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Eye contact :(

I have this weird eye contact problem that has plagued me since I can remember. I find all eye contact in general to be really unpleasantly intimate and intense, but several times a day when I'm talking to someone (both familiar people and strangers), I have a moment of frisson where it feels like I'm boring into their eyes with my own. The freaky part is that every single time I have this experience, it throws the person off--they stammer, look away, close their eyes for longer than just a blink, lose their train of thought, etc. As far as I know, I'm not changing anything about my facial expression--this is all happening somehow within the eye contact realm. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 30, 2014 - 20 answers

Making eye contact while singing in front of a close audience

I sing with a small group of vocalists and instrumentalists on a monthly basis. Often it's in a bar/restaurant or other situations where the audience is very close to me (sometimes sitting right in front of me.) Sometimes I sing solos, and I can't figure out where to direct my gaze when I do because of the closeness. Should I make eye contact with the audience, even when they're right in front of me? Should I move my head back and forth and survey the entire crowd? What should I be doing as a performer? Thanks very much for any help you can give me.
posted by Jenesta on Aug 15, 2013 - 10 answers

Look.... at... me....

Sometimes when I am in a three-person conversation the other two people make lots of eye contact but I am excluded. I hate this so much! Am I doing something wrong? How do I make them include me? [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess on Jan 27, 2013 - 18 answers

Is there a porn category for that?

Hot male musicians/artists making lots of sexy eye contact with the camera while they do their thing. This is my porn, but I don't have luck finding much of it. Point me to more? [more inside]
posted by thrasher on May 27, 2012 - 39 answers

a question about eye contact before a kiss

You know that long look that often precedes people kissing for the first time? I have trouble holding that look long enough for the kissing part to happen. [more inside]
posted by colfax on Nov 9, 2011 - 27 answers

Don't mind me, I'm just reading your retinas here...

How did I develop such an aversion to looking people in the eye, and how I can overcome it? It was recently pointed out to me that I unconsciously avoid eye contact in all but the most intimate circumstances---one on one conversations, with friends, etc. Apparently, this makes me look "shifty-eyed" or even like I'm trying to peek down a woman's shirt, so I'd like to stop, but it's very difficult. Not only do I do it unconsciously, but making eye contact with strangers or more casual acquaintances actively feels wrong. [more inside]
posted by d. z. wang on Feb 21, 2011 - 24 answers

What is this "treposa" really called?

"Dan, one of my patients, attended a retreat where he engaged in treposa, a meditation procedure in which two people hold hands for several minutes, lock gazes, meditate deeply upon one another, and then repeat the process with new partners." The author of this passage seems to have gotten the name of this meditation practice wrong. Does it actually exist at all? [more inside]
posted by CutaneousRabbit on Feb 14, 2011 - 9 answers

I'm interested! Not weird! Really!!

How to make "interested" eye contact without seeming weird? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 10, 2010 - 15 answers

My friend's rant about Vancouver women are actually based on at least a sliver of fact?

Walking down an uncrowded/empty street, someone of the opposite sex walking towards you. 10+ paces away, they're usually, or may not (sunglasses, distance), be looking at you (sunglasses, distance), 10 paces away, they look away from your direction, between 1 and 2 paces away, they quickly look to see if you're looking at them... [more inside]
posted by porpoise on Aug 25, 2009 - 20 answers

When to make eye contact with people on the street?

When do you make eye contact with people you see on the street or on a trail? [more inside]
posted by rwatson on May 3, 2009 - 27 answers

A question for (straight) women about varieties of casual eye contact with semi-strange men

A question, especially for straight women, about varieties of casual eye contact with semi-strange men: [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 31, 2009 - 26 answers

Help Me Look You In The Eyes

My mom has trouble looking people in the eye for some reason and I'm just now realizing that I picked up the same habit from her. I'm in my late 20s. I'm not a painfully shy person nor am I socially inept, I just have trouble looking people in the eye. If feel uncomfortable doing so and people have started to comment on it. What can I do to break myself of the habit and start looking people in the eye.
posted by Waitwhat on Nov 4, 2008 - 24 answers

Help me understand human behaviour

How can I better understand social cues? [more inside]
posted by ssg on Mar 17, 2008 - 15 answers

Stare into my eyes

Why do animals make eye contact with humans? [more inside]
posted by oldlies on Feb 21, 2008 - 27 answers

Why are you talking at me?

Please help me kill my introversion before it kills my relationships. [more inside]
posted by allkindsoftime on Oct 16, 2007 - 40 answers

But it helps when training gorillas

How long do you maintain eye contact? [more inside]
posted by gsteff on Aug 7, 2006 - 16 answers

Self-help to deal with my social problems?

Is there a self-help book to help me cope better in social situations? [more inside]
posted by saraswati on Apr 16, 2006 - 19 answers

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