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My brother-in-law is turning 50 and is planning a shindig. [more inside]
posted by terrier319 on Jan 28, 2015 - 32 answers

What to do about my mother-in-law's car?

My mother-in-law has a completely borked car. This is apparently my job to fix. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by miyabo on Jan 27, 2015 - 15 answers

Seeking comfort and grace, not depression and sorrow

The last of my grandparents just passed away (it was peaceful and expected) but I'm struggling to hold myself together. I think my grieving is normal since it just happened but I'd love to hear advice and techniques to think of his life and death in positive, comforting ways. [more inside]
posted by wannabecounselor on Jan 27, 2015 - 10 answers

Help me shut down conversations

I'm related to a person of moderate fame in a (global) community I'm part of. We share a last name. When people ask me my name, I don't tell them my last name, but if it comes up, they ask "Oh, are you related to [famous relative]?" How do I gracefully shut down, redirect, or prevent this conversation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 23, 2015 - 55 answers

When is a last name left lowercase?

I'm writing a piece of software to go through a very large database and format last names in their correct casing (i.e., smith or SMITH or sMith to Smith.) However, I'm obviously aware some names should be kept as lowercase—but what names? [more inside]
posted by Hot Like Your 12V Wire on Jan 21, 2015 - 17 answers

Discrimination based on family status

If someone comments on a family member and denies you something based on that, is that likely to be discrimination on the basis of family status? [more inside]
posted by Chaussette and the Pussy Cats on Jan 18, 2015 - 17 answers

Is there an expectation you'll fly to visit a family member's newborn?

My brother and his wife had their first child recently. In principle, I'd love to meet their newborn. Problem is, we live on opposite coasts of the US and I don't make much money. I could swing it if I had to, but a trip out there just to stand around the little bundle of biology and watch it eat, sleep, and poop doesn't feel like a good value to me. Am I obligated to go? [more inside]
posted by twobit on Jan 18, 2015 - 56 answers

All-Inclusive Vacations in middle America?

I am looking for creative suggestions for places, either conceptually or specifically, where my mother (East Coast) and I (West Coast) can meet up for a long weekend. My basic goal is to spend time with my mother in a setting where each of us can be comfortable and relax: for me this means not having to play tour guide in a city I've never been, and for my mom this means accommodation for some mobility issues. [more inside]
posted by stellaluna on Jan 15, 2015 - 11 answers

Help me make a bad situation not worse

I'm looking for resources about speaking to my father and dealing with my family in light of his recent mental health issues. [more inside]
posted by FakePalindrome on Jan 15, 2015 - 9 answers

How to help an angry 18 yr old.

A few years back I asked this question. Unfortunately my cousin is still struggling and I am very afraid for his future and the rest of his immediate family. A few weeks ago I asked about rehoming a dog. I was finally able to get some help and an organization contacted me saying that they have someone willing to foster the dog. Great! Except that while I was working on it my aunt basically threw up her hands and turned over the dog to my cousin. [more inside]
posted by mokeydraws on Jan 11, 2015 - 11 answers

My sister has invited me to the delivery room, and I don't want to go.

My older sister is having a baby in a couple of months. She has decided she wants the entire immediate family (parents/siblings/sibling spouses) in there. I really would rather not go, but I also don't know if I'm being unreasonable or selfish, and I don't want to push back if this is something that I need to just say, "Okay, you're the one pushing the baby out, you call the shots." [more inside]
posted by socktothepuppet on Jan 7, 2015 - 57 answers

What books should a dying person read?

My father and step-father (both in their seventies) are nearing the end of their lives, and I want to give them books to read in the time they have left. I'm not looking for anything that's necessarily literally on the topic of death, nor anything religious or self-help-ish. I'm looking for books suitable for a person with limited ability to concentrate due to pain/fatigue, that run the gamut from pleasant & not inappropriate, to ones that will provoke reflection and help them come to terms with dying. Please help with your recommendations. [more inside]
posted by Susan PG on Jan 6, 2015 - 23 answers

How to cope with problems conceiving a second child?

My lovely toddler's third birthday is rapidly approaching and I am having a hard time with the fact that I haven't managed to get pregnant again. What might help me feel less blue about the fact that he won't have a sibling 2-3 years younger than him (like I had originally hoped)? [more inside]
posted by brambory on Jan 5, 2015 - 37 answers

Am I obligated to attend my brother's baby shower after being "flaked"?

My brother's wife is due to have a baby boy sometime this month. I will be an uncle for the first time. The baby shower is taking place this upcoming Sunday. My girlfriend since May of last year is not a big fan of my brother. She hasn't even met him to begin with. She felt that he flaked out on me during my college graduation and birthday last year. [more inside]
posted by tnar23 on Jan 4, 2015 - 60 answers

Baby Bedtime Routine for Working Folks

We discovered this week that our four-month-old needs a much earlier bedtime. We now start the routine after 6 PM, with him in bed by 7 PM (and it's working great). But we've been on vacation for these new bedtimes and I'm having trouble visualizing how this routine will go on a weekday. How do you do it? [more inside]
posted by aabbbiee on Jan 3, 2015 - 16 answers

Perfect storm of familial dysfunctionality--need solutions for sanity

Family dynamics are slowly driving me up the wall, but I can't bear to let things wind destructively. How can I cope without being caught in the storm? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 2, 2015 - 13 answers

on a self-perpetuating downward spiral

I am having somewhat of a huge existential crisis at the moment after just exiting a 5-year serious long-term romantic relationship, one that I was hoping would be permanent and committed. I am having trouble coming to terms with the setup of my life and the course it is taking. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 2, 2015 - 15 answers

Tips for reoccuring, family-style dinner parties?

What are your key tips to throwing a good dinner party? What do you do about that one friend who will. not. stop. eating? What do you think is a good price per head for a group meal? How many people do you think is ideal for a good dinner? [more inside]
posted by rebent on Jan 2, 2015 - 37 answers

How to improve my relationship with my mom

Since my parents divorced, my mom grew more distant from me (and my sibling), particularly when she met a new man, to whom she is now married. I don't know where to go from here to improve our relationship. My apologies in advance for the wall of text that is about to hit you. [more inside]
posted by Blissful on Dec 28, 2014 - 25 answers

Oh, you thought we were done with Xmas gift questions? Think again!

I'll be celebrating christmas with my brother and his girlfriend a week late, but despite the extension, I still can't think of what to give them this year. There are many factors and a few critical elements up in the air, but if anyone can sort through it all and come up with something thoughtful and useful, it'd be Ask Metafilter. [more inside]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese on Dec 26, 2014 - 16 answers

The Diamond Age: Familying long distance

I'm going to be a world away from my 9 year old nephew. How can I a) set up a Windows 7 netbook in a kid safe way so we can keep in touch, and b) provide some basic tech support, remotely? [more inside]
posted by Elysum on Dec 26, 2014 - 4 answers

Conversation stopper

How do i deal with my cousin's "magic conversation stopper?" [more inside]
posted by IndigoRain on Dec 24, 2014 - 35 answers

Struggling with a needy mother

While I love my mum, she seems to see me as a centre of her happiness and the amount of contact she needs feels like a burden. How to navigate this without upsetting her? [more inside]
posted by sabina_r on Dec 22, 2014 - 23 answers

Family Drama Filter: Help me distance myself from a parent

I've come to realize over the years that while I love my father, I am so different from him, and do not share his and his wife's (he is remarried) lifestyle and values and really wish I could come to accept it and completely distance myself from them. Please help me do this. [more inside]
posted by SanSebastien on Dec 21, 2014 - 7 answers

Rehoming a dog and different attitudes on pet ownership

Some family members have a dog that they can no longer care for. Their lives have gone through a lot of upheaval in the last year. At some point I guess getting a puppy seemed like a good idea? Well it wasn't and now they have an approximately 9 month old dog that is not trained, he barks a lot, and is basically chewing everything and anything including the walls. He is medium sized maybe 40 lbs. A poodle pomeranian shih zsu mix. But kind of looks like an all white lab. I don't know much about dogs. [more inside]
posted by mokeydraws on Dec 19, 2014 - 16 answers

Where to live in San Antonio?

Help me figure out where my family should live in San Antonio. [more inside]
posted by cute little Billy Henderson, age 4 on Dec 16, 2014 - 6 answers

How do you get someone who likes you to stop harassing you?

My brother's too much for me to handle. How can I get him to stop calling and showing up so often? Simply telling him not to do it isn't working; he keeps coming up with dumb excuses for doing it. Though I hate the word 'creepy', what he's doing is what many would consider just that. And his behavior is almost stalker-like. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 15, 2014 - 22 answers

Buying a house to rent to older parents?

Did you buy a house to rent to your parents? How did that go? Would you do it if you had it to do over again? Am I off of my own rocker? [more inside]
posted by fireoyster on Dec 12, 2014 - 26 answers

Good experience-based gifts for 6yo/2yo children in Seattle/Edmonds

We are friends with a family that has a 6-year-old boy and a 2-year-old girl. I was thinking it might be nice to give them an experience-based gift this year instead of stuff. What are some good things that we can do with them and also take their mom and dad along? [more inside]
posted by matildaben on Dec 12, 2014 - 7 answers

Mental Health for a Teen in BFE

Apparently, my nephew witnessed a friend commit suicide and is now falling apart. I'm 2500 miles away and his parents don't seem motivated to get him some help. They live in the middle-of-nowhere. How can I get him hooked up with some help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 10, 2014 - 13 answers

Remembering the dead

I lost my husband this year, and my adult children lost their beloved father. I would like to start a tradition for remembrance this Christmas, at a meal or at gift opening. Ideally it should be short, meaningful, and accommodating of a wide range of beliefs, from atheist, to agnostic, to believer, to alternate religion. Any suggestions?
posted by francesca too on Dec 10, 2014 - 18 answers

Seeking a winter get aways with kids in New England

The alms family (2 adults + 8 y.o. + 4 y.o.) is looking to spend 2-3 days in a rural setting over the winter break, with activities like sleigh rides, bonfires, snow shoeing, nature walks, board games, tubing, possibly xc skiing, and other kids activities. We don't downhill ski or snowboard ourselves although we’d consider a ski resort if it has enough of the other things going on. We think a full service inn catering to families is probably the best bet but maybe there is a farm-inn stay, ski resort or rental that would work. [more inside]
posted by alms on Dec 8, 2014 - 7 answers

Hacking my sad feelings about Christmas and passing of time

I generally love Christmas, and try to throw myself into it, but it brings up a lot of sad feelings (as I know it does for many people.) Specifically, my partner and I are in a shitty ongoing life situation that I keep hoping will be resolved but isn't, and two songs specifically set it off every year that it isn't resolved. Assuming the ongoing life situation can't be changed, how do I reframe my thinking about Christmas and the passing of time? [more inside]
posted by Dorothea_in_Rome on Dec 8, 2014 - 20 answers

They don't deserve coal but....

Please help me find gifts for my neices so I am at least allowed back next year! (I know, another gift question, but hopefully there is enough special snowflake-ness for yall) [more inside]
posted by Fullofcrazy on Dec 6, 2014 - 18 answers

Need a good lawyer in Victoria or Vancouver, British Columbia

A friend in Victoria is trying to extricate herself from an emotionally abusive relationship. She has been living with this man for ten years and they own a house jointly. [more inside]
posted by Johnny Wallflower on Nov 30, 2014 - 4 answers

Please help me have a (relatively) stress-free Christmas

Looking for advice on how to have a peaceful couple of days with family members with whom I have unresolved issues. [more inside]
posted by heartofglass on Nov 30, 2014 - 15 answers

Need help figuring out child custody logistics across the border

Long story short, my wife and I are separating and I may try to find work and live in the US (I'm currently in Canada and a Canadian citizen). I'm trying to hear from others who have shared custody of their children where their ex- lives in another country. My situation is across the US/Canada border but I'm interesting in hearing other experiences as well. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 26, 2014 - 14 answers

Is there a loving but persuasive way to tell dad he's a bigot?

My father is, and always has been, a loving, decent, supportive, honorable person. He's also always been crotchety, unworldly, domineering, and set in his ways. Is there a way to encourage him--without preaching and without being strident--to reflect on the ways his attitudes sometimes cross the border from "Sh*t My Dad Says" into less defensibly hateful/ignorant territory? [more inside]
posted by urufu on Nov 26, 2014 - 29 answers

How to say no even though I can say yes?

I have a troubled half brother who has recently come into my life. He was just released from prison, there on possession charges. He lives across the country, is jobless, homeless, and without family (aside from my mother and me). Yesterday he asked if I could wire him money. Just enough to buy some food. I can easily do this, so without thinking, I said I would. [more inside]
posted by hippychick on Nov 23, 2014 - 56 answers

My uncle's dying. What can I do for him and his family?

My uncle (by marriage) has terminal cancer. His doctors have just recommended hospice care. We're medium-close; I see him and his family every couple of years. I live about 300 miles away. What can I do for him? For his wife (my mom's sister) and his grown kids? What can I say? Thank you.
posted by The Minotaur on Nov 21, 2014 - 10 answers

Boyfriend doesn't want to live together. Am I deluding myself?

I have a darling boyfriend who I have been dating for 1.5 years. We are generally very happy (so much fun, so much in common, and very attracted to each other), and I love him. My lease is up, and he's decided that he's not ready to live together yet. Other people (especially my family) are giving me a hard time about it. How do I know if they're right? [more inside]
posted by socktothepuppet on Nov 20, 2014 - 47 answers

How can we ensure our families feel involved in the birth of our baby?

We've been concentrating so much on the actual physical labor part of the birth that we are now (3 weeks out!) realizing that we want to give some consideration to the emotional part, and come up with ideas to make our families feel loved and included. [more inside]
posted by coupdefoudre on Nov 19, 2014 - 17 answers

How to feel the holidays?

How does a happily married couple with no children and tenuous family ties enjoy the holidays? My husband and I have been married for 10 years, and we are happy with each other. It's everyone else we struggle with. [more inside]
posted by hippychick on Nov 15, 2014 - 24 answers

Special words to describe specific relationships?

English does not have words for certain kinds of specific relationships, but other languages do. I am interested in learning examples of some of these words. [more inside]
posted by JoannaC on Nov 14, 2014 - 30 answers

Should I avoid supporting my aging father?

My father is aging, with heart problems and developing dementia. I am generally a conscientious person, but I'm staring down the necessity of supporting him like the barrel of a gun. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 13, 2014 - 39 answers

I am about to be disowned.

Have you ever dropped a bomb on your life? Been disowned by your parents? Shunned by your extended family and community? Please tell me about it. [more inside]
posted by puppet du sock on Nov 13, 2014 - 42 answers

Single working mother moving to DC: Falls Church or Silver Spring?

I am hoping to land my dream job in the heart of DC. The pay would be great for a single person, but as a working single mother, it won't be amazing. I am concerned about the usual: safety, quality of public schools, and commute times. Is Falls Church really that much better than Silver Spring? Is the red line as bad as I hear? [more inside]
posted by JanewayJunior on Nov 10, 2014 - 20 answers

Finding out about a half-sibling from a parent's affair

25-year-old woman here. My father confessed I have a 21-year-old half-sister that he had from a long affair. A half-sister he is in touch with and still, in some ways, financially supporting. I'm having a hard time processing this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 8, 2014 - 28 answers

Brother in Law tried to stop my wedding. How do I deal w Thanksgiving?

My husband and I were married this past May. In mid-February, before the wedding, the husband of my sister in law called my husband to tell him that he was making a huge mistake marrying me and that it was going to ruin his life. There was a lot of classism and casual xenophobia in his reasoning. Now he and my SIL are coming in from out of state for Thanksgiving. What to do? [more inside]
posted by dysh on Nov 7, 2014 - 29 answers

How do I deal with this morass of feelings re: holidays, travel, family

I am the only one that moved away from my extended family. I'm dealing with some built up anger/stress about always being responsible for going "home" to see my family. How did you stop feeling guilty, obligated, or responsible for visiting? [more inside]
posted by nakedmolerats on Oct 29, 2014 - 36 answers

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