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Which social obligation to attend?

I'm torn between conflicting events on the same night and am not sure which of two events to attend and which to cancel. Since there will be drinking at either (and I can't afford a cab or get a DD on short notice) I feel I must pick one or the other. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by MeFiMouse on Jan 9, 2016 - 41 answers

Fear of Antidepressants

Yesterday a dear friend had a come to Jesus talk with me and encouraged me to make an appointment with my doctor about going on an antidepressant. I have been advised to go on antidepressants in the past by therapists and other doctors, but have never taken the next steps because my family views being on medication as a personal failure/huge dangerous risk. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by Hermione Granger on Dec 30, 2015 - 63 answers

Suicidal Nephew Possibly Moving In - No Job, No GED, No Car

My 18-year-old nephew tried to commit suicide two months ago, right before his birthday. At that time, and a couple times a couple years ago, my husband and I offered to let him come live with us. His mom wouldn't let him before he turned 18, and, after his suicide attempt, he chose to continue living with his mom. His mom just quit her job to move out of state, and the consensus has been that he'll come live with me and my husband. I've been open to it, until this past week or so. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 29, 2015 - 87 answers

How to deal with an opinionated, overbearing mom (re my kid & childcare)

My mom has many, many opinions on how we are caring for our son (from what we give him for breakfast to the chores he should have, ugh), and she loves to share them. All the time. Especially in emails (joy). Here's the situation: I am considering going back to work full time but I am sure my mom will voice her displeasure. [more inside]
posted by trillian on Dec 28, 2015 - 18 answers

Finding a relative using limited information

We've got two photos, a first name and potential surname, rough year and known location at that time, distinguishing marks and military rank. What are our options for finding out more about someone from the past with this amount of information? [more inside]
posted by terretu on Dec 27, 2015 - 5 answers

Am I about to seriously endanger my nephew's health?

My sister had her first baby a few months ago. She stressed the importance of getting vaccinated before meeting him, but between various obligations I completely forgot about getting a flu shot. I'm supposed to meet him tomorrow, and I have no idea what to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 25, 2015 - 40 answers

My Mom Keeps Buying Me Expensive Jewelry I Never Wear

My mom spends a great deal each year on a piece of jewelry for me. The jewelry is never my style and I never wear it. Seeing her is enough for me during the holidays, I don't need expensive gifts. These jewelry items are becoming a wasteful tradition. I don't know what to say. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 21, 2015 - 21 answers

My skin can't get much thinner...

I used to have a pretty dark sense of humor, watch crime shows all the time with dead people and blood and guts and really was never bothered by any of this. I've always been a news junky, and I'd read about all sorts of crimes and murder etc. etc. and never be bothered in the least. Since having a baby, I can't even read a news headline about a person being harmed - particularly children. It seems obvious that this is baby related, but will it ever get better? And if not, can I acclimatize myself so I can exist in the world? [more inside]
posted by Toddles on Dec 19, 2015 - 27 answers

Suggestions for a family vacation — good balance of relax and activity?

Hey all, I'm looking to take a short vacation with my family somewhere next year, and we're looking for places that are a good balance of relaxing but still has some great activity options. Would like to relax on the beach (or a similar alternative) and also see some culture and do some activities. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by markbao on Dec 19, 2015 - 14 answers

Dealing with elderly family that suddenly is rejecting me?

My grandmother, in her late 80's, has recently and quite abruptly decided that she does not want myself, my brother, or my mother (her daughter) in her life. We suspect she is in cognitive decline but have no formal diagnosis. She has decided to cling to my unstable and very hard to deal with aunt, which is problematic for several reasons. I am not sure how to proceed here, both from a legal standpoint to ensure my grandmother is taken care of properly and from a personal standpoint to navigate any remaining hope of a relationship. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by calitocarolina on Dec 13, 2015 - 7 answers

Setting boundaries with my sorta-disliked dad & stepmother

I'm four months pregnant, and trying to figure out what sort of boundaries I want to set with my father (who I think is an okay guy, but we aren't close), my stepmother (who I actively dislike and think is a bitter person), and how explicit I need to be about those boundaries - with myself, my husband (who is awesome!), and the two of them. I need help sorting out what I want and how to best communicate that, especially with a kid in the mix in the near future. Sorry for the enormous pile of snowflakes within! [more inside]
posted by Jaclyn on Dec 10, 2015 - 23 answers

Stood up for yourself, lost your family

You disrupt dysfunctional family dynamic. Now your family hates you. How do you deal? [more inside]
posted by ADent on Dec 9, 2015 - 16 answers

The tagline should be: Yell at the TV and Not at Each Other!

This weekend I played one of the Jackbox family of games. I think my family would love them and I'd like to give/have it available to play while we're all home for Christmas. Looks like I might have some technical issues--I need some guidance, please! [more inside]
posted by phunniemee on Dec 9, 2015 - 13 answers

Reality check on holiday boundaries

Need a reality check on setting boundaries around the holidays. [more inside]
posted by The Shoodoonoof on Dec 7, 2015 - 16 answers

Looking for televsion clips that feature a variety of family dynamics.

I'm reading A Raisin in the Sun with my high school class. I'd like to show them clips from various televsion shows that display the humor, drama, and complications that come from being a part of a family. YouTube links are amazing. Thanks!
posted by WaspEnterprises on Dec 6, 2015 - 20 answers

My relationship with my brother is increasingly untenable

My brother is an alcoholic/rageaholic and I'm working on cutting him out of my life - this is wreaking havoc on all my family relationships. I'm frightened to travel home for Christmas, but not sure what to do to get around the holiday. My instinct is not to go. My therapist suggests my brother and I schedule separate holiday celebrations with my parents. How do i do this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 5, 2015 - 78 answers

How to Deal With My Mother (Not Just Holiday Edition)

I've always had a strange relationship with my mother and the holiday season obviously makes it harder. I live overseas and today I learned my cousin died two days ago .. via my mother putting up an In Memoriam video on FB. It's the latest blow in a long series of disappointments. I'd appreciate advice on how to deal with a mother who both pulls me in and keep pushing me away. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 2, 2015 - 24 answers

Relatives making bad financial decisions—can I wash my hands of them?

Some close, older relatives make terrible financial decisions, and are unwilling to stop. My wife and I are liable to wind up financially responsible for them when the money runs out in a few years. How can we wash our hands of this situation (or can we)? [more inside]
posted by waldo on Nov 30, 2015 - 27 answers

Help us find entertainment the whole family can enjoy

My parents are staying with me for approximately six weeks while my dad undergoes treatment for cancer. We don't always get along especially well, and he's starting to feel a little bit bored/stir-crazy. We're looking for activities/entertainment we can enjoy as a family, especially movies and TV shows that tick all the right boxes. [more inside]
posted by Pizzarina Sbarro on Nov 28, 2015 - 39 answers

Please help me track down my missing brother

My brother has been out of touch with the family for like six months, not returning calls or emails or picking up his physical mail. But, his cell phone and work phone worked, so we were worried but not panicked. Yesterday I left him a voice mail at work that basically said if you don't call soon, I'm coming to Boston. Today, his cell was disconnected. Maybe the two events are connected, maybe not, but I'm freaked out. I don't have any friends in Boston. [more inside]
posted by Measured Out my Life in Coffeespoons on Nov 26, 2015 - 33 answers

Awesome Ski Vacation for Family

I'm looking for a awesome ski resort in the U.S. or Canada. My kids are 5 and 7 and have never been skiing. I would love to give them an amazing experience in February. I don't mind paying a premium for awesome lodging / amenities. We would be traveling from Austin Texas. Any recommendations for a kid friendly resort?
posted by jasondigitized on Nov 21, 2015 - 20 answers

How to set boundaries with a mentally ill person

My possibly mentally ill sister wants to 'make things up to me' by taking me out. I don't want to go, but I don't want to have any drama either. Can this be done? [more inside]
posted by JoannaC on Nov 19, 2015 - 15 answers

Need a Fun, Family-Friendly Workout

I'm trying to get my family to stay active together during the winter. I was thinking about workout videos, but I'm not sure where to start. [more inside]
posted by Comrade Doll on Nov 18, 2015 - 10 answers

How to tell retiring MIL that she will never provide daily childcare?

I'm not asking whether I should let become our kid's caregiver. It will NEVER happen, due to what I've seen from her since having the baby. But obviously I can't let her retire on false pretenses. How in the world do I put these worms back in the can while trying to salvage what's left of our relationship? [more inside]
posted by powerbumpkin on Nov 16, 2015 - 29 answers

Christmas, family, argh

Trying to plan out the logistics of where to spend Christmas. Appear to be upsetting everyone due to continuing crises and painful memories on both sides of the family. What should I do for the best? [more inside]
posted by Catseye on Nov 9, 2015 - 43 answers

What should I engrave on this Very Important BFF necklace?

I'm buying a necklace that has five interlocking pieces. I will be gifting four of the pieces (on lovely silver chains) to very close female family members. What should I have engraved on the pieces? [more inside]
posted by WaspEnterprises on Nov 3, 2015 - 14 answers

Where can I get these mirror photo frames and/or what are they called?

A friend's parents have had a display of family photos up for many years. Most of them look to be mounted behind mirrors that have been partially de-silvered, like this. Judging by the the whole collection, it looks to me like these frames were purchased from the same manufacturer. [more inside]
posted by The Deej on Nov 3, 2015 - 2 answers

Great, teenagers.

My kids are 11, 13 and nearly 15. I don't know how to play with them. I miss family outings. What kinds of things do you do with your young teens? [more inside]
posted by stellathon on Oct 29, 2015 - 17 answers

How can I detach myself from most of my local family members?

My father, stepmother, aunt, cousin, and sister seem to have a vested interest in seeing me inaccurately. I've come to terms with their scapegoating and black-sheeping of me. It's been validated by numerous therapists as well as my mom, and the dynamic fits most of what I've read online about scapegoating dynamics. To abruptly go No Contact with them would make things much worse for me. I need Low Contact, polite, superficial strategies, please. [more inside]
posted by Beethoven's Sith on Oct 26, 2015 - 40 answers

Is My Sister Ever Coming Back from Stepford?

Since having a child, my sister seems to have become one-dimensional and our relationship is starting to feel like hard work. Should I just expect this to be reality until my niece leaves for college? How do we maintain connection if so? [more inside]
posted by DarlingBri on Oct 22, 2015 - 42 answers

Getting started in robotics.

I have a 9 year old son. He's interested in making his own flying drone. How do we get started? Kits are fine, but I'd like to stick with simpler plans if possible.
posted by boo_radley on Oct 21, 2015 - 7 answers

Where she goes, so does her large dog. Ugh.

Another question about my sister. She has a large pit bull and brings him everywhere (unless it's inconvenient, in which case she leaves him with a friend or family member). She wants to bring him to our house for Christmas. I don't want him to come. [more inside]
posted by witchen on Oct 19, 2015 - 57 answers

How Can I Cope With Being a Primary Caregiver?

My mom has dementia. She's in denial about this dementia, and her denial has created some difficulties. I feel guilty, but acting as her primary caregiver is starting to affect me adversely. [more inside]
posted by Ashen on Oct 15, 2015 - 25 answers

I need a fabulous gift for my future in-laws

During my upcoming trip to Japan, I will be staying with my boyfriend's parents. Please help me get them a gift that says "thank you for taking the trouble of having me, and I'm the perfect daughter-in-law." [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood on Oct 12, 2015 - 13 answers

Interviewing family: what questions to ask on a recurring basis?

I have a family interview project in mind. I've read some great ideas in AskMe, and have read through StoryCorps and Smithsonian resources. For the most part, what I've read pertains to one-time oral history projects. My project is a little different: I'd like to conduct short 1-on-1 interviews with immediate family (about 10 people), and repeat these interviews every few years. I'd love some question suggestions. [more inside]
posted by duffell on Oct 9, 2015 - 7 answers

Please help me sleep train my toddler

Experienced parents of Mefi! I know there are so many of you! So, I've posted this question on a forum specific to sleep challenges but received no feedback so turning to the green. My 14 month old has refused for the past two months to sleep in her crib...it started around the time that she started pulling up an walking... She is now walking steadily so this milestone has been reached. Please help us transition her back to the crib soon because baby #2 will arrive in a few months and I'm getting too big for us all to be in our bed. [more inside]
posted by SanSebastien on Oct 5, 2015 - 14 answers

Anniversary gifts for parents?

My parents' anniversary is coming up, and once again I'm stumped. I never know what makes an appropriate, welcome gift to parents from their kids. Outside of big-anniversary gifts like parties, crystal, silver, and super handcrafted scrapbooks and the like, what are some good ideas for anniversary presents in an affordable, say $25-50 range?
posted by Miko on Sep 30, 2015 - 15 answers

Supporting boyfriend through mom's (terminal?) illness and the holidays

I've been dating a great guy for a few months now. About a month in he told me that his mom was diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor 8 months before we met. His mom has done radiation and was seeming to get better in the last few months. He was making plans for me to meet his family for the first time on Thanksgiving. He just found out his mother has taken a turn for the worse (she's having difficulty walking), and I'd like to know: 1) how I can support him and 2) how to navigate meeting his family during this difficult time. [more inside]
posted by lafemma on Sep 29, 2015 - 11 answers

How often should I visit my boyfriend's parents?

Fairly self-explanatory, but a few details within. [more inside]
posted by easter queen on Sep 27, 2015 - 25 answers

Hip, Hip Hooray, for Christmas Vacation

Our family rarely takes vacations, and even then, just to visit family, or at best, to a nearby lake. But big leaps forward in our careers have us thinking it's time to finally treat ourselves. We're thinking of taking the kid to Vegas for Christmas and rolling out, if not all the stops, many more than we've customarily been able/willing to afford. Give us tips for Vegas in general, Vegas for families, Vegas at the holidays, and small and medium things we can do to feel like high rollers. [more inside]
posted by DirtyOldTown on Sep 26, 2015 - 25 answers

Leaving a dream job for a better quality of life

About a year and a half ago, I was offered an absolute dream job opportunity with a company I obsess over. I feel like the things I am doing have the chance to change the world in at least a small way, and I am well respected and valued in my organization. I have direct access to VIPs that others would love the chance to have a single coffee with. But, it's incredibly stressful at times and has a poor work-life balance. Should I leave this job for an almost-as-cool job that might be better for my family? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 25, 2015 - 18 answers

Brother & Sister-in-law becoming distant from family.

I have a younger half-brother who got married 2-3 years ago with a woman that he met at work. The two of them got married in court, and I had no idea that this even took place up until someone told me about it. It was either a family relative or someone else who told me. The two of them are introverted people who kept to themselves. The sister-in-law is a quiet person who was fully accepted by our family. The two of them eventually bought a house, and had a child at the beginning of this year. Everyone was excited about the new munchkin especially our parents. However, it was brought to my attention that the two couple have been very distant for the following reasons. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 25, 2015 - 52 answers

Are You My Daddy?

Asking for a friend: "There is some question about who my father is - the man who raised me (Daddy) or his brother (Uncle) The only family DNA I have is from my nephew who is my sister's son, definitely Daddy's grandson. My nephew and I share 1610 cM. Is this enough information to determine who my father is?"
posted by Allee Katze on Sep 24, 2015 - 5 answers

How do I cope with being the estranged one?

Today my sibling has decided to cut ties with me. I am devastated and at an utter loss on how to handle some of the finer social details. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 22, 2015 - 19 answers

Wedding gift for disconnected relative

Need a gift for a couple in their 40s that appears thoughtful, though clearly it isn't as I need it this week. [more inside]
posted by OrangeVelour on Sep 20, 2015 - 35 answers

As a young adult should I cut all financial ties with my parents now?

My well-intentioned mother keeps trying to help me financially and it's causing problems. [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs on Sep 17, 2015 - 35 answers

Dieting with a Family

I recently started a weight loss research study that will last three months. In addition to regular exercise, it involves eating only pre-packaged meals supplemented with fruits and vegetables. I'm really excited about this opportunity to lose weight and learn healthy habits, but I'm worried my family is going to make it difficult for me. How can I stick to this diet without drastically interrupting my families eating habits and my social life? [more inside]
posted by galvanized unicorn on Sep 17, 2015 - 15 answers

Contesting a will

My mother recently died. I acted as her live-in carer, to varying degrees, over the last 11 years (mainly the last few years). Do I have a reasonable case upon which to contest the will's equal apportionment of the estate? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 16, 2015 - 24 answers

Where's My Gift?

What should I do if a close family member neglected to acknowledge my kid's birthday? [more inside]
posted by Fairchild on Sep 13, 2015 - 49 answers

How do I keep going?

The last year has been filled with brutal loss and now there's more. Please help me cope with lots of death and an emotionally stunted family. [more inside]
posted by stoneweaver on Sep 10, 2015 - 10 answers

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