Cringing Along The Grand Canyon

Mrs. Degoao and I are thinking about hiking the Grand Canyon some time either this winter or the following winter. We both have a moderate fear of heights. Is this a bad idea? [more inside]
posted by degoao on Sep 5, 2013 - 11 answers

Looking for a type of phobia that results in fight rather than flight.

If you have, say a spider phobia, are you the "Run away!!" type of phobic or the "OMG SMASH SMASH SMASH HIT IT WITH A BOOK TURN OVER THE TABLE SET THE HOUSE ON FIRE... is it dead?" type? Is there a term or specific type of phobia for the second option? [more inside]
posted by The otter lady on Aug 14, 2013 - 7 answers

Goal: No more terrorizing myself.

Advice me, Metafilter, on how to get over this totally irrational fear I have of being single forever. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 11, 2013 - 23 answers

Should I have called the police?

Should I have called the police? And in the future, when should I? [more inside]
posted by rawralphadawg on Aug 10, 2013 - 26 answers

Paranoia = Dementia?

My parents sort of lost it after the 2004 election. I think they're getting even more out of touch and I don't know what to do as they age. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2013 - 33 answers

Is it always a bad idea to file bankruptcy at an early age?

I'm 23 and thinking of filing bankruptcy. I have $16,000 + in debt - is this a bad idea? [more inside]
posted by Autumn on Jul 29, 2013 - 31 answers

How can I get over a mild fear of heights and enjoy my balcony?

I live on the 24th floor of a highrise apartment building. I have a kick-ass balcony. Seriously, the view is incredible, and I get some amazing afternoon sun. However, I also have a mild (??) fear of heights that keeps me from really appreciating it. Now that our fleeting summer's here, I've realized I don't want to go another year not being able to enjoy my balcony! [more inside]
posted by cgg on Jun 29, 2013 - 15 answers

Facial hair is not an issue.

My dog is scared of men. [more inside]
posted by Uppity Pigeon #2 on Jun 5, 2013 - 17 answers

Help a layperson better understand the current science of climate change

I would like to become much better educated on the subject of climate change, with the ultimate goal of making work that explains specific aspects of climate science for a lay audience. To that end, can you recommend to me:
- books/articles/podcasts/websites covering:
----current predictions of climate change
----explanations of how climate processes interact
----discussions of specific changes that would need to take place to prevent the worst-case scenarios
----histories of the study of climate change
-authors or organizations that you'd consider leading experts
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posted by AndNeverWell on May 18, 2013 - 11 answers

How do I speed myself up without a nervous breakdown?

Just started a new job that moves way faster than me. I'm scared that I can't keep up. What can I do to make it work? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 16, 2013 - 26 answers

My feelings were hurt. Should I say anything at all?

I told my friend about an experience that caused me anxiety in the past. I felt that her responses were tone-deaf and hurtful. Was it? And should I say anything, even though the moment has passed? If so, what should I say? [more inside]
posted by orangutan on May 13, 2013 - 37 answers

Getting Your Creative Motivation Back After A Long Dry Spell?

I went on a long, long break form my creative career cause I was feeling burnt out due to some failures and now I can't seem to get back into it, possibly because I no longer have a financial incentive to do so. How can I fix this? Warning: Long, super privileged person problems. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 7, 2013 - 18 answers

Why is my young dog sometimes weird about entering the house?

Our two year old Husky has some sort of odd and inconsistent anxiety about crossing thresholds. Please help. [more inside]
posted by mireille on May 2, 2013 - 24 answers

How to build confidence and destroy fear?

I'm working on a project designed to help people build confidence and overcome fear. As part of that, I'm trying to build a library of resources -- books, quotes, websites, video clips, etc. -- that explore what it's like to face fear and build courage. I have lots of material already, but I'm looking for more. What are some of your favorite bits about developing confidence and/or destroying fear?
posted by jdroth on Apr 26, 2013 - 10 answers

I don´t want to be pushed or scared anymore! (Details inside)

How can I be more creative, self-motivated and stick to my goals? [more inside]
posted by Matrod on Mar 20, 2013 - 8 answers

How do I make up for 10 years of blowing her off?

I've been married for a few more than 10 years. For most of that time, I did not really listen to my wife or honor her goals and desires for our life together. Starting in 2012, I have made a change in my attitude and actions, and we are communicating and making significant progress in our relationship. If it were just making the current state of affairs good, I think we're on a good track and we'd be ok. My question is: How do I make up for the previous ~10 years? If you want to email: accommodatee@mail.com. Thanks in advance for any advice, here or via email. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 20, 2013 - 30 answers

How can I most peacefully exit an abusive housing situation?

I called for a house meeting to address a housemates abusive behavior towards me but have determined that the best option for me is to simply remove myself from the situation and move out. Do I call off the meeting or do I still have it and then tell the house later that I want to move out or something else? [more inside]
posted by defmute on Mar 19, 2013 - 23 answers

Still scared about stupid sex

How to deal with intense anxiety from stupid and risky sexual decisions in the (pretty) distant past? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 8, 2013 - 27 answers

I'm up and down on this whole roller coaster thing...

I'm about to go on a much needed vacation and am heading to California. While there, I'm planning on hitting the Disney parks and am contemplating experiencing my very first roller coaster. I also have problems with anxiety and nervousness. Is it possible for me to enjoy this (terrifying) experience? [more inside]
posted by BrianJ on Feb 28, 2013 - 27 answers

My dog is afraid of people who are afraid of dogs

My shy 4 year old rescue pit bull/shepherd mix and I live in a large apartment building. A couple recently moved in next door to me, and they are terrified of dogs. [more inside]
posted by ohmy on Feb 5, 2013 - 59 answers

How likely is it that cockroaches feel fear?

From Googling it seems to be unknown as to whether or not cockroaches are exhibiting fear when confronted or some more basic instinct. Even if it's not 100% known, is there strong evidence either way? [more inside]
posted by Danila on Feb 1, 2013 - 18 answers

Possibly HIV Positive -- Now What

I may have HIV and I don't know what to do about it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 28, 2013 - 51 answers

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