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You're family! Just not, you know, my family.

I got married last weekend. Yay! Now I'm trying to navigate my relationship with my husband's stepmother. Boo. [more inside]
posted by ann_disaster on Jun 30, 2015 - 32 answers

Easing away from Al-Anon

My weekly Al-Anon group are all very sweet and I enjoy them a lot, but I also have grown tired of the tedium of the meetings and feel less and less like it's applicable to my life. Seeking a bit of perspective and advice on how to gracefully move forward without burning any bridges. [more inside]
posted by witchen on Jun 24, 2015 - 14 answers

how to change my mindset to enjoy homeschooling my cousin like I used to

I homeschool my cousin once a week after work, and I am starting to resent it. How do I get over this feeling? [more inside]
posted by akita on Jun 23, 2015 - 18 answers

A week in Tokyo: Baby and Toddler edition

For my 40th birthday coming up I've asked for a trip to Tokyo with the family for a week. We previously spent 3 days in Kyoto and loved it, staying at the Hotel Granvia. I'm planning the Tokyo trip and looking for options for accommodation and things to do/see with the kids. [more inside]
posted by Admira on Jun 17, 2015 - 10 answers

Much worse than I thought.

I've kept my distance and set boundaries, but I just learned my family situation is much worse than I ever realized. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 17, 2015 - 6 answers

My daughter has cancer

The love of my life has recently been diagnosed with stage three breast cancer. This seemed to come out of nowhere. In the space of a month from one checkup to the next she developed a 2.5 centimeter tumour. I'm lost. [more inside]
posted by malhaley on Jun 17, 2015 - 14 answers

Struggling to Accept

My in-laws bother me and it's making me miserable. [more inside]
posted by Fairchild on Jun 14, 2015 - 36 answers

Is it normal that I'm so private with my mother?

This Onion article reflects pretty well my relationship with my mother. I love her very much, but I can rarely bring myself to share much with her about my life, and when I do, I usually regret it. Is this common for men? [more inside]
posted by pot suppeck on Jun 14, 2015 - 26 answers

Downtown Chicago place to take a family of five for dinner?

I'm meeting some friends for dinner in the Loop Tuesday night and they have three kids ten and under. I need recommendations for a fun place to take them for dinner that is kid-friendly, reasonably priced, interesting, and amenable to conversation. These kids are well-traveled and more adventurous than average, so it doesn't need to be generic and boring, but there should be some hook that will draw them in. Ideas?
posted by DirtyOldTown on Jun 14, 2015 - 8 answers

Out of Town Guests in DC: Dinner for a High Schooler and a Grandpa

My cousin's kid is coming to DC with her grandfather as a high school graduation present. I would like to take them out somewhere for dinner next week, where should I go? [more inside]
posted by forkisbetter on Jun 10, 2015 - 11 answers

How to stop visiting parents so frequently?

Both my parents and parents-in-laws are in the same city. The same city we're in. We feel overwhelmed with the once-a-week visits. How do we mitigate their expectations that we visit so frequently? A storm of culture-specific and special snowflake details follow. [more inside]
posted by spicytunaroll on Jun 10, 2015 - 29 answers

Family vacation in Costa Rica with older kids

Does anyone have any recommendations for great places to stay in Costa Rica for a family with older kids (teens/20s)? [more inside]
posted by feathermeat on Jun 9, 2015 - 4 answers

Poem or quote about heirlooms, family tradition or hand-me-downs?

I am looking for suggestions for a short, sentimental/heartwarming/heartfelt poem or quote about heirlooms, family tradition or hand-me-downs to include on a gift for my grandmother. This is a thank-you gift for letting me wear her wedding dress at my own wedding and a tribute to the family tradition of marriages on the same date. [more inside]
posted by IsItJustMe? on Jun 9, 2015 - 3 answers

Brother in law is moving in and I feel like moving out

My soon to be brother in law will be moving in with my partner and me for 3 months, and for a number of reasons, I am feeling very anxious about this. Looking to hear from others that might have had to deal with living with (difficult) family members, and anything proactive that we could do beforehand to make this living situation bearable. [more inside]
posted by annie_oakley on Jun 9, 2015 - 53 answers

Do I want to interrupt an engineering career to do patent law?

I’m trying to determine if it’s worth it to plan a career change from engineering to patent law, with a lengthy, difficult, expensive stop through law school first. Have you done this? Do you have special insight? [more inside]
posted by rybreadmed on Jun 3, 2015 - 17 answers

How to talk to kids about a parent going to prison?

What are some good guidelines for talking to kids about their parent's upcoming prison term? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 3, 2015 - 9 answers

How do I manage the mom calls?

I'm an adult. My mom calls nearly every day. Her calls are almost always at least an hour long. This is extremely draining for me. How do I deal with this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 3, 2015 - 37 answers

What do I need to know about future partial inheritance?

I may inherit 1/3 of a large parcel of property with a home on it valued at well over 1 million today (not including all its contents). What do I need to know about this possible future inheritance on this property which is not yet paid off? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 2, 2015 - 12 answers

How to receive a gift that embarrasses me

My parents are about to give me an embarrassing birthday gift. Help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 30, 2015 - 35 answers

Spacing between second and third child?

We have two girls, currently 3.75 and 7. We are seriously considering a third, and hope to time his or her arrival around the time our younger is 5.5. How has a larger space between kids or sets of kids worked for you? Did the younger child or children feel a part of the older one's lives? [more inside]
posted by percor on May 26, 2015 - 30 answers

Family abandon me when I was at my lowest point. Should I cut them off?

My mother passed away last year of April and as a result I had a mental breakdown. I wasn't myself..I had overwhelming grief and I was in a deep depression. Mind you I was in a deep depression and calling out for help..my family abandon and basically treated me like a black sheep. [more inside]
posted by TheBronxGirl on May 21, 2015 - 31 answers

What to do about a nasty email sent to the wrong person?

My mentally ill mother likes to send me super mean emails every once in a while, which I don't usually reply to. I just discovered today that she has accidentally been sending emails to a random person with a similar email address to mine. I'm not sure what, if anything, I should do about it. [more inside]
posted by thelaze on May 20, 2015 - 27 answers

Should I ask my uncle about his Big Secret car crash from 50 years ago?

This AskMe from 2010 is me. When I wrote that, I had just heard about a car crash my uncle was allegedly in when he was in his early 20s, where he was driving and a passenger died. I never asked about the crash and a newspaper search didn't pull anything up at the time. But I recently stumbled upon an old newspaper article that confirmed it. I don't know what to do, or not do, with this information. He has never even hinted about anything like this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 20, 2015 - 61 answers

Job interviews, no offers and dealing with negative judgment from others

I've been job searching for almost a year. I have had several interviews and have yet to come up with an offer. Family members are starting to assume something is wrong with me. How can I keep plugging while trying to explain it may not be as easy as they think? [more inside]
posted by intheigloo on May 19, 2015 - 18 answers

How can I get my roommates to clean up after themselves?

I and my spouse own a three bedroom house, and live there with four roommates, two dogs, and a dismaying number of parakeets. My roommates are generally considerate, and we work around each other as best we can, but they just will. not. clean. without someone directly telling them that it needs to be done. Since I and my spouse have the lowest tolerance for dirt, we end up doing it. Snowflake: my roommates are my adult children and their significant others. [more inside]
posted by underflow on May 16, 2015 - 40 answers

Web tool for collaboratively captioning photos?

I'm editing and typesetting my grandfather's memoir. I have many (over 100) photos of his I digitized now on my computer, but many are missing captions. What site/tool should I use to go through the photos with him? He's quite tech savvy for someone in his 90s, but he also lives across the country and it's hard for him to hear on the phone.
posted by waninggibbon on May 15, 2015 - 4 answers

Not invited to the wedding

My brother-in-law invited my wife and my kids to his wedding, but not me. This evening, he texted my wife asking her to do a reading at the wedding. She's going to say yes. I feel amazingly resentful. Help. [more inside]
posted by QuantumMeruit on May 14, 2015 - 36 answers

Should I apply for a federal job at the same office my MIL works in?

About nine months ago, I applied for a spot with the federal government, which was in line with what I previously did as a paralegal. I got a call back amazingly quickly -- but the hiring manager pointed out that someone with my unusual last name also worked in the office, and it turned out to be my step-mother-in-law. (I knew she did that type of work but I had no idea it was with that agency.) The hiring manager still wanted to interview me. I agreed to set-up an interview during that phone call, talked it over with my husband, and, the next day, emailed the hiring manager and said I was withdrawing my candidacy, to avoid the perception of impropriety. And then snowflakes fell. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by coast99 on May 8, 2015 - 9 answers

Long car rides and family get-togethers

I've planned a day-long road trip to spend about a week at my cousin's farm. My husband and I with our 4-1/2 year old daughter are planning to drive 10 hours to get out there. We'll stay a week. My mother lives another 4 hours from where we'll be staying. We decided not to tack on a trip out to see her and so she invited herself on our trip. I'm of two minds about this. [more inside]
posted by amanda on May 5, 2015 - 9 answers

Aging, depressed parents in another country

A few years ago my parents, who immigrated to the US (where I was born and raised) moved back to their home country, which is in the Middle East. I'm still in the US. About a year and a half ago my only sibling died unexpectedly, causing all three of us untold amounts of grief. Now they're old, tired, and depressed in a distant country and I don't know what to do. What can I do to improve/feel better about this situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 30, 2015 - 6 answers

We created a household budget! Now how do we keep to it?

My partner and I haven't always been good at tracking or controlling our spending. After looking at a couple of years of spending data from various sources, we've finally nailed down a monthly household budget, and we're hoping to implement it starting tomorrow (start of a new month). Now the question is how to make sure we stay within our spending limits for each category. Herein be snowflakes... [more inside]
posted by dry white toast on Apr 30, 2015 - 18 answers

Am I really wrong for wanting my husband to stay in counseling?

My husband and I have had a terrible past year. He has verbally, emotionally and mentally abused me. We each started into individual counseling last fall. His counselor is extremely perceptive and has keyed in on behaviours that lead to him abusing me, and we've both noticed real improvement at home as a result. After one month without any abuse, now he wants to quit counseling. This led to a nasty fight, where he thinks that I am a bad, manipulative person for wanting him to stick with counseling. Now I feel absolutely awful in every way. [more inside]
posted by chatelaine on Apr 29, 2015 - 115 answers

How to deal with a family who disproves of the partner that you love?

I've seen questions like mine all over the internet. I've scoured the internet for endless hours in search of effective coping strategies, but every situation is unique. I'm hoping to find some valuable information for my own situation, which I fear may crumble if I do. [more inside]
posted by soochala on Apr 28, 2015 - 43 answers

Gift for family in Israel

My brother is going to visit some family in Isreal -- a cousin and her two elementary-school aged children (boys). What might be a nice gift to bring from America? We don't know the family very well, and we would like the gift to be a surprise...
posted by LittleMy on Apr 22, 2015 - 4 answers

should I stay or should I go

My cousin is getting married abroad, and I don't want to go. I can't come to a decision. It's not a big financial/time strain, but I don't want to go, and don't know how to respond. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 20, 2015 - 32 answers

How to transition from stay-at-home parent to working parent?

I am a 35-year old woman with 7 and 3 year old kids. I've been a full-time parent for 7 years, and am heading back to a full-time job next week. How have you dealt with this transition? [more inside]
posted by percor on Apr 17, 2015 - 6 answers

The Cycle Continues

Are my kids forever damaged? Can I teach them to show love? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 17, 2015 - 28 answers

Should I stay in retail or go back to school and pursue a dream?

I've been sucked into retail and have put my education on hold due to a lack of certainty on a major. I had tried three different programs, but an impractical dream sits in the back of my mind that I have never even attempted. Do I give up good money in the interim for long term fulfilment with a risk? [more inside]
posted by Chelsaroo650 on Apr 13, 2015 - 26 answers

How can I best share photos with my families?

I recently had a few hundred family photos scanned and I'd like to put them up somewhere everyone who's interested can see them. This includes people across several different families and with vastly different technology access/knowledge (though everyone can browse the Internet). I'd strongly prefer not to use Facebook. What's the best solution? [more inside]
posted by rhiannonstone on Apr 11, 2015 - 14 answers

Chaos: The Next Generation

The family is growing, but not in good circumstances. As a concerned, but not directly involved party, how much involvement should I strive for? [more inside]
posted by Les Socks Du Mal on Apr 11, 2015 - 10 answers

Cross-cultural family problems with elderly parents

My parents and I are simply not getting along and I’m struggling to stay true to myself. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 11, 2015 - 11 answers

Brother committed suicide. Shocked and confused. What now?

My brother killed himself yesterday. I just found out today. While I'm not surprised he would do it based on a complicated and messed up history, I am still in shock. Please help me process my feelings. [more inside]
posted by Ephelump Jockey on Apr 8, 2015 - 25 answers

Telling Parents About Depression

I was interviewed for a national podcast and spoke frankly about my depression and my occasional suicidal thoughts. It airs in six weeks. I've not told my family about my depression. I want to tell them before the podcast airs. How do I do that? [more inside]
posted by Joey Michaels on Apr 5, 2015 - 5 answers

Must-do, must-see New England activities for a family

Mrs. Ferg and I are planning a trip to New England in June with the smaller Fergs. Since my previous questions about travel activities have been successes, I'm here to query the hive-mind about what our agenda should include to get the maximal "New England" experience. Of course, there's [more inside]
posted by jferg on Apr 5, 2015 - 22 answers

My mom is lonely and alone. Can I offer healthy support with boundaries?

I recently posted my current situation here. I'm still struggling with a longstanding issue: My mom's undiagnosed (notwithstanding a brief stint on anti-depressants 15 years ago following her divorce) possible depression. About once or twice a year I find myself with her while she sobs uncontrollably and talks about how lonely and alone she feels as she ages. These are all valid feelings and fears, but everytime I bring up seeing a counsellor to help her get her life back on track, giver her tools to cope, filter out the negative energy in her life (such as her codependent relationship with her 29 y/o son), she refuses to admit there is a problem. [more inside]
posted by stumblingthroughitall on Mar 31, 2015 - 12 answers

Is my friend using his personal problems as a weapon against us?

A friend of mine is having some pretty severe personal issues, but refuses to get help and gets mad at anyone who says anything he even remotely doesn't like. Is it time to cut ties and/or call him out? [more inside]
posted by stedman15 on Mar 29, 2015 - 18 answers

Parting ways with a childhood home

I'm having trouble letting go of my childhood home that I inherited, and the lifetime of stuff inside it. I could use some advice about how to move on. [more inside]
posted by Banknote of the year on Mar 24, 2015 - 28 answers

"Hey Dad, I Didn't Know You Cared!" or How to Reply?

My biological dad suddenly emailed me out of the blue. I have only been approached by him one other time. I am not exactly sure how to proceed here. Prepare for wall of text as my family history is straight out of the Jerry Springer Show. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 21, 2015 - 59 answers

Cross-cultural relationship, family problems

We are planning a future together... If only my family would accept him in spite of his race and religion. Snowflakes entail. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 17, 2015 - 20 answers

Excluded on Discount

Is it rude if everyone at a dinner table receives a discount except you? [more inside]
posted by Asian_Hunnie on Mar 14, 2015 - 24 answers

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