http://ask.metafilter.com/tags/fathering Questions tagged with 'fathering' at Ask MetaFilter. Sun, 13 Feb 2005 17:35:49 -0800 Sun, 13 Feb 2005 17:35:49 -0800 en-us http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss 60 http://ask.metafilter.com/15097/I%2Dneed%2Dinformation%2Dabout%2Dhow%2Dto%2Dparent%2Dwhen%2Draised%2Dby%2Dabusive%2Dparents I was raised by an abusive father. Now in my early 30's I am looking ahead to the future when I may become a father. I am determined not to recreate the family environment I grew up in but know how these things sometimes turn out -- that people determined not to recreate something sometimes wind up doing so in an unforseen manner. I was in therapy for 2 years in my 20's to work on the issues but therapy is not an option now because of money. I have worked hard not to be my father, but part of me is afraid that I will wind up being like him as a parent. (In particular, I worry about being a father to a son because of my history). I am looking for information about the father-son relationship as well as information about how to be a good parent when you have a background like mine. Please offer advice, books, suggestions - anything that can help. tag:ask.metafilter.com,2005:site.15097 Sun, 13 Feb 2005 17:35:49 -0800 abuse abusive childhood children family father fathering growingup parenting Anonymous